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Re: What Does It Mean To Be A Submissive Wife. by mutter(f): 9:38am On Mar 01, 2012 |
Gosh did not realise I got so long Forgot to add- Do I submit to my husband by letting him use me as his sex slave?- Certainly not! I love him so much that I even call him sometime at work to hurry home, then I serve him a special meal, to get him ready for his night shift. In fact there are days i even threaten to rape him 1 Like |
Re: What Does It Mean To Be A Submissive Wife. by VirtuousWoman: 9:44am On Mar 01, 2012 |
it is good to submit to your husband. really, if you respect him you will submit without being told to do so. but why are men soooo ungrateful. how many men can boldly say out loud to the hearing of the whole world that they "honestly love their wives". after all the same bible is the book that commands "husbands love your wives" just as it commands "wives submit to your own husbands". A woman gets pregnant, gives birth to a beautiful baby, the next thing the man does is to look at her and says her boobs sag, she is no longer sexy simply because her body changed. Whyyyy men, whyyyy? |
Re: What Does It Mean To Be A Submissive Wife. by toysmall: 9:55am On Mar 01, 2012 |
just as it commands "wives submit to your own husbands |
Re: What Does It Mean To Be A Submissive Wife. by maclatunji: 10:03am On Mar 01, 2012 |
mutter: Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww, one of the sweetest things I ever read anywhere! I didn't want to comment on this thread before but I have to applaud this. 1 Like |
Re: What Does It Mean To Be A Submissive Wife. by mutter(f): 11:08am On Mar 01, 2012 |
Virtuous woman, sometimes we women make the mistake of believing that a man would love us because of the kids. But that is not completely right. you have to earn your love yourself and not through your child. There are certainly mean and cruel men out there but that is not always the case. What of the instances where the woman has given birth to a beautiful baby and yet has also done so many negative things that make the love dwindle? I remember once when I was pregnant I got so mad at my husband, I just felt he was not being caring and considerate and my hormones were rioting and going amok. He just sat there watching TV and was grinning at my comments, somehow a fuse blew and I went into the room and came out with his cloths and threw them on him. After the third wailing trip to the room (by this time, I was sober enough to drop them beside him) he asked me calmly to put all the cloths back and after that i needed to apologise because my behaviour was unacceptable. I was so hurt I just flung myself on the bed and cried myself out. But it soon dawned on me that I had done something ridiculously childish and rude. His calm reaction had also complicated issues. I knew I could leave those cloths but it would be more like a -do your worst - challenge. I felt pretty worried about going further to hurt his ego, so I went back to fold the cloths and put them back, still crying. He asked me if I was sorry, I replied no and he wanted to know why I was picking them up. I told him I did not know why. Anyway he helped even though it was not much, but I guess it was a gesture that spoke words. When we were through I went to him still sobbing, got down on my knees and apologised. I never meant to hurt him. He just took me in his arms and told me it was not my fault but the hormones, he knew I would never want to hurt him. He also explained that he was only trying to laugh over things so I cheer up and did not realise it was the wrong approach at that time. This nasty incident only strengthened us because we learnt not to cross certain boundaries and most importantly that we needed to help each other, when boundaries are crossed. It is also very important for the other partner to recognise the help being offered. He helped me in this instance by remaining calm and giving me the hint that I needed to correct my mistake. I recognised this help and reacted first by putting back the cloths. He helped me further by helping me pick up the cloths. It was not much work but he was telling me, without words that he still stands by me and cares and he also takes some blame. This also made it easier for me to apologise. It was these gestures that earned my absolute respect and humility and got me down on my knees. I try to imagine what if, he had gone mad- fight escalates - no one ready to apologise, Once the taboos are broken , it keeps reoccurring, no more boundaries, no more respect and the marriage breaks up or two people no longer in love co-habit . |
Re: What Does It Mean To Be A Submissive Wife. by TV01(m): 10:53pm On Mar 01, 2012 |
ayodele123: I suppose I was a little optimistic hoping you'd present your case with clear reasoning and unadulterated reference to scripture. Do people still employ this type of pathetic and pharasaical religious tactic. Shame. ayodele123: Who disputes this? Please adress the issue in question correctly. Does a man submit to his wife? ayodele123: Why the unecessary distraction? What point are you making? 90% of the time I give leave to my wifes preference. We discuss everything. In the rare instances we cannot agree and it's a serious matter that I don't believe I should, or cannot simply please her on, as husband I assume authority as head of the home. Simple. I love and serve my wife, I don't submit to her. Oya, butcher scriture. Ephesians 5:21 "applies to everybody and every relationship"? No it does not. Please read it again in context. At random. Man is the head of woman, Christ is the head of man. Oya, tell me your thesis applies here. Should Christ submit to man? What about Employer/Employee? Not spiritual, not sensible. ayodele123: Not just closed, also locked. Please take down that your website. TV |
Re: What Does It Mean To Be A Submissive Wife. by queensmith: 11:26pm On Mar 01, 2012 |
Mutter- my take on thing s are completely different to yours. That much we agree on. I can't live off such sentiments. I do not believe it's fulfilling to live in servitude of another. Even if it's your husband. I certa inly cannot imagine it. |
Re: What Does It Mean To Be A Submissive Wife. by mutter(f): 8:24am On Mar 02, 2012 |
queensmith when you fall in love and when you have children it will all come on it`s own. I like your rebellious nature, just do not overdo it and all will go well. 1 Like |
Re: What Does It Mean To Be A Submissive Wife. by queensmith: 9:03am On Mar 02, 2012 |
lol- people say that. But i know it's not true. No reason for a woman to lose her mind just because she's married. Men dont. |
Re: What Does It Mean To Be A Submissive Wife. by Aparche(f): 10:18am On Mar 02, 2012 |
This issue of submission came about because there can't be 2 captains in a ship, just as you don't see 2 CEO's calling the shot in a particular organization; otherwise there will be chaos, a lot of bickering and no progress. I believe this is the same reason why in the Nigerian police force whenever a DIG is promoted to Inspector General, other DIG's are authomatically retired. The person in charge might not necessarily be the smartest, kindest, most loving etc. It just that one person has to call the shot for peace to reign. In marriage, God in his wisdom has decided that the husband should be the one calling the shots while the wife should help him. It doesn't mean the wife has automatically become a door mat, footstool or lost her mind, it's just that there has to be a leader & a follower. |
Re: What Does It Mean To Be A Submissive Wife. by mimi321(f): 9:00pm On May 23, 2012 |
[quote author=chalerea]It simple means to obey! As a woman you sold your life to a man the moment you say "Yes I do". That is why you change your surname after marriage. The whole duty of a man to his wife is to love her. The love of a man to his wife can be equal to the love of God to man. When a man is trying to do the wrong thing, God corrects the man somehow but man may not like it but it does not mean that God hate that man, the same is equal to a man and his wife. It take only true love for a husband to stop his wife when is going the way way when she completely feels she knows better than the man.[/quote u must be a fool. who told u we women sold our lives . God forbid me selling my life for what ? |
Re: What Does It Mean To Be A Submissive Wife. by klepp0906: 9:48pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
queensmith: Likely because you were raised by a trollop or are some kind of wannabe domineering new age feminist which is the biggest group of hypocrites that exist. I love how people like you associate submission with slavery. If you hate being a female so much, get a sex change. Men aren't evil k? We aren't out to control you or own you k? However when we do go against nature and enter into a monogamous relationship we expect you to realize we are the dominant gender in the primate genus. As a previous poster said - their cannot be 2 captains to a ship and personally, my wife isn't as submissive as I'd like which is the root of the vast majority of contention in our relationship. She's stubborn and she challenges me. She is fortunate that I detest confrontation almost as much as I detest feminists. You are all taking advantage of men and the times in a negative way which is damaging society in general. Now I don't believe in God, the idea itself is pure fantasy to me and much of the bible has already been disproven by modern science (which the church then conveniently contorts or re interprets. However that is a different topic). I only bring this up to illustrate I am not a bible thumper and consider myself an academic or scholar even. While submission as an ideal was a major component of marraige and covered in scripture - it was present and practiced for MILLENIA prior as it is a natural and physiological part of our differences as opposing genders within a species. To put it blank, you are going against nature. (as are many invented practices by the church, monogamy for example. Again, another topic) Among the black species - good luck. I don't think I've met a submissive black woman in my life. Perhaps thats why the black men are going after white women now and out breeding Caucasians. (First year that white children are the minority in US public schools. Unreal. I keep getting off topic but this all strums the same chord for me) Anyways, if your not ready to be submissive (IE be a wife), don't get married! I understand you guys love your money and all that but it won't last so if your not prepared, don't do it. Marry a good man and not someone for their money and you'll be fine. I expect submission to an acceptable degree (not domination) and have never harmed my wife physically or emotionally. Almost 10 years now and I expect many many more. She's very educated (masters degree) and was raised just outside Detroit. (In case anyone felt like using the uneducated or rural bumpkin stereotypes) Anyhow, I'm done. |
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