I was wondering... were our fore-fathers "forced" or coaxed to pay such gigantic, extravagant, "community-service-size" of bride price that guys are forced to pay these days? Were they asked to bring like a 100 or 300 tubers of yam or more? Did they have to buy things like they were feeding a village or some form of community service or philanthropic donation? Did they have to pay for a reception hall? Did they have to spend up to half a million(in their own currency as at then) or more becos they wanted to get married? Were they usually given a long list which usually included kinsmen that the girl's parents don't even have an acquaintance with? And if they eventually brought all these(without having to borrow), what did they have left to feed their new family?

Looking at today's wedding running costs, it's not just making any economic sense. What is the rationale behind spending over half a million on a two days event, that definitely won't bring back any financial dividends? Can't a dude get married with a maximum of 300,000 naira in this country, I mean including the total cost of traditional, court and white wedding?

Am very sure that in the developed world, wedding is not that expensive? Or is it because of our under-developed or poverty-inclined thinking? Isn't it time we questioned this pocket-sucking-dumb-tradition of ours?

I go to church and the pastors do encourage the youths to marry early, especially in order to avoid fornication. But the so-called tradition is not encouraging us to do so. An average guy has to save and eventually waste over half a million in order to have a "standard" wedding. I mean, what is even the definition of a "standard" wedding in the Nigerian context? Can't a man have a sub-standard wedding, depending on his pocket size? What happened to the old saying "Cut your coat according to your cloth", or is it not applicable to this case? Isn't it high-time this tradition of spending too much on wedding be reviewed and updated? Or is it a indirect means of encouraging late marriages?

Sorry I had to pop out many questions, but these have been my thoughts lately? And I would really appreciate some meaningful contribution to this, cos this thing is quite annoying?

Great. Another guy complaining about how "expensive" women are. If you think you can't afford women, TRY MEN

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This is one aspect of our culture that has to be looked at critically. What most people do not understand is that the culture of 'bride price' not only cheapens the Nigerian female, but it also invariably means that the Nigerian female is a commodity (not much different from any grocery item) that can be bought and sold at a price. The good news is that most educated families in Nigeria no longer practise such culture, it seems to be limited to the illiterates and bare-lettered sections of our society.

Cows and sheeps were worth fortune back in the day so you got lucky.

O

Mrs.Chima:
Cows and sheeps were worth fortune back in the day so you got lucky.

O

lol

These muthafuckers are broke ass Mofos..

NO TRADITION HAS A BRIDE PRICE THAT REACHES 200,000 Naira...

Whats expensive are the things you have to buy for the ceremony like Yams and wrappers..

And yes, Bride Price has always been expensive.. Even Jacob for bible had to gba Nwaboy (do houseboy) for 14years to get babe..

Mynd_44: Great. Another guy complaining about how "expensive" women are. If you think you can't afford women, TRY MEN

whats the sense in what you just posted now?

guy if u dey broke go collect one fulani babe with 24lashes for free

I was there when my dad droped £15k as ma mum's bride price. Dat was B4 the war.

Mynd_44: Great. Another guy complaining about how "expensive" women are. If you think you can't afford women, TRY MEN

Almost laughed...

Mynd_44: Great. Another guy complaining about how "expensive" women are. If you think you can't afford women, TRY MEN

I mam sure You are a bloody bachelor, When you get married like us , then come back and tell us your mind.

You are talking about which particular tradition?

CHESSBOARD:

I mam sure You are a bloody bachelor, When you get married like us , then come back and tell us your mind.

Or maybe he's TRIED MEN!! or TIED THEM..

Mrs.Chima:
Cows and sheeps were worth fortune back in the day so you got lucky.

O

at least you can easily pick one from your granny's backyard

musKeeto:
Or maybe he's TRIED MEN!! or TIED THEM..

, all these boiz still being spoon feed by their father

chai!

i am tired of this tradition, contemplatin marryin a non-igbo but a catholic woman.

its because of this exorbitant bribe price,that many guys are not married,the family of a girl, always want to use her marriage time as a time to hammer,its high time we put an end to this archaic tradition.

The solution to that problem is too simple. Impregnant the girl and her parents will be begging you to just show your face.

Mynd_44: Great. Another guy complaining about how "expensive" women are. If you think you can't afford women, TRY MEN

How does the cost of a wedding equates the value of a woman?

Lordave: I was there when my dad droped £15k as ma mum's bride price. Dat was B4 the war.

As a ghost or how?

Lordave: I was there when my dad droped £15k as ma mum's bride price. Dat was B4 the war.

ur mother must Queen Elizabeth for her to be that costly.

ZUBY77: The solution to that problem is too simple. Impregnant the girl and her parents will be begging you to just show your face.

na wetin dem dey want be dat.

ZUBY77: The solution to that problem is too simple. Impregnant the girl and her parents will be begging you to just show your face.

guy abeg no b lie u talk jawe.....LWKMD

stepo707:
whats the sense in what you just posted now?

sosoluv: The problem is simple to solve if u are so worried abt ur pocket, go get a woman who thinks the same way u think. Get married to her and stop bothering the rest who think otherwise

dis is anoda child talkin, how much do u know abt planning and keeping a home?
i am sure u dont have a source of income ,and yu come here blabbing,
when u get ready to get married, i pray that man u love dont think de way u think so u get a little frustrated and change de way yu think.

for God`s sakes, how would a parent ask a man to pay and buy things worth over half a million,
i have a guy in dis office here that wanna marry in Akwa ibom and he was given a list thats worth over 700k and he can afford it but told de lady to wait some more.

i have a friend dat wedded in march , he spent over 1.5m naira on traditional marriage and de rest, u can imagine dem imposing bills on the traditional wedding day, it was so annoyin that de guy contemplated quitting the whole stuff .


its pathetic, are we selling our daughters or giving them out in marriage.?

ZUBY77: The solution to that problem is too simple. Impregnant the girl and her parents will be begging you to just show your face.

na so i did mine, kobo i no pay, na beg den start begging me.

Scarpon: guy if u dey broke go collect one fulani babe with 24lashes for free

LWKMD

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nakedall:

na so i did mine, kobo i no pay, na beg den start begging me.

Badt guy

i have heard people say there is something like low key. Bride price is not that expensive. Forgive yourself and spend all you need to spend for the stipulated items on the list. try to buy your father inlaws heart with prayers,loyalty and some modest gifts. also, be truthful to your girl on the size of your pocket. she can help you talk to her father ,that the items on the list be cut down. it is very possible. if your church allows it, you can just do church blessings. later, you can call a get together of your friends. Your babe must agree with you oo!