So I got married in November 2020 and since then things have been going down on me and things are very hard plus the girl I got married to doesn't give me peace of mind, we quarrel more than we play and we always have disagreements all the time, even though I got married to her because she was pregnant, she doesn't respect that. Since the married her father has automatically seen me as an enemy for no just cost. The worst part is that the girl always insults me and tells me that I will keep begging to eat anytime we have issues. Please I need your advice

Hollian:
So I got married in November 2020 and since then things have been going down on me and things are very hard plus the girl I got married to doesn't give me peace of mind, we quarrel more than we play and we always have disagreements all the time, even though I got married to her because she was pregnant, she doesn't respect that. Since the married her father has automatically seen me as an enemy for no just cost. The worst part is that the girl always insults me and tells me that I will keep begging to eat anytime we have issues. Please I need your advice

Leave that girl,she's a witch......she doesn't want ur progress, maybe she came to destroy u...........

how old are you and your wife or how matured are you and your wife before venturing into marriage?

note that you are old enough does not mean you are matured

Na this type dey insult us on nairaland ,if we dey advice them. You got her pregnant and married her.. For what nau? Now look how she is ruining you.. Guy advice yourself o,before its too late..

That's just what I'm going to work on

Redoil:
how old are you and your wife or how matured are you and your wife before venturing into marriage?

note that you are old enough does not mean you are matured

I'm 29 already

Redoil:
how old are you and your wife or how matured are you and your wife before venturing into marriage?

note that you are old enough does not mean you are matured

So why did you ask their age since it doesn't matter?

You cannot solve a Problem with the same brain capacity you have when you Created the Problem.


Kindly go smoke some weeds..
..your reasoning faculty shall be accessible again and the gods will show you the way.

Fellow narialanders please help me . I have been drinking just water for the past 2 days. Everywhere is rough for me... 2174726939 UBA.. Benjamin

Eltunechi:


Leave that girl,she's a witch......she doesn't want ur progress, maybe she came to destroy u...........

Why judge from one sided story.....?

Op, if two or more people hates you, you should do well to tell us what you have done.

Are you hard working and providing? Or hard working and stingy?

Are you taking care of the bills or she's doing that for you?

Are you having time for her or your all about work? Or a stay at home husband?


Tell us more....

JASONjnr:


Why judge from one sided story.....?

Op, if two or more people hates you, you should do well to tell us what you have done.

Are you hard working and providing? Or hard working and stingy?

Are you taking care of the bills or she's doing that for you?

Are you having time for her or your all about work? Or a stay at home husband?


Tell us more....

You lack reading and listening. If I can get the money to pay her pride price after 2 months of dating just because she's pregnant do you think I will ever hold back my pocket to spend on her? Secondly, I wrote that her father hates me for no just costs. You Dont know the meaning of that? Thirdly, if things was like this do you think I could have been able to raise money for the marriage, and wedding? I've never been greedy and I always give when I have not to my family only but to outsiders as well. But since I got married things hasn't been funny. The girl in Question is an Isoko/Edo I'm a full born uwvie man with less stress.

Hollian:



You lack reading and listening. If I can get the money to pay her pride price after 2 months of dating just because she's pregnant do you think I will ever hold back my pocket to spend on her? Secondly, I wrote that her father hates me for no just costs. You Dont know the meaning of that? Thirdly, if things was like this do you think I could have been able to raise money for the marriage, and wedding? I've never been greedy and I always give when I have not to my family only but to outsiders as well. But since I got married things hasn't been funny. The girl in Question is an Isoko/Edo I'm a full born uwvie man with less stress.

You started by insulting me.....

Probably that's the problem with you...

Maybe all you do is talk down on her and the people around you. And maybe 5hats why things are happening to you the way it is....

You have absolutely no right to attribute your failures to a woman.

Work on yourself and make the right decisions......And stop being uncouth ..And expect people 5o admire and love you.

Nobody hates you for no just cause....Did the man tell you he doesn't know why he hates 6ou before you come to this conclusion? Or you just wake up and start assuming that he hates you for no just cause?

Having money to marry is different from having money to care for your home and your woman.

From the little you have disclosed,

1. You married someone you dated for 2 months just because she got pregnant. Most likely both of you didn't know each other well enough before you married out of circumstance. Because of this, you might not even be compatible on many aspects of life.

On compatibility, it's not late to find out how compatible you people are. If you are both not and not willing to change lifestyle, beliefs, and life perspectives to become more compatible, you can as well end the marriage now because it will not work out.

2. Even if you are compatible, the moment you are struggling financially as the man of the house, you will see any woman in her true colors. This is why it's always good to have an idea of how a girlfriend will react to you when you are down financially before you marry.

Now that you are already in the marriage, you are financially down, all you have to do is continue to hussle hard and talk to your wife that everything will soon be okay. Sit her down. Talk to the soft side of her. Let her know that you need her peace, support and prayers to pull through and become the man she wants financially.

3. Even if compatibility and finance are not the issue, there's always the initial learning curve or stage in every marriage. This is usually immediately after marriage to a couple of years after, where both parties will relax, display their true self. This is stage where most marriages fight or quarrel the most because the parties have to re-learn the true characters of their partners. Most people hide their bad characters during dating, most especially when they want the dating to end in marriage.

To pass this stage, you both need alot of patience, tolerance, commitment and communication. If you both recognize this stage and apply all mentioned, the stage will surely pass and you will get your home back in order.

Good luck!

Helpout12345:
From the little you have disclosed,

1. You married someone you dated for 2 months just because she got pregnant. Most likely both of you didn't know each other well enough before you married out of circumstance. Because of this, you might not even be compatible on many aspects of life.

On compatibility, it's not late to find out how compatible you people are. If you are both not and not willing to change lifestyle, beliefs, and life perspectives to become more compatible, you can as well end the marriage now because it will not work out.

2. Even if you are compatible, the moment you are struggling financially as the man of the house, you will see any woman in her true colors. This is why it's always good to have an idea of how a girlfriend will react to you when you are down financially before you marry.

Now that you are already in the marriage, you are financially down, all you have to do is continue to hussle hard and talk to your wife that everything will soon be okay. Sit her down. Talk to the soft side of her. Let her know that you need her peace, support and prayers to pull through and become the man she wants financially.

3. Even if compatibility and finance are not the issue, there's always the initial learning curve or stage in every marriage. This is usually immediately after marriage to a couple of years after, where both parties will relax, display their true self. This is stage where most marriages fight or quarrel the most because the parties have to re-learn the true characters of their partners. Most people hide their bad characters during dating, most especially when they want the dating to end in marriage.

To pass this stage, you both need alot of patience, tolerance, commitment and communication. If you both recognize this stage and apply all mentioned, the stage will surely pass and you will get your home back in order.

Good luck!

Thanks you said it all on point 2

Benprince25:
Fellow narialanders please help me . I have been drinking just water for the past 2 days. Everywhere is rough for me... 2174726939 UBA.. Benjamin

Wetin u wan de drink now?
Kerosene?

Hollian:


Thanks you said it all on point 2

You are welcome.

As for your father-in-law, continue to be good to him but don't sweat it. Just focus on having good relationship with your wife.

Once you and your wife find ways to settle your issues, it will flow to her father.

Redoil:
how old are you and your wife or how matured are you and your wife before venturing into marriage?

note that you are old enough does not mean you are matured

Forget that thing. Provided you are above 18yrs ,you are matured and should take full responsibility of your actions.Mature folks People keep using that quote as a leverage to misbehave
People marry younger than Op and they both aged together..
Op you are matured and you did nothing wrong in Wifying a woman you impregnated. But any woman that can Curse her husband isn't worth keeping. Let her go and try to organize your life.

Hollian:



You lack reading and listening. If I can get the money to pay her pride price after 2 months of dating just because she's pregnant do you think I will ever hold back my pocket to spend on her? Secondly, I wrote that her father hates me for no just costs. cause You Dont know the meaning of that? Thirdly, if things was like this do you think I could have been able to raise money for the marriage, and wedding? I've never been greedy and I always give when I have not to my family only but to outsiders as well. But since I got married things hasn't been funny. The girl in Question is an Isoko/Edo I'm a full born uwvie man with less stress.

Where is Uwvie? Edo?

Since you married a girl, not even a lady or a woman, shows the death of disrespect you have for your wife even in a public forum. It's strange that your wife and her father are not pleased with you. This story has a genesis; what is it?

AfonjaConehead:

Where is Uwvie? Edo?

Delta.

akwesenana:

Delta.

Oh ok

Hollian:
So I got married in November 2020 and since then things have been going down on me and things are very hard plus the girl I got married to doesn't give me peace of mind, we quarrel more than we play and we always have disagreements all the time, even though I got married to her because she was pregnant, she doesn't respect that. Since the married her father has automatically seen me as an enemy for no just cost. The worst part is that the girl always insults me and tells me that I will keep begging to eat anytime we have issues. Please I need your advice

The last three lines of your post about her comment on you is what triggered me to make this post

Once a woman you are sleeping with, starts praying or wishing you negativities in your life

Is either you ask her to go back to her parents or you leave that house for her

You guys weren't even prepared for marriage
The worst is that she doesn't respect you and her father finds faults in everything you do

At this point, flat mates are better than you

You guys need a break

Who knows if she is behind your predicament

You self wise up and stop being a simp

Get a divorce.

she is not your God, if your mind is clear, nothing will happen, keep praying and huzzle more.

If e too much, you can separate from her for awhile