Ibechris2:
Marriage is good!

That does not mean it does not have its ups and down.
Marriage isn't for unstable set of people,u have to be mentally,financially and psychologically prepared to be able to face what is in it.

If u are a pro in being irresponsible the truth is,ur marriage may not last,if u don't take care of your children,u will also have it tough also...

In fact,Marriage is a complex institution that that has no basic formula therefore,what works for u will certainly not work for me.

Marriage is not a scam take it or leave it but being single till old age is the modern day scam.

Klass99:
Lol .

Ayamatanga, so your public sighting of married couples is the sole basis of your assertion that the single life is a scam? If it is by public displays of affection and how good couples look together alone, then Paul & Ifeanyi Adefarasin, Ituah & the late Ibidun Ighodala ought to be the ginger and motivating factor for singles to get hitched na.

I mean who wouldn't yearn for marriage when you see hot, show-stopper couples, like the Adefarasins & Ighodalos, or even the ones you saw where you were. However, is that enough reason to go and get married or diss the single life? Companionship is a sweet thing, the things you saw and admired are lovely too, but it shouldn't be the only basis of your judgments.

I have seen a married couple at a restaurant (a man, his wife and 2 young kids) when their food arrived, the man dived straight in and began to eat. His wife fed their two kids until they were satisfied before she ate, I thought to myself.....na wao, this guy couldn't even feed one child while his wife fed the other, before eating.

At another restaurant a guy got his food chose a table, sat down and began to eat. I saw his heavily pregnant wife struggling with her tray of food to reach him/their table. This particular incident reminded me of what an acquaintance once said.

My acquaintance said my husband will not pamper or help me if I get pregnant again. He only did with my first pregnancy, I don't want to go through that stress alone, again. Background - she had a pregnancy scare where she thought she was pregnant for a 3rd child with her husband, when the results came back negative she felt very relieved.

What is my point again, sef? I can't remember ooo, but I know I had a point I was driving at, I think you'll figure it out from my preceding paragraphs. Your username sounds like something out of that Wakanda movie.

Klass99:


Dude , who the hell are you calling bro? I'm a girl! You didn't see F for female, beside my moniker, abi? No offence taken.

You can replicate the moments you witnessed with your date or a girl you really like and who likes you back in return na. Shey na public display of affection been dey pepper you?

It is not a sin or a crime to hold hands while you chat and walk along Akodo beach, hold hands at the cinema, pamper and feed yourselves from each other's plates at a restaurant na......except of course you are a strict SU somebori.

VenumX:
Later you will come and beg with a new account for money to feed your children.

Persephone1:
Both lives can be frustrating though. There are times you would wish to be single, other times you wish to be married. Its normal.

Klass99:


Mwah , seven blessings and 21 kisses to you. You have an enlightened and attractive mind/mindset.

The texts highlighted in bold resonated with me the most. I would like your comment 10 times over, if I could.

Kobojunkie:
I don't believe that at all. Marriage is simply not for everyone, much the same as single life is not for everyone. You learn yourself and then you understand the one that fits your best. There are many single folks out there who have never regretted a moment of their choice.

cococandy:
I know where this thread is coming from

GenderMix:
Single life is not scam. However it depends on individuals. If you are not a good team player, marriage might just become a distraction for achieving alot. However, as humans companionship is a great tool if well utilized has lots of advantages.

I have realized that everything we do In life is geared towards achieving HAPPINESS. Wether as singles or married, if you're not focused and self motivated, you might end up becoming unhappy. So marriage doesn't guarantee happiness. We have happy couples, we have happy singles and vice versa. Don't just let your happiness revolve around any individual including your spouse.

Again you can't judge the character of married couples by mere outlook or disposition in public spaces. Some people are just good actors. Lol. Been married for over 11 years and I can tell you what constitutes a happy marriage- transparency and avoiding unnecessary high expectations of your spouse. There must be misunderstanding , there will be good days, there will be bad days. You will definitely get angry ...lol... The trick is not to allow misunderstanding last too long. Marriage is not for hot tempered people.

Finally, just decide what's best for you. Singles have unrestricted opportunities and flexible schedules so it's a great advantage if you make use of time wisely.

Mindlog:


From Lagos-Sagamu expressway?

Ayamatanga0:

It's Lagos-ibadan expressway

Ayamatanga0:
Sigh! The kids here never fail to disappoint

Mindlog:


From Lagos-Sagamu expressway?

Magnoliaa:


Please, go and sit down. Shey you are already getting the engagements you want na? What else remains?

Kids where? I am surprised nobody is coming for your head. Or that you haven't been accused of bitterness or a vileness that comes from a low self-esteem. So you do not love yourself enough to be alone?

Say marriage is a scam, third world war will happen on your head. Here's one saying singlehood is a scam now, but the thread is chill.

Not your fault sha. Na the grace covering XY people you dey enjoy, because I know you intentionally worded your topic and the OP in a particular way. Yet you're agreeing with everyone that disagrees with you.

Continue. I hope you have thought about the consequences of this your post to posterity. Someone, somewhere, you've just helped solidified their resolve into entering a relationship at ALL COST, because apparently, single life bad, all relationships/marriages sweet. *thumbs up*.

cococandy:
I just knew the reaction would be different if someone had something to say about marriage.

The OP knew exactly the reaction he was courting. At some point I wondered if he deliberately did it to expose the double standards. You never know

OP I see what you did here