Stargurl20:
Is it advisable for a lady of maybe 25 years to leave home immediately after NYSC just to save her self from foreseen pressures? I'm still an undergraduate. Will be round off in less than a year by the grace of God and may ASUU not embark on another strike. I've been thinking a lot these days, and I'm just not confident enough to face any pressure from families especially after NYSC.

To those who left home after NYSC, with no hope of where to go, how to start or what to do, were you able to scale through? Did you regret your decision?


Pls, share your experiences, especially if you are a lady who has experienced this. Thank you

let me just be honest with you, you are a lady and have no problem and should not worry about anything at all. if your families are not troubling you in any way, stay with them. save up, yes save up. you need enough money to start life. and more over you are a female, las las one man will put you inside house as his wife. but before that happens, save up enough cash for your self, start a business and think of how you will help the man who is going to marry you.


After service i did not return home, the road has not been easy. from afar family billings are still coming, but man dey chest am and run am.
if you are ok living with your family, my dear stay with them oh.

for person like that grew up with aunty, i japa after service..

I will not encourage you to leave your parent's home immediately becos you are a Muslim lady, you should be prayerful for the best in your future endeavors and save your allowance during service + learn a skill.

Stargurl20:

Well, maybe you're right. Thank do much for your advice so far.

Hahahaha, you're funny jor, which advise, these are things you already know, you're welcome though. Nice conversing with you too.

What is wrong with starting from
Somewhere with a guy graduating at the same time with her and build together with him ….I’m sure a lot of student in her class will be getting married soon?

VTJN:
Lol

She should marry a student who still get money from his parents?

U no try o

Stargurl20:
Is it advisable for a lady of maybe 25 years to leave home immediately after NYSC just to save her self from foreseen pressures? I'm still an undergraduate. Will be round off in less than a year by the grace of God and may ASUU not embark on another strike. I've been thinking a lot these days, and I'm just not confident enough to face any pressure from families especially after NYSC.

To those who left home after NYSC, with no hope of where to go, how to start or what to do, were you able to scale through? Did you regret your decision?


Pls, share your experiences, especially if you are a lady who has experienced this. Thank you

nobody will pressure you #dumbass

Hello stargaul20, I hope u get to read this, I will say u are smart and wise to already anticipate what can come next when u are finally done with school from ur parents and environment, people usually underestimate these things, hence when the reality comes on them they crumble under pressure. So its a wise out look for urself.
To be honest with u leaving home isn't the best especially for a lady in this Nigeria of today except if u are properly employed. Emphasis on 'properly', I don't mean any job that would just keep body and soul together, it's harder to maintain ur self as a woman when compared to men.
So I would advice this, begin to prepare urself for what u would want to do after NYSC, furthering education, learning a skill or getting a certification that can aid in becoming gainfully employed or self sufficient... The pressure from them would most likely come bt if u have sth u are really occupied with it would be easy to deflect u would also work on building a thick skin for it....
I like ur outlook for a man u seem more keen on the personality of the person than material possession the man might posses,I would say I hope u also understand u have to position ur self too for u to meet such man...I pray God grants u ur heart desires.

Stargurl20:
Is it advisable for a lady of maybe 25 years to leave home immediately after NYSC just to save her self from foreseen pressures? I'm still an undergraduate. Will be round off in less than a year by the grace of God and may ASUU not embark on another strike. I've been thinking a lot these days, and I'm just not confident enough to face any pressure from families especially after NYSC.

To those who left home after NYSC, with no hope of where to go, how to start or what to do, were you able to scale through? Did you regret your decision?


Pls, share your experiences, especially if you are a lady who has experienced this. Thank you

Aww
See my Iseyin Camp

Enter service first.

Abba114:
nobody will pressure you #dumbass

Must you insult me?

culf:



Hahahaha, you're funny jor, which advise, these are things you already know, you're welcome though. Nice conversing with you too.

Your face show, your show shine

godfrey02:


let me just be honest with you, you are a lady and have no problem and should not worry about anything at all. if your families are not troubling you in any way, stay with them. save up, yes save up. you need enough money to start life. and more over you are a female, las las one man will put you inside house as his wife. but before that happens, save up enough cash for your self, start a business and think of how you will help the man who is going to marry you.


After service i did not return home, the road has not been easy. from afar family billings are still coming, but man dey chest am and run am.
if you are ok living with your family, my dear stay with them oh.

for person like that grew up with aunty, i japa after service..

Ok o

seanwilliam:


stargurl20 please don’t fall for the bolded. This person will never agree if his 25 years old son brings home a 35 years old woman for marriage. hypocrisy at peak!..


As you’re developing yourself, ensure you’re considering relationship too. All of dem commenters fit no one tell you the truth just to make you positive but the reality is that the older you get as a woman the lower the chances of finding your taste of man.

As you’re husling , I’ll implore you to give chance to a man who you deem serious so you both can build future together( I pray God gives you a discerning spirit too). And be of good character, that’s what 90% of men neeed. They don’t need your MONEY atleast for me. The money you’re chasing is mostly for yourself trust me.

I’ll also advice you to remain in your parents’ house,
It has a lot of advantages trust me. See the reality is there’s high chances of you turning to a whôre if you stay alone as woman without financial capacity. Paying bills single-handedly is not easy o, ha.

Also our society frown at single women living on their own, they see them as WHÔRE And there’s high chances of you becoming a single mother if you choose that path because men will have easy access to you ( no matter how smart you think you are) and most of them might just be after your body.

Just ensure you learn lucrative skills and contribute to the financial needs of the house, and SAVE to invest.
You will know when it’s the right time to move.

Pele aduke

Thank you. Do you know me personally? Was the name, Aduke you mentioned coincidental?

Stargurl20:

Your face show, your show shine

na your back i dey na, I loyal ooo, your boy is loyal!

Stargurl20:

Thank you. Do you know me personally? Was the name, Aduke you mentioned coincidental?

Send me a dm to find out

marvy7:
Hello stargaul20, I hope u get to read this, I will say u are smart and wise to already anticipate what can come next when u are finally done with school from ur parents and environment, people usually underestimate these things, hence when the reality comes on them they crumble under pressure. So its a wise out look for urself.
To be honest with u leaving home isn't the best especially for a lady in this Nigeria of today except if u are properly employed. Emphasis on 'properly', I don't mean any job that would just keep body and soul together, it's harder to maintain ur self as a woman when compared to men.
So I would advice this, begin to prepare urself for what u would want to do after NYSC, furthering education, learning a skill or getting a certification that can aid in becoming gainfully employed or self sufficient... The pressure from them would most likely come bt if u have sth u are really occupied with it would be easy to deflect u would also work on building a thick skin for it....
I like ur outlook for a man u seem more keen on the personality of the person than material possession the man might posses,I would say I hope u also understand u have to position ur self too for u to meet such man...I pray God grants u ur heart desires.

Aameen. Thank you so much

seanwilliam:

Send me a dm to find out

Toor

culf:


na your back i dey na, I loyal ooo, your boy is loyal!

Your girl is even more loyal

When i finished in Oct, 2020, went home finally in dec, when i got home, i told my mama one of my friends that just finished is not leaving as he doesn't want to return home, my mama said had it been It was me, she for don drive down to osun her self to bundle me back home , 2 months later naso i move come lag
My advice, learn a skill, develop your self and meet people during service, so that when that last salary of 66k enter, you won't start thinking of where the next income will come from

Stargurl20:


Your girl is even more loyal

if I hear, my 2 hands dey up for you ooo. double twale to her royal Highness stargurl20.

johnfem321:
What is wrong with starting from
Somewhere with a guy graduating at the same time with her and build together with him ….I’m sure a lot of student in her class will be getting married soon?

Lol

All my set who graduated last two years are yet to find our bearing even those doing cyber fraud (Yahoo) none is getting married in the next 5 years considering our economy and the situation of things right now

5 girls out of 12 are married to an already made men. Some are rich while some are comfortable doing pretty fine

Some of them met these guys while they're still schooling while some met them while serving

It is not encouraging for a girl to date her age mate (especially in education)

Life is obviously hard for guys especially those from poor background so you expect such a guy to be dating with his condition?

The girl will either grow old or die in poverty if she ever think of following her mate

Even if a girl will ever follow a student then it should be someone ahead of her with at least 2 or 3 years in school. Not just only that but the guy must be up and doing with promising future

I can never advice my sister or female friends to follow their mate in school as their husband to be

Not even in this present Nigeria that we are

Nazgul:
If you're leaving home I'll advise that you get a job first so that you won't have to play the whóre in order to survive, cos staying alone and paying your bills all by yourself isn't something you should dive into until you're financially independent and ready...

In the meantime, you can continue to live with your parents, and when the pressure of marriage starts coming just sit them both down and tell them to allow you concentrate so you won't make a wrong choice.

Alternatively, you can give the most responsible admirer coming for you a chance, so that you both can get married after your youth service and build a home together rather than going back to your parents house.

The choice is yours.

they want already made man.

Stargurl20:
Is it advisable for a lady of maybe 25 years to leave home immediately after NYSC just to save her self from foreseen pressures? I'm still an undergraduate. Will be round off in less than a year by the grace of God and may ASUU not embark on another strike. I've been thinking a lot these days, and I'm just not confident enough to face any pressure from families especially after NYSC.

To those who left home after NYSC, with no hope of where to go, how to start or what to do, were you able to scale through? Did you regret your decision?


Pls, share your experiences, especially if you are a lady who has experienced this. Thank you

Attach yourself to a God fearing penis and leave your father's house

Responsible parents wouldn't do such knowing how vulnerable females are in our society.

bukatyne:


Do you think familiar pressure to get married (if it comes) is worse than pressure to sustain yourself without a source of income?

Don't throw unnecessary spanners into your life's journey.

Some detours are very difficult to right.

She wasn’t informed.

Stargurl20:
Is it advisable for a lady of maybe 25 years to leave home immediately after NYSC just to save her self from foreseen pressures? I'm still an undergraduate. Will be round off in less than a year by the grace of God and may ASUU not embark on another strike. I've been thinking a lot these days, and I'm just not confident enough to face any pressure from families especially after NYSC.

To those who left home after NYSC, with no hope of where to go, how to start or what to do, were you able to scale through? Did you regret your decision?


Pls, share your experiences, especially if you are a lady who has experienced this. Thank you

Don't let your family mount pressure on you to the extent of you moving out oh. Tell them you are trying to find your feet. Don't move in with any boyfriend too.

Nigerian parents need to do better.

culf:



if I hear, my 2 hands dey up for you ooo. double twale to her royal Highness stargurl20.

Lol ... Your majesty

JasonScoolari:
Dear Stargurl20,


Why are you putting yourself under unnecessary pressure? I won't advice you to do that, rather, I will advise you to stay with your family, save up while serving, and get busy with something that would take your mind off the "foreseen" pressure you talked about.... Good men will surely come, nah you go dey select them like who dey select Jigawa beans. Take your time and develop yourself while living with your parents.

At least, some popular evening newspaper in this forum are doing well for themselves, no matter how some guys laugh at them, there are still some Irredeemable SIMP's dying to wife them.

Don't be in a haste, don't be in any unnecessary pressure. Enjoy your life.

Thank you and remain blessed.

��� how Jigawa beans dey be?

Stargurl20:

I don't get

never mind

VTJN:
Lol

All my set who graduated last two years are yet to find our bearing even those doing cyber fraud (Yahoo) none is getting married in the next 5 years considering our economy and the situation of things right now

5 girls out of 12 are married to an already made men. Some are rich while some are comfortable doing pretty fine

Some of them met these guys while they're still schooling while some met them while serving

It is not encouraging for a girl to date her age mate (especially in education)

Life is obviously hard for guys especially those from poor background so you expect such a guy to be dating with his condition?

The girl will either grow old or die in poverty if she ever think of following her mate

Even if a girl will ever follow a student then it should be someone ahead of her with at least 2 or 3 years in school. Not just only that but the guy must be up and doing with promising future

I can never advice my sister or female friends to follow their mate in school as their husband to be

Not even in this present Nigeria that we are

But na una go still say person dey look for already made man.

Wo, I just wish marriage isn't a necessity jare. I just tire.