SEVEN WORST WAY TO DUMP YOUR
GIRLFRIEND
(1)Become invisible.
Vanish without giving any reason.
Do not return phone calls or emails.
Leave your ex wondering if you
died or lost your mind. Keep them
wondering if you will ever
reappear in their lives.
Alternative solution: Offer
closure by giving a general reason
for leaving. No blame. Simply
say you no longer see a future
together. If pushed for your
reasoning, remember that your
parting words echo long after you
are gone. What can you say to
make your ex feel better for
having known and loved you?
2. Announce your decision to
break up via text message or
email.
Do this only if you want to be
remembered as a coward. Not
ending your relationship face-to-
face will deface the good times
you both shared together.
Alternative solution: Muster up
your courage to end a relationship
face-to-face. It takes courage to
love and trust, and courage to part
in a way that dignifies the
feelings you once had.
3. Use honesty as an excuse to
hurt your partner.
Criticize flaws, list reasons why
you are turned off, say that your
relationship was a mistake and a
waste of your time and make your
ex feel undesirable before you
move on.
Alternative solution: Share a few
reasons why your time together was
important and meaningful for
you. Mention that you are
disappointed you do not see a
long-term future together. Now
that you have made this decision,
you want to act with integrity.
Give your ex the opportunity to
find the relationship that supports
their well-being and greatest
happiness.
4. Break up in a public setting.
If you assume that your ex is less
likely to make a scene in front of
witnesses, the opposite might occur.
If they do lose control, let them
humiliate themselves in public and
justify your reasons for walking
out.
Alternative solution: Choose a
calm moment in a cozy private
place to explain your desire to end
the relationship. Be understanding
of an emotional reaction and
apologize for the pain your
decision has caused. Unless you
fear physical harm, leave when
your ex has calmed down.
5. Move on before you end the
relationship .
Instead of trying to mend the
issues within your relationship,
dive into a new one and find out
if it has potential. This method is
like testing the waters before
going out for a swim. Tell your
ex that you are leaving because you
are in love with someone else.
Alternative solution: Is your
relationship worth saving? Have
you asked your partner to try and
resolve the road blocks in your
relationship? If you feel no need
to improve the relationship, then do
the honorable thing and end it
before you look for a new one.
What if you have already bonded
with a new love while you’re in
another relationship? Assume your
ex will find out and you will
cause them great pain. Will you
admit this and ask for
forgiveness? How will you ease
the pain of betrayal in someone
who loved and trusted you?
6. Stay in touch and stop by
for break up sex.
Make sure your ex stays bonded to
you so they are not emotionally
free to move on. This method will
keep you and your ex together, and
not allow the two of you to truly
move on from the relationship you
just ended.
Alternative solution: Free your ex
to find a new relationship by
ending any interactions with one
another. If you are co-parenting
with your ex, your future contact
will focus on parenting issues, not
personal ones.
7. Give your ex false hope that
you will reunite when you know
the relationship is over for
good .
Try to soften the break up blow
with a lie. Suggest that you may
revisit your relationship after you
take a break. But, you never contact
your ex again because you have no
desire to stay in touch.
Alternative solution: Tell your
ex the truth. Mention good
qualities in your ex that will
attract someone new. Explain that
you each need to let go of each
other so you are free to love again.
It is best if you each grieve this
loss privately before you enter a
new relationship.