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Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by Snow2six(m): 1:13am On Dec 08, 2023 |
Dm chuk spider 4 ur ear? sirgalahad26: |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by SenecaTheYonger: 1:49am On Dec 08, 2023 |
Haydens: You know ball. They hate this so much. And when you mirror them they will complain bitterly. Then you tell them it’s exactly what they’re doing, they become silent |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by Mimicle101: 7:38am On Dec 08, 2023 |
wrongnumber: my wife now ex. we lived together for 4 years she have said sorry for 1 day. she could destroy things when angry anand will start crying. her eyes never blink when angry. i know i had my wrongs but unforgiveness and anger was the worse attributes of my wife. sorry we did not date. it was arranged marriage |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by FromZeroToHero(m): 7:48am On Dec 08, 2023 |
They are evil. They will never rest until they kill their victims. My sister have been suffering in her marriage to a narcissistic for over 12 years now. He's a pastor and very wicked man. |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by Haydens: 8:09am On Dec 08, 2023 |
SenecaTheYonger: 💯💯 People know what they are doing and it's best to counter them or fatally ghost them for your peace of mind. 1 Like |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by BRATISLAVA: 8:09am On Dec 08, 2023 |
Brandiebird: Reread my post and tell me what that has to do with your post. Same applies to his post. |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by Haydens: 8:09am On Dec 08, 2023 |
Yusufisraelj: Eggzactly. 1 Like |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by Haydens: 8:13am On Dec 08, 2023 |
Brandiebird: Yeah, I know the book. The name of the book is "Becoming the narcissist's nightmare" by shahida Arabi |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by Haydens: 8:15am On Dec 08, 2023 |
Pallium: You get it. I no dey waste my time on irrelevant people. |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by Yusufisraelj(m): 8:49am On Dec 08, 2023 |
Brandiebird: Lols, you really know what I'm talking about. The things is massage thier ego, while stating your opinion in a non threatening way, if your seem to clash with them, ensure you have options to survive or circumvent them, also have evidence on ground because they are good orators and manipulative to an audience, they will make them see you as the villain. So you need solid evidence to put thier bullshit to rest. Again they are terribly fearful, all that bold face na nothing especially when the anger has subside, if the anger is there don't talk ooo, or just excuse yourself else you go die for nothing, when angry there reasoning is block, rage and vengeance is what they have left. When you match their violence in the open they will be careful around you and avoid you, but be no fool, they're significantly planning your downfall and can wait twenty years, they're never forgiving if felt betrayed, until you come begging like a fool and massage thier ego plenty or you find a way to make peace. Kai so much to talk about, but your best bet around them is to make sure you have options outside them and don't give them too much about you. 2 Likes |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by HrmRainbow: 10:57am On Dec 08, 2023 |
Thank God for your freedom, I've experienced this demonic character but with a family member, I had to cut all ties immediately ! 1 Like |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by Tito24: 11:52am On Dec 08, 2023 |
Saintinoo:you described my husband (soon to be ex) so well They can never change They hate it when they are figured out |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by Saintinoo(m): 12:41pm On Dec 08, 2023 |
Tito24: Thank God you found out, mehn, marrying those guys is hell, I thank God I didn't marry her because Nov 2024 was the date we fixed. My relationship ended with her when I asked her to go for therapy, she started the discard phase. 1 Like |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by Dagrace01(m): 12:54pm On Dec 08, 2023 |
Got same experience but not worst as this. But I was able to control her with my ego and superiority, and intelligence. Whenever she goes silent, I step out and go drinking with friends, I made her believe my friends' company is better than hers. That alone turned her to cry cry baby. Whenever she's shouting and nagging, I weaken her with sensitive words that goes deep or just step out again for hours. Whenever she's acting violent I show her the male side of me,and turn the violence to a crazy sex, I never hit her, if I do it'll be an excuse and will worsen things. I clipped all her wings.. Whenever everything is good between us, I talk alot of sense into her, usually put it to her face that she's a narcissist, and always encourage her to go online to find help, I do find many things of her to that she can read. Her father really helped too, anything she does I do tell her father, that one dey talk sense into her, even slapped her once in my presence. She's married to me with two kids, she's no longer a narcissist, as gentle as a dove, no one is born a narcissist. It's either their parents failed to curb their bad habits or they picked it up from one of their abusive parents, or the society shaped them into that.. It's good to avoid if you don't know how to tame them, most of them needs help, but if you can't help them, just let go before things go haywire. 1 Like |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by Tito24: 1:13pm On Dec 08, 2023 |
Saintinoo:😂 good for you He made my life a living hell He still thinks he's doing me a favor 1 Like |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by wrongnumber: 1:40pm On Dec 08, 2023 |
Mimicle101: One sure fire sign of a narccisist is the act of Finding it extremely difficult to apologize if at all they ever do. |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by Probz(m): 1:46pm On Dec 08, 2023 |
Narcissists are everywhere. You can’t avoid them altogether, unfortunately. 1 Like |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by SPAMBOX7: 3:14pm On Dec 08, 2023 |
Narcissist or not a man with a strong frame can conquer any bitch. Who goes back to apologize when they ain't wrong. Plus can't even go 2 weeks without talking to a bitch lol. Op was just a weak mf and fully deserved what he got. Women should learn to teach men like this more bitter lessons so they will learn. |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by SPAMBOX7: 3:25pm On Dec 08, 2023 |
Aaaaarghmed:Dem dey believe actions pass. If you tell them something even if you mean it they will think it's just bluff until you prove it with actions. For me it is okay to walk away from a bitch at least once in a relationship. Whatever you two have going is always better when that happens and you two later reconcile. |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by ElliotP: 4:28pm On Dec 08, 2023 |
Narcissist wey I dey use add small drama for my life na dey cause problems for una so? |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by Slimplush: 5:05pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
kzpelumi:you nailed it, my saving grace was the fact that she tried to seperate me and my niggs,even family, thank God say my sixth sense is functional all those time.... And they were the one I healed with, with time even helped me one way or another.... I mean my Day one nigga ooo, wey we dey together even before the idiots show face.. One of my niggs dey see vision, he outrightly told me I can't have anything with her, I was shortsighted then,, less than couple years, his vision came to pass and when he was telling me, I nearly fought him, I thank my God and I will jubilate in front of him soon, because she took everything from me, only my life she didn't took!!! |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by Wuminity(f): 12:53pm On Dec 16, 2023 |
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Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by omolasho: 2:52pm On Dec 16, 2023 |
You forgot to add: 1. Excessive Flattering; they do this mostly through texting. "I am the luckiest girl to have you", "you a manifestation of God's grace in my life", "my King", "Ifemi", "I can't wait to be called Mrs ..." The list is endless 2. Pathological lies; she will fabric lies you would find more convincing than the holy book. You would hardly have any reason to doubt her. 3. Tears as a weapon; she would cry you into making illogical compromises for her. Like commitment, your time, your money, hating her ex's. 4. Playing the victim; they tell you how everyone had treated them bad; their father, mother, brother, exes. This in combination with their tears would almost make you to kill for them. 5. Laziness and entitlement; she thinks she is pretty and her boyfriend should pay all her bills. 6. Sex as a weapon; she refines her art of sex, it one of the potent weapons in her arsenal. Lemme stop here. See I no read am for books o. I suffered for years in her hand before I japa. Take a bonus; most of them are possessed with witchcraft and pretty. |
Re: Avoid A Narcissist At All Cost, My Experience. A Must Read. by Saintinoo(m): 2:14pm On Dec 18, 2023 |
omolasho: Mine calls my "Temi", though she calls me "Ifemi sometimes but Temi is the nick she gave me, like she doesn't call me my real name anywhere, she calls me Temi, the relationship was like " made in heaven " until I thought of all the abuse. Yes, I agree with the lazy part, I could remember asking her to do some hustle, which I will fund but she got angry and changed it for me. The sex aspect, she made me think sex with her will be the most precious thing on earth, all was to vet me committed. Mehn, I do not regret knowing her because I really learnt a lot, what if I ended up marrying her, that is my only happiness, thank God I have learnt this now. |
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