This isn't a woman bashing thread.

If you're a man, I want to tell you some stories that will put some things into perspective as to why a woman will use and abuse you if you do nice things for them or not give you loyalty but give a man who does nothing for them.

Story 1:

Let's say there's this girl, Chinyere, 23 years, just started university and is known as a reserved girl from a decent home.

There's a course mate of hers, David, churchy, not broke but still collecting stipends from his parents.

Ever since David laid eyes on Chinyere he's been love struck, he successfully befriended her and would call and help her out in school during lectures, he would listen to Chinyere attentively about her issues and offer his thought.

Chinyere befriended David as she saw he was nice and good to her, he provided her everything she asked and whenever they fought he would be the first to apologize.

One day Chinyere was eating out when she was approached by a guy called Mike, Mike wasn't tall, wasn't really handsome but she liked his carefree attitude.

"How far mama, I fit get your number?" He asked her.

"For what?" She asked. "I want you" Mike said boldly, he went on and on on the things he liked on her.

Chinyere was shocked and started insulting Mike, "You think I'm loose, you're a fool!".

Mike stopped her immediately, "Shut up, no ever try insult me again, if you no gree say you no gree or you dey craze?!"

Before more could go on David came and joined in, "Mr man wetin you dey talk?"

Mike looked at him, laughed and bounced.

David walked Chinyere back to her Lodge as usual, he bought a snack for her on the way and they gisted as usual.

Chinyere back at her place couldn't stop thinking of Mike, "who was that fool?!" She thought.

One thing was for sure though, her body was hot the more she thought of him. But she shelved this feeling away.

Over some weeks, she asked around and got to know Mike had already graduated but was helping around in the school as he had relatives who lectured in the school, he had a small black Camry he would drive around.

After some months, it was getting to the end of the semester and she had to sit for her exams, unfortunately rain was falling heavily and no bike was available, she saw a small car park beside her, lo and behold it was Mike, he rolled the window and told her to get in, before she could object he told her

"If you wan swim go school na you sabi, oya enter"

She went in, he drove her to her exam theatre and even escorted her in.

The lecturer stopped them and told her she won't be allowed in as she was late, Mike drew him close, spoke with him for a while and after some minutes the lecturer told her to come in to write her exam.

After the exam she was overjoyed, everything she read came out, David wanted to escort her home but she went to meet Mike who was sitting around the theatre to give him a hug and thank him.

Mike was glad and gave her his number in case of emergencies, David saw them and started frowning, he left shortly after.

David was thinking to himself,

"Why is she talking to that loudmouth? Chinyere should know he's a womanizer"

When she got back to her Lodge she saw some texts on her phone from David, he was going on and on about Mike not being good for her.

Chinyere thought he was being childish and slept off.

Waking up she sent Mike a text she got home safe and they chatted for a while.

That night she called him and they spoke in length, David had sent her 2000 recharge card and she used this to chat with Mike to know him more. Mike was being mysterious, overly flirty and dirty in his chats, she pretended she didn't like it and even called him to repeat what he wrote and he shouted it out boldly over the phone.

A few more months of this went by and it was getting to Valentine.

David decided it was time he started being intentional with Chinyere, she told him she's never had sex before and if she was to get romantic with a guy in that way he had to be her friend first and woo her.

He texted her that day that he would have a surprise for her by 6pm.

He bought a big box of chocolates and took a bike to Chinyere lodge, inside he saw a black small Camry, he didn't think anything of it amd just walk past.

On getting closer to Chinyeres room he started hearing some claps.

Maybe it was those doing rehearsals but on getting to Chinyeres front door it was Chinyere moaning and shouting Mike!

David's heart sank, he didn't want to believe it, he looked through the window and saw his beloved Chinyere in a position that left him confused.

He left angry and in tears.


Moral of the story:
When it comes to women, less is more and being outright is better. Say what you want first and if she says no, move on, don't be like David that felt manipulated or used, he dug that hole himself.

No do pass yourself.