sanb: i laugh you got a honda suv okay there are women who drive in a sport car like mine which dwarfs yours in monetary value. you are the sort of man that i would take to a boutique and i select a pair of sunglasses for 100k in naira terms and would say oh i left my wallet at home. but that is how much the sunglasses i currently use cost. you got to know that there are ladies out there who are more financially comfortable than you are take it or leave it....

sanb: LOL you sure about that don't let me put you in debt. the Wrist watch i wear alone is about 3 million naira you sure you can afford to spend that sort of money on a woman think again before i book the shopping trip.

sanb: LOL you sure about that don't let me put you in debt. t[b]he Wrist watch i wear alone is about 3 million naira [/b]you sure you can afford to spend that sort of money on a woman think again before i book the shopping trip.

sanb: oh please quite flattering yourself it would'nt get you any where. i don't need to know your worth as i might be worth more than you are and as for the car you drive you just said a honda suv which to me does not cost too much. and i still stand by my ground you might not be able to afford my shoping spree. and as for having a cheap boy friend don't make me laugh at least they are not arrogant like you as i can tell just by your comments without even meeting you in person.

sanb: oh please quite flattering yourself it would'nt get you any where. i don't need to know your worth as i might be worth more than you are and as for the car you drive you just said a honda suv which to me does not cost too much. and i still stand by my ground you might not be able to afford my shoping spree. and as for having a cheap boy friend don't make me laugh at least they are not arrogant like you as i can tell just by your comments without even meeting you in person.

sanb: oh please quite flattering yourself it would'nt get you any where. i don't need to know your worth as i might be worth more than you are and as for the car you drive you just said a honda suv which to me does not cost too much. and i still stand by my ground you might not be able to afford my shoping spree. and as for having a cheap boy friend don't make me laugh at least they are not arrogant like you as i can tell just by your comments without even meeting you in person.

Yomieluv: Pick a date,let me see how xpensive u are.and pls come with a camera to show NL as a proof,since it al started here.i bliv in action,not word.i bet u that i will surpass ur xpectation..

sanb: what are you doubting if i may ask is it that it is too expensive for a lady to wear a watch that cost that much if a lady has worked hard in her life and climbed the corporate ladder i don't think anything is too expensive for her to buy.

Babzilla:

Hahahahahaha! Cant blame me. Im just allergic to Bullsh!+ thats all.

Onyenna: The way you act determines a guy's expections of you.... Playing hard to get might actually increase a guy's expectations of you(cos he sees you as someone who's too decent) and this might backfire... A guy can easily forgive a girl that didn't play hard to get...for me, Girls who give in easily are not necessarily cheap... It simply shows you are mature enough to know what you want... I have never labelled a girl 'CHEAP'...even if a girl approaches me, it means she really likes me cos it ain't easy for a girl to show you how she feels...... Naah my own be that ooooh

Mcfemad: Hmmm...! Cheap boyfrriends? This is serious!!!

Kobojunkie:

Oh!! So you were the one who made that silly comment . . . . . Well, see . . . you see a Nigerian child here has once again shown yet another one of your argument's full of Shi0t.

P.S. If I were 40, and single, I would be proud cause it takes a Stronger Person to stand on own at that age, don't you think? Now, for a woman to do it, that is even stronger because when Men do it, African societies considers it NORMAL-- it is almost like there is even more respect accorded him for being a man and single at that age and beyond. But in the same Africa (majority of the people with your mindset in that society), when a woman does exactly the same thing, it is not only harder, but she is DEMONIZED, as if she were carrying a curse, or committed a crime. There was a movie made a couple of years ago that highlighted this problem. It was sad but true.

Well, I probably shouldn't expect someone with your brain capacity to know that the significance of all this(especially given the ridiculous comments you have more than once confirmed did come from that case of yours), should I?

Emperoh: Enjoying this all!! Nice insights

One thing works for me; i lay my cards on the table if i really dig u
If u are game, we roll else i move on. I got no time to keep reading the epistles over and over again.
I did that as a teenager.

If i want to just lay you, i guess that's where all my mind games come in
I can even do the chasing some teenage stuff.

But if i want you for keeps, i will have already assessed u and then gbam, i tell u what i want.
If u like begin all the i have a BF thing, i am off your case with your first answer. No short-cuts.

ronkebp:

Shut-up!!!! my two lines has given birth to your 9 lines......you are still smoking d/o/p/e? at your age you need to retire and leave the kids to it.

Kobojunkie:

As usual . . . More insinuations all in a desperate attempt to continue side-stepping the point. So let me see . . . According to you, I am 40, single now I smoke dope . . . WOW . . and this from someone who complained that 9 lines PREDICTING THIS is too much . . . . . If Lying to yourself that I am the enemy and hence needs to be DEMONIZED, go right ahead. . . you really are predictable . . when you grow up, let me know. Till then . . . keep lying to yourself that I am the problem. . . works for me.

sashaa: I'm grateful for all the replies, thanx to the Mods who got this to the front page.
From all ur sincere comments, it can be deduced that playing hard to get isnt d ish at all. I'm gonna make sure my friends who have been preaching to me get to read this.
Its all so weird to me u know, like why would i lie that am busy when a guy i happen to like asks me out for a date or hang out. Thats petty in my book.
Why shouldnt i pick up my phone to call the dude just to say hi n know how he is faring. I mean its not like am gonna hound him with calls and sms professing my undying love or somthing. Smh.
For me, its be yourself, be nice, be accomodating.

Kobojunkie:

Like someone said, this current generation of Nigerian men are not made of the same material their fathers were. I say you are wise to choose to continue being yourself. It is what matters more than all the petty things many especially insecure people cling to.

deebrain: With all the work around and all the money to be made and all the dreams to be met, is there still time for a guy to be dragging with a lady playing "hard to get"? Im friendly with ladies naturally and ladies are good friends-really dependable. But if a lady i meet for the first time, shows that unfriendly thing in the name of "hard to get", i simply smile and walk away. Simply put-forget her....

Kobojunkie:

Yet many in this generation are no richer, nor more hardworking than the last generation. Ogbeni, try come up with a better excuse next time.

deebrain:

Like the excuse that u should also contribute...instead of picking holes in another's contribution.