I was heartbroken just few min ago and I can only relieve myself by pouring my heart here.

So,I had this guy I have known him since he was in 100l, a church member introduced him to me because he had challenges with mathematics and I'm in the dept of applied maths,I took him tutorial for the whole section without collecting a naira from him.

Now fast forward to today the bro is in 500l,I connected with him when I came back to school...I left school then because I couldn't pay the school fee.


Now I have been sleeping in school for over a month now.
(I posted on this tr on how my ant keep disappointing me and that why I'm stranded till this day.

https://www.nairaland.com/7648554/need-helpim-depressed-confused)

I went to this my guy place tonight because I was feeling maleria bcuz of the mosquito,I asked him if he was excepting any visitor tonight he said No.
I asked him if I could spend just this night with him,bro said no he doesn't like sleeping guys in his room that if it's a lady it's different,I offered to sleep on the floor dude still said no...Omoo I just left in shame I'm on my way to school tho.

This same guy passed several night at my place then when I was taking him tutorial,I was really hurt,not that I'm feeling entitled I just feel the least he could do was to help me for the sake of old times...
He doesn't know I wasn't feeling too well tho but at least a night won't kill him, but it won't kill me either.on my way to school,and I regret ever asking him.

Life will be good and I'll live comfortably well.☺️

I wont blame the guy o.

Back then in school, one of my friend told me he wants to spend the weekend at my place, na so I use get unplanned roommate for two whole semesters.
I also read on NL about a Poland woman who accepted a Ukrainian refugee, only for the refugee to snatch her husband.

OP just accept it. The guy may have gone through alot in the hands of a squatter that made him live alone even in 500level

Expect the worst from humans, that way nothing will come as a shock to you.

richmond500:
I wont blame the guy o.

Back then in school, one of my friend told me he wants to spend the weekend at my place, na so I use get roommate for two whole semesters, before I know, his brother don deh come visit am, and sometimes the visit might last 4 days, I come get one main roommate and one auxiliary roommate


Better safe than sorry

You may be right

But the post says the guy said if it's a lady, it's different

So his reason for not allowing the guy doesn't seem like taking safety measures as suggested in your comment

richmond500:
I am not talking about safety here.
Maybe the guy is scared OP won't leave after a night and he is not interested in having a roommate

The 'safety' there isn't in context of danger or evil. I meant preventing an occasion where the accommodated person stays longer than usual.

That doesn't seem to be the case since the guy said if it was a girl that was asking, his reaction would be different.

If the guy was trying to prevent such occasion, then that would encompass everybody and girls wouldn't be left out or given an excuse.

richmond500:
I wont blame the guy o.

Back then in school, one of my friend told me he wants to spend the weekend at my place, na so I use get unplanned roommate for two whole semesters.


Better safe than sorry

I think say you get sense before na now i know say you be stupid cow

UnusualEmissary:


You may be right

But the post says the guy said if it's a lady, it's different

So his reason for not allowing the guy doesn't seem like taking safety measures as suggested in your comment

I am not talking about safety here.
Maybe the guy is scared OP won't leave after a night and he is not interested in having a roommate

Blupen969:
I think say you get sense before na now i know say you be stupid cow

Who is this?
Pls I do not remember the moniker of every insect I meet on NL.
So sorry I don't remember u

richmond500:
I wont blame the guy o.

Back then in school, one of my friend told me he wants to spend the weekend at my place, na so I use get unplanned roommate for two whole semesters.


Better safe than sorry

did you read what the OP wrote? this OP is not just random person to the guy in question... OP has helped him also and you are saying you won't blame the guy nawa oo...

na man dey do man sha, if OP na woman now, he go help am.. smh

Spare124:
I was heartbroken just few min ago and I can only relieve myself by pouring my heart here.

So,I had this guy I have known him since he was in 100l, a church member introduced him to me because he had challenges with mathematics and I'm in the dept of applied maths,I took him tutorial for the whole section without collecting a naira from him.

Now fast forward to today the bro is in 500l,I connected with him when I came back to school...I left school then because I couldn't pay the school fee.


Now I have been sleeping in school for over a month now.
(I posted on this tr on how my ant keep disappointing me and that why I'm stranded till this day.

https://www.nairaland.com/7648554/need-helpim-depressed-confused)

I went to this my guy place tonight because I was feeling maleria bcuz of the mosquito,I asked him if he was excepting any visitor tonight he said No.
I asked him if I could spend just this night with him,bro said no he doesn't like sleeping guys in his room that if it's a lady it's different,I offered to sleep on the floor dude still said no...Omoo I just left in shame I'm on my way to school tho.

This same guy passed several night at my place then when I was taking him tutorial,I was really hurt,not that I'm feeling entitled I just feel the least he could do was to help me for the sake of old times...
He doesn't know I wasn't feeling too well tho but at least a night won't kill him, but it won't kill me either.on my way to school,and I regret ever asking him.

Life will be good and I'll live comfortably well.☺️

The earlier yo realise tha humans are cruel, the better for yo...!

But my Brr never stop doin good 💚🕊️

Reminderz:

did you read what the OP wrote? this OP is not just random person to the guy in question... OP has helped him also and you are saying you won't blame the guy nawa oo...

na man dey do man sha, if OP na woman now, he go help am.. smh

did u read what I wrote? I said "my friend".
First, he was supposed to ask if I will feel comfortable about a roommie or not before using scamming way to be my roommate.
Some of these people have terrible attitude that will make you regret why u allowed them in the first place.

Oga make ur good no go kill you o, if u are not comfortable having a roommate, just politely tell him he cannot squat with u. Its not wickedness, you are just proactive.
It's a simple thing.

Spare124:
I was heartbroken just few min ago and I can only relieve myself by pouring my heart here.

So,I had this guy I have known him since he was in 100l, a church member introduced him to me because he had challenges with mathematics and I'm in the dept of applied maths,I took him tutorial for the whole section without collecting a naira from him.

Now fast forward to today the bro is in 500l,I connected with him when I came back to school...I left school then because I couldn't pay the school fee.


Now I have been sleeping in school for over a month now.
(I posted on this tr on how my ant keep disappointing me and that why I'm stranded till this day.

https://www.nairaland.com/7648554/need-helpim-depressed-confused)

I went to this my guy place tonight because I was feeling maleria bcuz of the mosquito,I asked him if he was excepting any visitor tonight he said No.
I asked him if I could spend just this night with him,bro said no he doesn't like sleeping guys in his room that if it's a lady it's different,I offered to sleep on the floor dude still said no...Omoo I just left in shame I'm on my way to school tho.

This same guy passed several night at my place then when I was taking him tutorial,I was really hurt,not that I'm feeling entitled I just feel the least he could do was to help me for the sake of old times...
He doesn't know I wasn't feeling too well tho but at least a night won't kill him, but it won't kill me either.on my way to school,and I regret ever asking him.

Life will be good and I'll live comfortably well.☺️

Dear OP, You were good to someone doesn't mean they'll be good to you too,

Not everyone has a good heart like you👍

richmond500:
I wont blame the guy o.

Back then in school, one of my friend told me he wants to spend the weekend at my place, na so I use get unplanned roommate for two whole semesters.

The guy may have had such experience with a roommate with terrible attitude, so he is probably careful of letting u in.

What will happen if he man-up and tell him to leave if he want to overstay beyond the 1-day?

I've had similar experience too but it taught me a lesson of keeping agreements and letting you know I won't tolerate you staying beyond the days intervals you gave me.

And trust me, these people who've come to stay with me are people who haven't done shit for me, they can never brag about helping me to anyone, just casual people I know, not to talk of someone who helped me in my Year 1, taking me tutorials and I even slept over at his place countless times?

MODIFIED: Imagine him even saying if it was a lady he would've agreed? Likeeee, can you even listen to yourself trying to justify this guy's heartlessness? these are the kind of guys you'll meet to help you with N20 to buy Sachet water that you're thirsty, they'll tell you they don't have, but will give 1K to a lady for free right in front of you,

Omoh, Humans are wicked oo!

ThatrealestApex:


What will happen if he man-up and tell him to leave if he want to overstay beyond the 1-day?

I've had similar experience too but it taught me a lesson of keeping agreements and letting you know I won't tolerate you staying beyond the days intervals you gave me.

And trust me, these people who've come to stay with me are people who haven't done shit for me, they can never brag about helping me to anyone, just casual people I know, not to talk of someone who helped me in my Year 1, taking me tutorials and I even slept over at his place countless times?

Omoh, Humans are wicked oo!

Oga, u see Nigeria ehn, most of us are morally corrupt, a country where a scammer is celebrated? Na still for this Nigeria, someone was asked to deliver a product to USA, only to find out there is drugs in that product they asked her to deliver. You might help someone and later land in police cell.
It doesn't matter if you taught me how to walk, or change my diaper when I was a toddler.
If my spirit no allow me to accept u, I will not accept u.
The only fault I saw there is him saying "if it was a lady". All other part is justified.
OP helped the guy, the guy doesn't owe OP anything in return

richmond500:
Oga, u see Nigeria ehn, most of us are morally corrupt, a country where a scammer is celebrated? Na still for this Nigeria, someone was asked to deliver a product to USA, only to find out there is drugs in that product they asked her to deliver. You might help someone and later land in police cell.
It doesn't matter if you taught me how to walk, or change my diaper when I was a toddler.
If my spirit no allow me to accept u, I will not accept u.
The only fault I saw there is him saying "if it was a lady". All other part is justified.
OP helped the guy, the guy doesn't owe OP anything in return

All these talks are baseless. I now believe you didn't read what the OP wrote, or maybe you have comprehension issues!

But someone like you won't think all these if it was to be a lady that wanted to squat for the night at your place right? I believe your D*ckHead would've nodded in Affirmation immidiately she said that right?!

I'm not surprised actually, we have alot of you littered everywhere in this country who pay Good with Evil. It's normal.

ThatrealestApex:


All these talks are baseless. I now believe you didn't read what the OP wrote, or maybe you have comprehension issues!

But someone like you won't think all these if it was to be a lady that wanted to squat for the night at your place right? I believe your D*ckHead would've nodded in Affirmation immidiately she said that right?!

I'm not surprised actually, we have alot of you littered everywhere in this country who pay Good with Evil. It's normal.

I am not bothered about your viscious stereotype.
Kee yaself.

richmond500:
did u read what I wrote? I said "my friend".
First, he was supposed to ask if I will feel comfortable about a roommie or not before using scamming way to be my roommate.
Some of these people have terrible attitude that will make you regret why u allowed them in the first place.

Oga make ur good no go kill you o, if u are not comfortable having a roommate, just politely tell him he cannot squat with u. Its not wickedness, you are just proactive.
It's a simple thing.

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I get what you trying to say,but this guy doesn't even know I have accomodation ish,I told him I lost the key to place I stay and the guy I stay with travelled,and that he will back tomorrow,so he can never think I want to stay in is place for more a night.

But I get your point tho.

Spare124:
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I get what you trying to say,but this guy doesn't even know I have accomodation ish,I told him I lost the key to place I stay and the guy I stay with travelled,and that he will back tomorrow,so he can never think I want to stay in is place for more a night.

But I get your point tho.

that's a different case now, cos u didn't add the fact that u had a place to stay.
All I read was that, u couldn't pay ur school fees and u sleep in school, probably classrooms, so I thought he was scared of making you his roommate.

My advice is, just because you helped someone doesn't mean they will help you when you need them, I have learned things in a bitter way so I am naturally programmed not to depend on someone for help, so my comment may not sit well with those who think good begets good.

Make I help u small Sha, Send me ur account number make I transfer u 2k, at least u fit use am buy malaria drug

richmond500:
that's a different case now, cos u didn't add the fact that u had a place to stay.
All I read was that, u couldn't pay ur school fees and u sleep in school, probably classrooms, so I thought he was scared of making you his roommate.

My advice is, just because you helped someone doesn't mean they will help you when you need them, I have learned things in a bitter way so I am naturally programmed not to depend on someone for help, so my comment may not sit well with those who think good begets good.

Make I help u small Sha, Send me ur account number make I transfer u 2k, at least u fit use am buy malaria drug

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I didn't want him to know I was staying in school all these while that why I told him I stay with a friend.
7062283203
Opay
Femi
Thanks alot boss

Spare124:
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I didn't want him to know I was staying in school all these while that why I told him I stay with a friend.
7062283203
Opay
Femi
Thanks alot boss

the name I sawis not femi but smtin different o.
Check the account number again

richmond500:
the name I sawis not femi but smtin different o.
Check the account number again

It's correct boss 'taiwo

richmond500:
the name I sawis not femi but smtin different o.
Check the account number again

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Boss,are you there?

Spare124:
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Boss,are you there?

Otilo.

Hmmmm

Give me the guy's contact, Let me hear his own side of the story..Till then.

One Love

Blupen969:
I think say you get sense before na now i know say you be stupid cow

I can see.. you're the op. Defended him ferociously in the last post...and now 🤦

I can relate well. some people are nothing but ingrates and will definitely disappoint you.

Let me borrow you a leaf from the advice one of my ogas gave me.. according to the man, never let the actions of a few bad ones change you, you'll still meet worse people as you grow.

Like our President-elect said.. he plans ahead for everything including betrayals and forgiveness. If one door closes, explore another and keep exploring till you achieve your goals.

@OP The guy's action was just an eye opener to see why you must first love and care for yourself before others. Don't let that bother you.

flokii:
I can relate well. some people are nothing but ingrates and will definitely disappoint you.

Let me borrow you a leaf from the advice one of my ogas gave me.. according to the man, never let the actions of a few bad ones change you, you'll still meet worse people as you grow.

Like our President-elect said.. he plans ahead for everything including betrayals and forgiveness. If one door closes, explore another and keep exploring till you achieve your goals.

@OP The guy's action was just an eye opener to see why you must first love and care for yourself before others. Don't let that bother you.

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Thanks boss,I know better now

richmond500:
the name I sawis not femi but smtin different o.
Check the account number again

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Good morning bro

Sorry bro, sometimes life hits hard.


But this should show you that not a single person gives a Bleep about you if you don't level up.

Vyzz:
Sorry bro

What cab you do?, sometimes live hits hard.


But this should show you that not a single person gives a Bleep about you if you don't level up.

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What does cab means, sorry I'm lost.

Spare124:
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Good morning bro

u sent it late last night.
I'd do it today

richmond500:
u sent it late last night.
I'd do it today

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Okay boss thanks so much.

Spare124:
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Okay boss thanks so much.

done.
I sent more than what I promised, make u use the other one buy food before u take the drugs, make u no go fall for gutter