@Debrief08 and Jenny, the part where I talked about dressing in my first post on this thread was in reference to another thread where you women were saying that men are over-reacting in terms of covering windows and worrying over other men seeing parts of your body.

Don't you feel this thread justifies the actions of many husbands in this regard?

Debrief08, you cannot understand the workings of we men. I never said you tried to seduce the boy or that you were trying anything. However, the truth is that a boy/man can be turned-on by a woman without her wanting to or even thinking about it. It could be the words she types, her strictness in not welcoming advances from men no matter how noble, her accent or anything under the sun.

I never said you should treat boys in puberty like criminals but I am saying treat them as males with sexual urges that are new to them and they are trying to master. I think outstrip gets my point.

A woman is an amazing being to a boy/man. This guy telling you this (me) is probably the strictest and most disciplined man you will ever interact with regarding this issue but I would be lying if I said there aren't times when a woman just turns you on and there isn't a darn thing you can do about it.

I am not saying you will sleep with her but she has turned you on already which is an issue to be addressed by itself. I am sure you would understand me better if I was not limited to my phone.

Mac I will not cast myself in stone because Men Get turned on, and I refuse to take any balme or guilt for that. Am a pretty woman and never inappropirate. The boy acted wrongly because he didn't know better. So that sermon is not for me. Till am 80 men will still get turned on, not my fault, na God and I will never be ashamed of being an attractive woman, but I will never act or tolerate inappropirate behavior from anyone.
I will say it again, I am happy d boy didn't do this to some sick lady who will take advantage of him and molest him because even as much as the boy started it, he is too young to know what he is doing or take responsibilty for it. My husband and his cousin handled it well, dats all I have to say. if my 13 year old female neighbor comes and makes sexual suggestions at my husband will I say its because he dresses to sexy or whatever? No, they re at an age where if sex is not well explained to them may be der downfall. That is d simple truth. Even if I were dressed in a sack cloth, it could have been any other person. Am sure if they had a househelp he would ve tried to sleep with her and may have even done so. Addressing the boys sexuality is d answer not ignoring it and keeping him locked up from all women or girls. He coukd ve been led to sleep with a prostitute by his friends as I hear a lot of boys re.

That guy would be a sharp guy

Holla him for me

debrief08:

Mac I will not cast myself in stone because Men Get turned on, and I refuse to take any balme or guilt for that. Am a pretty woman and never inappropirate. The boy acted wrongly because he didn't know better. So that sermon is not for me. Till am 80 men will still get turned on, not my fault, na God and I will never be ashamed of being an attractive woman, but I will never act or tolerate inappropirate behavior from anyone.
I will say it again, I am happy d boy didn't do this to some sick lady who will take advantage of him and molest him because even as much as the boy started it, he is too young to know what he is doing or take responsibilty for it. My husband and his cousin handled it well, dats all I have to say. if my 13 year old female neighbor comes and makes intimate suggestions at my husband will I say its because he dresses to sexy or whatever? No, they re at an age where if sex is not well explained to them may be der downfall. That is d simple truth. Even if I were dressed in a sack cloth, it could have been any other person. Am sure if they had a househelp he would ve tried to sleep with her and may have even done so. Addressing the boys sexuality is d answer not ignoring it and keeping him locked up from all women or girls. He coukd ve been led to sleep with a LovePeddler by his friends as I hear a lot of boys re.

Chei, is this really your deduction from all I have posted? I wish you goodluck but I never said the boy should not receive proper guidance and counselling O. I will venture to add that if by your nature you ooze 5ex appeal, try to curb it because if it is not happening with your husband as this may not be the last 'embarrassing' situation you will find yourself with the way you are posting.

The analogy to what I am telling you is when the police tell citizens that 'we cannot be too security conscious'. It does not mean that we will be blamed if we are robbed for example but it is a situation that is best avoided at all cost than experienced.

Pretty Mrs. Debrief08, take it easy I never said you should tolerate the boy's behaviour for it is obviously wrong!

Mr Mac merry Christmas to u and ur family. For d last time I wasn't oozing any sexual appeal, I was wearing a black big hyjap, tired, sweaty from work and d market, so please rest dat arguement. Its not a crime to get in an embarassing situation neither is it a crime to post and ask for advice as to how to handle it. I am a responsible wife and mother I act appropirately I cannot control how pple react to me but I can control my own actions to pple. So ur accusations and suggestions ve nothong to do with me. I came for good advice and I got it I have nothing to be ashamed of. If I get into other embarassing situations I can't handle I will still come and ask for advice, I am not perfect and neither was d boy, we re humans we learn and grow but I will not be blamed for being pretty or dressing well as long as am appropirate

debrief08:

Mr Mac merry Christmas to u and your family.

Compliments of the season to you and your family as well.

For d last time I wasn't oozing any intimate appeal, I was wearing a black big hyjap, tired, sweaty from work and d market, so please rest dat arguement. Its not a crime to get in an embarassing situation neither is it a crime to post and ask for advice as to how to handle it. I am a responsible wife and mother I act appropirately I cannot control how pple react to me but I can control my own actions to pple. So your accusations and suggestions ve nothong to do with me. I came for good advice and I got it I have nothing to be ashamed of. If I get into other embarassing situations I can't handle I will still come and ask for advice, I am not perfect and neither was d boy, we re humans we learn and grow but I will not be blamed for being pretty or dressing well as long as am appropirate

And I am telling you that I am not blaming you for anything. Do you want me to sign a deed to that effect? Indeed you have nothing to be ashamed of, I am sorry if my posts have offended you- let's call a truce even if I know we are not fighting ehn.

My Brother I can't quarel with u oh. We re all learning. As a mother I have learnt so much from this experience to train my boys early on these things

debrief08:

My Brother I can't quarel with u oh. We re all learning. As a mother I have learnt so much from this experience to train my boys early on these things

^Cool

@poster
care to explain the following:"boy directly behind me with his zipper slightly unzipped, touching himself"

was he masturbating? was he aroused? are you sure there was inappropriate action and not just a kid scratching his "balls"? is someone with an unzipped trouser automatically up to no good? maybe he was aroused but simply making sure that his JT was not apparent, is it bad? even if he had no ill intention, bending over like that in front of him could have woken his 3leg (even if he didnt want to).

Why you bend over and open your nyash in front of a teenager sha?

This boy might have been exposed to p.orn before he turned 13

yeah, what if he just had an itch or something, and contrary to what some people r saying, even if explicit media has a role to play, it's probably a very minor role. the hormones and puberty r the main factors involved, cos they r what would help the kid make sense of it all.

Kids these days are a lot smarter and open to alot of information think and i am sure the young boy has already been exposed some naked material, he just didn't know how to handle his reaction to hormonal changes and that's why you witnessed the unfortunate incident.
Honestly letting a cousin talk to him might not be best because he will only transfer his ideas to him and only GOD know what ideas he might have.
I think you should sit and talk to him, cos you are as much a mother to him as his own biological mum, i mean, i was brought up by my mum, aunties, grand mums and neigbhours we though they could impact positively into my life, who knows this might be one of the many good things he might learn from you and take from you.

LOL, at 13, it's not normal behaviour. I didn't even know what those things are used for till I was 16
Maybe I'm the one that wasn't normal  

I guess the guy knows what he did and has learnt his lesson so just free him. Once the cousin hears, the parents will
hear, your husband, more neighbors, etc.

You are already doing what is best.

This wizkid wan knack apako.Shine shine bobo

@debrief08

Sorry to say but you trapped that young lad into admiring your bum O. You have probably seen him looking at you and like a lot of 'woe to man' you gave him a show. Your female vanity got the best of you. You are an equal conspirator in this kitchen episode or else you would have promptly reported him to his parents. .

the boy has been watching too much p-orn and getting the wrong ideas about women

he probably sees the most innocent gesture as a come on

u need to find a er 'modern adult male' to talk some sense into him.

and if his folks have a housemaid, now is the time to send her away.

everybody seems to be avoiding the mere fact , that that boy is either watching p.orn or watching por.n, at 13, no hormones can drive you to self-servicing on sitting a pregnant woman, that is not normal, blame it on the alcohol indecency.


he needs to be talked to by a older man or woman, dont be scared to talk to him, there is a reason God allowed you to see him. he is defimately receiving some intimate miseducation somewhere, either from friends, errotic novels, or the almighty P.o.R.N.

Afro_Blue:

@debrief08

Sorry to say but you trapped that young lad into admiring your bum O. You have probably seen him looking at you and like a lot of 'woe to man' you gave him a show. Your female vanity got the best of you. You are an equal conspirator in this kitchen episode or else you would have promptly reported him to his parents. .

HAHA, stop saying that. It was purely accidental, she had to open the oven for God's sake, stop saying things that will get her upset. She is not in Miami, maybe that is the way women at your side behave.

efosanice:

everybody seems to be avoiding the mere fact , that that boy is either watching p.orn or watching por.n, at 13, no hormones can drive you to self-servicing on sitting a pregnant woman, that is not normal, blame it on the alcohol indecency.


he needs to be talked to by a older man or woman, dont be scared to talk to him, there is a reason God allowed you to see him. he is defimately receiving some intimate miseducation somewhere, either from friends, errotic novels, or the almighty P.o.R.N.

that too. who knows what fabu about shagging aunty so and so some friend is spamming him with

LOL, at 13, it's not normal behaviour. I didn't even know what those things are used for till I was 16

thank you.




the boy is obviously hooked on p.orn.

this is a warning to all parents out there.

things were easier for our folks. then the only source of porn was video clubs. today, you can buy it in go slows, or download from the internet. as a parent, you just DO NOT HAVE A HANDLE on what you son or daughter is seeing. even if you have the internet in your home on lockdown (forget, not possibe) - what of their friends?

@Oyb @Efosanice
his actions have nothing to do with watching po.rn BECAUSE Po.rn has nothing to do with teenagers raging hormones. even if he was a choir boy that never set his eyes on po.rn, he would still get a hard on IF THATS WHAT MAKE HIM TICK. some guys out there get aroused by seeing pregnant women, lets be real here! also, bending down like that in front of him could have done the trick.  

access to porn was very limited 15/20 yrs ago and yet people did the exact same things they are doing today (or even worse)!

too many people are quick to blame everything on po.rn as if kids watching naked women online/in mags turn people into s[b]e[/b]x maniacs. lol

@maclatunji





Yes, my opinion could be in error, but I didn't see the need for her to go into the kitchen and bend over in front of this lad when she has house help to check the oven, and she failed to report his mischievous behavior.

Woe -to-Man know when males are scanning either the bosoms or bum. Secretly many of them like it when a male undresses them with his eyes.

Woe -to-Man are the same all over the globe.

MRbrownJAY:

@Oyb @Efosanice
his actions have nothing to do with watching po.rn BECAUSE Po.rn has nothing to do with teenagers raging hormones. even if he was a choir boy that never set his eyes on po.rn, he would still get a hard on IF THATS WHAT MAKE HIM TICK. some guys out there get excited by seeing pregnant women, lets be real here! also, bending down like that in front of him could have done the trick.  

access to indecency was very limited 15/20 yrs ago and yet people did the exact same things they are doing today (or even worse)!

too many people are quick to blame everything on po.rn as if kids watching Unclad women online/in mags turn people into s[b]e[/b]x maniacs. lol

you and i have gotten into this before, and going by your post history, you are erm oversexed and thus jaded by stimuli that give  us unsophisticated nigerians hard o-ns

only to turn around and see d boy directly behind me with his zipper slightly unzipped, touching himself.

when people get hardo-ns they go out of their way to hide them , not touch themselves in public- plus we are not talking about kids watching unclad women - we are talking about kids watching full blown se-x. plumber goes to fix something in womans kitchen and next thing they are getting it on. adults watch and laugh at the absurdity, but impressionable 13 year old kids swallow it all, yeah women are all raring to go , throw in biatches r only good for fking" gangsta rap and you have a real problem on your hands.

i will suggest you talk to him and if he do something similar again he need hot slap from david oyedepo for exorcism

someone should talk to the boy

na so sex perverts dey start off.

a friend told me the other day how he was in a cybercafe and some eejit started j-acking off in public to some online porn.

I do not support bringing in any other party to this except your husband and you need not tell him all the details. U can just tell him that since the guy is beginning to grow, it will be best you guys advise him on matters. He will appreciate it more and value the advise better because you have saved him some embarrassment. Since he is fond with your husband, you both can groom him to become a more responsible teenager.

GboyegaD:

I do not support bringing in any other party to this except your husband and you need not tell him all the details. U can just tell him that since the guy is beginning to grow, it will be best you guys advise him on matters. He will appreciate it more and value the advise better because you have saved him some embarrassment. Since he is fond with your husband, you both can groom him to become a more responsible teenager.

no offense to the op, but that really depends on the kind of person her husband is - the man might drag the boy off to some pastor for exorcism, or some such

oyb:

you and i have gotten into this before, and going by your post history, you are erm oversexed and thus jaded by stimuli that give  us unsophisticated nigerians hard o-ns

have we?! lol ok.
but you do know that a "perv" would be one whether he watches p[b]o[/b]rn or not, right? so p[b]o[/b]rn is irrelevant here. many sneak out to watch the maid take a bath or even molest kids a bit younger than them. . . . . .and this has nothing to do with p[b]o[/b]rn, they are just SICK like that.

blaming such issue on porn, is just a cheap way of sweeping the issue under the rug. IF this boy was indeed jacking off behind that big pregnant lady's ikebe then there IS a serious problem here that should be dealt with in a SERIOUS manner.