@topic.
Yes! What is the biggy in helping your better-half iron her cloths? Moreso, when she is preparing your meal and hence stuck with time? Hmmmmm!

I fear u oooooooo.
Shouldnt marriage be enjoyed? Dont create unnecessary issue.
Be her helper always without any discrimination.
I recommend an apology to her with a loving kiss.

What a stupid topic that reveals the shallowness of average Nigerian citizen? Is this all you can contribute to elevation of discourse on Nigeria? Wait till your wife dies of domestic chore overload, then you will wake up to see that marriage is not 50:50 but 80:20, 60:40, 100:0 - depending on the situation.

Yes is possible and normal to help her out, after all she did not not command rather seeing you ironing urs so she wanted u to help her out too. Sorry no big deal there/

The fact that he is coming here to ask shows that he might be second guessing how he handled it. He is not a bad person. Everybody stumbles at the beginning and this is not a big deal. @ OP when you are so ill one day and she is the only one that can put you on the toilet and wipe your bum after you are done with yoru business then you will realize that you should even wash her panties without her asking you to.

cant believe people are still asking such daft questions in 2011 soon to be 2012

This site is an embarrassment. Seriously. Imagine normal people seeing this on front page

life is give and take and me i LOVE TO  IRON.
but under those circumstances you described i would not have ironed the clothes as it seems she was pushing boundaries. or iron them and tell her not to repeat it.
did she not know before she had ironing to do?
if you like to iron nothing wrong in ironing her clothes in principle if you live outside naija. in naija don't do it. people will use it against her and put a wedge between you
outside of naija without house helpa .  iron her clothes well but i would rather at the weekend just do all the ironing for the week than to be ambushed in the morning with subtle blackmail.
for me ironing can be a form of discipline and a very good lesson in humility which we all need sometimes

but  make sure you milk it for all you can get in rerurn

I hope you never leave Birangham.

don't plan to but if you need MOT.oiling,crank shafting,V-alignment or general servicing you know where we are

@op, i've got just 6 words for you - I AM DAMN DISAPPOINTED IN YOU. @allGuysThatHavePostedOnThisThread, thanks for clearing the op's doubt(by not following the usual trend of supporting the male species) thumbs up. We do not have to support trash. @females, hope you all are taking a cue from us. We bash & defend without gender bias unlike what you all do. If we continue like this, the men overbloated ego will subside(because that is the major obstacle blocking the BEIJING '95 vision), thereby achieving 'real' gender equality.

daisy28:

I hope your wife isnt reading dis on nairaland cos u've embrassed urself,u arent gettin any support as u thot u wud i hope u will be more supportive @ home with d little chores n not just payin d bills. Doin little chores for her makes her want to do more for you.

soon, we will see a new thread tagged : should i have s3x with my wife because i need child?. SMH /*vexxa! Dumbest and daftest nairaland thread ever*/

comechop:

the real question here is [size=14pt]how this crap got to the frontpage. useless mods.[/size]

because the mods wanted to silent the senile op. The crap is the frontpage because they wanted to prove, to the poster, how silly he was, he is and he can be. @op, you need to learn, re.learn and un.learn some things.

@ poster, If you just reply " Sure honey" it would promote peaceful working together as a couple instead of it becoming a conflict.And Ill bet the next time you ask a favour from her, she will gladly reply the same.

Why not?

We have all come to a consensus that the OP was wrong . . . let's not call him names, it doesn't encourage him to come back and seek guidance on wateva other issues he faces. We are all naive to an extent and the acquisition of knowledge and experience is the only solution. Like someone said the OP came here because he probably had some doubts about his response. I agree that maybe it's not worth a showing on the frontpage but it is what it is.

@OP, I hope you have gained something from this thread . . . good luck and seek to apply the knowledge provided in this thread to other areas in your marriage.

God bless  

i don''t think he should be abused. when the discussion considers facts in a sterile manner you ignore the emotional context in which events occur.
picture this ;many of of have shared a room with mates as students and probably have been asked to do similar things in the past. often we would oblige but either there is a good quid pro quo or reasonable reason why they can't iron themselves. no one wants to feel cheated. the way a request is made and its context affects our response.
so let us be slow to judge and quick to forgive.

My dad has been married to my mum for decades and my mum has never ironed a piece of clothing in all those years.
He has always done the ironing.

You r wicked, am sure she went tru such period wit u, nxt time, dnt set limits to you relationship, u shld be asking if u cld iron her clothes for her

Ok English lesson of the day

We are getting ready for office this morning and i try to iron my cloth, and my wife ask me to iron her own too.
Correction: We were getting ready for the office this morning and while I was ironing my clothes my wife asked me to Iron hers too

My wife ask me to help her to iron her cloth, while she take care of some others job in the house.
Correction: My Wife asked me to help Iron her clothes, while she takes care of some other jobs in the house

But I refuse to help cause I have done some other jobs in the house too.
Correction: But I refused to help her because I had done other jobs in the huse too.

Now she started talking rubbish, that helping ironing her cloth while she get busy doing some other stuff in the house is part of my obligation which i denied.
Correction: Then she started talking rubbish, saying that helping iron her clothes while she's busy with other stuff in the house is part of my obligation, which I denied.

Please house especially Married men, did u help your wife to iron her cloth while she get busy preparing your food or doing some other homeworks?
Not quite sure what your trying to say here dude!

some men sha just a lil' help u cant render, too much Ego

Yes you can.

This ibile man again

The other day you are complaining that she dont kneel down for you in the morning now you complaining about ironing

You better go and find a village cus i dont knw why you cant help the woman out

bjdon:

Ok English lesson of the day

We are getting ready for office this morning and i try to iron my cloth, and my wife ask me to iron her own too.
Correction: We were getting ready for the office this morning and while I was ironing my clothes my wife asked me to Iron hers too

My wife ask me to help her to iron her cloth, while she take care of some others job in the house.
Correction: My Wife asked me to help Iron her clothes, while she takes care of some other jobs in the house

But I refuse to help cause I have done some other jobs in the house too.
Correction: But I refused to help her because I had done other jobs in the huse too.

Now she started talking rubbish, that helping ironing her cloth while she get busy doing some other stuff in the house is part of my obligation which i denied.
Correction: Then she started talking rubbish, saying that helping iron her clothes while she's busy with other stuff in the house is part of my obligation, which I denied.

Please house especially Married men, did u help your wife to iron her cloth while she get busy preparing your food or doing some other homeworks?
Not quite sure what your trying to say here dude!

YORUBA LESSON OF THE DAY
ni igba ti a n mura ibise ni owuro oni. mo n lo aso ti mo fe wo gege bi omo eko gbajumo. aiya mi ni ki n ba lo aso re wi pe o ni ohun ti o fe se ninu ile. mo ko!mo wi pe emi na ni ohun ti mo fe se ninu ile.
nse lo tu ito soke to bere si buu mi t'on wi kati kati. o so wi pe ti o ba n se nko miran ninu ile eto mi ni ki mo ran lowo pelu aso lilo ti ire ki mo ba lo pint ati bres ko'onyan. mo fi ake kori.
ejowo ara adugbo e ba wa da si. ati eyin agbagba okunrin ninu aiya fi fe.
se eyin ma n se bi omugo ti e n ba aiya ile lo aso ati pata

After readin d OP's initial post, i honestly cringed, xpectin a barrage of yabs, knowin NLders' bashin capabilities but all well and gud dere's been alot of advice as well. OP its sad dat u hav to learn d basics d hard way but u can suceed.
@ Aribisala pls r u married? Marriage and sharin accomodation with som piple are two very diferent things o. U hav to make sacrifices and sometimes do things dat r best for d union but not enjoyable 4 u. If u take dis 'i wont allow anybody to cheat me' attitude into marriage, hmm my broda, eferebo shall be ur case because u go surely wound o.

jephiano:

After readin d OP's initial post, i honestly cringed, xpectin a barrage of yabs, knowin NLders' bashin capabilities but all well and gud dere's been alot of advice as well. OP its sad dat u hav to learn d basics d hard way but u can suceed.
@ Aribisala pls r u married? Marriage and sharin accomodation with som piple are two very diferent things o. U hav to make sacrifices and sometimes do things dat r best for d union but not enjoyable 4 u. If u take dis 'i wont allow anybody to cheat me' attitude into marriage, hmm my broda, eferebo shall be your case because u go surely wound o.

try reading and comprehending properly.
i do not think you can deduce MY attitude from what i wrote

what kind of a useless topic is this? Moderator why is those post on front page?

Poster where you dey

I'm quite impressed wit this post, at least it's not gone tribal yet,
@op, plenty words are enough for de wise, so wise up, grow up and enjoy your marriage. GOOD LUCK!