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Re: How Can I Reduce The Hatred I Have For My Cousin Brother? by maasoap(m): 3:34pm On Nov 08, 2022
JASONjnr:


Shut up your smelly mouth....


Islam permits cousins to marry each other.....If his father is t seeing this as a crime or molesting, It's not in your place to judge since you don't know anything behind it.

Keep your Ignorance to yourself and learn to not be extremely judgemental.....

Olodo....

If two family members are allowed to marry each other, does this look to you like something anyone should accept? You're a f00l for trying to reduce molestation and the parents nonchallant attitude to a mere religious belief!
Haven't we read about Christian households where housemaids were being molested by husband and sons and the wife/mother turned blind eyes despite being reported to? Dumbass, this is more about individuals rather than what they believe.

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Re: How Can I Reduce The Hatred I Have For My Cousin Brother? by BigCowHornn: 4:34pm On Nov 08, 2022
Messi1:
I admire your choice of peace. And don't forget you fought silentgroper emidon11 princeofagoare. I was the only one u didn't fight in your quest to defend that lunatic animal called jeon and that's because we've been friends for long. Lissen, what vex me real deep is the fact that jeon thinks she can fight me, a whole troll, but she couldn't live up to task and started running away. CowHornn, we live by vawulence.


I was appalled at the way all of you gang up against her.. only Her!

It was too much for any one person and that's why I stepped in to break it up .

Trolling is dangerous weapon when used right.. I should know since I was the king on nairaland before retirement and you took over.. abi una plenty way don take over.. Lol...even satanist.

Just one of you against her is bad enough but all of you together is wickedness.

Look try and understand that girls are naturally troublesome and mouthy but they are still the gentle gender.. treat them well and they will be sweater than sugar and honey

Know this and know peace
Re: How Can I Reduce The Hatred I Have For My Cousin Brother? by babajero(m): 5:25pm On Nov 08, 2022
Comradepreneur:
Good evening everyone.

Even though I had vowed to myself never to bring family issues to this forum, I just have to vent this out.

I am 23, a male from the North. I come from a family of 6, in which I'm the eldest of my siblings (all my younger siblings are girls).

In 2019, my cousin brother, who is way younger than me (he was 14) came to start living with us just a year after his dad died.

Prior to his dad's death, we never spoke to each other whenever I visited his mom (my paternal aunt).

His dad was someone who was quite doing well for himself before death took him away from us (he was working with NNPC).

After his death, his family were divided (he had three wives in which 2 had died earlier. My aunt was the second wife).

His children from his first wife lay claims that my aunt killed Thier mom (who had died way before 2004), and even the third wife (who died in 2018).

Even though his wealth was shared according to Islamic rites, they were still not contented even though they had the lion share.

Well, just months after my uncle's death, my aunt decided to get married! (Just imagine someone being accused of killing her husband and her co-wives fa).

Even though my dad (her elder brother) was against the decision, she even went as far as went to her mom in the village and was crying when her mom rebuked her for her intending action.

At the end, she got her way, and remarried to a police officer.

The worst part is, she is still living in her former husband's house, while she visits her new husband in his house (they are very close to each other. Much like she got married to her neighbor! Since his house is just a stone throw from hers).

Well, to cut the story short, she has 3 kids (all male) for her deceased husband, the eldest being 14. The eldest son was sent to come live with us since their rooms have been given out to their elder brothers as part of their own inheritance (her kids only inherited money and the man had over 4 properties in strategic locations).

Drink sniper.
Re: How Can I Reduce The Hatred I Have For My Cousin Brother? by Ikea81: 5:36pm On Nov 08, 2022
Comradepreneur:
So, in 2019, my dad decided to take him in.

One night, I woke up from sleep and decided to go to the kitchen and get drinking water (my room is just outside the sitting room, and you'll have to pass the sitting room before reaching the kitchen).

I observed that my cousin wasn't on the bed when I woke up. I decided to take a peek into my sister's room and there he was standing, jerking off to my sister's face! She was barely 15!

The lights was on, and his grandmother (my dad's mom) who came visiting was also on the bed together with my sisters! Such audacity!

I couldn't even believe what I saw, and tiptoed back into my room and woke up my maternal uncle who was staying with us in order to be my witness.

After witnessing the act, the only response he gave me was [b]Why is she (my sister) feigning to sleep, while he was touching her and jerking off to her face[b].

I was shocked and couldn't even believe his utterance. Like bro! You was supposed to help me bounce on the stupid slowpoke harassing my sister, (your niece).

He just said that and left. With the little energy left with me, I opened the door, dragged my cousin brother out and warned him never to try such act again (I initially wanted to teach him a lesson he ought to never forget in his lifetime, but I was hugely disappointed with what my uncle did).

Even though I still reported him to my parents, there wasn't any punishment meted out to him.

After that incident, I completely lost the respect I had for my uncle. Agreed he had some issues with my mom (her elder sister) back then, but why extend the hatred to her children?.

After that incident, I still occasionally catch my cousin brother in the night in the sitting room, claiming to iron out his clothes. But I still maintain my anger since it's not as if I caught him going into my sister's room.

What broke the camels back, was an incident which happened last 3 weeks ago.

One of my younger sisters (she's 13) reported to my dad in the middle of the night that he caught my cousin brother in her room, jerking off at her face while trying to remove her underwear.

All my dad did was to woke me up from sleep (saying that he wants me to be the witness), and he was preaching to the boy on how his mom, is his younger sister and that he should talk if marriage should be done for him since he can't hold his sexual desires (like man, you was supposed to call me and we smack the shit out of him together!!!).

I got angry and just left them there.

The next morning, I told my mom about the incident, and she told me that my baby sister (an 8 year old) do complain to her sometimes about sharp pains in her private part.

And this happens whenever, my cousin brother is sent to take her to the room whenever she's asleep on the sitting room couch. And also, how one of my sisters told her that he once caught him trying to lift up her skirt while she was fast asleep on the couch in the middle of the night.

Right now, I'm Justin mad at myself and angry at the same time! I feel like a loser, a pussy who can't even protect his sisters.

The bastard is still living with us, in my room, and every day, my hatred for him grows stronger.

Even when my mom told his mom, her only reply was that he's still a kid, and she should forgive him. Someone who's 17!!!! For goodness sake!.

She didn't even called him out to kneel down in front of my mom and rebuke him. Nothing was done!!!! She didn't even spoke to him about the incident.

And whenever my mom makes her displeasure known to my dad, he always says that she hates his family, bla bla bla.

How can I reduce my hatred for my cousin? Or is my hatred justified?

Right now, he has been restricted into coming into the sitting room, anything past 8pm.

But still, I'm still sure things might just go back to being the same!.

My fear right now is, I'll be going for my youth service in a few months time, which means this bastard will be with my sisters unsecured!!!!


I think in your culture it's possible for cousins to marry , and even have multiple wives.....Thinking what I am thinking
Re: How Can I Reduce The Hatred I Have For My Cousin Brother? by wman(m): 5:37pm On Nov 08, 2022
Your dad is a weakling.
Re: How Can I Reduce The Hatred I Have For My Cousin Brother? by Housing(m): 5:45pm On Nov 08, 2022
Comradepreneur:
Good evening everyone.

Even though I had vowed to myself never to bring family issues to this forum, I just have to vent this out.

I am 23, a male from the North. I come from a family of 6,
The worst part is, she is still living in her former husband's house, while she visits her new husband in his house (they are very close to each other. Much like she got married to her neighbor! Since his house is just a stone throw from hers


Do you know according to a particular Hadith any man who doesn't feel angry whenever another man sexual abuse his mother, wife, sister or aunt is not a Muslim. Try and research on this Hadith to get the correct wordings.

You don't need anyone's support before you disclipine that your cousin. Why can't you beat him silly with blow. You don't blow him in the face but shoulders and tie him up for better punishment.

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Re: How Can I Reduce The Hatred I Have For My Cousin Brother? by Loverboi2cute(m): 7:15pm On Nov 08, 2022
Tzar91:
You said that you are about to go for youth service and you are behaving like a kid. Break that sexual predator's head with bottle, if ur father yarn rubbish you give am better chanceing wea go shock am, enter the house park all the boy belongs come outside pour am kerosene burn them, if any of ur siblings talk shit tear am better slap, call the boy mama for phone immediately and talk to her like she is a nobody, behave like a mad man and watch yourself take ur place as the first born, even ur father will start to give u some respect.


guy u get talk 4 here oo... omo am impress...I wish na dis kind mentality friends dey surround me, then I'll not be a love-vendor
Re: How Can I Reduce The Hatred I Have For My Cousin Brother? by JASONjnr(m): 9:12pm On Nov 08, 2022
maasoap:


If two family members are allowed to marry each other, does this look to you like something anyone should accept? You're a f00l for trying to reduce molestation and the parents nonchallant attitude to a mere religious belief!
Haven't we read about Christian households where housemaids were being molested by husband and sons and the wife/mother turned blind eyes despite being reported to? Dumbass, this is more about individuals rather than what they believe.

I usually do not spend time explaining anything to idiots ...

Again, it's a religion thing and you do not have the right to judge them.

Islam is a religion that they chose to follow it's doctrine and they allow cousins to marry.

According to the op, he said his father asked him if he should marry him a wife... Apparently, in Islam, underage marriage is allowed.

Whether you see it as a crime or not, it will never stop them from practicing what they believe.

Now, if you're a fool and still finds loopholes to breed insults from this detailed explanation...I will suggest you return back to school....I don't have time to teach kids how to understand simple explanation.
Re: How Can I Reduce The Hatred I Have For My Cousin Brother? by maasoap(m): 9:17pm On Nov 08, 2022
JASONjnr:


I usually do not spend time explaining anything to idiots ...

Again, it's a religion thing and you do not have the right to judge them.

Islam is a religion that they chose to follow it's doctrine and they allow cousins to marry.

According to the op, he said his father asked him if he should marry him a wife... Apparently, in Islam, underage marriage is allowed.

Whether you see it as a crime or not, it will never stop them from practicing what they believe.

Now, if you're a fool and still finds loopholes to breed insults from this detailed explanation ...I will suggest you return back to school....I don't have time to teach kids how to understand simple explanation.

Are you mad or something, what detailed explanation? To be molesting underage kids is a religion thing? What religion says adult family members are allowed to molest kids? You're a f00l!
Re: How Can I Reduce The Hatred I Have For My Cousin Brother? by Eagba(m): 10:07am On Nov 09, 2022
Sunny2034:


Which ground do you stand when someone physically stronger is threatening you? So, I should wait until he penetrates then try and use my (virgin) vagina muscles to "break his penis" baa?? Please how old are you? 12?? Once he has penetrated, the deed is done, so why should I wait till then? You're still doubling down on your wrong claim instead of accepting that you're wrong. You ARE underrating rape victims and you're very very wrong!! O ga oooo
Aunty that's leaning towards rape. Except you want to wait till he penetrate before fighting. Na you know wetin you dey find.
If he's two hands are engaging in restricting and gaging a potential victim and he's full weight is on your knee, he will need his hands to push his penis though.

A female pelvic floor muscle can tight and restrict a penis from entering on its own. Except your vaginal is loose like a sinkhole.

After being complacent in your sex cum rape, you now be saying he was threatening me like an.... What happened to biting his neck once he try leaning on you. What ask you to wait till he penetrate before before fighting, I only stated that as a last resort. Olodo instead of moaning like a .... that you are, just grab, move down and twist sharply and fiercely.
Re: How Can I Reduce The Hatred I Have For My Cousin Brother? by EmiDon11: 1:06pm On Nov 29, 2022
Jeon:


Satanist, you are very stupid. Go switch to FERNADEZISBACK and ask for my contact.
NONSENSE and useless animal.
ignoring you means alot, not that I'm running or afraid of a cursed animal that it life revolves around NL.
How about ur fake US trip?
How about ur imaginary ambition for politics?
How about ur fake Scholarship?
How about ur fake Admission?


You told the fonts that on OCTOBER YOU WILL BE NO MORE BECAUSE OF YOUR FAKE DREAMS,BUT YET WE ARE IN NOVEMBER AND YOU'RE STILL HERE



I know why you are so pissed.
You thought the fake and useless friendship would resume after 10 days of fight?.. No not like before. I can't wait to celebrate 1 year anniversary of ENEMIES.
So can you please stop masturbating on my mentions?
hi jeon
Long time
Haapy to see u
Re: How Can I Reduce The Hatred I Have For My Cousin Brother? by EmiDon11: 1:06pm On Nov 29, 2022
Messi1:
I admire your choice of peace. And don't forget you fought silentgroper emidon11 princeofagoare. I was the only one u didn't fight in your quest to defend that lunatic animal called jeon and that's because we've been friends for long. Lissen, what vex me real deep is the fact that jeon thinks she can fight me, a whole troll, but she couldn't live up to task and started running away. CowHornn, we live by vawulence.
bro
Leave this girl na
Re: How Can I Reduce The Hatred I Have For My Cousin Brother? by bukatyne(f): 1:40pm On Nov 29, 2022
Naijatask:


After reading the comments, I had to woke up my mom from sleep, and told her about the my displeasure on how she handled the situation.

She said her marriage will crash if she were to take an action, and she's also concerned about the future of my sisters if a word were to be led out concerning the issue.

Right now, I'm just confused to be honest, and I also believe that taking the matter to the police station will cause the same issue my mom has been trying to avoid.

Overall, I've definitely decided and know how to deal with the situation. Thank you all for your advices

The bold provides some explanation for the weird reaction to the issue.

Since everyone seems to be roving mad and care more for their reputation than the lives & future of your sisters, can you get all of them to sleep in your room? Or you sleep outside their door? Or they all sleep in one room with the door locked at all times?

I wonder who would protect them when. You go for service.
Re: How Can I Reduce The Hatred I Have For My Cousin Brother? by Jeon(f): 2:16pm On Nov 29, 2022
EmiDon11:
hi jeon Long time Haapy to see u
hi long time.

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Re: How Can I Reduce The Hatred I Have For My Cousin Brother? by neduemaginatif: 10:13pm On Dec 04, 2022
This story no clear. Are you a writer because this story be like Super Story.

I no wan say na lie but e no clear... undecided undecided
Re: How Can I Reduce The Hatred I Have For My Cousin Brother? by EmiDon11: 2:36pm On Dec 06, 2022
Jeon:


hi long time.
I really missed u ma'am
I lost my phone
How Is everything?
Re: How Can I Reduce The Hatred I Have For My Cousin Brother? by WantsandMore: 2:36pm On May 08, 2023
Kobojunkie:
It's been several years since this has been going on and everyone in the house is already aware of what has been happening even the dad who was among the first he informed. You think another small talk with these same men will change anything? undecided
Family issues are more complex & complicated than meets the eyes.

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