Hello pals, I am in my late twenties and have a girlfriend who I adore with passion. She adores me as well. Adding to that, I love her, but my issue with her is that she hardly calls or even flash me. Her usual excuse is that she rarely has air time. And even when I send her air time, she just calls to say "Thank you" and that will be it till she runs out of credit again. I have complained several times about this uncaring attitude of hers but there has been no change. Although she claims to love me and says she sees me as her husband (I am yet to propose to her). I am contemplating walking out of our relationship which is just four month old because I feel it is one sided. I am completely fed up. Please house, tell me what you think.

P.S - She schools in another town and far away from me also.

Your advice is welcome and appreciated. Thanks.

see wahala?
She's ur galfren not girlfriend so stop wasting time on this girl.
Trust me if a girl loves you she will be glued to her phone 24/7 waiting for ur call and will spend more calling you than anybody else.
Stop forcing this cz it aint going nowhere.
Or give yourself a break and see what she does.Reverse psycho works at times.

Hi there, well as a woman, I know that if a lady likes or loves a guy, a woman does not hold back regardless. I sure hope am not gonna hurt your feelings when I say this but that lady does not love you. I guess she’s just not that in to you. But I’ll tell you something, don't tell her you are leaving her, just start ignoring her and start doing what she does to you, I can guarantee you that she will step up.....every one wants what they can't have. Good luck .

She's probably being elusive to make you want her more. And just probably does not know when to stop.

@pendo89,tnx a million,am grateful@pronysha...tnx dear..i tried dat,i didnt cal her for close to a week..n wen i eventualy decided to cal her cos i was missng her..she reactd by complaing n interogatng me on why i had nt calld her for days..i was dumbfounded n suprisd dat she felt d same i felt wen she dosent call..i confrontd er wt dis tot of mine n she apologisd dat she wld change,since then,notin has changed..bt i ve a feelng she's cheatng on me tho she has denied dis several times..

dude find another gal am sowi 2 say, dat gal dont rly luv u shes jus keepin u as a substitute incase d one shes has presently mess up den she wil hv 2 console herself its an advice find another

pendo89: see wahala?
She's ur[b] galfren not girlfriend[/b] so stop wasting time on this girl.
Trust me if a girl loves you she will be glued to her phone 24/7 waiting for ur call and will spend more calling you than anybody else.
Stop forcing this cz it aint going nowhere.
Or give yourself a break and see what she does.Reverse psycho works at times.

Rocktation: She's probably being elusive to make you want her more. And just probably does not know when to stop.

#coughs#

intelligen: Hi pals,am a guy in his late twenties n i ve a galfren i adore wt passion...i luv her so much,bt my issue wt her is dat she hardly calls or even flashes me...on d xcuse dat she dosent ve airtime,even wen i send her airtime,she only cals to say tank u n dat's it...ve complaind severaly to her bout dis uncaring atitude bt der's no change tho she claims she loves me n even sees me as her husbnd( tho ve nt proposed to her)...presntly,am contemplatng walkng out of dis 4mths old relatnship cos i feel it's a one-sided relatnshp coupled wt d fact dat am completely fed up...pls wat do u guys tink?(she's a student n stays far away frm me)

for the sake of curiosity, how old is ur gf? Is she a minor or an adult like u? Without giving details abt her age, i cannot give an objective opinion...

D girl in questn is 24yrs old n a final yr studnt of a university in d south south...,@rocktatiön,i dnt tink so judging frm her attitude tho ve neva rili tot in dat direction...tnx al d same

stop calling her and buying her credit, she will know how to find a way to call you immediately!

ArQueBusieR:
#coughs#

What's up with your throat, mister?

pronysha:
Hi there, well as a woman, I know that if a lady likes or loves a guy, a woman does not hold back regardless. I sure hope am not gonna hurt your feeling when I say this but that lady does not love you. I guess she’s just not that in to you. But I’ll tell you something, don't tell her you are leaving her, just start ignoring her and start doing what she does to you, I can guarantee you that she will step up.....every one wants what they can't have. Good luck .

i agree wiv her...jst try nd ignore her...even wen she calls pick nd tell her u busy she shld call u bk...if she doesnt call u too dnt call, she ll eventually call nd ask y dnt u call bk, nd wen she ask? tell her u were so tired...continue dis nd u ll see d diff...trust me

am almost in the same mess,and the advice I got was to just give her space to either value or show me what see really wants,the truth is that....when we men fall in love,we see the fact but we still push for it.....I think am starting my giving her space today..

intelligen: D girl in questn is 24yrs old n a final yr studnt of a university in d south south...,@rocktatiön,i dnt tink so judging frm her attitude tho ve neva rili tot in dat direction...tnx al d same

since she is 24 yrs old and stil behaves non-chalantly towards u, i'd advise that u dump her sorry arse. You displayed ur over caring attitude towards her frm the start. Do not show a woman that u love so much else she wil take u for a ride. U need to act the man in the relatnship and stop being a sissy

Michaelamo: am almost in the same mess,and the advice I got was to just give her space to either value or show me what see really wants,the truth is that....when we men fall in love,we see the fact but we still push for it.....I think am starting my giving her space today..

Michaelamo: am almost in the same mess,and the advice I got was to just give her space to either value or show me what see really wants,the truth is that....when we men fall in love,we see the fact but we still push for it.....I think am starting my giving her space today..

my broda...e no easy at all,funny enof,its always d guy dat dosent cherish dem dat dey end up with..

Rocktation:
What's up with your throat, mister?

Nothing's up my throat, ma'am. You just seem so. . . experienced.

but wait a minute oooo

It might be her kind of person.Myself i do same ,my hussy,friends and my siblings have been complaining,its not that i dont have airtime,but its my just my nature.Am trying to improve anyway

Just out of interest..have you guys been intimate with each other?....and if/when you are together..what is her mood like towards you? Is she romantic with you or stand-offish?..cos thats the best way to determine if she is for real or just another fake!..In my opinion she's the latter and should have been dumped months ago!..Sounds to me she is just using you for credit...and cos you are happy to oblige she is selfishly taking advantage....

women sef..una awuf too much!

mimima: but wait a minute oooo

It might be her kind of person.Myself i do same ,my hussy,friends and my siblings have been complaining,its not that i dont have airtime,but its my just my nature.Am trying to improve anyway

The GF is using the Dude for credit..airtime is not the issue here..she doesn't have the time for my guy..simple!

pronysha: that lady does not love you. I guess she’s just not that in to you. But I’ll tell you something, don't tell her you are leaving her, just start ignoring her and start doing what she does to you, I can guarantee you that she will step up.....every one wants what they can't have. Good luck .

i endorse this with emphasis on the bolded. . .

queensmith: stop calling her and buying her credit, she will know how to find a way to call you immediately!

and this. . . .

Dude, she's not that into you. The fact that you didn't call her for a week and it didn't occur to a 24-yr old almost graduate to call and check on you, particularly in these perilous times we live in, in Nigeria, well, what does that tell you? Instead, she waited for you to call so she could complain that your weekly recharge card sending and stroking-her-ego phonecall hadn't come in.

ArQueBusieR:
Nothing's up my throat, ma'am. You just seem so. . . experienced.

I'm just no bringer of bad news, you know me.

Tnx a lot frens...am realy n gradualy envisaging how to solve d puzzle wt ur tremendous n incisive comments...i jst feel a bit lighter now cos ve been pretty worried over dis,no tanks to my luv 4 her..tho i must mentn dat ve stopd sendng her airtym for quite a wile now...n funy enof she dosent make demands on me,besides she always tels me she dosent want to lose me...dat's y it apears more confusng b4 i brought it to dis forum...bt i gues d solutn is nt far fetched now...tnx once again

@op, for guys dat av been into dis game u realize dat thr r som babes u call only in time of congi, dats same wit ladie wu dnt call u at all,if a lady. Loves u,even wen u r far,ur voice is d. Bridge,d magic n substitute for presence, "a mans voice alone is enof for a lady over d distance" abi sistas I lie? So @op,if u don nak am apako FIND ya way else form mugu till she come,nak am ur own and act nonchalant 2.

Wow make talk no too much jor, guy go package ur inner game doubleyourdatingadvice.com for tips

I am leaning more to the side that this babe doesnt love you, if she did you wont have to manipulate or even give her a reason to call you. While giving her space to miss you and call you on her own is not a bad idea, in a relationship as new as yours (4 months) i see no reason why this should already be happening. The fact that you already did not call for a week and all she did was complain when you eventually did tells me that she either doesnt love you or she is seeing someone else. In your shoes, i will walk away and find someone else that appreciates me.

Lose the broad jorh. If she does not have time for you as much as you want and does not change after you complain, this means that she does not want to makesacrifice and does not want to be in the relationship. Simple

from what i've read so far, u are her BACKUP PLAN

Hmmmn! You don't jes conclude overnight that your relationship has come to a halt. The thing is, try to see her nd discuss with her. If things dont improve then tel her to call it short. Love is the foundation of a relationship and,Communication and Trust are the two things that runs d relationship

okay

Funny enof u got the answer ryt there in front of u but u still ask question. A call is one of d simplest yardsticks to measure a true relationship/feeling. And the truth is when its more=care which maybe love but if its less=careless/no feelings/ someone else. I for one have a very terrible call attitude, i may not call my siblings or friends in weeks but nothing will stop me from not hearing my man's voice when i wake, during d day & last thing at night cos he is my peace n happiness. He doesnt have to send me credit n i will never ask and in such situation watch d way he will gladly send u d credit with surprise when u tell him that ur out of credit thats why u cudnt call, the worst part of it is i will feel bad even using d credit to make other calls. A man dating u and caring for u aint stupid so stop feeling u can cheat him, he plainly just likes u. Shes not seeing u alone believe me, but she doesnt wanna let u go either. U can either choose to stay or luk at d brighter side: Ur Call!