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Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by Nobody: 3:54am On May 26, 2012 |
Efemena_xy: Hmmmm I see you've had a change of heart from your initial plan. Good on you I must say :-) Madam, I bear you no hard feelings. However I advise that posters should always have a little sympathy with people who come here with problems.Some of us are on the rack of life and the words offered here could be the last hope between life and death. Back to the issue at hand we visited the massage home and completed all registrations.Apparently the method used is external massaging of the womb area in order to improve circulation of blood to the womb area,and according to her setting of the womb.In fact we met women who had applied the same system of treatment with success,so I am keeping my fingers crossed on this.The treatment is to last for three months.So I am hoping and praying that I will be back on this thread in a few months time to confirm success. Once again I wish to thank every one who has posted on this thread.May God be with all of you and your families. |
Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by Tgirl4real(f): 4:02am On May 26, 2012 |
I see brother that you've got this figured out. I'm glad u aint resulting to ur earlier plan. Please, don't just look at the success story. Also, try and find out if it has any side effect on d women. All the best. |
Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by PrettyCindy(f): 8:46am On May 28, 2012 |
@op u didnt reply to my question. Well i only wanted to help but it would have involved you coming down to Delta state. Anyway i hope and pray the Lord will put smiles on u and ur wife‘s face no matter how he does it or who he uses. Goodluck! |
Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by Nobody: 8:49pm On May 28, 2012 |
PrettyCindy: Can you tell me how I should respond to this, please? |
Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by PrettyCindy(f): 9:39pm On May 28, 2012 |
That is not the post am referring to. I asked u in another post if u live in Delta state. Anyway no probs. Bye |
Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by Tgirl4real(f): 10:29pm On May 28, 2012 |
Pretty Cindy, May be you were too hasty to judge |
Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by Nobody: 7:30am On May 29, 2012 |
Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by Tgirl4real(f): 10:41am On May 29, 2012 |
Hmmm. . . . Words of wisdom CC |
Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by Nobody: 12:17am On May 30, 2012 |
@chaircover, sometimes I guess a person just needs some unbiased opinions. |
Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by Genius100: 12:25am On May 30, 2012 |
I have little to no faith in traditional remedies for these types of issues. Anyways, people may not want to hear this, but those of use that live abroad know how imcompetent most naija doctors are compared to their peers overseas. There is a problem somewhere with either you or your wife. If there is no problem, perhaps you guys are not banging enough which I doubt. My advise for you is to find a fertility doctor in Nigeria with significant experience overseas or better yet travel overseas and get seen by competent medical doctors. It's difficult to remedy the problem without knowing the root cause. |
Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by moremi2008(m): 10:50am On May 30, 2012 |
chaircover: Maybe because we dont have the full picture and we are not related to people who have these issues, but sometimes we are very hasty to judge situations without reading between the lines. We also fail to place ourselves in peoples positions. There was a thread where someone was asking what people will do if they found another woman in their matrimonial bed. many said many different things, but the truth is no one really knows what one will do until God forbid one gets there. All this internet "mothering" and deciphering of innermost thoughts rubs me the wrong way. You can't possibly have 100% complete information about any individual OP's situation. People reply threads based on what limited information has been provided. We can only hope that whoever is seeking advice on here is also mature enough to take any advice given with a grain of salt. Adults with normal mental capacities don't base important decisions solely on Nairaland opinions anyway. They only come on here to validate previously held views and to expose themselves to opposing arguments. I come here to be entertained and to learn a little bit about my fellow Nigerians. I could care less if somebody jumped off a bridge because of something he/she read on the internet (that person would have committed suicide anyway, with or without the internet). |
Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by Tgirl4real(f): 11:10am On May 30, 2012 |
moremi2008: I am glad you said "HOPE" moremi2008: Adults with normal mental capacities don't base important decisions solely on Nairaland opinions anyway. They only come on here to validate previously held views and to expose themselves to opposing arguments. People may not . . . but words have a way of creeping into our subconsciousness with out we knowing it. Eventually, when making the decision, we find the traces of things we have read, heard, seen on it. |
Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by moremi2008(m): 11:24am On May 30, 2012 |
Tgirl4real: But then you can make the same argument for things we hear on TV or even on the streets! Nollywood is not going to stop producing foolish drivel and fantasies because they are afraid people will base important life decisions on what they see in the movies! Same thing for the internet! We can't possibly hold ourselves responsible for how people read or interpret our words on here! If an adult reads my opinion and decides to go act on it, the repercussions of his actions are his alone, and not my business. All we offer on here are words, opinions, jokes, insults, stories, lies, propaganda etc etc... readers make of those words make of them what they please. It's a free and very adult world, imho. |
Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by EfemenaXY: 11:51am On May 30, 2012 |
chaircover: Maybe because we dont have the full picture and we are not related to people who have these issues, but sometimes we are very hasty to judge situations without reading between the lines. We also fail to place ourselves in peoples positions. There was a thread where someone was asking what people will do if they found another woman in their matrimonial bed. many said many different things, but the truth is no one really knows what one will do until God forbid one gets there. People give their advice based on the information presented by the owner of the thread. This is an internet forum where different people with different outlooks on life give their opinions on a problem posted. It's the responsibility of the thread starter to provide as much information as possible so others can have a balanced view of the issue at hand. Go through the poster's initial posts. He started off quite determinedly to try his luck elsewhere. Although most people were against this option from the onset, their tone was understanding and not harsh. A lot of alternatives were suggested but it all seemed to fall on deaf ears. The poster merely reiterated his initial plans. That's when the tone changed and harsher responses were posted. Afterall, what's the point in asking for advice if you decide to ignore helpful suggestions, but would rather stick to your guns? That to me spells a number of things / opinions of him I wouldn't want to go into more detail on. It wasn't until his what? 4th or 5th post that he admitted there was an alternative, re: traditional massages. I also do not believe suggestions given in an anonymous, faceless forum are the be-all-and-end-all that would tip a person over the edge. Such a person would have gone that direction irrespective of what's been posted. I have very strong views on extra-marital affairs whatever the circumstances might be and I'll shout it from the rooftops if need be. If I'm deemed harsh because of that, then so be it. Nevertheless, just as the poster conceeded that there are alternative options worth pursuing, I too can conceed with him and apologize for being a bit hard on him. We live in a dynamic world where change is inevitable. Now that's my opinion. |
Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by Tgirl4real(f): 3:28pm On May 30, 2012 |
moremi2008: We are on the same page |
Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by TheMadame(f): 12:49pm On Sep 20, 2012 |
I wonder if the OP had any success with this traditional method of treatment on his wife? |
Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by Kobojunkie: 3:52pm On Sep 20, 2012 |
BrotheR18: I have been married to my wife for 10 years now,without the marriage yielding any fruits.As we all know the fruit of any marriage is children.So for 10 years now no fruit of this marriage.I do not want to write a long missive but you the members of the forum need to understand a bit about my problem. All the above na useless story! Virginity at marriage does not determine your ability to procreate. There are many virgins out there who will be shocked that they are unable to have kids and so your story up there sounds more like that from someone who is uneducated and needs to get some serious education on how babies are made( at least). BrotheR18: Ever thought of adoption? I mean it is not by force to have kids in a marriage. There are so many marriages that are childless and doing great. I get that whole "We must drag our own DNA into this world because we are married" ideology that many africans seem to cling to pretending it is what God said SHOULD happen but you do know that God also made those orphans out there in need of parents too, right? They are no less human that whatever baby you are thinking of dragging into this world there. |
Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by friedmeat: 4:37pm On Sep 20, 2012 |
TheMadame: I wonder if the OP had any success with this traditional method of treatment on his wife? That's one thing i hate about NL,ppl don't give updates to their stories. |
Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by james1(m): 1:24am On Sep 23, 2012 |
friedmeat: Your head de there! Another children freak;imagine this level of worry after typying with his own fingers that the doctors said nothing is wrong with them medically. Oga poster;pls note that there are a a couple of things that could prevent a woman from conceiving,heat from fire,anxiety,low sperm count and as someone has noted earlier,irregular ovulation periods. Chief among these is ANXIETY,it causes to be launched, all other system faluires.should your beloved wife be anxious,which am sure is possible because of the number of years you people have waited,she won't be able to conceive. Before you divorce your beloved wife,do proper physical and since you are a christian,spiritual check for yourself and her. Its important you two sit down and have a heart to heart discuss on this matter,agree and "start work"on yourselves. Your's trully has seen cases of this nature with spectacular christians,take your petitions to the lord in prayer. Before long,the lord will proffer a solution which am sure is in front of you but you can't see due to the high level of anxiety which must have beclouded your view. All the very best. |
Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by Jellitah: 10:18am On Feb 08, 2013 |
There is no need to 'get' another woman pregnant behind her back. . . GET ANOTHER WOMAN PREGNANT ASAP. . . .'IN FRONT OF HER BACK". . . That way, your wife will be forced to LEAVE BY HERSELF. . . Getting a divorce from her by any other means is NOT POSSIBLE, because, you will not be BRAVE enough to say goodbye and part amicably! |
Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by EfemenaXY: 1:41pm On Feb 08, 2013 |
Jellitah: There is no need to 'get' another woman pregnant behind her back. . . GET ANOTHER WOMAN PREGNANT ASAP. . . .'IN FRONT OF HER BACK". . . That way, your wife will be forced to LEAVE BY HERSELF. . . Getting a divorce from her by any other means is NOT POSSIBLE, because, you will not be BRAVE enough to say goodbye and part amicably! Na wa oh! Jellita, I learn new things from you everyday... Abeg, explain...which one be in front of her back again?? |
Re: I Don't Want To Divorce Her,but Do I Have Any Choice? by Jellitah: 6:25pm On Feb 08, 2013 |
Efemena_xy: The opposite of 'behind' her back is 'in front of her back'! UNDER HER KORO KORO H-EYES!!!! |
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