Another Heartbreak TOpic Again!!!

Ok let's See if we can ammend this One!!

ooh ooh

eyahh

im so sorryy

Gamine - Haba just Sorry !!!

let's try and help her Out!!! i dont think sorry will solve

her problem!!!

Who's Next!!

shit happens  Big sis, but that can never be the end of the world you know. "You will never be called a failure until you quit trying", i understand hw you feel but i can tell you that there are better Nigerians too who are not like your 9ja Lover.
focus your energy on the best for now while you get back on track

peace and love u.

@ poster,

don't worry, there are other guys better than him which you can choose from. life goes on no matter what. heartbreak happens everyday but surely what goes around comes around. the guy that broke your heart would also have his heart broken by another girl, and then he would remember what wrong he did to you. trust me, i'm talking from experience.

Forget about the jerk he is not worth your love!

guys are plenty on earth and u can choose whom you would like to be with.

@poster

first, I diagree 'weakly' with you that the guy had hurt you even though you are hurt. I think you are 'lucky' to have that kind of guy. His being a man of God must have been the reason for your luck. He truly love you!

Men of God don't operate the way we generally do. He might love you truly while the 'holy spirit' tells him that his union with you can't work. It may be spiritual. I don't know, so I would not jump at conclusion. I hope he had not been 'eating your pie'? 'cos men of God don't fornicate.
If he were to be mean, he could have played you for longer time and dump you when you least expect it. He may have some reasons why he could not tell you earlier. I think you should let him go if he want to go. Don't mourn him. You might get someone better. Meanwhile maintain friendship with him. You never can tell, he might be lying about the lagos girl.

Everything depend on your age and experience.

Let me say that I am sorry, very sorry, if my words caused you more pains after you read them. I quite understand your stand and I had always be an advocate of sincerity.

What I mean by saying you are lucky is that, some guys out there might have kept the fact away from you even when you ask million times. I don't know why he didn't tell you about his Lagos girl. I think he probably know you would leave after knowing of her. That is his undoing.

Your case is not as serious as you painted it. Under normal circumstance, you should be grateful that he was honest about it. If you are in the US and he in Naija, he obviously told you on phone or online. His disclosure, though late is not bad at all. It is good. It is encouraging. That he is a virgin, according to you (if it is true) indicate that he was not sleeping with the girl in question. That he was begging you in spite of that mistake also show that something is going on in his mind. You are not heartbroken, my dear. When I compare your case with what I have seen and read, I must confess, you are supposed to be grateful to God who made him reveal that to you. The proper word for your case is DISAPPOINTMENT not HEARTBREAK. You have not got to the level.

Consider, you are already planning your wedding and the story leaks that your man is sleeping around with a particular girl. Is that what you prefer? If not, then, any timely revealation should be appreciated and not condemned. The man may still be weighing his emotion, if that is so, then you are hasty in your decision. Otherwise, I would support your decision to call it quit.

A sound of warning to you, though. IF YOU GET ANOTHER GUY THAT WANT YOU DESPERATELY, DON'T BE SURPRISE THAT HE HIDE TRUTHs FROM YOU AFTER HEARING OF THIS INCIDENCE. The new man would simply shut up to let the sleeping dog lie! Don't make an issue out of the current disappointment. Learn to put your emotional sensitivity in check. Take heart and live on. You can be happier than this.

Let me say that I am sorry, very sorry, if my words caused you more pains after you read them. I quite understand your stand and I had always be an advocate of sincerity.

What I mean by saying you are lucky is that, some guys out there might have kept the fact away from you even when you ask million times. I don't know why he didn't tell you about his Lagos girl. I think he probably know you would leave after knowing of her. That is his undoing.

Your case is not as serious as you painted it. Under normal circumstance, you should be grateful that he was honest about it. If you are in the US and he in Naija, he obviously told you on phone or online. His disclosure, though late is not bad at all. It is good. It is encouraging. That he is a virgin, according to you (if it is true) indicate that he was not sleeping with the girl in question. That he was begging you in spite of that mistake also show that something is going on in his mind. You are not heartbroken, my dear. When I compare your case with what I have seen and read, I must confess, you are supposed to be grateful to God who made him reveal that to you. The proper word for your case is DISAPPOINTMENT not HEARTBREAK. You have not got to the level.

Consider, you are already planning your wedding and the story leaks that your man is sleeping around with a particular girl. Is that what you prefer? If not, then, any timely revealation should be appreciated and not condemned. The man may still be weighing his emotion, if that is so, then you are hasty in your decision. Otherwise, I would support your decision to call it quit.

A sound of warning to you, though. IF YOU GET ANOTHER GUY THAT WANT YOU DESPERATELY, DON'T BE SURPRISE THAT HE HIDE TRUTHs FROM YOU AFTER HEARING OF THIS INCIDENCE. The new man would simply shut up to let the sleeping dog lie! Don't make an issue out of the current disappointment. Learn to put your emotional sensitivity in check. Take heart and live on. You can be happier than this.

True words.

@ lice true talk.
@post  thank God he even told u cos d eairlier d better.
Bt I still cant understand hw u fell 4 him without even seeing him.
Well as dey said ppl are different.
Wat did u expect from him, commitment?

Its gud to know ur eyes are shining now.
God bless u too.

Ya I kw hw so silly we can @ times.
Anyways Thank God 4 God.

We are very happy for you. We rejoice with you.  When we share ideas and problems it surely help us toward the light.

I didn't agree with those who condemn long distance relationship though.

As for the guy, remain just friend with him and follow his next action though you should not lose your heart in it or any man again until you are sure he is what you want.

Let this experience rather widen your wisdom. God is never far away from His beloved.

Everything that had occured, everything that is occuring or will ever occur is the outward manifestation of your innermost thoughts, choices, and ideas and determinations regarding who you are. Who you choose to be. Condemn not, therefore those aspects of life with which you disagree. Seek instead to change them and the conditions that made them possible, Behold the darkness, yet curse it not rather be the light into the darkness and so transform it,

My heart bleeds when I see a beautiful relationship go sour (whatever the reason) and the victims of the broken relationship go ahead to live their life in perpetual bondage. Hating opposite gender, and holding tenaciously to the pessimistic view of life and every thing it had to offered.

That a man slip does not mean he should never walk again. The strongest man is not the one who had never been hurt. More often, the strongest man carry the scares that lead him to his strong position.

I believe, strongly in me that if you are positive, you would soon be vistited by joy of unimaginable proportion. Don't follow the path of those who after experiencing disappointment would never see anything good again. Be a good finder. For what you seek, you shall get.

Cheeeeer!

Amen!

@Poster
Why heart break?Loving some body does'nt not necessarily mean he or she is settling with her.If he truely loves yah,I bet you he will still want to be with you no matter what.Except you are beign possesive a sort of just for example.Let me ask u one question?How do u tend to know every thing about some one u have not meet before?
Ask him how seriouse he is with her Lagos gurl ok.good luck.And more over I can't even see any heart break here. he just opened up some part of life

i congratulate u,u pressed him & he told u the truth,u should be happy,u can still amend ur status now,no 'crime' if u maintain contact wt him but it's not really advisable bc he might know ur weak point & hit u there 2 cover up. Be prayer & always be meticulous abt next line of action.
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u r lucky he tld u,a full blooded 9ja man wld ve jus played his game wel n u wnt no anytin.

@Sofly
Hope you aint quiting because he told you something he might not be so seriouse about.You better watch your egos nd don't let that break you down.Be observant and know howz he is feeling these dayz.He might not be happy man again may he just want to be fair a little bit.After all body no be fire wood ooh.

Good Luck

Angelchi,

I disagree with your generalization. You made it look as if full blooded Nigerians are born liar. If you are a Nigerian, I am sorry to hear that kind of thing from fellow Nigerian. Pessimism will get you no where. Learn to seperate black from white, and you won't go astray.

Life is such a journey! Just because someone is seeing someone else, does not even mean it's the end unless u make it so. Love - it's such a complex thing. Being older, I have seen relationships of mine change and grow beyond just a romance. If you truly love your man, the love him, it may have to be a bit different from your romantic notions, but love knows no wrong. Responding to the poster who was saying a "full blooded naija man" will do his thang and no tell her, tsk tsk. I know many good, faithful, honest, hardworking naija men who would never do such to their wives and families. It's not all about chasing d skirt. It's just in d person. Now, if I can just find one single good naija man for mesef, it'll all b good! KEEP ON KEEPIN ON!

he's just some guy trying to get to the states through you. at least you should be glad he showed his true color in time. well just believe and see it this way certain things are not meant to be, so move with your life and you definitely will meet the right guy someday.