Is it advisable for a lady of maybe 25 years to leave home immediately after NYSC just to save her self from foreseen pressures? I'm still an undergraduate. Will be round off in less than a year by the grace of God and may ASUU not embark on another strike. I've been thinking a lot these days, and I'm just not confident enough to face any pressure from families especially after NYSC.

To those who left home after NYSC, with no hope of where to go, how to start or what to do, were you able to scale through? Did you regret your decision?


Pls, share your experiences, especially if you are a lady who has experienced this. Thank you

Dear Stargurl20,


Why are you putting yourself under unnecessary pressure? I won't advice you to do that, rather, I will advise you to stay with your family, save up while serving, and get busy with something that would take your mind off the "foreseen" pressure you talked about.... Good men will surely come, nah you go dey select them like who dey select Jigawa beans. Take your time and develop yourself while living with your parents.

At least, some popular evening newspaper in this forum are doing well for themselves, no matter how some guys laugh at them, there are still some Irredeemable SIMP's dying to wife them.

Don't be in a haste, don't be in any unnecessary pressure. Enjoy your life.

Thank you and remain blessed.

Start saving money...
So that after your NYSC, you can rent an apartment while u look for jobs..
Or better still, you meant be posted to a good establishment, that pays well.
Then u can retain and plan your future.

After NYSC(Now your struggle Continues)..Life just start o,that's why I will advise you to do the following
*Learn a good handwork
*Sharpen ur computer skill,the world had gone digital
*Try and save (from your pocket money if possible and also from ur allowee)
*Wherever you are serving put in your best incase they may want to retain you
*Go for professional certifications(the ones u can afford)
Thanks .

If you're leaving home I'll advise that you get a job first so that you won't have to play the whóre in order to survive, cos staying alone and paying your bills all by yourself isn't something you should dive into until you're financially independent and ready...

In the meantime, you can continue to live with your parents, and when the pressure of marriage starts coming just sit them both down and tell them to allow you concentrate so you won't make a wrong choice.

Alternatively, you can give the most responsible admirer coming for you a chance, so that you both can get married after your youth service and build a home together rather than going back to your parents house.

The choice is yours.

Start applying for jobs outside your state , once it clicks you move.




Start early .

1. Its not every family that put pressure on their daughter, what made you think your family will put pressure on you, my family don't and no one cares.

2. For whoever that want to pressurise another, distance won't be a barrier. its just to develop thick skin and make such person to know that their is time for everything and mounting pressure on people makes them do serious mistakes.

culf:
1. Its not every family that put pressure on their daughter, what made you think your family will put pressure on you, my family don't and no one cares.

2. For whoever that want to pressurise another, distance won't be a barrier. its just to develop thick skin and make such person to know that their is time for everything and mounting pressure on people makes them do serious mistakes.

I foresee it, especially on marital issues

That home you want to run from. You will go back to that same house with unwanted pregnancy.

Nicepoker:
That home you want to run from. You will go back to that same house with unwanted pregnancy.

Lol

Stargurl20:


I foresee it, especially on marital issues

you shouldn't assume that, I know a lot of parents that don't put pressure on their kids.

running won't solve anything, they have your number and they know your address, so they can visit anytime and continue from where they stop.

When it happen, make them understand, asked them, if they want you to rush, make mistakes and end up divorce? just calm them down and on your own, try to go into good relationship, when they see you in a good relationship, they won't pressure you but in all, never settle for less in the name of pressure, stand your ground but don't push them away, parents will always be parents

#What makes you believe you won't be married by next year?

(are you the first child or daughter).

culf:


you shouldn't assume that, I know a lot of parents that don't put pressure on their kids.

running won't solve anything, they have your number and they know your address, so they can visit anytime and continue from where they stop.

When it happen, make them understand, asked them, if they want you to rush, make mistakes and end up divorce? just calm them down and on your own, try to go into good relationship, when they see you in a good relationship, they won't pressure you but in all, never settle for less in the name of pressure, stand your ground but don't push them away, parents will always be parents

#What makes you believe you won't be married by next year?

(are you the first child or daughter).

Lol...married by next? Lol ... Don't crack me up pls.

I'm the first born of my mum and her only daughter. I've two younger brothers

Stargurl20:


Lol...married by next? Lol ... Don't crack me up pls.

I'm the first born of my mum and her only daughter. I've two younger brothers

no wonder! crack you up how? in life anything is possible. you can meet a guy you really fancy before end of the and may end up been married before end of next year. Never say never.

Only Daughter, too much petting and love! you will be shock she won't bother you. As only daughter, I believe she won't stress you, she might talk about it but she won't bother you much. You no get problem sef...by the time you will tell her 'mummy you want me to rush and do mistake', she will be the one apologising and telling you to take your time.

culf:


no wonder! crack you up how? in life anything is possible. you can meet a guy you really fancy before end of the and may end up been married before end of next year. Never say never.

Only Daughter, too much petting and love! you will be shock she won't bother you. As only daughter, I believe she won't stress you, she might talk about it but she won't bother you much. You no get problem sef...by the time you will tell her 'mummy you want me to rush and do mistake', she will be the one apologising and telling you to take your time.

Too much petting kwa. Well, my own different o.... In fact, I sense my immediate younger bro to be my mum's fave sef. It's clear cut. Even when she scolds him, she scolds him with love

Stargurl20:

Too much petting kwa. Well, my own different o.... In fact, I sense my immediate younger bro to be my mum's fave sef. It's clear cut. Even when she scolds him, she scolds him with love

don't be jealous jor, lol. I won't believe that though. she was probably being careful not to get you 'spoilt' as her only daughter.

culf:



don't be jealous jor, lol. I won't believe that though. she was probably being careful not to get you 'spoilt' as her only daughter.

Lol... Yinmu. It's a clear thing. Although she's not mean to me, but I know she loves my immediate younger bro most

Stargurl20:

Lol... Yinmu. It's a clear thing. Although she's not mean to me, but I know she loves my immediate younger bro most

you think so, you don't know so, you'll be shocked. Women usually have strong attachment to their first male child though.

Don’t get old all in the name of marriage or pressure apartheid.

Tryna get yourself a relationship. Btw; what school u at??

Stargurl20:
Is it advisable for a lady of maybe 25 years to leave home immediately after NYSC just to save her self from foreseen pressures? I'm still an undergraduate. Will be round off in less than a year by the grace of God and may ASUU not embark on another strike. I've been thinking a lot these days, and I'm just not confident enough to face any pressure from families especially after NYSC.

To those who left home after NYSC, with no hope of where to go, how to start or what to do, were you able to scale through? Did you regret your decision?


Pls, share your experiences, especially if you are a lady who has experienced this. Thank you

Do you think familiar pressure to get married (if it comes) is worse than pressure to sustain yourself without a source of income?

Don't throw unnecessary spanners into your life's journey.

Some detours are very difficult to right.

culf:


you think so, you don't know so, you'll be shocked. Women usually have strong attachment to their first male child though.

I guess that's why. But make I no lie, I feel bad at times, coz I feel I should be the most loved as her first and only daughter, but unfortunately, we do not always get what we want

HopeNeverDies:
Don’t get old all in the name of marriage or pressure apartheid.

Tryna get yourself a relationship. Btw; what school u at??

Fuoye

I see you getting pregnant before the end of this year, I you giving birth to 3plets.

This I have seen.

Stargurl20:

Fuoye

Lol… for real …

I’m there too. Lol. When are u gonna resume?

Don't put pressure on urself
Just follow the flow

HopeNeverDies:


Lol… for real …

I’m there too. Lol. When are u gonna resume?

Maybe next week

Na so my babe take call of our relationship of 1 year plus because she doesn't want to come back to our state after service.

She say since I never ready to marry her, she can't come back to start staying with Her parents and that Long distance relationship is a no no for her.

Ex babe said she will move to Abj or Lagos to start hustle. Na so I wish her God speed.

After NYSC, I relied on the money I had saved during my University days added to my allowance,boom a new opportunity came and the rest was history.


U have to be strong and decide on how best to tow this new challenge...it is not always easy especially,pressure from men.

Goodluck.

Stargurl20:

Maybe next week

Can I send u a mail?

Apparently; I don’t like school… I don’t even resume early.

If you wouldn’t mind; I can shoot u a text. Or PM u through your mail. Can I do that?

HopeNeverDies:


Can I send u a mail?

Apparently; I don’t like school… I don’t even resume early.

If you wouldn’t mind; I can shoot u a text. Or PM u through your mail. Can I do that?

I don't mind

Stargurl20:


I don't mind

I think it’s sent. ( a mail ). Maybe If u got it; Maybe if u don’t..

Well, even though I'm not from Nigeria and where I'm from we don't have something like NYSC after varsity, I used the monthly allowance I used to receive from both my family and bursary.

My monthly grocery was usually just R400 or R500 and the bursary was paying for my accommodation, fees, and books. So it was easy for me to save some good money from my first year, up until my final year, hence I was able to find an affordable place to stay after varsity.

Stargurl20:
Is it advisable for a lady of maybe 25 years to leave home immediately after NYSC just to save her self from foreseen pressures? I'm still an undergraduate. Will be round off in less than a year by the grace of God and may ASUU not embark on another strike. I've been thinking a lot these days, and I'm just not confident enough to face any pressure from families especially after NYSC.

To those who left home after NYSC, with no hope of where to go, how to start or what to do, were you able to scale through? Did you regret your decision?


Pls, share your experiences, especially if you are a lady who has experienced this. Thank you

Stargurl20:

Lol

You sef know na
Que sera sera

Seriously speaking, You need to talk to your creator actually...
You need to pray for direction Stargurl20
You never can tell what's best...

Just put it in your prayers that any decision you make God should direct and favor you...
And don't worry much about it ...
Since it's not right now


*Everything will fall in place with time