queensmith: so what exactly is the purpose of this thread? To bich about other peoples marriages? To make fun of some peoples failures? To moan because someone disagreed with your opinion or didn't take your advise?

Its no wonder why they say women are our own biggest enemies, if you have nothing to say, say nothing, this is all unnecessary and discouraging.

steph7: @ jenny, I did and each day that passes I am more sure that I made a right decision.there are a lot of things that happened that I didn't post here because of privacy.he is still begging but no time for him abeg!

Tgirl4real: u didnt really have to reply.

Seems you like having the last say.

loveheaven: Hmmmmmmm Jennykadry I thought I was the only one.
For days I have refused to login my user id but would come online as a guest see a post then sign out. It has been really depressing to a point where my thoughts would dwell on such and thank God for his grace, you would hear me shout aloud "God forbid, it is not my portion". I have done this unconciously for days and people around me ask, hope no problem? Can you imagine that?

I know, no marriage is without bumps but women really need to love themselves, Give yourself self-worth, commit all to God and not jump into marriage because it is a norm thing.

A friend lost her elder sister, who lost her life as a result of the beating her husband gave her barely 2 and half months after their wedding. They were actually supposed to wed in 2006 but did so in 2011. It was not the first nor tenth time he had been beating her but because she was the only one left in a family of 5 to be married, she threw caution to the wind. Two weeks to the wedding her Dad called off the wedding when he discovered the guy was abusive, but she threatened she would commit sucide if he didn't cooperate, she intimated that even my friend who was her younger sister by 5years was happiliy married. Oh if you see how the man has aged within 6months of her demise, wishing he had not listened to her cries and ill-advice he got from friends and family, she would still be alive, so he laments. The worst is the guy works with the government(Nigeria) and died the case even before it started. He claimed they were involved in an accident, barely 1 hour my friend spoke to her sister, who kept complaining she was tired of the marriage, and when my friend asked her what happened she said couldn't speak long that her husband was browsing on the internet a few feet from where she sat, that she would call back.
He wouldn't let her family see her corpse, until the a day to her burial where her eldest sister insisted she must see her(she is a Surgeon)Her report ruptured skull, internal bleeding, and several bruises all over her body, meanwhile the guy got a dislocation on his arm that dissappeared before the funeral, and the car not a single scratch.

What a waste! She sent herself to an early grave all in the name of love and the guy a freeman, soon to have another victim, What could be worse.

Unique!:
@ poster, it's simple. Simply stop posting replies to posts u find irritating, or even walk away sometimes.

I must say, however, that being here on the family section has really broadened my views on marriage generally. I was for long a silent reader here. I've been married for a number of years, but missed out on a lot of good advice when I was in dire need of them. I made mistakes, lots of them. I did not have the benefit of a different perspective, like I do now, reading from here. You guys don't know how you may be impacting someone's life, one way or another when you post. This section has been an eye opener for me, cos here in Nigeria, we don't have many marriage counselors. In more ways than one, I feel blessed being here, and all thanks to you all who care enough to reply. Don't you for any reason, feel angry when someone disagrees with you, or when your advice is rejected. This is bound to happen cos we are all different and reason differently. This in no way means someone else somewhere is not picking up the advice and using it for their own benefits.

maclatunji:

I love your post.

@Jennykadry, quit whining. If your marriage is sweet, good for you. Let those who want to be 'stupid' be 'stupid'. You cannot impose your 'wisdom' on anybody.

chaircover: Cotton, Don’t mind jenny o! She hasn’t been taking her meds lately. She is supposed to be on my side but she has decamped to Mr CC’s side. What happened is that I heard that there was petrol shortage on the News so I just branched into one yeye BP Petrol station to buy for £1.41 only to drive past ASDA a few minutes later to find out that it was £1.35. I felt like going back to BP and asking them to remove the petrol and give me back my money

BTW here is an update on the X5 – Mr CC told me with a straight face that he has bought me a keyholder that I will be using to hold the key to the X5 and what I need to do now is to have faith that in time God will provide the money to buy the key so that I can be using the keyholder he has bought me.

I no know again sef. The guy just dey use agbari for me. Few weeks ago, I just mentioned in passing that I like Black Prados. He just suddenly jumped up (see drama o!) and said that now I have confused him; that now he doesn’t know what to buy, that he may buy the wrong thing and he doesn’t want to do that. See psychology LOL. I just said oga abeg buy anything make we hear word jare

All I know that when it is time for my princess to marry Justin Beiber, our list will not comprise of Yams and suitcase. I must get that X5 somehow

chaircover: Naijababe LOL Me sef I reject am. Just as I reject my son being a premiership footballer. They all grow out these fantasies. A Few days ago she announced that she didn’t like JLS anymore. The same JLS that she made us buy concert tickets for. The same JLS that she made us buy all sorts of memorabilia for. The same JLS that she used to spend hours reading about

Anyway it is not strange. When I was younger I used to dream of marrying Michael Jackson

@cotton na ASDA O!

cotton101:

michael jackson Madam CC na real dream be that.

dayokanu: That means I had in you in mind since 2010