He who knows the rule of the game ll definitely win, so playing hard to get is not the solution to ur problems but wisdom and always try to be urself at all times.

drnoel:
Oh! then u know very little about men. Cos if a man feels u hurt his ego, he´d do almost anything to get ur ass and when he has u are finished.

Really educate me more!!!

Well for men still in the market playing hard to get can be very irritating. I remember then when I was younger, I suffered so much under the hands of several girls but then while in university and after I started working I learnt to give myself just a 2 weeks deadline for any girl I took interest in. It always worked, cos almost all the silly girls turned around after a while. No one has that time to spend time programming a lady. There are better things to do besides guys know when one lady hold its back several others give it up. Where I used to draw my line while I was single was going after married women or men,..I abhor that and find it irritating when I see it happening.

duni04:
Very very ridiculous contribution...extreamly ridiculous

i should fine the meaning of that word, 'ridiculous'. Ladies don't look down on me cos i don't knw the meaning o! * Running2dDictionary! *

duni04:
Very very ridiculous contribution...extreamly ridiculous

i should fine the meaning of that word, 'ridiculous'. Ladies don't look down on me cos i don't knw the meaning o. Ok just searched it up.

drnoel: Well for men still in the market playing hard to get can be very irritating. I remember then when I was younger, I suffered so much under the hands of several girls but then while in university and after I started working I learnt to give myself just a 2 weeks deadline for any girl I took interest in. It always worked, cos almost all the silly girls turned around after a while. No one has that time to spend time programming a lady. There are better things to do besides guys know when one lady hold its back several others give it up. Where I used to draw my line while I was single was going after married women or men,..I abhor that and find it irritating when I see it happening.

yeah....when the lady comes back after two weeks, is because she has liked you from the beginning, you know it is not easy seeing someone you like and just "jumping the gun" immediately. But there are some, that no matter what you do, will not come to you because that "attraction" is not there.

drnoel:

Its part of the cheap thing they are talking about (not that I am calling u cheap cos I am not), but why wait for him to pay if u don´t feel him. If u don´t feel him pay ur bill and throw away his number. I´ve met men that would take just that one act of letting him pay on that first date give him enough moral to bother ur life even if u keep saying no. Bear in mind must of these guys have side chicks so the cunt is not their problem but that they felt u hurt their ego.

If he took her out, then it is COURTESY that he pay. It should not be on her to pay because she does not like him, or whatever it is you are suggesting. Men who feel that because they pay, they should get something in return are just insecure beings that likely need to be sent back to the school of self-esteem so they can more comfortably separate their ego from their money, and from their expectations of others.
If you do not want to pay, do not invite him or her out. And if you expect to get something in return, then get an ashawo . . . dem plenty for out there. Many will give sex for food.

ronkebp:

Really educate me more!!!

Now I don´t know if u are male or female and don´t really care but, I think its something u can only learn the hard way. I can only give u several examples but I´ll just give one here for the sake of space. I once knew a guy that had to borrow a lexus jeep (that was when the car was envogue) just so he could impress a lady that he had been pursuing for years. After a while we had to ask him what his intentions are and he told us in confidence that he needed to collect everything he has spent on her so far, and his only of doing that was to sleep with her. I asked him if its just sleeping with her was why he made all the effort and he said something about if she didn´t want why collect all his gifts till now. Its been a while but I remembered that so vividly. He did get her and never married her. Now thats one example from a million. Don´t get me wrong, men can be nasty so can everyone but women need to be firm when they say no without making the man feel less than he is. Even still there are men that will still try further.

Kobojunkie:

If he took her out, then it is COURTESY to have him pay. It should not be on her to pay because she does not like him, or whatever it is you are suggesting. Men who feel that because they pay, they should get something in return are just insecure beings that likely need to be sent back to the school of self-esteem so they can more comfortably separate their ego from their money, and from their expectations of others.
If you do not want to pay, do not invite him or her out. And if you expect to get something in return, then get an ashawo . . . dem plenty for out there. Many will give sex for food.

whateva but I´ve met men that have that mentality and u´d be shocked hearing their opinion.

I personally would pay for a date unless she objects to it. It's just what a comfortable man does [should do]...
It means nothing to me.

drnoel:

whateva but I´ve met men have that mentality and u´d be shocked hear their opinion.

Regardless of their opinion, I don't believe stooping down to their level a sensible solution. If you meet such a guy, then call on the cops on him if he demands you give something in return for him paying for lunch or dinner.

And you need to consider that the reason why a lot of these low-lives get away with this is because women ALLOW IT, which is quite unfortunate. Seriously, woman encourage a lot of the disrespect served by the men of today, especially the African men. It is essentially rude for a man to REQUIRE that a woman pay if she is not interested in him.

Kobojunkie:

Regardless of their opinion, I don't believe stooping down to their level a sensible solution. If you meet such a guy, then call on the cops on him if he demands you give something in return for him paying for lunch or dinner.

And you need to consider that the reason why a lot of these low-lives get away with this is because women ALLOW IT, which is quite unfortunate.

yes u are right. i fully agree with u there

Its so cheap sometimes when girls play hard to get. Most girls who play too hard to get end up with some trash and you wonder why .

Three pages on the subject: "Should I give him TOTO"

Una no get work...When moist Toto wey dey find Preek full everywhere na him I go come dey do long thing

okay now you have clarified as i looked at it from the other way round

karpentar:

how am I greedy? if she's easy for me and hard to others, I wouldn't call her "cheap".

Playing hard to get neither makes you a saint nor a responsible lady. I hate girls that give me headache even when it is obvious that she is in love with me.

There is this lady that I toasted for almost a year and six months. She could not tell me "no" neither did she accept my advances. Some times I will not call her for like two weeks but she will start sending me "reminding" messages.I later ignored her outrightly because of those childish attitudes of hers. These days she walks around me seeking undue attention but it is over the bar. Never will I dial her number again let alone saying 'hi' to her. She has been deleted and is deleted forever. I prefer ladies that know what they want than acting childishly. If you tell me no in a mature manner I will hold you in a high esteem than deceiving yourself in the name playing hard.

I love mature ladies. And maturity is not by age nor by size but by attitude.

^^^ Seems someone is still BITTER~~!!!!!

Playing hard to get doesn't work dese days......men jus move on n say NEXT!!

Kobojunkie: ^^^ Seems someone is still BITTER~~!!!!!

And it seems someone above is still single in her late 40's.

seedord247:

And it seems someone above is still single in her late 40's.

um . . . . . sure! By the way, what exactly is wrong with being single and in one's late 40's? Is that, to you, like worse than being young(less than 40), and pathetic ?

Kobojunkie:

um . . . . . sure! By the way, what exactly is wrong with being single and in one's late 40's? Is that, to you, like worse than being young(less than 40), and pathetic ?

Kobo, you know I luv you, but that was a rather pathetic attempt at pain deflection.
Still luv you though

2buff:

Kobo, you know I luv you, but that was a rather pathetic attempt at pain deflection.
Still luv you though

My post has nothing to do with "pain deflection"? I don't think people who are in their late 40's and single should feel any pain or shame. If that is the path God has for them, who am I to judge or decide that a pain? Let them be the ones to decide that on their own and let that be between them and their God.

I was simply asking a question of a supposedly young person who presumes that throwing people who are in their late 40's and still single, under the bus makes him a letter pathetic person for the comment her made there. One has to wonder what woman raised that one to believe such.

Dis days guys in love r usually jealous, so wat am saying is dat most guys easily mistake being kind 4 being cheap n so they tend 2 feel dat acting kind n polite towards guys means welcoming them into ur life

ronkebp: Do not get that 'play hard to get twisted oooo'....some lady thinks is telling a guy off, immediately he winks or says hi, you see some ladies eyeing the guy or hissing, some wear this big frown on their faces.

In my own view..it is not getting easily laid....majority of the guys, come to you for one thing, "to get laid" once they are done, they are off, to the next available chic...I had a friend who was always so easily laid and easily dumped....she would call me the next morning, " Ronke, it has happened again oo,the guy has dumped me again" my question would always be, "did you sleep with him"? we know what the answer would be.

There is nothing wrong in going on couple of dates in an open place where the guy in question will not grab and r/a/p/e you, there is nothing wrong in being polite and approachable. You just have to have class and love yourself...not with unnecessary pride and ego.... you will be surprised the type of men, you will be attracting.


Everyone woman has and owns the keys to her legs....

Wow l"m impress this coming from a lady

I quite agree with you..

stillwater:

Never date someone with that at the back of your mind. Do you. The men these days are a far-cry from our fathers. Work at your own pace. If you don't like being rushed, please don't rush yourself. If you are the type that is quite decisive when propositioned, by all means say yes. You are an adult, make decisions for yourself and not what society dictates or what your friends would say.

But if the girl's aim is just to play hard to get, I think she's lost the plot.

i was attracted to girl n when i told her am attracted to her and hence intrested in her she tod me in a face to face discusion 'NO WAHALA' on coming to online she to me dat her no wahala z my own idea dat she z not interested in me...it was funny cos she liks mi..weda she z playn hard to get or not d fact z i lost interest in her also...so i dnt hv time to chase a girl...if a girl says no her no z no..if yes 2moro z a conditn dat push her to chnge mind...mayb d 1 she dey eye disappts her...so i dnt belief in chasing a girl all we need is som1 who u tell i like u n she likes u to whn love grow on this mutual attraction it bcoms true love...not chasing to win a trophy!

sanb: then you are a greedy man

oh come-on dear will u tolerate it if l'm easy to other babes and hard on u

The way you act determines a guy's expections of you.... Playing hard to get might actually increase a guy's expectations of you(cos he sees you as someone who's too decent) and this might backfire... A guy can easily forgive a girl that didn't play hard to get...for me, Girls who give in easily are not necessarily cheap... It simply shows you are mature enough to know what you want... I have never labelled a girl 'CHEAP'...even if a girl approaches me, it means she really likes me cos it ain't easy for a girl to show you how she feels...... Naah my own be that ooooh

Wen i try to date a familar friend and she plays mad to get abegi me i free am instantantly. But 4 some1 i met recently and play hard to get then ori loma pa orun i fit spend 20 yrs waitin 4 yes.
Mrjaybrown nice submission

Onyenna: The way you act determines a guy's expections of you.... Playing hard to get might actually increase a guy's expectations of you(cos he sees you as someone who's too decent) and this might backfire... A guy can easily forgive a girl that didn't play hard to get...for me, Girls who give in easily are not necessarily cheap... It simply shows you are mature enough to know what you want... I have never labelled a girl 'CHEAP'...even if a girl approaches me, it means she really likes me cos it ain't easy for a girl to show you how she feels...... Naah my own be that ooooh

A Guy's expectations of you? WoW . . . so if a girl acts rich, what? the guy expects her to be rich and so the girl has to be rich?

playing hard to get it sweet, on average i meet 50 girls weekly, record breakthrough with like 12 (when with friends, the breakthrough is always higher), delete 10 numbers from my fone weekly
and fucck the balance.

well i have a stable girlfriend also, when am tired i'll dump her.

you know why that girl is my GF?
because she gave me headache while wooing her, there is this thing that make hard to get babes look special
so i decided to keep her until she looses the "specialty".
I am in no way going to marry a babe i never intend to marry at first sight.
her playing extremely hard qualified her for the ultimate heartbreak.

slightlyMad: playing hard to get it sweet, on average i meet 50 girls weekly, record breakthrough with like 12 (when with friends, the breakthrough is always higher), delete 10 numbers from my fone weekly
and fucck the balance.

well i have a stable girlfriend also, when am tired i'll dump her.

you know why that girl is my GF?
because she gave me headache while wooing her, there is this thing that make hard to get babes look special
so i decided to keep her until she looses the "specialty".
I am in no way going to marry a babe i never intend to marry at first sight.
her playing extremely hard qualified her for the ultimate heartbreak.

And this caused me to remember that only a couple of days ago, someone tried to LIE to us that Boys in Africa don't think sex at all. That only kids raised in the West think Sex everytime of the day. This Nigerian raised boy/child here says he averages 50 girls a week . . . . what for? What for? So he could brush their hair?