jenny2007:

Morning lovely people,
Was @ my man's house last night from lagos for the weekend and (shockingly) walked into his room to find a woman's hair accessory, pink shaving- stick and eye-brow tweezers all littered around this room and house. Asked him how it all got there and he said ''they belong to my cousin. She's been here all week. U just hang on for a few hours and she'll be here and U can ask her''. My people o, I stayed up till 12pm waiting for this cousin but she didn't turn up. I awoke early this morning and asked my bf if she was still coming over and he said ''she came and left when you were asleep. Pls trust me''. Hmmm, na wa o. This is a man that cannot even stand me talking to another man for up to 10min on the phone yet he's obviously cheating.
Now I want to know why women often forgive their cheating bf's and husbands and overlook 'danger signs'' meanwhile men take cheating much more personal. Let's hear your thought people.

sexkillz:

Who said so? Do you mean to say you've forgiven him already? You see, it's when girls fall for cheap lies like this, and decide to stay that makes most men think they can get away with everything! How the bloody hell will someone tell you that his cousin came and spent the week with him, cousin disappeared before you came into the house, and then re appeared and disappeared again while you slept, and you believed the abracadabra?   Do you really know what you want? Do you like your intelligence being ridden like a horse? It's obvious he is cheating like you said, so Why are you still in that place? And why are you complaining?  Listen up! He'll do it again and again! With his fathers aunty's cousin, and with the daughter of his uncles brother, and you will believe him! Then when he is tired of riding your intelligence, he'll tell you it's over and then "men" become wicked! You allowed it!
When someone is lying to you, you tell them they are lying! Do you even care about the relationship? If you tell me she came and went while i was sleeping, i tell you i was awake all night! 

Some people like being fools! It's like there's a personal joy derived from being told cheap lies and accepting cheap lies, under the mistaken guise that you are being forgiving! I laugh in jamaican! When you forgive someone, you forget about the grudge and you never bring it up again! If you ever complain of the forgiven behavior, you never truly forgave the person! So pls, roll up that "women can forgive more than men" crap, light it, smoke it, and choke on it! This has nothing to do with women forgiving their cheating spouse unlike men, this is about why some women choose to be dumb even in obvious circumstances!. . .

jenny2007:

Morning lovely people,
Was @ my man's house last night from lagos for the weekend and (shockingly) walked into his room to find a woman's hair accessory, pink shaving- stick and eye-brow tweezers all littered around this room and house. Asked him how it all got there and he said ''they belong to my cousin. She's been here all week. U just hang on for a few hours and she'll be here and U can ask her''. My people o, I stayed up till 12pm waiting for this cousin but she didn't turn up. I awoke early this morning and asked my bf if she was still coming over and he said ''she came and left when you were asleep. Pls trust me''. Hmmm, na wa o. This is a man that cannot even stand me talking to another man for up to 10min on the phone yet he's obviously cheating.
Now I want to know why women often forgive their cheating bf's and husbands and overlook 'danger signs'' meanwhile men take cheating much more personal. Let's hear your thought people.

Mynd_44:

when you are too gulible, you become a F00l

kambili190:

"however, there are women who resemble men concerning sex and cheating.

jenny2007:

Honestly I am so glad that you guys are giving me these feedbacks. It might sound harsh but I am trying to take in the messages in criticisim. Normally I do not tolerate bad behaviour from in a relationships but this man is making me feel paranoid - like all the signs I am seeing are just in my mind. These comments remind me of how I normally want to be treated in a relationship - with respect!

jenny2007:

Honestly I am so glad that you guys are giving me these feedbacks. It might sound harsh but I am trying to take in the messages in criticisim. Normally I do not tolerate bad behaviour from in a relationships but this man is making me feel paranoid - like all the signs I am seeing are just in my mind. These comments remind me of how I normally want to be treated in a relationship - with respect!

jenny2007:

Honestly I am so glad that you guys are giving me these feedbacks. It might sound harsh but I am trying to take in the messages in criticisim. Normally I do not tolerate bad behaviour from in a relationships but this man is making me feel paranoid - like all the signs I am seeing are just in my mind. These comments remind me of how I normally want to be treated in a relationship - with respect!

I laugh in chi hua hua hua hua! Makes you feel paranoid? No! He doesnt! You are discombobulated to the extent that you dont know what you want! Do you honestly think you are a nobody without this particular man? Where is your self confidence? Is it on strike?    If i tell you a lie, should you believe it? Especially when you can see evidences that i am lying? If you believe my first lie, i will cover the first one with an even better second lie! And you will believe me. If you allow me ride your intelligence, believe me, i'll ride it till i am tired! I swearigawd!
You saw obvious signs, all you should demand is truth! If truth is not forth coming, you walk! If truth is out, still walk! If you dont walk means he can cheat again, tell the truth, and all will be fine! When you walk, give him time to feel remorse, if he doesnt, forget about him. If he does, you'll have to make it clear that you wont tolerate such behavior, you wont accept to be treated like a fool, and you'll rather not be in a relationship, than be in a relationship where you are the fool! Let him understand, that it is not by force to be in a relationship with him, as there are others on the line, but if he can not prove to you why you should leave the others and concentrate on him, then you'll walk! After making your self clear, you may now choose to forgive, and never bring up the issue again!
But if you forgive a cheat without clarifying matters, his "sisters" and "cousins" will pay him a visit under your very nose, and the best part? You'll do nada about it! Dont be a what? A fool!

MsDarkSkin:

cos women are used to it.

expecting a man to be faithful is like putting your hand in a lion's mouth
and not expecting to be bitten. (yes that example sucked but you get my drift! )

Mynd_44:

Msdarkskin, you just disappointed me. So now you are saying that all men are expected to cheat and so they should be forgiven easily when they do. Because if that is what you mean, that is very twisted no offence

Mrs, Chima:

Seriously Sis? 

Mynd_44:

Msdarkskin, you just disappointed me. So now you are saying that all men are expected to cheat and so they should be forgiven easily when they do. Because if that is what you mean, that is very twisted no offence