Consider these scenerio
1. Amaka (not real name) has been in school for 5 years studying to be a Petroleum Engineer. And just at the last phase of her graduation, a lecturer decides he needs sex from her to pass. Shes the only child in a broken marriage, and has to fend for her self. Another year in school means another year of bills which she can't handle. She does it, and then shes labelled BAD.

2. After graduation, Thelma(again not real name) served and has been in the labour(i now call it favour) market 6 years after service with no job. And suddenly it happens, she gets a job,and just at that point, a Sex man had to be planted at that point in her life before she can get the confirmation letter. 6 years of idleness can't be compared to anything if u know what i mean. she gives in and again shes labelled bad,

3. Nkirus presumed boyfriend for 3 years proclaims love with words and actions in bed, but not in finances. Shes also the product of an unsuccessful marriage, and lives with her mum, who can barely take care of 6 of them. About to be evicted from her accomodation off campus because she can't pay her rent, she meets a man who offers her the rent in exchange for inbetween the middle of the center of her legs. Boyfriend cldnt give her the rent, but hes wanting out for infidelity,

IF SOCIETY PUSHES YOU TO DO AGAINST THE WISHES OF THE SAME SOCIETY THAT PUSHED YOU IN TO IT, CAN You B TAGGED LOOSE? OR BAD?

other threads on this will follow suit, but i really need to know.WHAT GIVES US THE RIGHT TO JUDGE WHATS RIGHT AND WHAT ISNT?

what a cruel fate they suffered, almost thought i was listening 2 run away love by mary j. blige.

even though we dont have a right to judge, wrong remains wrong and not even God will listen 2 any excuse

while i don't wanna judge anyone, wrong is wrong and there's no excuse for doin wrong.

It's a pity that fate dealt them this blow but i believe there's nothing too big for GOD to HANDLE. In cases like these, PRAYER is the only key.

Temptations come in different forms but it's how we handle it/them that matter(s).

The decision really is theirs to make which of course is based on their values.

@poster

Almost everyone of us goes through mad moments of trials and temptations.

Just like the Christ went through his.

Giving in to dem trials and temptations is not enough excuse for not sticking to what you think is right.

You are merely carrying your own cross _{everyone carries thiers} at different times.

More importantly, the 'Unseen Eyes' watches and records 'everything'.

And man will one day give accout _{both the 'tempter' and the 'tempted'.}

So who do you fear? Society or God?!

Wow. What a thread. I believe NO girl would do otherwise in any of these circumstances. . .as long as she knows that nobody else would know. Hard knock life.

[size=33pt]Those who are in other people's business need to mind their own business and those who don't give a Bleep about other people's business need to shout it out loud and clear.[/size]

Inked_Nerd:


The best business about any business is to mind your own business. If you have no business of your own, make it your business to leave other people's alone

You made it sound so EASY and yet people can't follow through with that.

I encourage everyone to do the best they know to do - to their ability

God is understanding and Loving

If YOU achieve to "your best knowledge and your best ability" and you are genuine and sincere - that is ALL you can do.

With each choice you make comes growth

Trust that God knows that.

He is the judge and the jury - NOT MAN

@poster
Wrong is wrong however you wanna look at it. Thinking like you do then rapist/pedo is right because he was Hot, arm robbers is right because he was hungry and 419ers are right because they needed to pay their rent, NONSENSE!

Case #1: report the bast.ard to your parents, (real) friends and school board and keep your self esteem INTACT.

Case #2: keep searching for a job but make sure you report this guy to his superiors before you make a scandal and walk out of there.

Case #3: get your priority straight. go get a small job and put your studies on hold.

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I see your point though.

@ Mr. Brown

You make it sound sooo easy bro. The real world is a very mean place man. . .and it's all about survival. Most people would always trade in their dignity for survival if it comes to that. We would be shocked to death if we find out how many women (who seem decent) have had to trade their bodies in exchange for all kinds of favours or survival; just that (un)fortunately, many don't get caught - therefore their 'dignity' and 'good' reputations seem intact. I'm sure if you ask the girls in the situations described by the poster how they managed to graduate or get the job, they'd say "It's the Lord's doing oh; it's by His grace, we thank God oh"! (Dirty) secrets make the world go round, believe me.

^^ bro life aint easy and we have to make tough choices. The weak/greedy ones out there are the ones that easily fall for this kinda shiit. A strong minded person would act accordingly AND a religious person would pray and automatically know what's the RIGHT thing to do.
Of course many fall for these tricks because they are either ashis(unknowingly)or simply focusing on the wrong goals in life.

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@ Mr. Brown

You make it sound sooo easy bro. The real world is a very mean place man. . .and it's all about survival. Most people would always trade in their dignity for survival if it comes to that. We would be shocked to death if we find out how many women (who seem decent) have had to trade their bodies in exchange for all kinds of favours or survival; just that (un)fortunately, many don't get caught - therefore their  'dignity' and 'good' reputations seem intact. I'm sure if you ask the girls in the situations described by the poster how they managed to graduate or get the job, they'd say "It's the Lord's doing oh; it's by His grace, we thank God oh"! (Dirty) secrets make the world go round, believe me.

Life in itself is what we make of it.  It is that simple but humans want to make things complicated to feel though they are doing something when all in actuality they are not doing poo.  For some reason, in this era we are thriving to be complex and wonder why we have all these ills in the world.  Simplicity does not require much but it can be mundane for most people who are not creative or simply not imaginative.  We as humans put much stress in what important and what is not important hence your statement about the world being a mean place.  The world in itself is not mean, it the inhabitants in it that make it mean.