queensmith: Shout when im angry...nothing wrong in that

queensmith: Shout when im angry...nothing wrong in that

debrief08:
the day i shout on my husband in front of my son I know my marriage is over. Crazy people, always going to church but have no single fear of God in their heart

dayokanu: A lot of women do this.

Yell at their husband and set the children against the dad, Though most kids by the time they grow up would just know their mom was immature, but some women would have succeded in convincing the teenage kids that their dad is evil while the man is bursting his asss to provide for his family and be a good dad.

I have seen this happen many times where the woman would refer to the husband as the "Unfortunate man", the Irresponsible man etc.

If a woman would now raise your own children, fruit of your loins to despise you.

Some women are evil

strangerf:


It is people like you who bully their husband by yelling at them. Some of those husbands will kill themselves, others will live their lives feeling depressed and ostracized and sorry, others, will strike back with a weapon; they may kill their victimizer ( i,e, the wife), or they will probably have to settle for whoever is in range.

Rock on baby! Keep yelling at your weak hubby

mazaje:

The same way it will be ok for your husband to slap you when he is angry, nothing wrong with that as well. . . .

queensmith: I disagree with all of you, youd probably say its fine when a man is doing the shouting so i wont bother with the nuiscance argument.
Anger is only natural and everyones coping mechanism is different, its natural for a disagreement to lead to heated exchanges , shouting and even swearing. Nobody is above this man or woman, violence and using children is very different.
just because he's a man doesnt mean he's above reproach! Mshew

Jemibee: Marriage is not as easy as it sounds!! I'm sure most of u who have answered aren't even married so u ought not to comment. We need peeps who are experienced here. I'm married and for over 2yrs and i can tell u that this is somethg that can happen. Unfortunately, There's room for such occasionally be it from the hubby or wife.

debrief08:
I agree to some extent, amd we are saying the same thing, shout and quarel with each other the bad part is doing it in front of the kids and using the kids as weapons in your fight.

queensmith:

I guess at that point the couples need to agree there are real problems that need to be resolved.
Mine was just to agree that shouting in general will be normal between couples, everyone has their disagreements.

queensmith:

I guess at that point the couples need to agree there are real problems that need to be resolved.
Mine was just to agree that shouting in general will be normal between couples, everyone has their disagreements.

debrief08:
I agree to some extent, amd we are saying the same thing, shout and quarel with each other the bad part is doing it in front of the kids and using the kids as weapons in your fight.

marjo: i have come to discover one thing in marriage - never seek to judge what goes on in other peoples marriages. every couple has their issues and for every action there is a reaction. everyone tells the story from their own angle - by the time you ask the wife you will be amazed that there is more to it than meets the eye. i believe every couple knows how to live with each other within their relationship. i make no judgements. now as for me personally, i am not a shouting person . in my relationship i have let my spouse know what is unacceptable to me and once he crosses the line he knows what to expect - to each their own.

stepo707:

Best Answer

The wedding day is a hundred metre dash but the actual marriage is a marathon.

I love this quote

debrief08:
Differnet strokes, but I believe maybe erroneously that shouting wont make your point be heard any clearer, it makes the point not to be heard at all. But if some couples feel shouting is the wy to go let it be done away from the kids. It is not nice to raise kids who believe they can only be heard by shouting down the other party

dayokanu:

But you should also know that shouting and yelling at one another is the beginning of abuse.

I have read severally how you complained bitterly about your ex-husband yelling at you till you almost cry.

Maybe you cried because you couldn't beat him physically, but assuming it as your younger sis, bro, child or someone physically weaker than you that yelled and shouted at you, would you be 100% sure you wont slap the person?

My point is, The moment you start yelling and shouting, Thats already an aggressive behaviour and can lead to whatever just like a slap can lead to stabbing or shooting and ppl would say " Wasnt it a mere slap, kick etc, How come you brought out the knife or gun"

debrief08:
I agree to some extent, amd we are saying the same thing, shout and quarel with each other the bad part is doing it in front of the kids and using the kids as weapons in your fight.

debrief08:
Differnet strokes, but I believe maybe erroneously that shouting wont make your point be heard any clearer, it makes the point not to be heard at all. But if some couples feel shouting is the wy to go let it be done away from the kids. It is not nice to raise kids who believe they can only be heard by shouting down the other party

queensmith:

Of course we can hold our opinions on whether or not shouting is the way to go. The question is is it normal and I think it is, we're not all jesus and the jesuits, we all have our ways of dealing with things so long as there is clear communication between the two of you i dont see a problem.

debrief08:
Read the post again, Is shouting normal when a spouse shouts down at the other in the presence of the kids and reports another adults to their kids? No It is not normal, If shouting down at your spouse in the presence of your kids is normal then if the husband reacts by slapping her also there then it is normal. So if a man beats his wife because he hates to talk and cant control his anger shebi it is normal too becuase he is not Jesus or a saint?
Dayokanu I get your point now, The issue is not even about the kids being present but about one partner shouting down the other, just like it wont matter if he beats her in front of the kids or when they are alone. It is not normal,
Each should learn to contro his/ her temper and find better ways to work things out, when you shout every time you are upset then you clearly have a problem managing your anger

queensmith:

We are twisting this thing up and down now, the question reads; is it normal for a woman to shout at her husband?

My answer is sure, what you are doing is knit picking and has nothing to do with my point.

queensmith:

We are twisting this thing up and down now, the question reads; is it normal for a woman to shout at her husband?

My answer is sure, what you are doing is knit picking and has nothing to do with my point.