They say what is yours will always be yours. What about in a situation where you let someone go and maybe that someone was yours?! I remember when I was 18/19, I met this gentleman who had a good job and was even talking about marriage, I didn't dismiss him but i wasn't ready at the same time. I had told him to give me small time to really figure out what i wanted, that i wasn't saying no but with school and all on my mind and so many a past/present relationship, let's see how time would play itself.
Now in my early 20's i look back and we still talk but he is already to engaged to someone else i don't think he really likes. I look back and tell myself he should have been my husband, a good husband material and then i remember i never dismissed him or even told him no out of selfish reasons, it was just too fast for me then.
Now I can't help but think and wonder if this is my own loss, that i should have just said yes when i was 18/19 years old or maybe that is not the person God has for me. I've even thought about telling him, i'm ready to settle down. Advice needed.

what happened to the auditor you have a crush on, in your office? couldn't he be the man you've been waiting for.

Anyway you still have time.

Han ha,is he the only man who's shown genuine interest in you?I thought there's a thread about a guy in your life or something,I don't see why you should see it as a loss except maybe you love him and want to be with him.

priest2u:

what happened to the auditor you have a crush on, in your office? couldn't he be the man you've been waiting for.

Anyway you still have time.

Lol the auditor is a crush i happened to have on him and didn't mind getting to know him better but he is acting tooooo slow, while the one i'm talking about now, i know that one very well.

freecocoa:

Han ha,is he the only man who's shown genuine interest in you?I thought there's a thread about a guy in your life or something,I don't see why you should see it as a loss except maybe you love him and want to be with him.

He is not the only one that has shown genuine interest but amongst the ones meeting me now and even one that talks marriage with me, he is the one with very good qualities as per, job, good family, good height, religion etc

maybe you should tell him how you feel now  but remember you might complicate his present relationship if you do.
you did what you were supposed to do at 19.schooling,dating and fun not marriage.if he's meant to be yours,you'd get him back.if not,another Mr.right will come along  pretty soon.

slimyem:

maybe you should tell him how you feel now  but remember you might complicate his present relationship if you do.
you did what you were supposed to do at 19.schooling,dating and fun not marriage.if he's meant to be yours,you'd get him back.if not,another Mr.right will come along  pretty soon.

I want to and have thought about it several times but i sometimes feel he would laugh at me or turn me down or talk about when he was so interested about marriage, i didn't agree then.

Georgialuv:



He is not the only one that has shown genuine interest but amongst the ones meeting me now and even one that talks marriage with me, he is the one with very good qualities as per, job, good family, good height, religion etc

Okay but are these the only things you are concerned with?how about wondering if he still feels the same way he felt when you were 19,how about you?do you even love or have feelings for him?or do you just wanna marry a man cos he has the qualities you consider as good?

Wat will be will always be. If u love sumtin set it free if it comes back it is yours bt if doesnt it was neva yours.
Ppl dat walked away from ur life werent and will neva b part of ur destiny.

@poster

regarding this man,i think there are a lot of questions you need to ask your self within
like
do you really love him now
did you ever love him
or are you just infatuated with him,especially now that he is with someone else?

talk to him,is the love of then still there now
you mention that he is engaged to someone he doesn't really love
hey if its only engagement and no pregnancy and stuff
you guys should talk the talk
and let him walk that walk
it isn't really too late
but only if you are both really really sure
only if

Georgialuv:

he is the one with very good qualities as per, job, good family, good height, religion etc

How come the Job comes first in the list of good qualities

look here @poster, wat is wrong wit u? u better be careful! I tink u r lookin for a reason to spoil somebody's relationship. u said he is engaged, then, u went ahead to say u feel he is nt happy, are u a prophet? Did he tell u he is nt happy? Why do u want to cause a fellow woman like u pain? Get ur useless self out of his affairs and do nt plan to seduce him! Mind ur own biz! Go and look for ur own man! U really annoy me! Damn!

Boyloaf:

look here @poster, wat is wrong wit u? u better be careful! I tink u r lookin for a reason to spoil somebody's relationship. u said he is engaged, then, u went ahead to say u feel he is nt happy, are u a prophet? Did he tell u he is nt happy? Why do u want to cause a fellow woman like u pain? Get your useless self out of his affairs and do nt plan to seduce him! Mind your own biz! Go and look for your own man! U really annoy me! Damn!

I get you.

Mynd_44:

How come the Job comes first in the list of good qualities

It just came in no particular order.

^^
yeah yeah that's what they all say