Hi,
I am very upset - my boyfriend broke up with me after two months because he said he is not ready for a relationship. He thought he was, but then started to notice he's not over my predecessor's screwing him over. His soon-to-be-ex wife got pregnant by someone else while he was stationed overseas in Korea, where I am now teaching. He has now returned to the U.S. I will still be here for another six months.
He appears to have good self confidence, great interest in me, respect for me, and honesty. We remain in contact over the Internet, but I miss him and wonder if we can get back together later. It's only been about nine months since he discovered his soon-to-be-ex wife's infidelity, so I understand he is not ready. However, they were married not even two years and saw one another little in that time, so it's not as bad as if they were married many years and had children. I want him back, but I am prepared to wait. Is this a reasonable hope?
Thanks

His soon-to-be-ex- wife? what are u up to woman? He said he doesnt want a relationship. He is only interested in your kpekus so why forcing ur self?

Fair point. Fair point.
But it was never a sexual relationship, so I doubt he was only interested in my 'kpekus';p.

its your choice to either wait it out until he's ready(which has no when/if) or you move on.
Simple!

Never intimate indeed. Which day man and woman become just "close" friends?

Thank you, Slim

Lol xynerise, of course the forum changed my word to 'intimate', but I mean we were not having %^*. Of course it was intimate in the romantic sense otherwise.

xynerise:

Never intimate indeed. Which day man and woman become just "close" friends?

its possible.
Very possible!

Thanks Killz. Your comment is very rational. It is similar to what my parents told me. Since he needs to be alone, I should certainly let him be that way, though I can be present in his life as a friendly ear. I suppose that if he stops contacting me completely that is when he has really become completely uninterested.

Undine:

Thanks Killz. Your comment is very rational. It is similar to what my parents told me. Since he needs to be alone, I should certainly let him be that way, though I can be present in his life as a friendly ear. I suppose that if he stops contacting me completely that is when he has really become completely uninterested.

i believe your problem is solved?

Yes, I believe it is.
This was very helpful.

Alright. GO AND SIN NO MORE!

I didn't sin. sheez.

Lets assume you did.

Undine:

Thanks Killz. Your comment is very rational. It is similar to what my parents told me. Since he needs to be alone, I should certainly let him be that way, though I can be present in his life as a friendly ear. I suppose that if he stops contacting me completely that is when he has really become completely uninterested.

@op u mean u guys been together 4 a while nw and "im no dey shine ur congo"? Choi!!! This is quite unusual; anyway where is he from, cos I trust he's not a Nigerian?

@ UNdine, its good to know that he's honest at least and is not just stringing you along. If you both talk then you can remain friends but I don't believe in waiting for him. What if you wait for him and later on he finally decides that you are not what he wants and are better off remaining friends. I don't advise putting any part of your life, I.e, your love life on hold because of him. You should remain friends till all signs show that he is over his ex-wife, meanwhile you date someone that you fancy for now. If he decides that he wants you he will come back - that is if you have not already moved on with someone that loves you. Goodluck

@ Poster, Sorry if you are upset BUT I think he was just being honest with you even after 2 months and not 2 years. But considering it again, minus the issue of his ex and for the sake of others who are heading into a relationship blindly, pls can you state what you think makes a man ready to go into a relationship heading towards marriage.

P.S: The answers you provide will also give a clue on some of the details you were probably taking for granted. 

@olaak hahaha, no not Nigerian. We're both American.
@Jenny2007, Thanks, I'm also glad he's honest enough not to string me along. I do appreciate that. Your advice not to wait is good advice, but I think in my case I should focus on work and avoid pursuing any guys. Meanwhile, I'll wait and see how he's doing over the next year or so.
@4wardever hmmm, I think what makes a man ready for a relationship heading toward marriage (ie a courtship) is that he has a good job, emotional maturity, and at least some practical plans for his future.

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@poster

My dear in case you don't know, you're not getting any younger. So its either you forget about this guy and respect his decision or you keep weeping over what can never be yours.

The choice is yours too make. And I trust you would make the right one.

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