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Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Think9ja(m): 12:39pm On Jan 20 |
BlackfyreRebell: Why them divorce you first of all? |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Cossybob(m): 12:39pm On Jan 20 |
Namaster: Damn nigga This is a hell of a brilliant talk you made here... A word is enough for the wise. |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by noskcid(m): 12:40pm On Jan 20 |
As long as you keep this boy with you, men go dey brush you Dey go and you no go settle down. Let Israel go to his promise land, pharaoh in female flesh. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by GlobeTrotter2: 12:40pm On Jan 20 |
1TrippleCee:that is actually not true statistically. Actually male children raised up by single mothers statistically ends up like that not the other way arround. But that not withstanding, talk to a lawyer. And weight the odds. Your child also needs this citizenship for his future. Will be forgive you in the future if you deny him this? What if the father's reasons are genuine?? |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Omoluabi16(m): 12:40pm On Jan 20 |
DO NOT release that boy under any circumstance. People going on as abroad is some sort of paradise and happily ever after thing. Nothing bad with your lad being with his dad, but he is being dubious about it. If you let him go, it might take a long time before you set eyes on your boy again. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Dennisochampa: 12:41pm On Jan 20 |
1TrippleCee:.... I don't think he's blind.... The reality is what he has just confirmed... No matter what the boy's father is trying to do or is doing... He's still his father and as such, the boy should be referred to as "our son" by the woman rather than "my son"... No matter how bad things have become... Na 2 of them born the pikin 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by gigabyte13: 12:41pm On Jan 20 |
In as much as the man needs the child to complete his registration, whichever you want to look at it, he is still the father of the child. My this, my that Will profit nobody here You guys should iron every grey areas or doubt you are having about the boys movement out amicably. Make e no be say Later in life, you will be blame for being the reason why the boy couldn't get a better life outside Nigeria, or that the father abandoned him for Europe. The ball is in your court, the Papa don table him own plan. Na you know 1 Like |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by femi4: 12:41pm On Jan 20 |
LilMissFavvy:When he's old , he will decide, hopefully if the mother had not poisoned his mind 1 Like |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by wrongnumber: 12:41pm On Jan 20 |
Timoleon: The typical mindset of unintelligent ladies. Ironically, even if she spends her last to take care of the child, once the child is 18,he or she may decide to unite with the dad and there is absolutely nothing she can do about it. I wish some ladies can understand basic logic. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by flexyrule(m): 12:42pm On Jan 20 |
sgtponzihater1: LIES. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by DMerciful(m): 12:42pm On Jan 20 |
Its a dicey situation. If you prevent the boy from going, the boy may grow up angry for a missed opportunity. You're also right that you might lose your son, not because the father deliberately takes him away but you know what they say about out of sight being out of mind? BlackfyreRebell: |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by jnig: 12:42pm On Jan 20 |
1TrippleCee: No wonder! I was initially wondering about the reasons behind your hasty assumptions and over generalisations. Now I have a clue. On the other hand, if you are indeed a well trained lawyer, you should have sought to establish the context of the separation and the present status of relationship both the father and mother have with the child. From the mother's submission it seems that hitherto the parents have a fairly stable relationship even though they are not together. Shouldn't you have ask why the mother was willing to process the said papers without a second thought from the onset? Be that as it may, the op is concerned about her state of mind: seeking to know if she is just paranoid. Unfortunately, your statements are so one-sided as if her case is an extension of your experiences. Good help in this case may demand that every counsel should enable her have an objective view of her situation so as to be able to take not just an appropriate decision but responsibility over her decision. Thus, even if the legal services lawyers offer are free, lawyers shouldn't be her first option. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by BareFacedLies(m): 12:42pm On Jan 20 |
Dennisochampa: The way some of you talk as if Europe and America are some sort of paradise pisses me off! Not everyone in Nigeria is poor and hungry you know! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by lakefist(m): 12:43pm On Jan 20 |
Zonefree: God bless you. |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Kobicove(m): 12:43pm On Jan 20 |
Lifeinlight: Shebi women sef dey do am to them ex-husbands |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by GlobeTrotter2: 12:44pm On Jan 20 |
BlackfyreRebell:I'm sure it's a form of a family reunion visa and if course they need you to consent to that. If you where the one there they would have also needed him to consent to it too. It's a part of the process. I don't think he is necessarily being deceitful. But you know him better. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Dennisochampa: 12:44pm On Jan 20 |
1TrippleCee:..... This is dreams bro if the mother doesn't have adequate resources to cater for the child....... Alot Kids with maternal care in 9ja have turned out to be terrible to the society.... Not just in Europe... Don't make it look like the father is not capable of taking care of his kid.... Allow the woman make the decision..... In my opinion, if she has the resources to cater for the child and he understands that she means well for him... Then he can stay with her but if not.. Then she should allow him go because If the child turns out bad and in the future the father tells him that he once offered to give him a better life but his mother refused .... That child will never forgive his mother |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by ZUBY77(m): 12:44pm On Jan 20 |
1TrippleCee: You are such an evil person. Whether this woman likes it or not, the son will look for his father eventually. But he will also never forget the mother. So she better allow him to have a good future with European citizenship. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by flexyrule(m): 12:45pm On Jan 20 |
Dennisochampa:What if the man hasn't been taking care of the boy? What if he has married a other woman over there? You think the story starts and end with the three paragraphs that she wrote? There's more to this story that she hasn't said. 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Dennisochampa: 12:45pm On Jan 20 |
1TrippleCee:... So why are u hesitant to allow this one go... I think you're being selfish here though.... You have 6 already... I don't know how many this man have but I think, if your son wants to go... Don't hold him back..... |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by lakefist(m): 12:45pm On Jan 20 |
Namaster: ๐ฏ |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Anguldi(m): 12:46pm On Jan 20 |
noskcid:I see you bro ๐ฏ 1 Like |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by tuzle(m): 12:46pm On Jan 20 |
LilMissFavvy:they are divorced and it is both their son. Why is it only the man that can manipulate the son against the mother, is that what the mother has been doing also? |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Timoleon(m): 12:46pm On Jan 20 |
advanceDNA: The child is already ten. If she's a good mother he knows, if she's not, he knows. There's nothing else she wants to offer him for the next six years that she hasn't shown. It's selfishness that's making her withold the child. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Dennisochampa: 12:46pm On Jan 20 |
BlackfyreRebell:..... Will you be in a good position in the society tomorrow and allow another man raise the kid you had with your ex wife |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Dennisochampa: 12:46pm On Jan 20 |
Mindlog:.... This makes sense though |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Kaido: 12:46pm On Jan 20 |
Think9ja:She might be a rebellious lady. See her username na 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Timoleon(m): 12:47pm On Jan 20 |
tuzle: That's obviously what the woman is doing. Manipulating the child. More often than not though, the child will grow up, find out the truth and despise her in multiple folds 1 Like |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Dennisochampa: 12:48pm On Jan 20 |
flexyrule:.. So you think a father will go through the stress of filing for his kid all to expose him to harsh treatments from his new wife |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Starz825(m): 12:48pm On Jan 20 |
BlackfyreRebell: tell him to help you too , abi both of you once shared something in common na abi u no go wan commot for this country..... tbh.....He is trying to take the child away obviously...you might not get to see your ward again ...thats the fact ............so u need to be selfish too since he is trying to be one... However, if you look at the situation of the country sef...u sef go wan allow am go Europe but then the risk is obvious to everyone .... Now, mY advise- Dont give consent to the migration as yet....tell him to let the boy finish his Secondary education here in Nigeria by then he would have been 16yrs old ...he go don know ur face well well ...to fit stand by you even when he travels to Europe... Thats it.... 1 Like |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Anguldi(m): 12:48pm On Jan 20 |
sammirano:Your mind dey there Table shaker |
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