LMFAO. @ This thread

its a serious issue but, u need to mk him realize his doing the wrong tin. Also educate him so that he won't mess up tomorrow.

You know, I don't understand Nigerians sometimes. Is it that some of you lack reading comprehension skills or what could be the problem here? The OP has stated that the problem has been solved. She told her husband and the young lad's cousin and they were able to have a conversation with him. The young lad had lots of questions centering around sexuality I assume which OP's husband and the lad's cousin was able to answer/clearify. So why are some of you still rambling on like a broken record when the problem was solved on page 1 of this thread on december 24th? This is why I will never suggest that people come here to Nairaland.com for some serious advice because most nigerians and their oversabi can be quite irritating to say the least.

Afro_Blue:

@debrief08

Sorry to say but you trapped that young lad into admiring your bum O. You have probably seen him looking at you and like a lot of 'woe to man' you gave him a show. Your female vanity got the best of you. You are an equal conspirator in this kitchen episode or else you would have promptly reported him to his parents. .

Another chuvinist on the loose. I guess not even living in America has taught you to show a little respect towards the women folks. I pity those Nigerian women who birth sons who tomorrow grow up to be full blown chuvinists. 9 months pregnancy and d.a.m.n labor pains all in vain. Jesus is Lord!

i  think u are over imagining things y would a 13yrs old boy lust over u a pregnant woman lol or maybe u look like u-13

That is why Parents should educate their kids about sex as they are growing up

Debrief obviously took d boy as her son n thought he was still a lil child so SPARE HER D THRASH. D boy has got help so if u have nothng sensible 2 contribute 2 ds thread make u waka. @Mutter: u encourage ur children 2 self-service. I hope they don't grow up 2 b porn stars cos they wl always find a way 2 rationalize it.

13 is too young to be doing such a thing. i'm 101% sure the boy has been exposed to graphic stuff either through bad friends, porn or who knows.
that behavior cannot be blamed on hormones abeg.
the boy has been influenced.

sign of the times?

Jenifa_:

13 is too young to be doing such a thing. i'm 101% sure the boy has been exposed to graphic stuff either through bad friends, indecency or who knows.
that behavior cannot be blamed on hormones abeg.
the boy has been influenced.

may i ask at what age such behavior is "ok" in your world?

so what you are claiming is that if a boy is "exposed" to graphic stuff or watches p[b]o[/b]rn, he will start mast[b]u[/b]rbating in the kitchen when his aunty is bending down?! (if thats what happened of course)

lol, do you know how funny and $%&!@ that sounds?! believe me, if that was the case then most of the young boys in 9ja would be jacking off to their bending down aunties, and that wouldnt be news any longer, lol!

MRbrownJAY:

may i ask at what age such behavior is "ok" in your world?

so what you are claiming is that if a boy is "exposed" to graphic stuff or watches p[b]o[/b]rn, he will start mast[b]u[/b]rbating in the kitchen when his aunty is bending down?! (if thats what happened of course)

lol, do you know how funny and $%&!@ that sounds?! believe me, if that was the case then most of the young boys in 9ja would be jacking off to their bending down aunties, and that wouldnt be news any longer, lol!

for all you know, the boy mistakes her fondness for the hots

oyb:

for all you know, the boy mistakes her fondness for the hots

yes you are right but that shouldnt automatically be attributed to watching p[b]o[/b]rn, or exposure to adult materials!

i think a positive male influence should talk to him

MRbrownJAY:

yes you are right but that shouldnt automatically be attributed to watching p[b]o[/b]rn, or exposure to adult materials!

i say porn because its only in porn material that such behavior elicits a favorable response which is what i think the boy was going for. for a 13 year old to muster up the liver to start jacking off in front of an older woman - aggro and misconceptions about seduction - he probably construed the bending over as an invitation.

It is caused by too much Whiz Kid music videos.

^^^^

true that, the boy may have been watching those old li'l bow wow videos with vixens drooling over the kid

do not underestimate the power of music videos to fk with kids minds

The problem have been solved, cant u see the poster is not talking again

oyb:

i say indecency because its only in indecency material that such behavior elicits a favorable response which is what i think the boy was going for. for a 13 year old to muster up the liver to start jacking off in front of an older woman - aggro and misconceptions about seduction - he probably construed the bending over as an invitation.

what the fk??

kingsilly:

The problem have been solved, cant u see the poster is not talking again

I doubt it. . .

#Singing in Michael Jackson's voice to the tune of 'smooth criminal'#Tell me were you wankin/would you tell us/were you wanking, 

Some things really are NOT that complex. In this case a good trashing will be good for the soul.
After the trashing you can do the Oprah Winfrey thing but trash him well. Make sure you have a few elders present so the trashing does not get out of hand that's all.

Is that how you were brought up? No wonder you turned out this way.

@OP,
You have started keeping secrets from your husband because of a hopeless boy. It may come back to haunt you.

aribisala0:

Some things really are NOT that complex. In this case a good trashing will be good for the soul.
After the trashing you can do the Oprah Winfrey thing but trash him well. Make sure you have a few elders present so the trashing does not get out of hand that's all.

Really? All he will learn is how to pretend in his immediate environment while exposing himself to "advisers" outside who can easily lead him astray. His parents need to understand that their silence and holier than thou attitude is not the best way to to train a jet age or millennium child who has access to more information than they can ever imagine. Trashing surely wont help.

@ Poster
Thank God you saved a young confused child from going astray and learnt your own lessons. Seems your hubby and the cousin may have to play the fatherly role to him for a while cos the questions will keep coming for now if hes given the option. May your children appreciate your wealth of experience and learn from you and your husband. I pray for safe delivery - maybe a girl this time.

Many people are thieves rapists etc  at heart  but they learn to "pretend" and not steal because of the consequences NOT because their natures have changed.

I know all that Oprah stuff works in America and I am not sure where the poster is but if she in Lagos a good whipping will be a deterrent . The idea is NOT to change him just make sure he does NOT do it again.
I heard that in Mecca when it is time to pray many people do not lock their shops they just go.
There are very few thefts in Mecca. Why ?? Kwonsekwences
A 13 year old child is old enough to know right and wrong . Let us cut the crap

What an interesting discussion.

At the ages after Puberty :

Father must have restricted access to his Daughters.

And mother must have restricted access to her sons.

Because at that age their SEXUAL MIND HAVE BEEN ACTIVATED, and this has noting to do with porn, any sexual materials.

Some of us never watch any Sexual media before having sex.

I remember going to an OWAMBE party with my GF.

Come see as my Babe MUM dey roll her kaka inside the sexy Asho Ebi.

Men, i felt like dunping my GF for her MUM.

i just hope the OP hasn't raised a false alarm here.   . not many young boys have so much raving libido at that age. again, come to think of it, if at all the young lad is keen on flirting, why would he wan't to try-out a woman old enough to be his mother; as if that is not enough, a pregnant one.

Anyway, this issue reminds me of my experience as a lad (about the same age-14 or so, can't really be exact because Its been a long time ago). we lived in a low profile bungalow amongst the hoipolloi and often engaged in social recreation with other kids. on this particular occasion, I had made a 'Kite' (i really dont know how to explain what a kite means to those of you on this forum who may not understand what a kite means. it's more like a flying air plane made by kids from poly-ethene/nylon sacs with broom sticks and cotton threads holding its extended edges). unfortunately, my kite landed on the zinc/roof of a neighbours ramshackled building. I was so desperate to get it off the roof so i quickly grabbed a short ladder (about 2ft long) from the store, dragged it to the wall, very close to the roof where my kite had landed, climbed and carefully pulled it out. I was just descending from the ladder when a lady (twice my age then I guess), whom I had never ( and not even in my nighmare, had thought of having anything to do with because she was just a miserable virago) catapaulted with rage and furry from her toilet (apparently, her toilet window was adjacent to the part of the wall where the ladder I had climbed with was leaning against. she raised alarm that I had deliberately climbed the the ladder while she was at the toilet  just to peek at her while she pooed. I was so shocked to say the least. I couldn't even utter a word to defend my innocence. I just held on to my kite speechless. I was unusually lucky in embarassing situations with mi mum as she never took sides with anything I did, but on this instance, she came out fully in my defence ( she has never really defended me on anything, I was even more surprised when she came out on the loose to my defence) . she challenged the lady so vigorously that she crept back into her shell. how on earth will a lil innocent boy of this age whom you know too well peek on you - she asked. ''how did he know at that point exactly that you were in your loo''? she asked her.  it was really an experience this issue reminded me of, tho ivn't forgotten inspite of the fact that it hapend over a decade ago. funny how sometimes we seem not to attempt making a little excuse for children.

In the OP's case, in as much as I'm not trying to disregard her allegations on the young lad, I think it wouldn't be out of plausibility that the young boy was just feeling slighly uncomfortable and trying to itch. sometimes, their hygienic practices could be very poor (particularly at that age. I'm sure of this because as a medical practitioner, i'v seen many of such cases borne purely out of poor hygiene, repeated wearing of their dirty boxers leading to irritation e.t.c) and they may itch uncontrollably in severe cases. be that as it may, I think the OP could have also given him a benefit of 'doubt/innocence' and observed him closely if he would repeat such a thing before concluding fully (and without doubts) that his libidinous stress is about to lead him astray. whatcha all think??

@op, - Unfortunately, this issue is not restricted to only teenage boys.  It is a human condition since the fall of man, thus it applies to all men /human beings. Only The Lord JESUS CHRIST, by HIS mercy and grace, can truly free a person from the bondage of sin, which includes the lusts of the flesh. Rom 7:14-25.

"Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry: For which things' sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience:"- Col 3:5-6

“For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be.”- Rom 8:6-7

"Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof.  Neither yield ye your members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: but yield yourselves unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness unto God.  For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace." - Rom 6:12-14

Stay in the word of GOD and in prayer. - "Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak." - Matt 26:41

^True.

@ pato405

interesting pov.