rem i wz tryin explain ow it feels

Am LOL cos at the moment this is the story of my life. Thanks Sijo01 for starting this thread, I just might learn a thing or two to help me with my situation.

I met this great guy recently whom I really like and have spent time with at a party, cinema and my crib. He will be leaving town soon for another part of the country, to take up residence there on a permanent basis.

I've been trying to make the most of the time and opportunity we have now, to get to know him and also explore the possibility of carrying on,this thing between us when he leaves. I am not a fan of long distance relationships neither is he, but I am so liking this guy that I have actually been contemplating the whole LDR (long distance r/ship) thing.

Last night, the homie revealed the fact that he had been in touch with his ex and there might be a chance of them getting back together, besides that his pastor/mentor/former boss was aware of this relationship and also called him about the same issue too blah blah blah. And then he goes, he doesn't want any of that to affect what's between us and he would like for us to still see, hang out etc.

Am like you want to eat your cake and still have it (something along those lines, I'm never sure what the right phrase is), I basically said to him if there's a chance of you getting back with the other chick then there's no point in continuing with us, becasue I don't want my heart broken. He made some remark about me not being willing to fight or give us a chance regardless of the ex, I thought that was can't find the words to describe the feeling.

Well there's been a turmoil within me since last night, because I really really like this guy but at the same time I don't want to be foolish. I don't think I have the energy to compete with an ex-girlfriend, and a part of me is thinking just enjoy his time and company now then let it go once he leaves but will that be easy? So here I am thinking what do I do? We haven't slept with each other so bear that in mind if you have anything worthwhile to say.

one thing u shld know s dat sex makes bond stronger or nottin

DYT, s-e-x within a few weeks of knowing a guy ? Common girl, he will just hit and run. It's not just a physical act for us where you do it, get up and go.

I have an emotional attachment to this guy it's so bad I'm afraid  s-e-x would ruin things for us, you know how it is with guys now. They are thinking one way about it and we are thinking in an entirely different way about it.

Besides I truly desire a clean relationship without s-e-x for once in my life I've worn that t-shirt and walked the walk, am just tired of it. I am not certain it really helps the bonding process, in my experience it sort of messes things up. I want to see how I can bond with a man in a meaningful way without the s-e-x

mayb u didnt get wat i meant
i meant u havin sex wit him,u myt find it diff 2 let go n if u do u cld loose him

Ooohh now I get it . Pardon me for mis-understanding I actually didn't see the part about ''nothing'' after the word stronger.

Well so what do you think? Do I stab this whole thing right now for good which is what I pretty much said to him last night OR do I enjoy the moment without s-e-x and totally blank him out when he leaves.

enjoy it wyl it lasts babe
its a beautiful thing
bt dont b tempted sha
its gd u know wateva happens btw u both ends ryt dere

Okay that sounds reasonable.

i hp u dont carry every memory along wit u sha cos smtys u ll jst find ursef lovin him more

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Dyt:

rem i wz tryin explain ow it feels

Noted.

gd

I will slap myself back to reality.

^Lolz
na blow go gud pass!

i work o madam

Dyt:

i work o madam

Ok Ma!
working & playing like me

wen dere s no client nnko?

den, u go in search 4!

mi wanna do somfin meaningful now.
hv less dan an hour to close. wnt to attend to some work.

na u go out &look 4clients.
enof of Nl 4 tody

well dey seems nt v moni
i v less dan an hr 2 bt i cld cont wit my fone
v a FFF *Freakn Fabolous Friday*

Dyt:

i hp u dont carry every memory along wit u sha cos smtys u ll jst find ursef lovin him more

That's my fear, the longer I let this brew in the name of ''I like him", "Enjoy the moment'', ''Make the most of it'' etc etc
I may actually fall harder than I have already. What a precarious situation can't help but laugh at me.

Aren't there any guys here with words of wisdom for a sista? I would like to know what their take is on this and what a good number of men mean or actually want when they pull stunts like this.

wyl at it jst dont kill d d tots of its jst 4 dis moments
flings dats wat we call it

Dyt, LOL I don't do flings well. I've never been able to handle them don't know if I can start now in my old age
I am an unpretentious and passionate woman who feels deeply, a fling might seriously de-moralize me especially with this guy.

Mr Cork <<<<ex playa & Beyounce's ex boy friend 8 yrs ago

Cork Sweery so what should we do about your former relationship with Beyonce?
Do you have anything meaningful to say?
Can you for once be reasonable or at least act sane for a few minutes and contribute sanely like i saw you do on another thread.
I was truly at that. LOL

Swift SMS:

Ooohh now I get it . Pardon me for mis-understanding I actually didn't see the part about ''nothing'' after the word stronger.

Well so what do you think? Do I stab this whole thing right now for good which is what I pretty much said to him last night OR do I enjoy the moment without s-e-x and totally blank him out when he leaves.

IF I WER U,which[b] am not i wuld do d latter! As 4 d OP,did u mean love or lust cos recently am beginning 2 doubt dat must ppl realize d difference btw d two!! [/b]

well den if u think u can cope wit him outta ur lyf cool
bt den jst enjoy d ride sha

I think I like this thread. Looks matured enough.

And since it's the ladies' thread, I wouldn't comment. I'll just watch. lol

keep it coming girls.

Sijo01:

---------somebody who's already in a relationship, what will u do?

“Sweeeery Remember: To love someone is nothing, to be loved by someone is something, but to be loved by the one you love is everything” YOU WILL NEVER BE HIS NUMBER ONE!!!

Dyt me selfish? Huh? I neva luved d oda babe. It was u all along.

^^ shshshs n go v indomie adults r talkin
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.“Sweeeery Remember:      To love someone is nothing, to be loved by someone is something, but to be loved by the one you love is everything
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hmmm nice one