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When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by ladyiyi21(f): 8:46pm On Oct 31, 2007
When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An African American Woman Expect? undecided

---The reasons behind which I'm opening this topic is, because I'm currently in college and dating a Nigerian man (Yoruba) for the first time. I tend to be very patient and willing to learn new things, so INSTEAD of getting angry when I don't understand his behavior, I try to remember we have our differences. I plan on later becoming a Marriage and Family counselor so I THINK the best place to start is within my own relationship, Sometimes he is the sweetest man ever, and I adore spending time with him, then at times its like he's sitting on a throne and I am catering more to his needs than he is to mines. Sometimes I think common sense should tell a man how to act towards his woman, but then I remember we have different views, I just basically would like to know why he can't/ or won't diverge away from his traditions for just a while (relationship wise), because I consider myself to be feminist, yet I've sacrificed some of that pride and cooked a few meals, cleaned up a bit, and done so without griping or complaining, wonder if he'd do the same,   smiley
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by kayshanky(m): 9:01pm On Oct 31, 2007
You will definitely expect different things like behaviours and understanding of opinions.You knew this before you agreed to date each other so i think the best to be ready to face all the joy of relationships and other side of it.
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 9:28pm On Oct 31, 2007

cooking & cleaning? babygurl, tell me what man in the US would do this more often, without griping, nontheless a Nigerian man? LOL
tho, there are some men infact, who do enjoy contributiing like that. If u find him, keep him. smiley

My X BOYFRIEND is Nigerian (Igbo) from PH and the reason we didnt make it, is because he leaves messy 'tracks' for me to see clear evidence of his inconsistency in behaviour. If you found a Nigerian man in US, try it out and learn as much of the culture as u can, because its a beautiful thing finding a GOOD man back from our original roots. BUT, if that joker aint acting right, and his behavour is INCONSISTENT and not what you want in a man, let his tail GO!.

Remember, Brothas, weather from US or Nigeria are not all put in the same category. some are worth their salt, and some need the boot. As far as the culture thing, someone on Nairaland may better help u with that understanding,

love & light,



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Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by femi20001: 12:02am On Oct 18, 2011
if you are dating a Nigerian man you must expect many things, in the culture of the Nigerians they always love to dominate their partner which means you should e somebody that is very patient, they always want to show that they are the Husband which means you have to be humble another thing you should expect is that they are easily carried away with love which means you need to hold unto him tightly so that he will not be snatched away from you/ Nigerian men love to be cared for.

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Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by kistehsia(f): 12:13am On Oct 18, 2011
I too am in a relationship with a Nigerian Man, I love him dearly. I am all about looking after him, love to cook for him, love to please him, I respect him as head of the household, I sometimes have an issue with him telling me how to better take care of my own needs(rest, eating more, just plain pampering myself) he can be firm about that but I am learning, have always done the looking after so now it feels a little odd when someone wants to look after me. But for the most part there have been no clashing issues, When and if they do arise we will deal with it appropriately, we have been very clear with the fact that if you don't say whats on your mind or troubling you it wont get dealt with.

kistehsia
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by lefulefu(m): 12:17am On Oct 18, 2011
OP a typical naija man loves pounded yam.So if u dating one u better start learning how to pound pounded yam ooo grin

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Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by tiniyata(m): 12:26am On Oct 18, 2011
dont try to tell him what to do only support him when he's made up his mind about somethin and do not argue wit him cos they hate intimidation. be respectful and trust me you'l always love a Nigerian man. cheers sweetie

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Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by MrsChima1(f): 12:48am On Oct 18, 2011
This thread was opened four years ago. undecided
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by lindabon(f): 2:44pm On Oct 18, 2011
Mrs, Chima:

This thread was opened four years ago. undecided

Muhahaha. . . . grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

I Wonder what happened to d OP and her 9ja bobo after every. . .

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Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by MMM2(m): 2:56pm On Oct 18, 2011
am out from here i can go back to 2007 angryangry
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by ivorybabe88(f): 11:26pm On Oct 03, 2012
femi 2000: if you are dating a Nigerian man you must expect many things, in the culture of the Nigerians they always love to dominate their partner which means you should e somebody that is very patient, they always want to show that they are the Husband which means you have to be humble another thing you should expect is that they are easily carried away with love which means you need to hold unto him tightly so that he will not be snatched away from you/ Nigerian men love to be cared for.

hmm even tho this was for her, thanks because im feeling the same way she is feeling, and this was helpful....but at the same time, they need to know that if your picking up an american women, they should know as well that here ( u.s.a.), everything is 50/50, you take care of me i take care of you.....because any other form shows that he is self centered, and only cares about himself.
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by ivorybabe88(f): 11:28pm On Oct 03, 2012
SwtNsoFLyy: some are worth their salt, and some need the boot.



true, some are worth it, others think theyre worth aint, but aint worth $hit!!!!
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by MrsChima(f): 2:12am On Oct 04, 2012
Lmao.
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by Nobody: 4:29am On Oct 04, 2012
Another shity thread about what to do when screwing a Nigerian man! WTF?
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by Exponental(m): 12:26pm On Oct 04, 2012
Mrs..Chima:
This thread was opened four years ago. undecided
now five years ago
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by boganj: 3:48am On Jun 23
OKAY yall i have been going wih this man for about 2 months and we were almost perfect from the start until thing start crashing down i although when we started dating i had no idea he was nigerian untill a week after us being together i never really cared to much because he seemed to be a great guy i also new that thing that he does was going to be different from thing i wasnt use to but i was willing to see pass that because i was really falling for this man he did everything i asked of him and vise versa he always wanted to be dominate and controlling almost possessive but i took it as he loved me which he did i tried to be very patient but he had a very bad temper which but a dent in our relationship i am 19 years old and he is 21 which he felt was a problem at first but we got passed it i started to really love him but his actions wouldnt let me he is very controlling insecure and sometime mindless he felt his word was always over mine because i was young and a american i actually dont put nigerians down because some of them are great just have to have patients to deal with them
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by sexylogan(m): 3:52am On Jun 23
SwtNsoFLyy:

cooking & cleaning? babygurl, tell me what man in the US would do this more often, without griping, nontheless a Nigerian man? LOL
tho, there are some men infact, who do enjoy contributiing like that. If u find him, keep him. smiley

My X BOYFRIEND is Nigerian (Igbo) from PH and the reason we didnt make it, is because he leaves messy 'tracks' for me to see clear evidence of his inconsistency in behaviour. If you found a Nigerian man in US, try it out and learn as much of the culture as u can, because its a beautiful thing finding a GOOD man back from our original roots. BUT, if that joker aint acting right, and his behavour is INCONSISTENT and not what you want in a man, let his tail GO!.

Remember, Brothas, weather from US or Nigeria are not all put in the same category. some are worth their salt, and some need the boot. As far as the culture thing, someone on Nairaland may better help u with that understanding,

love & light,




You've said it all.
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by sexylogan(m): 3:53am On Jun 23
boganj:
OKAY yall i have been going wih this man for about 2 months and we were almost perfect from the start until thing start crashing down i although when we started dating i had no idea he was nigerian untill a week after us being together i never really cared to much because he seemed to be a great guy i also new that thing that he does was going to be different from thing i wasnt use to but i was willing to see pass that because i was really falling for this man he did everything i asked of him and vise versa he always wanted to be dominate and controlling almost possessive but i took it as he loved me which he did i tried to be very patient but he had a very bad temper which but a dent in our relationship i am 19 years old and he is 21 which he felt was a problem at first but we got passed it i started to really love him but his actions wouldnt let me he is very controlling insecure and sometime mindless he felt his word was always over mine because i was young and a american i actually dont put nigerians down because some of them are great just have to have patients to deal with them

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Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by UncleLondon: 4:28am On Jun 23
MrsChima1:
This thread was opened four years ago. undecided

Almost 4 years ago you dropped that comment.
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by Finestlex(m): 5:15am On Jun 23
How come the only Canadian I dated was full of poo. Am a Nigerian and I won't say am perfect. We all have good and bad sides but we must embrace both in someone we love. I broke up with my girl last month cos she's too proud of herself that she's Canadian and am not. She believes I need her and she doesn't need me. Of cos I can't be an option to anyone when I make you a priority. I never knew she was Canadian and never asked her, she told me. I couldn't cope with her feeling I only met her in order to have my papers. We barely dated couple of weeks and she asked me to get her pregnant so she could help me with papers. I told her I wasn't interested cos am not in a haste. Back then, whenever we have any argument, she'll tell me am so African. She sometimes say she hates black but she's a dependent of Jamaica. She's likes to be in charge. She asked me to move into her apartment and I said no, she told me I was staying at my place so I could cheat on her, I had my place before I met her. I perfectly understood we got different backgrounds but she wanted me to act Canadian when am not. Am just a year old here. Smiles. Still single and searching anyways.

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Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by MrsChima(f): 5:22am On Jun 23
Finestlex:
How come the only Canadian I dated was full of poo. Am a Nigerian and I won't say am perfect. We all have good and bad sides but we must embrace both in someone we love. I broke up with my girl last month cos she's too proud of herself that she's Canadian and am not. She believes I need her and she doesn't need me. Of cos I can't be an option to anyone when I make you a priority. I never knew she was Canadian and never asked her, she told me. I couldn't cope with her feeling I only met her in order to have my papers. We barely dated couple of weeks and she asked me to get her pregnant so she could help me with papers. I told her I wasn't interested cos am not in a haste. Back then, whenever we have any argument, she'll tell me am so African. She sometimes say she hates black but she's a dependent of Jamaica. She's likes to be in charge. She asked me to move into her apartment and I said no, she told me I was staying at my place so I could cheat on her, I had my place before I met her. I perfectly understood we got different backgrounds but she wanted me to act Canadian when am not. Am just a year old here. Smiles. Still single and searching anyways.

She hates black but she is a descendant of Jamaican heritage? You do know there are several ethnicities in Jamaica?
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by suzzy16(f): 5:48am On Jun 23
lindabon:


Muhahaha. . . . grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

I Wonder what happened to d OP and her 9ja bobo after every. . .
maybe they ve eventually broke up,who knws
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by Finestlex(m): 6:01am On Jun 23
Her parents are pure Jamaicans..
MrsChima:


She hates black but she is a descendant of Jamaican heritage? You do know there are several ethnicities in Jamaica?

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Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by suzzy16(f): 6:14am On Jun 23
boganj:
OKAY yall i have been going wih this man for about 2 months and we were almost perfect from the start until thing start crashing down i although when we started dating i had no idea he was nigerian untill a week after us being together i never really cared to much because he seemed to be a great guy i also new that thing that he does was going to be different from thing i wasnt use to but i was willing to see pass that because i was really falling for this man he did everything i asked of him and vise versa he always wanted to be dominate and controlling almost possessive but i took it as he loved me which he did i tried to be very patient but he had a very bad temper which but a dent in our relationship i am 19 years old and he is 21 which he felt was a problem at first but we got passed it i started to really love him but his actions wouldnt let me he is very controlling insecure and sometime mindless he felt his word was always over mine because i was young and a american i actually dont put nigerians down because some of them are great just have to have patients to deal with them
all nigerian men re vry possessive and abusive,and they also treat their women vry bad,why dnt u try date a man frm ur own country
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by suzzy16(f): 6:15am On Jun 23
sexylogan:



eish,u never said it well than dis

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Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by suzzy16(f): 6:18am On Jun 23
Finestlex:
How come the only Canadian I dated was full of poo. Am a Nigerian and I won't say am perfect. We all have good and bad sides but we must embrace both in someone we love. I broke up with my girl last month cos she's too proud of herself that she's Canadian and am not. She believes I need her and she doesn't need me. Of cos I can't be an option to anyone when I make you a priority. I never knew she was Canadian and never asked her, she told me. I couldn't cope with her feeling I only met her in order to have my papers. We barely dated couple of weeks and she asked me to get her pregnant so she could help me with papers. I told her I wasn't interested cos am not in a haste. Back then, whenever we have any argument, she'll tell me am so African. She sometimes say she hates black but she's a dependent of Jamaica. She's likes to be in charge. She asked me to move into her apartment and I said no, she told me I was staying at my place so I could cheat on her, I had my place before I met her. I perfectly understood we got different backgrounds but she wanted me to act Canadian when am not. Am just a year old here. Smiles. Still single and searching anyways.
good,dnt let any woman control how u live ur life for u
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by MrsChima(f): 10:35am On Jun 23
suzzy16:
all nigerian men re vry possessive and abusive,and they also treat their women vry bad,why dnt u try date a man frm ur own country

Put on your full armor because manbishes will insult you. grin
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by suzzy16(f): 10:38am On Jun 23
MrsChima:


Put on your full armor because manbishes will insult you. grin
let them start now,I will insult them all,those useless bastards of a men
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by MrsChima(f): 10:48am On Jun 23
suzzy16:
let them start now,I will insult them all,those useless bastards of a men

Damn! grin
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by suzzy16(f): 11:21am On Jun 23
MrsChima:

Damn! grin
I just dnt like their ways,I'm hurt
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by Finestlex(m): 3:21pm On Jun 23
I ain't bossy when it comes to a relationship so I wouldn't let anyone play the role of a boss in my relationship.. To me, relationship is all about complement and not competition. It's well [quote author=suzzy16 post=35050645]good,dnt let any woman control how u live ur life for u[/quote]
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by Finestlex(m): 3:26pm On Jun 23
Suzzy16.. Don't say all Nigerian men are ppossessive and abusive. Maybe the few you've dated are. Don't generalize. As humans, we all have individual differences.. Always remember that

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