Nazgul:
Marriage became useless to men because we abandoned our culture and tradition and embraced that of the Western world.

When you start sleeping with girls from the age of 16 and have a body count of close to 50 girls by the time you're 30, what usefulness do you expect to get from marriage? Truth is even you the man wouldn't value the marriage and would immediately resume your sexcapade after your honeymoon

The only way to restore decorum in African marriages is to embrace back our culture.

Pre marital sex must be seen as an abomination, those who practice it would be banished from their community.

Virginity test should be one of the requirements a girl must possess before marriage can take place, this will reduce promiscuity in girls.

A law should be passed that ràpists would earn in instant death sentence upon conviction. This would reduce promiscuity in guys cos no one would be willing to risk his life for a few minutes of pleasure.

Also there should be laws governing marriages that would make unfaithful partners risk jail term.

Once this measures can be put in place, I strongly believe that marriages would become as rosy as it was meant to be. And wouldn't be useless to both men and women.

So sex is the only tangible thing you feel men would gain in marriage. The ROI is low for all the responsibilities men take up in marriage abeg.

Sweetplum:
Companionship & Procreation.
Go n read Genesis to know more.
To all who are quoting me. Marriage isn't by force. Don't discourage those who value it.
I wonder how you all train those kids you had anyhow via baby mamas or surrogacy.
What's the value you instill in them. One of the things destroying the world of today is lack of value. And its first gotten from homes.
So who are you all fooling?
I m coming with full force!
Last Drop:

Either you all cooperate jejely or stay out of marriage.
I now found out most people here in support of the op are atheists & men running away from responsibilities.
All of you no get life. Especially those atheists. I dey watch you, Una dey watch me. We dey here. Una go see weeen!

Whenever the issue of marriage come up and people ask what's the benefit for a man...

You will surely see one person saying the man is "running away from responsibility' reinforcing exactly what the OP was saying.

Again do women even have any “exclusive" responsibility in marriage?

When a man pays rent, school fees feeding, utility, the next thing you will hear I that the lady will support him afterwards.... But I wonder what is left to be paid after this, and in this our age women actually work and earn same as man, when you tell them to contribute it is interpreted as the man running away from responsibilities, you don't want to lead...etc sometimes I really wonder what they do with the money they make, if they end up contributing anything, they will speak about it forever. Woe betides a man that losses his job and being fed by a woman!

When it comes to domestic work, Nannies are really doing more domestic work than some women in the home.

All in all finding a supportive partner, esp in Nigeria is herculean. They exist , but they are extremely few.

Brief a lawyer and pay him and get quality legal advice, stop seeking free legal advice on Nairaland

Animegirl:


Because they're lazy, don't want more responsibilities.

Must you be a liability?

Babastrong:
I used to say it that life was spiritual before physical. Some girls hold the key to men success. If you delay the marriage, it means you are delaying your success.
I married my wife when i was koboless( immediately i finished my bsc). After 6months of marriage, boom, i saw the light. The money started flows in.
now i'm living in my own roof., having my own business domain.

Try this at your own peril

NGpatriot:
Putin go soon land for Hague for war crimes...

smh...sad.

For you to think this is even possible means you dont rate Russia at all.

How many US president has been imprisoned in Hague for war crime after their invasion of Iraq and Afghanistan... And you think Putin can be whiskied out of Russia...

This pics is only showing how expensive it is to get educated in American unlikebhow cheap it is to acquire weapons.....

It describes the priority if American govt. Most of America citizens have to take loan to go to college and pay throughout their life time while it is easier for them to get guns and be violent.

It simply describes the State of America .

amnesty7:
Imagine! Oyinbo capitalist mentality. He never knows that the kids will definitely come with their own blessings. And who promises or guarantees him tomorrow?
He may have to raise the kids in his old age.

This is why we are where we are today.
Thinking that children is a blessing.

I know this might sound sensitive but Children ate actually liabilities in the strict sense of it. We just like the fact that we have them and the satisfaction that we were able to raise them well is overwhelming.

Offpoint1:
Any guy doing that or thinking about doing it should stop.

I have a female friend which her boyfriend has been sponsoring her schools for years, she's serving now. She confided in me that should won't marry the guy... I was heartbroken cuz I knew this guy through her, very quiet guy. I won't even state what he does for a living, this compounds the pain.

Only train a woman you're married to, women generally are emotionally unstable... Only few are deeply deeply in love can withstand the temptations out there.

Must it always be women that get trained ....

easyfem:
Nawa ooo



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Lol, I use to be a fie hard fan but rn I am so indifferent about them.....

If they like they should come together if they like they shouldn't, I will always appreciate good music and that's all....

MeghaneMorgane:
She doesn’t have to do the masters if she doesn’t want to. Try to give her something to do or ask her what she wants to do in Lagos.

Why would the man give her something to do. Like is shE not an adult, can't she get skills or work.....
God be with him sha.....

If only guys can be hypergamous for once.....I wonder what will become of some ladies.....

Bola146:
Sweet love love is sweet when you are into a good relationship with your friend

Who told you they are friends .... Small expensive gift she don turn to his friend ..... Smh

Asgard73:
Yoruba to yoruba...
Tinubu must contest... no excuses.. no Yoruba twist of narratives
No human will come out now to tell us that Tinubu have not said .. or he never talk say he wan contest..

Apc must give Yoruba ticket ... it’s a MUST!..

Infact any Yoruba human must contest..

Because some Yoruba humans are beginning to twist narratives that Tinubu won’t contest... and that he will support someone.. already giving excuses for Tinubu.

Now I’m making it easier..

Yoruba person must contest... weda n Tinubu or not...

Yoruba must!

Tinubu MUST!

The fact that some youths are clamouring for this man shows that we haven't learnt anything from Buhari's Administration and its saddening.

Dont worry, you guys haven't seen anything, another 8yrs might not be better if we continue to be this myopic....

FutureIsFemale:
If I were the man, I'd make him pay in billions of dollars after which I make him rot in jail so that next time when he sees another man's wife, he will control that pole in between his legs.

Spits....

The wife couldn't refuse abi, she doesn't have controll of herself abi, they tied her hands and legs and removed her brain so she couldn't decide for herself.

Two of them should be held liable don't just say the man as if the woman doesn't have sense of right and wrong

princewarri1985:
I really pity the poor husband who is about working himself to death from morning to night everyday just to make sure his wife and kids dont lack, and she still have the guts to sleep with other men in her matrimonial bed, tueh! This is the reason why the thought of marriage scares me to death, am 41 and i will never marry because i can't survive it, i will collapse and die the day i find out my wife is cheating on me, because my peace of mind and sanity is priceless and i can't trade it for anything in this world. Marriage is not for me

This is the problem with Nigeria, a man thinking he must work his life off for his family.

For young man, marry a woman that also has same ambition and as busy as you are, all these a man working hard to provide for the woman while the woman relax and open a small shop near the house that doesn't bring sufficient income is old school., a shroud to indirect retirement. At the end of the day the man dies early due to stress and the woman lives on. I realise that men standard when it comes to partner is so low.

Anyways please report to the man. Find a way and meeting him after work. Tell him you will call him once the man arrive the next day.

LilMissFavvy:
See them "men are polygamous in nature" preachers wailing all over, the man wants to save his marriage, so let him be. Maybe he's doing it for the sake of his child, besides, he also cheated on her. You folks like telling women to save their marriages, but when you see a husband who wants to save his marriage, you abuse him..... Hypocrites! This is a wise man, if you leave your wife, many men are lined up to replace you.

Replace him as in marry Tega or what,
You girls don't get it. Tega may find other men to service her but you see commitment of marriage , she should forget it in this Nigeria.

The man too is a simp, na lack of money dey cause all these things.

HRHQueenPhil:


U are the person, he is not matured enof to marry. To have a sweet marriage, u must learn how to forgive. If u can't forgive, den don't bother getting married..
He shld go abroad and join the monastery

Na only babe fit give this kind advise.

I wonder why men don't marry black lady over here. The stress of even coming to Nigeria, marrying a lady and bringing her over is enervating. Trust Naira ladies when they get there and become established, the man will see pepper.

Safe yourself the stress, marry someone there. Nigerians are everywhere.

anoziechi:
bros na lie joor.... Is it not men that go after women?? Women no dey woo man

I said cheat, meaning that more women in relationship cheat than men.

They are more discreet in it. Believe me.

anoziechi:
So that guys will stop cheating

The funny thing is that women cheat more and are more discreet than men.

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Please I need to be advised urgently. I have heard from several people with some telling me it pays to be in the legal department as there will be no issue of targets or marketing while some, especially those in the banking industry, are of the opinion that it is far better to be in banking proper as one can build a solid career in banking and be easily promoted once one is efficient.
Most people are also of the opinion that lawyers in the legal department just do paper work..which is actually a fact as most if not all banks have external solicitors and that promotion is very slow and the highest one can get to is as head of the legal dept/company secretary which can take years as there are already people waiting in line and the ones occupying those positions in the various banks are not ready to relinquish that position. I am a very hardworking girl and very focused. I want to put my ability to use in such a way that it will be profitable and I can have a very very solid career either in law or banking.
Thank you.

What decision did you make later, shush department did you go to?

TOMSY:
Lol. He's goodlooking, has money and has a nice ride equals LOVE.

Asin eeh �

Imagine if the poor guy doesn't have money and a ride.....

TheRealestGuy:
The only thing I'd say is that you should look inward for a career you want to go into, something you have passion for and follow it through.

You can start small, or working in a small org. and grow your career from there.

Do not go into banking just cos you need a job, you will be frustrated with the stagnation and lack of career growth cos the industry is messed up today. Are you prepared to work 6 - 7 days a week and get maybe one promotion in 8 years? Access bank is particularly notorious for their very poor work culture and stressful working conditions.

If you must go into banking, have a plan to save funds aggressively towards leaving naija for further education.

This is coming from someone who's been there and done that.

Which unit were you when you worked in a bank.....

olasquare22:


Nothing is tempting about 70k my brother. I started with 250k as a graduate trainee in bank but later opted to earn 86k just to pursue my career. Today, I earn far better than the so called mouthwatering salary I earned as a graduate trainee and I am fulfilled with my profession. Sacrifice is key here. Trust me, u won't regret u did.

Hello, what is your advice for a lawyer wishing to join legal department of Access bank.....
And I was informed that even after scaling the TS, the bank determines where they will place you.
What is your take on that

Tomtomiwa:
What questions were asked? quote author=frank950 post=101018459]


Just one person interviewed me.

I don't know and she is an HR personnel

Only one person interviewed you too??

Themanwithnonam:


I don’t have an idea

Just one person interviewed me.

I don't know and she is an HR personnel

Themanwithnonam:
1, Introduce yourself
2. Why should we employ you?
3. where did you serve(Nysc)?
4. Your age?
5. any questions for us?

Those were the questions i was asked

Was it the Top management that interviewed you or one of the HR

kalkor:
Omo that second stage na another thing o see time to answer the essay questions! That thing was running like kilode...

How did you answer the essay, you wrote it as a prose or answered it based on the number...
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saphiere:
It will never be well with Davido if he does not do the needful.

This is for every girl out there to learn a lesson

but it has been well with him when he left others to be with her.....

Her time is up, another will occupy the office.

bwambasolomon:
I have a fiancée whom I started dating about two years ago. We work together and we are on the same level, and earn the same salary. Each time we hanged out to just have fun, if we got to a place where prices were too expensive, I would say to her but this things are much cheaper elsewhere.

For example, we went to a place though inside the same premises, one part of the lounge sells bottled water for 250 while the other one sells bottled water for 500, she then suggested that we go to the part where water was sold for 500. Note that it was in the same premises and there was absolutely no difference between the two, it's not like one was VIP area and the other was not. We ended up going to the 500 naira side. All that we ate which of course was double the price, I paid.

Each time we went to the mall, we buy things normally. But there's something about malls which some of you may have noticed, certain things such as pots, plastic rubbers, electronics, and so on are usually unreasonably exorbitant. So I said it would be better for us not to buy things that were too expensive that we could get outside for cheaper prices, but we could buy other things whose prices were reasonable. The next thing she started saying was that I don't have class, it's classy people that buy such things.

So one day we went to a pharmacy in that same mall, because she wanted to get some drugs, the price they called for her was about three times what it was outside, so she said it was better to go outside to buy it. So I just told her that since she has class she should buy it now, the next thing she started insulting me, she gave me the insult of my life. That wasn't the only scenario, there were many other cases like that.

She had started to stay with me after a while. Every thing in the house belongs to me, and I made sure everywhere was conducive for us. Air conditioners every and so on, good house, good compound, surveillance cameras and so on. Initially I was shouldering all responsibilities like food, the car washer who washes the both of our cars, the security man, fuel in the generator, NEPA light, repairs in the house and so on.

Please note that we work in the same place and earn same amount. Sometimes when I was short of cash, since I knew that her own money would still be there, I would borrow from her to buy food stuffs and other miscellaneous, and pay back by next salary.

She contributed just about 10% of expenditures in the house which was majorly just food stuffs. Note that I buy much more foodstuffs 5 times more than what she buys.

That was not just it, the relationship was usually filled with arguments, I can hardly have a conversation with her, she would begin to argue.

I want to ask few questions here:
(1)please is there anyone who doesn't know that Egusi causes pimples for those who are prone to having pimples?
(2) Is there any one who doesn't know that if something is very hot, it is not advisable to put in the fridge?
(3) here anyone who doesn't know that garlic is medicinal?
(4) Is there any one who does not know that it is not advisable to put on a generator when it has been drenched by rain?

But this girl will argue with me, insisting that I must put on the gen when rain has beaten it, because apparently, it is not her property. And the fridge is also not hers which is why she won't care if it gets spoilt. In short there's usually too much argument over what is clear for everyone to see, thereby it is always difficult to have a conversation with her.

I was later transferred out of the state we were, so I decided that because of her, I won't take anything away from the house, I would buy everything I need in the new place I had been posted to. So I bought a bigger TV for the house we both shared and took the smaller one to my new place of posting. I bought my mattress, kitchen utensils, got an apartment, and bought every thing I needed in the new place. So now, I have most things in two pairs, just so she would be comfortable.

Please note that we aren't yet married, and I agreed to not having sex with her because that was she wanted, I respected that. The only thing I know we do was romance.

So I started insisting that it was high time for her to be responsible, that we can't both be working and she won't be buying reasonable amount of food stuff because I noticed that sometimes, she would go out and buy 3 packs of spaghetti, which doesn't make sense to me. She said her dad is the one that buys food stuffs in her house and her mum contributes for petty projects. But I am not her Dad, I have my own mind. Also note that she didn't volunteer to bring any amount for my project oo, because I won't want a woman to contribute 1 naira to the houses I am building. All I said was that she should be contributing reasonable amounts for food stuffs in the house. We hardly stay two weeks without fights, she must look for one insult or the other.

We went for counselling and the pastors said she has to be contributing for expenditures in the house, we agreed on 60% to 40% sharing formula for all expenditures. So me as the man would contribute 60 while she will contribute 40. Please note that rent was not inclusive, as I volunteered to pay for the rent in the house we were and for my apartment in my new place of posting.
Later on, when she began to see the brunt of the responsibilities that I used to bear she started saying we (Me and the Pastors) are forcing her to contribute. But I didn't know these Pastors before, that was my first time of meeting them, she was the one who knew them before me. But simply because they told her the truth, she started saying we are forcing her.

Please I need your honest opinions on this issue.
Thank you.

With all these glaring incidences, I think a wise person knows what to do or ought to do.

You want to show you are a man. Alright, let her keep milking you, you allowed it.