TenQ:
1. As a marriage counsellor, have i preached no use of contraceptives? No!
2. Do some drugs have adverse reaction to some people? Yes!
Why wouldn't I teach about minimizing risks of infertility in new couples?

Here is a quote from an abstract of a medical research
Cardiovascular effects, cancer, infertility, mood changes and weight gain were the most commonly specified risks related to oral contraceptives, and infections, effects on menstruation and ectopic pregnancy were most mentioned regarding IUDs.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9844842/

2. Even water may have adverse reactions to some folks but that ain't enough of a reason to tell any or everyone not to drink water, is it?

3. I don't think it is the marriage counselors job to do the job of medical practitioners who are better able to examine the couple and best recommend contraceptive methods of best fit. q

Wittyglam:
Parents it’s time you start monitoring your wards, I know it’s not easy but you have to try. Make your kids your best friend, visit them on campus.

Be friends with their friends.
A 16years old girl went to do family planning just to please her boyfriend, so they can have sex the way they want. She doesn’t understand the danger she is putting herself in.

Stop trying to do the wrong things all in the name of love, stop trying to please people.

If this is the type of family planning she did in the youtube video below then I believe it is safe for her...



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cU_oei1vhnU

worksmart:
Sounds like that she is trying to be responsible

Having sex at 16 is responsibility? The world has indeed gone to the dogs

Kobojunkie:
2. Even water may have adverse reactions to some folks but that ain't enough of a reason to tell any or everyone not to drink water, is it?

3. I don't think it is the marriage counselors job to do the job of medical practitioners who are better able to examine the couple and best recommend contraceptive methods of best fit. q

Have I recommend any drugs!?
No!

In what ways have I gone beyond my borders in warning newbie married couples to beware of the adverse reactions a few couples may have due to chemical birth control methods?

Must everyone use the medicine for birth controls when there are other safe barrier or non-chemical method?

Does any couple need license to advise or use without prescriptions of condoms, calender or sympto-thermal methods?

Are you adverse to knowledge?

Wittyglam:
Parents it’s time you start monitoring your wards, I know it’s not easy but you have to try. Make your kids your best friend, visit them on campus.

Be friends with their friends.
A 16years old girl went to do family planning just to please her boyfriend, so they can have sex the way they want. She doesn’t understand the danger she is putting herself in.

Stop trying to do the wrong things all in the name of love, stop trying to please people.

which doctor or nurse does family planning for a 16year old?

khome:
Family planning and unsafe abortion, which do you prefer?

Nawa o. Things have really changed.

What is a 16 year old looking for in sex?

laluski:
Isn't it better she does that than to have an unplanned and unwanted pregnancy?

Family planning is meant for married couples only. Depending on what type of family planning she undertakes, she may end up not being able to get pregnant in future. And that's when she will start sleeping in church, prayers, and fasting deceiving herself, cause nothing good can come out of such hypocrisy. I know of many ladies the husband's divorced because they can't get pregnant. And investigation shows they did family planning earlier during their bloom of youth.

Wittyglam:
is this right for a minor? why are you all neglecting the age. Is she supposed to be exposed to sex at that age?

Some people have sold their conscience to the devil that's why. Just look at the prostitutes (male & female) up there supporting the act. Mehn! I fear this generation. The girl would probably become a LovePeddler before she ads another 10 years if she is not tamed.

Kobojunkie:
Unless you plan to padlock their private parts and at the same time monitor those locks to ensure they stay on them and locked 24/7, the only right thing you can for your children is to tell them the whole truth about sex - its pleasures and potential woes, ensuring you equip them well with information on how to prevent those potential woes so that should and when they find themselves caving in to it, they are well informed on how to take care of themselves.

Pretending you do the right thing by keeping ghe truth from them in some mind bent attempt to protect them is not only wrong but foolish.

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This teen here is either doing what she already learnt from her parents is the right thing to do, or of her parents are the ignorant kind, she may have learnt from outside sources.

The only way to protect a girl child is for her to remain a virgin till marriage ,and to folks marrying non virgins,disaster might struck your marriage (both of you ) or either one of you anytime ,be prepared so it won’t suprise you

OJODEL10:
For god sake who did it for her
the perso should be arrrested
the mother of the girl should be blame as well.

Why the mother?
What happened to her father or did it state that the father is dead?

Is it about time, folks like you stop these nonsense behaviour attributing mistakes of children to their mothers!

laluski:
Isn't it better she does that than to have an unplanned and unwanted pregnancy?

The OP is talking to responsible parents and people who were brought up to become responsible too. Not a public service announcement.

Wittyglam:
Parents it’s time you start monitoring your wards, I know it’s not easy but you have to try. Make your kids your best friend, visit them on campus.

Be friends with their friends.
A 16years old girl went to do family planning just to please her boyfriend, so they can have sex the way they want. She doesn’t understand the danger she is putting herself in.

Stop trying to do the wrong things all in the name of love, stop trying to please people.

what are the dangers associated with that ?

This is crazy! what happened to the good old days? Let's call a spade a spade. It's very normal for them to have those feeling at those age, but not for this rubbish. If you have a child that is 15/16 yrs old, that's indulging themselves in such act as a parent what will you do? How would you feel? Excited? She didn't even consider contacting some deadly disease and infection and even the consequences of what she's doing?

Well, pikin wey wan spoil go spoil, no matter how careful you handle them, until they learn from experience.

Juanmike:
What's the big deal

Oh! I am sure it will not be much big of a deal for your daughter to do that at the age. MF

laluski:
Isn't it better she does that than to have an unplanned and unwanted pregnancy?

Perverted generation will not see anything wrong in promiscuity and immoralities despites many spiritual, physical and medical implications.

Taigaban:
1. Family planning is meant for married couples only.

2. Depending on what type of family planning she undertakes, she may end up not being able to get pregnant in future.

3. And that's when she will start sleeping in church, prayers, and fasting deceiving herself, cause nothing good can come out of such hypocrisy.

4. I know of many ladies the husband's divorced because they can't get pregnant. And investigation shows they did family planning earlier during their bloom of youth.

1. So it is only married couples that use Birthcontrol, Condoms, etc?
Only the married have sexual organs and can procreate or contract STDs even?

2. She may end up not being able to procreate but when the married use the same, it automagically always works for them?

3. So all those who currently sleep, praying and fasting in your churches are unmarried folks who used Birthcontrol, Condoms or other forms of family planning?

4. So use automagically conclude without clear evidence that a woman's inability to get pregnant in marriage is linked to use of Birthcontrol, Condoms etc. And couldn't be a result of infertility on the part of the husband or other hormonal problems?

My gosh ....why is Nigeria still churning out this level of intelligence in the year 2022 for Pete's sake!

toloohthegreat:
The OP is talking to responsible parents and people who were brought up to become responsible too. Not a public service announcement.

How many of those "responsible" parents were themselves chaste at that young age?

How does living in denial amount to being responsible?

everythinggirly:
This is crazy! what happened to the good old days? Let's call a spade a spade. It's very normal for them to have those feeling at those age, but not for this rubbish. If you have a child that is 15/16 yrs old, that's indulging themselves in such act as a parent what will you do? How would you feel? Excited? She didn't even consider contacting some deadly disease and infection and even the consequences of what she's doing?

Well, pikin wey wan spoil go spoil, no matter how careful you handle them, until they learn from experience.

Um .. family planning includes Birthcontrol, Condoms, IUDs etc.

Wittyglam:
Parents it’s time you start monitoring your wards, I know it’s not easy but you have to try. Make your kids your best friend, visit them on campus.

Be friends with their friends.
A 16years old girl went to do family planning just to please her boyfriend, so they can have sex the way they want. She doesn’t understand the danger she is putting herself in.

Stop trying to do the wrong things all in the name of love, stop trying to please people.

What do you expect when internet pornography is easily accessible to teenagers?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SA76Wac7Z34

judedwriter:


What do you expect when internet pornography is easily accessible to teenagers?

I just hope parents are aware.

DanielPat01:


Some people have sold their conscience to the devil that's why. Just look at the prostitutes (male & female) up there supporting the act. Mehn! I fear this generation. The girl would probably become a LovePeddler before she ads another 10 years if she is not tamed.

it’s scary.

Skseries:
which doctor or nurse does family planning for a 16year old?

one without conscience.

Kobojunkie:
1. So it is only married couples that use Birthcontrol, Condoms, etc?
Only the married have sexual organs and can procreate or contract STDs even?

2. She may end up not being able to procreate but when the married use the same, it automagically always works for them?

3. So all those who currently sleep, praying and fasting in your churches are unmarried folks who used Birthcontrol, Condoms or other forms of family planning?

4. So use automagically conclude without clear evidence that a woman's inability to get pregnant in marriage is linked to use of Birthcontrol, Condoms etc. And couldn't be a result of infertility on the part of the husband or other hormonal problems?

My gosh ....why is Nigeria still churning out this level of intelligence in the year 2022 for Pete's sake!

What are single adolescent doing with sexual intercourse, let alone committing to family planning? We really need to discourage young people from engaging in illicit sex. Young people gain more when they abstain from it. No one ever loose when abstain from illicit sex

Taigaban:
1. What are single adolescent doing with sexual intercourse, let alone committing to family planning? 2. We really need to discourage young people from engaging in illicit sex. Young people gain more when they abstain from it. No one ever loose when abstain from illicit sex

1. Do single adolescents engage in sexual acts or not?

It doesn't matter our personal views of the act what matters is that they engage in it. They are equipped with the same sexual organs and hormones that those older have, and so having them use protection - be it birth control, condoms, etc.- same as others who also engage in sexual intercourse, makes sense.

2. You can discourage them but if your discouragement does not work, do you throw your hands up and leave them without some form of protection then?

Kobojunkie:
1. Do single adolescents engage in sexual acts or not?

It doesn't matter our personal views of the act what matters is that they engage in it. They are equipped with the same sexual organs and hormones that those older have, and so having them use protection - be it birth control, or condoms, same as others who also engage in sexual intercourse, makes sense.

2. You can discourage them but if your discouragement does not work, do you throw your hands up and leave them without some form of protection then?

The world of unending problems. In short problem no de pinish.

Taigaban:
The world of unending problems. In short problem no de pinish.

Before now, parents have somehow always believed it was their place to force their will on their wards. But I believe that way has always been wrong since in reality that never always goes well anyways. These kids are naturally like us and they can fail and change the way the grown ones can. So the best approach to dealing with even this is while we provide them with wisdom from our own experiences, we also understand that should they choose to ply different paths from that which we did, it is not wrong to ensure they are at least protected from as many pitfalls as possible. Giving our kids sex education that is based on facts, along with tips on the use of family planning methods is not wrong.

TenQ:
1. Have I recommend any drugs!? No! In what ways have I gone beyond my borders in warning newbie married couples to beware of the adverse reactions a few couples may have due to chemical birth control methods?

2. Must everyone use the medicine for birth control when there are other safe barrier or non-chemical method?

3. Does any couple need license to advise or use without prescriptions of condoms, calender or sympto-thermal methods? Are you adverse to knowledge?

1. I would say in pretending to understand what contraceptive methods would work best for couples as opposed to others.
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2. Well, barrier methods are not 100% effective hence the reason why hormonal methods are suggested. According to research, 16 out of 100 users will get pregnant per year. So your suggesting to your clients that they stick to using barrier methods alone is wrong, when there are other more effective methods that could also work better for them.

3. So long as you are using it yourself, sure you can tell others of it. But to suggest that it seems to work well for you and that it will work exactly the same for others is wrong.

Kobojunkie:
1. I would say in pretending to understand what contraceptive methods would work best for couples as opposed to others.
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2. Well, barrier methods are not 100% effective hence the reason why hormonal methods are suggested. According to research, 16 out of 100 users will get pregnant per year. So your suggesting to your clients that they stick to using barrier methods alone is wrong, when there are other more effective methods that could also work better for them.

3. So long as you are using it yourself, sure you can tell others of it. But to suggest that it seems to work well for you and that it will work exactly the same for others is wrong.

I guess it seems you know only of barrier methods!?
1. I haven't insinuated or suggested "a best contraceptive" method
2. I have not stressed any use of barrier methods: you can check my earlier posts
3. I don't know where you got this!

TenQ:
I guess it seems you know only of barrier methods!?
1. I haven't insinuated or suggested "a best contraceptive" method
2. I have not stressed any use of barrier methods: you can check my earlier posts
3. I don't know where you got this!

You mentioned in a previous post that you suggest the use of barrier methods over hormonal drug methods to your clients.

Kobojunkie:
You mentioned that you suggest the use of barrier methods to your clients.

Can you quote me properly?

I am no expert in barrier methods!