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When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by lady_iyi21(f): 8:46pm On Oct 31, 2007
When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An African American Woman Expect? undecided

---The reasons behind which I'm opening this topic is, because I'm currently in college and dating a Nigerian man (Yoruba) for the first time. I tend to be very patient and willing to learn new things, so INSTEAD of getting angry when I don't understand his behavior, I try to remember we have our differences. I plan on later becoming a Marriage and Family counselor so I THINK the best place to start is within my own relationship, Sometimes he is the sweetest man ever, and I adore spending time with him, then at times its like he's sitting on a throne and I am catering more to his needs than he is to mines. Sometimes I think common sense should tell a man how to act towards his woman, but then I remember we have different views, I just basically would like to know why he can't/ or won't diverge away from his traditions for just a while (relationship wise), because I consider myself to be feminist, yet I've sacrificed some of that pride and cooked a few meals, cleaned up a bit, and done so without griping or complaining, wonder if he'd do the same,   smiley
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by kayshanky(m): 9:01pm On Oct 31, 2007
You will definitely expect different things like behaviours and understanding of opinions.You knew this before you agreed to date each other so i think the best to be ready to face all the joy of relationships and other side of it.
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by SwtNsoFLyy(f): 9:28pm On Oct 31, 2007

cooking & cleaning? babygurl, tell me what man in the US would do this more often, without griping, nontheless a Nigerian man? LOL
tho, there are some men infact, who do enjoy contributiing like that. If u find him, keep him. smiley

My X BOYFRIEND is Nigerian (Igbo) from PH and the reason we didnt make it, is because he leaves messy 'tracks' for me to see clear evidence of his inconsistency in behaviour. If you found a Nigerian man in US, try it out and learn as much of the culture as u can, because its a beautiful thing finding a GOOD man back from our original roots. BUT, if that joker aint acting right, and his behavour is INCONSISTENT and not what you want in a man, let his tail GO!.

Remember, Brothas, weather from US or Nigeria are not all put in the same category. some are worth their salt, and some need the boot. As far as the culture thing, someone on Nairaland may better help u with that understanding,

love & light,



Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by femi 2000: 12:02am On Oct 18, 2011
if you are dating a Nigerian man you must expect many things, in the culture of the Nigerians they always love to dominate their partner which means you should e somebody that is very patient, they always want to show that they are the Husband which means you have to be humble another thing you should expect is that they are easily carried away with love which means you need to hold unto him tightly so that he will not be snatched away from you/ Nigerian men love to be cared for.
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by kistehsia(f): 12:13am On Oct 18, 2011
I too am in a relationship with a Nigerian Man, I love him dearly. I am all about looking after him, love to cook for him, love to please him, I respect him as head of the household, I sometimes have an issue with him telling me how to better take care of my own needs(rest, eating more, just plain pampering myself) he can be firm about that but I am learning, have always done the looking after so now it feels a little odd when someone wants to look after me. But for the most part there have been no clashing issues, When and if they do arise we will deal with it appropriately, we have been very clear with the fact that if you don't say whats on your mind or troubling you it wont get dealt with.

kistehsia
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by lefulefu(m): 12:17am On Oct 18, 2011
OP a typical naija man loves pounded yam.So if u dating one u better start learning how to pound pounded yam ooo grin
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by tiniyata(m): 12:26am On Oct 18, 2011
dont try to tell him what to do only support him when he's made up his mind about somethin and do not argue wit him cos they hate intimidation. be respectful and trust me you'l always love a Nigerian man. cheers sweetie
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by Mrs..Chima(f): 12:48am On Oct 18, 2011
This thread was opened four years ago. undecided
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by lindabon(f): 2:44pm On Oct 18, 2011
Mrs, Chima:

This thread was opened four years ago. undecided

Muhahaha. . . . grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

I Wonder what happened to d OP and her 9ja bobo after every. . .

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Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by M M M(m): 2:56pm On Oct 18, 2011
am out from here i can go back to 2007 angryangry
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by ivorybabe88(f): 11:26pm On Oct 03, 2012
femi 2000: if you are dating a Nigerian man you must expect many things, in the culture of the Nigerians they always love to dominate their partner which means you should e somebody that is very patient, they always want to show that they are the Husband which means you have to be humble another thing you should expect is that they are easily carried away with love which means you need to hold unto him tightly so that he will not be snatched away from you/ Nigerian men love to be cared for.

hmm even tho this was for her, thanks because im feeling the same way she is feeling, and this was helpful....but at the same time, they need to know that if your picking up an american women, they should know as well that here ( u.s.a.), everything is 50/50, you take care of me i take care of you.....because any other form shows that he is self centered, and only cares about himself.
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by ivorybabe88(f): 11:28pm On Oct 03, 2012
SwtNsoFLyy: some are worth their salt, and some need the boot.



true, some are worth it, others think theyre worth aint, but aint worth $hit!!!!
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by Mrs.Chima(f): 2:12am On Oct 04, 2012
Lmao.
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by Nobody: 4:29am On Oct 04, 2012
Another shity thread about what to do when screwing a Nigerian man! WTF?
Re: When Dating A Nigerian Man What Should An American Woman Expect? by Exponental(m): 12:26pm On Oct 04, 2012
Mrs..Chima:
This thread was opened four years ago. undecided
now five years ago

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