I remember your earlier threads. If your marriage isn't working and you have tried all you could do but still the same, I think you have made the best decision.
Don't force what's not possible.

ITS OKAY TO END A MARRIAGE, BUT 15K UP KEEP EVERY MONTH IS ABSURD, GOING BY THE CURRENT ECONOMIC SITUATION IN NIGERIA. BROS A WOMAN AND CHILD 15K MONTH IS PURE EVIL ABEG. NO TALK AM AGAIN.

DONT PUNISH THE KIDS COS OF THEIR MOTHER.

Ginaz:
o.p you're not fit for marriage. Your mental thoughts need to be totally liberated for you to have a happy life. all these your negative mindset won't help you in life.

shut up he did the right thing

Handsomejok:



For my children upkeep

Even you fit survive on N15k a month? Irresponsible man

It's better to divorce and be alive than to stay in the marriage and lose your life.

But the upkeep money, pls have mercy and increase it.

Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

Marriage is NEVER by FORCE OR FIRE ........

Let's assume you have 2 children, ₦15,000 per month, would only feed them for 15 days, assuming each child spends ₦7500 each .......

You forget to factor in school fees, clothes, medical cost, books, snacks, uniforms, extra lessons, housing etc etc ......

You never start o...... 😜 To born pickin no be joke ......😂😜

Skyview01:
15k monthly, for what!

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One paragraph is never enough to talk about a failed marriage. So I'll pass on this

Zooposki:


15k kee you there. 15k that I just spent on breakfast this morning. Thunder fire you till you die.

Inasmuch as the man messed up in his marriage but I think you are going too far. That is why people should learn to have the number of children they can comfortably take care of. This man from his posts is not sound financially, heck he even lives in his store according to him. 15k is far from ideal, that is why he must be advised to redouble his efforts to give his kids reasonable lives. If e no dey e no dey, unless he has to do illegal or immoral things to cover up.

hobat4cash:

Inasmuch as the man messed up in his marriage but I think you are going too far. That is why people should learn to have the number of children they can comfortably take care of. This man from his posts is not sound financially, heck he even lives in his store according to him. 15k is far from ideal, that is why he must be advised to redouble his efforts to give his kids reasonable lives. If e no dey e no dey, unless he has to do illegal or immoral things to cover up.

So the children should die from hunger cos if e no dey e no dey? Can you hear yourself?

Edusouls:
You took the right decision to leave for ur sanity send whatever u have for their upkeep, don’t mind those nairaland warriors typing rubbish they never taste the bitterness of life they may do worse if they are in ur shoes , the days of men slaving for women and children are gone, nowadays everyone should should fend for themselves

You are obviously an irresponsible person and I pray you don't birth children.

You want children to fend for themselves?

Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

Your choice, your life.

I have been there and done that and I can tell you that no matter how many times you choose a new woman, be prepared to face her demons.

They all have demons manifesting in different ways so just confront your demon and cope.

15k...oga you try. At least you still plan to de send them cash monthly. The one I'm in with 3 children,1k sef him nor de seed...feeding, accomodation,health care, utility,name them,even tuition and books everything on me. This oga sef still try 😁😁

Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

All this made up stories for topics on nairaland.Very annoying.

Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

This is a case of money issues. The woman is clearly not happy with the marriage cos you are not providing enough. I think you should put more effort to earn more money and build your family. The decision is not a right one. Discuss with your wife and let her know u will work better to make the marriage progress.

Handsomejok:
...and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

15K monthly is poor, and your childrens school fees and clothing must remain your responsibility.

Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

See where poverty have landed you

15k for upkeep of ur children and you are proud to come on social media to announce it.

Chai I don die

I think the poor woman deserve better

15k every month with kids, you're the most wicked person on earth...

Oga why are you running.

Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

I think uve made the best decision. However I dont blame your wife after going through the stories on your profile. I wish you the best continue to take care of them as much as you can and God will reward you with a successful business. When you start making a lot of money dont forget them

This attention seeker again.

being:


I think d devil wants to destroy your life, your marriage. And you also know you have taken very seriously wrong decisions before which at the time you thought was right.. I think this is another wrong decision. REBUKE those evil dreams, they will stop. The devil is playing píng pong with u. Don't become game for him

The same devil that ended many of your Pastor's marriages and Una no fit do anything about it?
Ogbeni,park well..

You mentioned something that caught my attention: For your sanity and that's very key. It's better u do the needful now than to commit murder one day when it gets unbearable . Women can frustrate one until you loose your mind or develop Hbp.

Obviously she's not denying u access to the kids. Please increase the monthly upkeep. Times are hard now. Wishing u all best.

Gadafii:
Every single day, there is always a an wailing about marriage/wife


What do men really enjoy from marriage these days, can someone just mention five things a man will benefit from marrying a woman in this present day and time

1. He enjoys been responsible (the choice he opted for the day he decided to get married).

2. He enjoys the privilege of providing the lead/direction for his household.

3. He enjoys the privilege of been the spiritual head of a home.

4. He enjoys the opportunity of been a mentor.

5. He enjoys the grace of God.

I chose to add more:

6. Your life will be more organized.

7. Companionship.

Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

N15k monthly upkeep for she and your children?

You are a very wicked man. It's obvious that you were the problem with your marriage

You see how the man is the prisoner.....?!
We have so changed things that we are now so confused.....
It's a life of cycles, so it's not evil if he will take care of them while alive.
It's better than the kids see a painting of mum being unhappy thinking it was always dad's fault.
It's unfortunate on the kids but life goes on
The marriage is fruitful with kids......
Let the adults play their game and let the children live their dream.
Kids are dying in the Gaza as we speak

Handsomejok:



Yes for 3 children aside from the 15k I will also be paying their rent, school fees for 2 children one is my stepdaughter plus Nepa bills I don't think that 15k is small

So you took her in again after she had tried somewhere else and didn't work out abi where did that stepdaughter came from? Some of you deserved what you are going through

Handsomejok:
I had done everything for the marriage to work but all my effort were in vain because my wife refused to amend which she had made it clear to me that after our first separation she did came back to me because she had nowhere to stay with the children and I keep having reccuring dreams of her wanting me dead since she is not ready to work on the marriage and I had decided to put an end to the marriage for the sake of our children I will not send her packing neither will I take custody of the children I will let her and the children to stay in the rented house and I will move out of the house and I will be sending upkeep money 15k every month I hope I had made a good decision for my own sanity ?

Men are suffering believe me, this times are different. If men tell you what they go through at home you will think it's fiction. We have more men suffering in families than women now. God heal us all.

dreams....
are you stvpid....??

na you dont want no more,stop lyin here....

LadyG05:



You must be a wicked man to think that 15k for 2 kids is sufficient a month. Even if you stock the house with foodstuffs, there is no where 50k will be sufficient.


You expect this woman to feed each child with #250 daily ( morning, afternoon and night)

You said one of the children is not yours so her mom should fend for her.


If you continue in this wickedness, Go.d will send help to them but your end will be miserable.

Taaaaa! You are using sentiments here, because na woman en touch. So she no know she go suffer she go misbehave.
You didn't even ask why will a man leave his home, this is where you based your judgement, let the help come to her, highest na prostitution she go start noting else.

Why is it that Nairaland never places stories of successful marriages on FP?

We never get stories of successful courtships, weddings, marriages etc., the only stories that reach FP are gloomy depressing stories of divorces and infidelity, why is this so?

Have you seen any story of a successful marriage on NL anytime in the recent past?

OSDD:
Shey the mother is handicapped or what?? He'll be paying house rent and school fess, and other bills, and still add 15k.. but Chinedu,osas and kunle who are still living under their parents house are complaining that the money is too small.


The mother of those kids can't work too??

Thank you bro