madridguy:
If your story is real and not fiction, take the child for DNA test first to be 100% sure of her claim.

The confused gender can be funny at times. She might be trying to use the same child to hook her ex probably that one don secure good job and she want to port.

Think with cool head bro.

Meektunz:
I swear with my mother's grave the boy looks 100% like the guy.

muyico:
fiction story! just let her go?? bcus d loves isn't dere anymore

Meektunz:
I won't come and cook up a story, this is what I'm passing through now.

Meektunz:
Last week Saturday was the day I would never forget in a hurry, it was a Saturday I nearly died. My wife met me in the room while i was relaxing and she said she has something to tell me, so I said okay she should go ahead and the next thing she said was please she is sorry for everything, that she is tired of keeping it for 6 years and that she is ready for the outcome of this. I replied by saying "you're keeping me in too much suspense, please talk". Then she said i'm not the father of our first child, that the father is back for him claiming responsibility. Though I've always had doubt about the child right from birth. She said the father denied being responsible for the pregnancy when she got pregnant that was why she forced it on me. She started apologizing that I should forgive her, that she was young and naive. I couldn't utter a word due to how i was feeling.

She went down to our pastor's office and told him everything and that she wants to go back to her parent's house, then he asked her why and she said it's not as if marriage has been smooth and that I've sent her out of the house severally when we had issues. Etc. For goodness sake is that the issue on ground?

From then till today I've not understood myself uptil today, I was admitted in the hospital for good three days, I was discharged yesterday evening. Till now I haven't said anything yet due to my health condition. She kept begging me everyday day, right from the hospital, uptil today. Guys, I wish death could just take me, this lady has shattered me. I wish you know what I passed through for that child.

I remember when she was in labour for that child, i had to treck all around this city of Abuja from place to place begging people I know for little assistance so I could buy little things for the birth of the child, if I express what I passed through, Oh God... Let me stop here. Please guys what should I do? Right now I just want to get better and send her back to her parent's house. I'm tired of crying for almost 5 days now.

Dizzyyish:
The first thing I would like you to understand is, she didn't come clean because of honesty or guilty conscience. She confessed because circumstances forced her. Remember that whenever she says "Please forgive me." If that circumstance didn't present itself another man's child and babymama would have inherited everything you've worked for when you passed away (on top all the suffering you're suffering for them now). Please, is there anyway i can chat you privately? I need someone to talk to and express myself with everything... Thanks

When some men are urged to understand female nature they yell "Just make money and women will come," and then trap themselves with sunk cost fallacy. It's the (heavy) investments you've made on woman's head that increases the pain of betrayal. A man aware of female nature might have already done DNA test earlier but what has happened has happened, hindsight is 20/20.

As the case stands, her highest priority right may be emotional manipulation/blackmail (maybe that's why she went to meet the pastor, so he'll join her begging). You said you want to send her away, so she's still living with you? If you forgive her that's when your troubles will TRULY begin.

pointblank247:
Forgive her but let her go for the following reasons.
1, she love her ex more than she love you.
2, she didn't confess because she was remorseful but because her ex want her to.
3, she is a sceamer for not telling the pastor what actually happened. I thought she was supposed to tell the pastor the truth and beg him to beg you for forgiveness. You are very right sir, the Lord bless you...


She can do worse if you let her

madridguy:
If your story is real and not fiction, take the child for DNA test first to be 100% sure of her claim.

The confused gender can be funny at times. She might be trying to use the same child to hook her ex probably that one don secure good job and she want to port.

Think with cool head bro.

IkeIgboNiile:
In Igbo land any child born by a man's wife is his child, irrespective of his origin. So that child belongs to you and nobody can take him away from you.

madridguy:
If your story is real and not fiction, take the child for DNA test first to be 100% sure of her claim.

The confused gender can be funny at times. She might be trying to use the same child to hook her ex probably that one don secure good job and she want to port.

Think with cool head bro.

007kjb:


That's true but in this case it is even the woman that wants to take the child to the real father...so this guy has no choice than to accept his loss

My advice is for him to send that lady away today

Meektunz:
Last week Saturday was the day I would never forget in a hurry, it was a Saturday I nearly died. My wife met me in the room while i was relaxing and she said she has something to tell me, so I said okay she should go ahead and the next thing she said was please she is sorry for everything, that she is tired of keeping it for 6 years and that she is ready for the outcome of this. I replied by saying "you're keeping me in too much suspense, please talk". Then she said i'm not the father of our first child, that the father is back for him claiming responsibility. Though I've always had doubt about the child right from birth. She said the father denied being responsible for the pregnancy when she got pregnant that was why she forced it on me. She started apologizing that I should forgive her, that she was young and naive. I couldn't utter a word due to how i was feeling.

She went down to our pastor's office and told him everything and that she wants to go back to her parent's house, then he asked her why and she said it's not as if marriage has been smooth and that I've sent her out of the house severally when we had issues. Etc. For goodness sake is that the issue on ground?

From then till today I've not understood myself uptil today, I was admitted in the hospital for good three days, I was discharged yesterday evening. Till now I haven't said anything yet due to my health condition. She kept begging me everyday day, right from the hospital, uptil today. Guys, I wish death could just take me, this lady has shattered me. I wish you know what I passed through for that child.

I remember when she was in labour for that child, i had to treck all around this city of Abuja from place to place begging people I know for little assistance so I could buy little things for the birth of the child, if I express what I passed through, Oh God... Let me stop here. Please guys what should I do? Right now I just want to get better and send her back to her parent's house. I'm tired of crying for almost 5 days now.

HarunaWest:
Sorry for what you have been put through. Man up and move on. Kindly return her back to her parents house. She should go with the said child and initiate divorce proceedings. Just move on. Don't think too much about it if not you will get too depressed and it may hurt you more. Stay safe bro. Cheers.