omoge:

it would be nice to help your lady push the cart, carry things, etc while you both shopping now eh .
some Nigeria family i stayed with during hols do help (from what i saw) maybe because i was there

Trust me, i went to the market with my mom all the time as a little boy. I did most of the shopping for an aunt i lived with for about 2 yrs so i fully understand what it is to go shopping with a wife or girlfriend. Its just hilarious anytime i see threads like these claiming Nigerian men are insensitive and lazy . . . if Chiogo had just put "some" before the words "Nigerian men", none of us would have bothered.

Some men are culturally sensitive and wont even go shopping with their wives . . . my dad is a primary example!
But there are plenty of men too who are willing to get down on their hands and knees and help their woman out.

chiogo:

I thought i was done. oops, Davidylan, for someone as smart as i thought u were, u sound pretty corny right now.

Its not my fault. Nigerian men too are sensitive when people generalize about them being lazy.

Hmm the funny thing is that most of the posts are coming from boys . . . anyway the thread was started by a teenager.

funny thread, wether its a man or a woman courtsey demands u help out if u are idle or watever, if i see my husband carrying heavy stuffs, i sure have to help him out while he does the same,

lol, i wont even like my husband going to get groceries wid me,

i am really tired of listening or reading about Nigerian women complain about Nigerian men; it is not by force, marry a non Nigerian guy and end your delusions.

the problem is that lady is just try to be in charge,
u no this days now the lady like being in command.
like day always say what a man can also day can also
do it bester.

After the crap most naija guys put us through, i think we have every right to complain. You people complain about us too now! ah ahn!

Women don't want to feel in charge - they want to feel invaluable and precious.

Aloib darling - nice to see ya here

@topic
they are both

Thats a man for you,

BOTH

aloib:

funny thread, wether its a man or a woman courtsey demands u help out if u are idle or watever, if i see my husband carrying heavy stuffs, i sure have to help him out while he does the same,

lol, i wont even like my husband going to get groceries wid me,

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!

prince_onx:

Meeeeeeeennnnnn naija guys/men I never knew you guys are this SENSITIVE! look at all that responses in just one wrongly asked question!

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!

ozigbo:

the problem is that
lady is just try to be in charge,

u no this days now

the lady like being in command.

like day always say what a man can also day can also
do it bester.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm! Na wah oh!

kulaShaker:

@topic
they are both

spoilt:

BOTH

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!

Somebody is going mad in this thread. Seun do something and close this thread.

Nigerian men are lazy because Nigerian women don't appreciate a good hardworking man ! They'd rather run after yahoo boys or the politicians ! Average Nigerian woman does not know that there is plenty of love and values in the heart of a black man. All they do is call love "yeye" and run after some putt-bellied, Gorilla-looking politician. Awon Omo onisekuse !

Make una go to this site http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1323751.aspx?p=2

hmmmmm, if nigerian men r that bad, go marry akata now. y u dey follow us come online dey run ur mouth?

did u also tell us who paid the bill for the shopping spree? The woman or the man? I am looking for a woman who will pay all the bills for me and I [b]WILL[/b]L do all the chores and carries guaranteed. I promise

lol. good one

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did u also tell us who paid the bill for the shopping spree? The woman or the man? I am looking for a woman who will pay all the bills for me and I [b]WILL[/b]L do all the chores and carries guaranteed. I promise

Why the generalisation?

Not that Nigerian men are lazy, it is due to our culture/belief that men could only do dat under an influence of juju because our (Nigeria) men staying abroad do carry thief wives bags when go shopping here in Nigeria during holiday without care for any gossip. Even they let their families aware dat wives are not met to be slave.

When them 9ja women call their husband Oga how will they expect their Oga to carry their bag. Oga and servant goes hand in hand. Anybody that call somebody Oga must be that persons servant.

In a proper African setting.The man is at liberty to choose exactly where to assist in the household chores BUT what is most important is for him to provide MONEY for the shopping.

Anything less,he's not a Naija man.

Not all of them but majority are highly insensitive._{The Egoism thing u know}

Interesting, and what if the lady has enough money for shopping, ie because she has a well paying job?
I remember staying with one of my Aunts in the states, they have three small children. My aunt was at work and the daughters hair needed combing, instead of just combing the hair, it was left by her husband, simply  because it wasn't appropriate for a man to do. I thought it was so silly, why not just comb your own daughters hair if it needed it? Instead he would rather go out with her hair unkempt. Why should that be a measure of manhood? What about fatherhood?

I just dont get it, lol

It is sad to still realise that some fellas here still generalize personal issues or individual behaviour, when it is actually meant to be separated. First and foremost I stand to say that it is an understatement to say Nigerian men are insensitive. The fact that only one has behaved like a monkey does not make all others the same. Even in Nigeria we see a lot of men who help their wives in the day to day activity.

londoner:

I remember staying with one of my Aunts in the states, they have three small children. My aunt was at work and the daughters hair needed combing, instead of just combing the hair, it was left by her husband, simply because it wasn't appropriate for a man to do. I thought it was so silly, why not just comb your own daughters hair if it needed it? Instead he would rather go out with her hair unkempt. Why should that be a measure of manhood? What about fatherhood?

I just don't get it, lol

From this I beleive you know it deep in you that not all Nigerian fathers will behave like your inlaw. As for me I am a guy, though not married but I weave hair for my little nieces because I am good in the art, in fact a couple of my inlaws learnt how to make different hair-do through me, DO YOU EXPECT ME TO NOW WAIT FOR MY WIFE TO COME AND DO SIMPLE COMBING ON A CHILDS HAIR LATER IN FUTURE?

In summary this has to do with individual differences , it should not be generalised. pppplllllzzzzzzzz

@ Richylaw, I am well aware that some men help with domestic things, this was one example.  How many Nigerian men braid their daughters hair though I wonder, let alone combing it? I think its very good that you do that, but If you tell your Nigerian friends that you braid hair, what is their reaction?

what the heck if my wife carry the shopping home while am with her? does that make me irresponsible, lazy or don't love her? its possible am not in good health and just decide to follow her to the mall for some fresh air.

Well, I dont think people would be complaining if the guy is sick and could not carry bags.
What do you think about someone who is in full health and does not offer to carry some bags, even if not all of them? Even if you met a male friend in the street carrying lots of bags bags, would you not offer to carry some? Let alone your own wife. Enough with the excuses fellas, lol

londoner-i like u alot o! i luv ur contributions onthe brightgirlee posts but plssssssssssssssssssssssssssss the guy just told u the problem wit dis debate and u still went on to generalize. ahn!ahn!
ki lo ma n se yin na!!

@poster answer = both

Leilah:

@poster answer = both

What do u mean? I though you are Irish how many nigerian men do u know.

Haba! African women, becos we don't carry shooping bag or push buggie now we are lazy. You can call us any name under the sun, i thought what a man can do a woman can do better. So all this shout about woman empowerment( i think we are all equal).

You want the men to:

pay for the shopping,
push the buggie,
push the trolley,
open the car door for u,
pack all the shopping in the car,
put the children in the car sit
and perform at nite
Haba!!!!!!

I wonder if there's anything that women don't want men to do for them these days. . .he's supposed to clothe u, feed u, carry the baby, do the dishes, cook, and carry all the baggage, if not he doesn't love u. . .what manipulation.
yet the only thing they actually want to do for themselves is compete with men, status wise. . .good goin!

cool4ny:

Haba! African women, because we don't carry shooping bag or push buggie now we are lazy. You can call us any name under the sun, i thought what a man can do a woman can do better. So all this shout about woman empowerment( i think we are all equal).

You want the men to:

pay for the shopping,
push the buggie,
push the trolley,
open the car door for u,
pack all the shopping in the car,
put the children in the car sit
and perform at night
Haba!!!!!!

Children - women can take care of
Open car door women can do that

Performing at night - the only thing that can make a man too tired for sex is his job