Magnoliaa:


Please, go and sit down. Shey you are already getting the engagements you want na? What else remains?

Kids where? I am surprised nobody is coming for your head. Or that you haven't been accused of bitterness or a vileness that comes from a low self-esteem. So you do not love yourself enough to be alone?

Say marriage is a scam, third world war will happen on your head. Here's one saying singlehood is a scam now, but the thread is chill.

Not your fault sha. Na the grace covering XY people you dey enjoy, because I know you intentionally worded your topic and the OP in a particular way. Yet you're agreeing with everyone that disagrees with you.

Continue. I hope you have thought about the consequences of this your post to posterity. Someone, somewhere, you've just helped solidified their resolve into entering a relationship at ALL COST, because apparently, single life bad, all relationships/marriages sweet. *thumbs up*.

cococandy:
I just knew the reaction would be different if someone had something to say about marriage.

The OP knew exactly the reaction he was courting. At some point I wondered if he deliberately did it to expose the double standards. You never know

OP I see what you did here.

Klass99:
Noliaa why are you vibrating like this? .

@ The bolded, I think conditioning has people believing that marriage is the highest goal in life we should all aspire to and without it you are doomed.

cococandy:
I just knew the reaction would be different if someone had something to say about marriage.

The OP knew exactly the reaction he was courting. At some point I wondered if he deliberately did it to expose the double standards. You never know

OP I see what you did here

Klass99:
A male user will get 2k likes on his comment and supporting comments from other men, on how marriage is indeed a scam and baby mamas is the way to go. The vitriol and drama is always interesting to watch.

Magnoliaa:


I will never get why people are unnecessarily harsh and unforgiving towards women! I will never get it- 'till forever.

When men and women both say negative things, even if the both of them are countered and disagreed with, the responses to the woman will be over-the-top.

When both of them say the same positive things, the man will be the one to be idolised (see Solomon Buchi and other male feminists).

Reminds me too of Acid wanting feminists to come and showcase their lives on the Internet, just to prove that they are not hypocrites, but never in the history of homosapiens has such a request been made to meninists.

Klass99:
So Richy what are the right reasons? You people (the general public) keep saying this but no one clearly defines the right reasons.

The right reasons for me are simply sex and companionship. Sex on a platform heaven will approve and a companion to enjoy this life with, we will be two adults taking care of each other.

But you see, Sabinas and Sabinus (i.e. male & female, ITK, oversabi people) will start a sermon on how my reasons are wrong and shallow, my reasons are not good enough, they'll preach on bloodlines and legacies......yada yada yada.

The right reasons will always differ from person to person. What were your reasons?

pocohantas:
They are just confused entities. Someone that wants to go far in life shouldn’t pay them any attention.

I remember one claiming I cook for my man while misleading young girls not to cook. But a quick look through my posts would show that I have never in the history of Nairaland been against cooking in a relationship.

Anything to push their agenda.

Today feminists are frustrating their men.
Tomorrow, feminists idolize their men while claiming otherwise in public. It just has to be how they want it. Either way, you are doomed.

They know the truth, they only hear it from women.

Magnoliaa:


My sister. Funnily enough, I was just thinking about this point you made some days ago, especially around an argument I was having online here. Kai. I don't know why words are failing me, right now, but I will take your comment as the best expression I'm looking for.

Maybe if they always took the time to properly go through and digest a comment, instead of forming cluster opinions based on what they *think* one is saying, they'll be saved of so many gaffes.

Mindlog:
For me, it is about marrying for the right reasons or you remain single for the right reasons and if one has chosen to be celibate for religious reasons (Catholic Priests, Reverend Sisters etc), stick to it for the right reasons.

pocohantas:
They do actually. They know what they are doing. After all, they are the same humans that would flood you with compliments when you say things they like. So they know what they are doing.

VenumX:
Later you will come and beg with a new account for money to feed your children.

Magnoliaa:


I will never get why people are unnecessarily harsh and unforgiving towards women! I will never get it- 'till forever.

When men and women both say negative things, even if the both of them are countered and disagreed with, the responses to the woman will be over-the-top.

When both of them say the same positive things, the man will be the one to be idolised (see Solomon Buchi and other male feminists).

Reminds me too of Acid wanting feminists to come and showcase their lives on the Internet, just to prove that they are not hypocrites, but never in the history of homosapiens has such a request been made to meninists.

Ayamatanga0:
Either way I've learnt to see the "fun" in their comments and just enjoy it for what it is with out attaching any sort of importance to em.

killmods:
Problem with people these days is they talk too much and make public what should otherwise be for themselves. Marry or no marry it will not affect anybody but u. Do wtv the fück u like with ur life and stop bringing them here seeking validation

Grillbar:
Kobojunkie is viewing what say you ma? Are you single, separated or married ma?

Kobojunkie:
What does it matter?

My choices should not impact or influence another's since we are, all of us, unique in our makeup, and what works for me may not work at all for the next man and that is absolutely OK.

Grillbar:
It does not matter ma, I was just cruising. Do you agree with this OP?

Kobojunkie:
There is no scam in either marriage or the single life , there are just people who chose foolishly without learning to accept responsibility for their own foolish choices.

Grillbar:
Gheng gheng. This is serious. What do you mean? How does a bachelor choose foolishly if he chooses to be single?

Kobojunkie:
First, what does it mean to be single? Is it simply a relationship status or what exactly?

Grillbar:
It is a marital status which means you are not married Kobo.

Kobojunkie:
Anywho, even bachelor's can and do choose foolishly when they choose to be single particularly when those choices are influenced by peers or others.

Klass99:


So Richy what are the right reasons? You people (the general public) keeps saying this but no one ever defines the right reasons.

The right reasons for me are simply sex and companionship. Sex on a platform heaven will approve and a companion to enjoy this life with, we will be two adults taking care of each other.

But you see, Sabinas and Sabinus (i.e. male & female, ITK, oversabi people) will start a sermon on how my reasons are wrong and shallow, my reasons are not good enough, they'll preach on bloodlines and legacies......yada yada yada.

The right reasons will always differ from person to person. What were your reasons?

Klass I wanted to reply this earlier than now but my account was suspended or banned by Antispam bot or something like that for 24hrs..

Up till now, I can't figure out my transgression.. just a normal chat with a young man that wrote about getting someone pregnant while having a lady he intended to marry..
I asked a question why people blame the devil for their mistakes... That was the only thing I remembered..no argument whatsoever nothing, no exchange of bad words.. bummm!! My account suspended

Anyways, the reason u gave is good, but in my opinion U are better off having a live in partner... Except if u just wanted certificate to have sex ...I said that because when those expectations extinguishes because it does in most marriages, you are free to go without any strings attached... Instead of going to the rigorous divorce processes...

In marriage, it won't always be sex...ask anyone except if you married a porn Star...there will be a time when neither of you might want to be intimate sexually like it used to be in your early marriage... Diminishing returns will set in, It will no longer gonna be "oh my goodness the house on fire 'daddy' is sending me to pound city...
When you arrive at that stage, what will be the binding cord that will sustain both of you?

The reason why I got married was more than physical union. It's more of emotional and mental support..Yes love played a part too but experience has taught me that it's not enough..

People basically gets married for different reasons.. but the real intentions are hidden a few layer deep and it takes an event to unearth...

In Nigeria for example, people get married for the man or the woman to take them out of poverty.. That is the most popular reason..it is a good reason but What if an event occurs and the person is no longer rich and able to provide, what then will happen to that relationship?

Some got married to prove a point to someone or group of people that they were capable of keeping a man or a woman... That to me is funny because after the euphoria has died down and such individual enters into the proper marriage, he/ she will understand.

Someone got married because they were afraid of being alone or because all their friends were married... Just imagine how this will look like if they end up in a wrong hand...

Klass99:


Good lawd Richy, please go back to the blue coloured text this was hard to read on my laptop. I just quickly browsed through because of the strain on my eyes. I will revert to my phone, read through again and engage with you asap.

It seems that u don't like green colours.. I will try the blue one