Anyiamaka:


Tying up someone in that manner is much more than an assault.

They may just be on some BDSM levels. And things went the other way.

ednut1:
Why can’t these miracle pastors save him

Because he exposed people like them in his classic film end time.

It has favored her and her family.

Lol. She is using value in naira of export to judge increase. Like she does not know the damage that has been done to the naira.

pansophist:


The way I see China entering the war is if the war transitions into a Nato versus Russia thingy. It's will be a golden opportunity for China to reunify Taiwan, when Nato hands are tied with Russia.

Then if the US wants to fight and cause trouble for China, then it would be the eastern Bloc versus the Western bloc. Russia and China will go all in and face their common enemy.

This is the reality the West do not want, but it's the ultimate end goal if they enter a war directly with Russia. China would want to support Russia, but needs a legitimate reason to do so.

Although China sells the image of a moral, benevolent power, they know how to play the geopolitical card. They know that Russia must not fall, and they must support Russia.

If Kamala enters, the possibility of the war would be higher.

Lol. The friends around you matter a lot and would unconsciously influence your decisions.

That's why I stay away from married friends for now.

heironymos:
Guys help me analyze this I'm in a dilemma...

I have 2 girls and don't know which one to choose.

When choosing between girls. The most important thing to look for is the one with a burning desire for you.

After that, you can then be looking at esoteric things like virginity, culinary, education, and whatever matters to you. Because if she doesn't have a genuine desire for you, you may never enjoy the benefits of those esoteric things. For instance, you might date/marry a virgin and she'd be disgusted, unwilling to knack you, and do it just dutifully.

Judging from your case, I doubt anyone has that burning desire for you. Girl A seems to choose you more than Girl B but the desire needs to be super better. Also, you need to lead with sex before dating any one of them. Knack them for clarity.

Additionally, why choose? When you can spin plates?

Gerrard59:

The best option and OP should look into the Grendanian option. Offers a path to permanent residency in the US. See here: https://www.henleyglobal.com/citizenship-investment/grenada This is a much better option than starting all over again in the abroad as a well-to-do married man. It is not like you are moving to a culturally/racially similar place as wealthy Chinese from Mainland China do when they move to Singapore and Japan. You are relocating to a different system entirely.

Thank you for this, bro.

Lol. It shows you make every minute count.

How long would you rather prefer to go? An hour?

Then go 60 rounds. 60 times 1 minute = 1 hour

I hope you have converted your money to dollars already.

If it's not a permanent resident or citizenship or a pathway that leads to it in a year/two max, I see no reason for you to go.

1. Nigeria is not that bad anyway. I see someone asking for the source of your wealth. Nigeria is probably the only country where you can afford the kind of money you have as cash-at-hand minus properties, without doing any real-impact business, even as a salary earner. Those are some of the perks of the unstructure in Naija. If you are earning in dollars at the moment with a dollar at 1,600 naira and almost no tax, you would save 5x of what an average abrodian would save. Just the instability of our currency alone, people make a lot of money from it. Even with all this fuel scarcity and refinery BS happening, people are making money from it. Some Nigerians with no meaningful business in Nigeria, can even buy a house at once even abroad just due to the unstructure in Naija. How many people abroad can do that?

2. If your money can get you citizenship by investment in a good country with a strong passport, look into that route too. At the end of the day, the major reason to japa is to have a stronger passport that can allow you to play in a global space when an opportunity comes knocking for you, your family, or your children.

3. Your wife being aggressive shows that you guys have a long way to go in conflict resolution. And there would be more conflict when you japa because you'd be poorer, you'd be doing your chores yourself, and you can no longer afford the luxury Naija offers that might have been helping you manage your marriage.

canada123:
I’m considering visiting Nigeria soon , don’t know if that would help too or?

Lol, bro. I took the time to read your posts.

Don't go to Nigeria o. The cost of tickets by now in this ember period would be high, you'd get Billings from your gf or ex-gf and other people, and those days of debauchery you want to have, you may not get it, and Naija is a bit unstable in many areas at the moment. You are not even in Naija yet, you are getting billings from strangers on Nairaland already.

You have to build and take out time to learn the game. Don't rush. I see you are going on a date soon. Good for you. But I don't think thriving to get a girlfriend would help your current state. If you get a girlfriend now and you relapse and she finds out about it, you are going to be creatively dealt with and you would prefer so badly to lose 20k in sex than for you to be in that situation. They don't tolerate cheating lightly there. And moreso, you sound quite naive to female nature.

My advice would be:

1.⁠ ⁠Network and see where you can get cheaper transactional sex when Hot. Massage parlors, nightclubs, referrals etc. Or masturbate responsibly. Don't listen to the advice to camp a homeless girl.

2.⁠ ⁠Get on Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, and what-not and like away. Just like, don't initiate convo. Let the girls initiate the convo first. That'd help sieve those who would want something to do with you. The direct approach is not for online activities. Although you might end up with girls, not your spec it doesn't matter, you are just using them to move up and increase your options. I call it, starting with the obese.

3.⁠ ⁠Take yourself out. Amusement parks, clubs, barbecue parties, cinemas, zoos, Parks, Pubs, conferences, Google meetup, etc. This is where you can now apply the direct approach. Talk to a girl who also came alone, you can even pay for her activity at the place(They'd appreciate it. They don't get that regularly). Be smooth with your words and confident.

4.⁠ ⁠Have an abundance mindset. Don't operate in scarcity. Talk to new girls even in Nigeria, and tell your Naija friends to introduce some Naija girls to you. Have a lot of them. It's long-distance but it's just to trick your brain into abundance. And for you who love the only fans' shenanigans, the Naija babes can give you a private perverse show at low or no cost depending on your game.

5.⁠ ⁠Have a good Instagram for social proof. Nigeria has the numbers. Once you take some pictures of yourself in nice places in Canada, flaunting some cars that are not yours, and all, you'll get many Naija followers who want to be like you. Or you can even buy an IG account sef. So that when you meet girls online or offline in Canada, instead of giving them your number or Whatsapp, you give them your Instagram(for social proof as most of them won't even have that amount of followers). I am sure some of those Onlyfan models and Tryst people don't even have followers up to a normal random Naija dude doing basics on Instagram.

6.⁠ ⁠Lastly, go to the gym, lose weight by taking note of your diet, and build muscle. This would make you attractive by the day. And also when you eventually get a lay, you'd be mentally prepared to devour that juice like a proper black man with steeze so they can keep coming back for more at no cost. You don't want to end up a one-minute man after all these hassles.

I wish you good luck, my friend. You might also want to consider taking the Redpill while you are at it because your game levels need to be on par to pull all this off and to be safe out there.

A true abundance mindset comes from gratitude, not greed.

While the grateful sees and identifies options inherently, the greedy chases options outwardly.

Chasing is a scarcity mindset. Stop chasing. Instead, start identifying the things that choose you.

Faber:
You don't need a gym to cut your body.
.

True. But there is one more thing the gym does: It helps your psyche. You see other humans working out and admire/dislike their achievable bodies.

IMO, it's nice to get a gym that is a walkable or joggable distance, to help with gaining good sunlight, taking a leisure stroll, and just seeing people around on the path. Also, IMO, when starting in the gym, start with a local gym where there are bouncers, and handymen, and where you could find men who wouldn't have lost all their traditional masculine traits. Those little convos you would get from the male tribe would sharpen your RP lenses, make you more competitive and collaborative, and help you focus better(rather than where bumbum won't allow you to focus).

At first, I thought saw EFCC.

xprojectlive:
sell ur dollars now

Lol. If it crashes the dollar, it would be for a short period padded just for the optics. And since it's all fake, it'd be back up as ever.

idahme:


And after he does all of these the wife will then love him and run to him? Let's say he starts earning more like a million nàira monthly after then the wife starts professing love to him and then he accepts him back? This is why it's risky to marry a woman who is struggling financially because you never know her intentions, she can fake to be caring because in her mind you are doing better than her. I loathe selfish people, they can never see my money not even a kobo.

Lol. It's the sad reality of life. His wife loving him or not shouldn't be his concern as that is out of his control. What is in his control is improving himself so that when opportunity comes in any form(divorce, new job etc.), he is prepared.

But come to think of it, I have a feeling that the OP used the 50k his wife offered for a treat for him and his side chick in one of his escapades lol.

Now he wants to rush and marry the side chick who may obviously be more broke than him and he doesn't think the side chick would not only starve him of sex and treat him even more badly than his current wife after she gets commitment.

So like I said, he is making same mistake twice. He should rather focus on improving himself for now and forget about the two of them.

Successtube:
Study your partner thoroughly before to married, don't rush!

Here you go advising people not to rush and you are failing in your own advise the second time rushing to want to get married to an ex.

What I am certain of is that your ex would deal with you more than your wife.

Why don't you use this period of pain to build and upgrade yourself? Cut off your ex. Stay away from sex from your wife and her money. Use the time to learn as much skills as you can and own your life. Choose yourself. Live like you are single and do the things you love that'd make you stay off sex(it's just for a while till you become a man who is perceived to have options). Sports, gym, chill with your other male friends, network, get updated.

From my experience, "people love those who love themselves". And that is why your wife doesn't love you.

Faber:
Your ignorance isn't bliss when it comes to women nature.

Your ignorance is paternity fraud.

Your ignorance is an endless cycle of cheating & cuckoldry.

Your ignorance is accepting the love you don't deserve.

Your ignorance is pain.

This is why I always put the blame on the man who suffers the ruthlessness of women nature & hardly on the woman.

The logic is:

Ignorance is your enemy, not your woman. If you knew better, you'd have chosen or acted better. So blame your ignorance!

No man has ever regretted his knowledge of women nature.
Rather he will always be grateful because it has helped him to make better decisions: to separate the wheat from the chaff & become a better a version of himself.
The same can't be said for man lacking in knowledge. He learns the hard way. That is the price of his ignorance.

A tree that doesn't know how to dance will be taught by the wind.

Solid!

Afodot0022:

Pls if you have once been in this situation, kindly drop some tips and advice that will help me out on this cos it's giving me sleepiness night and I don't want to treat her harshly or rudely. I will appreciate all you inputs

Lol. Advice that you won't listen to. This was my comment on your last thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/8171215/should-girlfriend-cohabite-me#131278093
Lol. Only the first point which is getting to know her feels important to me.
My guess is you would finally find out the reason her friend chased her out.

I guess now you have found out.

CoronaVirusPro:


Do you find the in crime? No

Lol

I doubt the statistics. Nigerian Court matters is one of the slowest. Getting a divorce takes too long for Nigeria to be in that statistics.

Thundafireseun:


My brother…. A man must look carefully for red flags before making life decisions…. If it were up to me my daughter would use just ordinary Vaseline…. That’s exactly what I see children her age using

But the mental mother has refused so for peace sake I send money differently for her cream and in return send me pictures of product and recent receipt

Wow! This is unfair.

OceanEye:


Family is all..... Hector Salamanca

Salamanca!!

Starboytwo:


I don't mind Lesotho or Rwanda or Botswana or any country where there is less people (population I believe is our No1 problem) and most importantly, country wey I fit drive enter gas station without queueing or fighting. A less chaotic place for my peace of mind will do.

Hmm...Good one.

But to enjoy these African countries maximally, one must have another passport aside from Nigeria. Because happenings like this also occur there a lot. You nor won hear say war, coup, or something happens and you have nowhere to go.

So, if you think you are qualified and can afford it, try the usual countries first - Canada, Australia etc. And maybe after you get citizenship, you can now settle anywhere.

The average western runs girl has a p8mp, trafficked, prolly a drug addict, has done all forms of perverse acts, less educated, with numerous body count all at a high cost.

However, the average Nigerian runs girl is independent, willingly running the show on her own terms, probably has or getting a Bachelor or Master's degree, could even cook for you and make your house neater, even could be more religious than you, may even be a virgin in other areas apart from the center, and depending on your game especially with an Israel's kinda status, he may get all of that for free or even for less than 20-30 dollars.

I think Israel should be grateful.

RepoMan007:
Lol.
Why won't they take jobs? They are more trustworthy and hardworking. More competent on the average. Better trained. Less annoying to work with. Efficient overall.

Trustworthy - I would say there are many untrustworthy people on both sides.
Hardworking - Though, you may be right here as they like to spend a lot of time just doing work. But I think Nigerians are more smart working and tactical.

Competency, training, and efficiency would be better judged individual-individual.

As with less annoying to work with...I don't think you mean that.

LVStone:


Yes

Wow. So that's like 7 years of you forcing her to love you.

Sorry you had to go through this but you were warned and you yourself saw the red signs.

Please listen to the new warnings you have been given in the new thread so things don't get worse.

I pray God gives you the courage you need.

LVStone:


Anytime I discus all of these with her she usually make spirituality as an excuse that I should wait till after marriage then she will show me how much she loves me. She said she believes doing all this will get us to fornicate. I tried convincing her opinion but no positive response.

I love her so much, how do I marry someone I can't see her actions of love and I don't want to start thinking other wise please advise me on what to do.

Is this the same person you married starving you sex?

Pukkalolo:


I sense intelligence in you initially. But I don't wanna say that was a wrong perception....because I just wanna assume you only chose not to read that my post critically before jumping in to reply

If you critically read through that post, you'll see that I never said a guy should be uninterested in sex, I said you should only devalue it in your own mind. Devaluing something doesn't mean being disinterested in it

I said you should basically stop putting female sexuality on pedestal. You can stop putting something on pedestal but still be interested in it.

I love pussy...but I have a detached behavior towards it.

If you wanna see how I put this in practice when wooing girls, you can get the book Top G Dating secrets(Shameless approach).


But if you want to see me put this in practice in real fucking life, feel free to invite me to any occasion where they are ladies hanging out...and you can watch me in action.


The message is pretty straightforward: never show much excitement for her sexuality.

I also think you are intelligent bro. I love and respect your old posts on here especially.

But I think these days you are all about prescriptions and maybe it could be tied to you trying to sell a particular book that is meant to make the game easier for newbies. Unfortunately, there are no shortcuts and due diligence must be done.

Either ways. Good luck!

Pukkalolo:




Asking me to cite source per assertion is like asking me to "bring sand to the beach". --- You are asking for prove of something in a thread where the proof is already plentiful.

But beyond that...

imustsaymindo, here is the thing...

Just like nairaland, in few other online forums and online groups I'm popular for giving out lots of redpill advice to guys. But unlike few other redpill fellas, I don't just focus on female flaws... Because that's like treating the symptoms. Women aren't the issues, we are.

So Instead I tailor my advice to the root cause.

Here is it:

The root cause of most guys problem with women is that they place female sexuality on pedestal and they treat it like a trophy to be won.

That's the cause of every disappointment and heartbreak the average guy suffer with women.

If you can train your mind to stop doing that, then most of your issues with women will surprisenly disappear, and you'll actually start seeing how "easy to get" women are.

Sit tight. Let me explain.

There's a reason why the simping nice guy get exploited, used and manipulated by the woman. Because he places her sexual companionship on pedestal and treat it like a trophy to be won.

The woman's ego is currently overblown and her entitlement mentality is inflated because men place importance on her sexuality.

And now, in this redpill thread we add salt to the injury by saying, "all road leads to sex"

That's practically telling guys that, "her sexuality is a trophy, so all road should lead to it."

And you think that kind of thinking won't inflate and overblow the female ego much more?

The "all road leads to sex" mentality is the exact mentality women want you to have... Because that's the only way they can manipulate, use you and toy with your emotions.




As a man, you have to reprogram your brain to devalue female sexuality and stop treating it like a trophy. Then you have to start challenging women and getting them to prove themselves to you.

The idea is simple, if a girl is trying to clear the doubt you have about her and always trying to proving herself to you, then she'll eventually just naturally give you the pussy WITHOUT you asking for it.

That's practically how I get cute girls to drop their panties for me.

When I'm interacting with a girl, I treat her sexual companionship like is worth nothing. That doesn't mean I treat her poorly; I actually treat her with respect. But I make her believe that her sexuality is worthless to me.

I demonstrate to her that Nothing about her impressed or excite me yet. She has to prove herself to me first BEFORE I can be excited.

Look, once a woman sees that her sexuality easily excite a guy. She will use that to frustrate him and toy with his emotions. Then he will say women are evil.

In reality, women are only evil because you give her your power. You give her your power by treating her pussy like a medal and trophy.



If you want to make an attractive woman submit to you, then you must first devalue her sexuality in your own mind. Because when you devalue her sexuality in your mind, you'll naturally express yourself more audaciously and "shamelessly".... And you will not be scared to challenge her to prove herself to you.


Again, as a Man---

You must wean yourself off anything about a woman that would give her power over you.

This is the price you pay to be the prize

Brother, what is strange to you about "all roads lead to sex" while you just proved it with all your explanation leading to "how you get cute girls to drop their panties for you".

Again you are all about prescriptions. That's why you don't get it. "All roads lead to sex" is not a prescription to pedestalizing sex, or being less concerned about sex just like you chose, it is just describing that - no matter your strategy in the intersexual dynamics, your Hows, the purpose at the end of the day is sex which you just proved.

Descriptive knowledge!!!!

Not some platonic BS, some heavenly ideas, connection, or some purposeless or unintentional behavior. The organic, basal, canal, natural purpose is sex.

Again, redpill is a praxeology.

To help you: Praxeology is the theory of human action, based on the notion that humans engage in purposeful behavior, contrary to reflexive behavior and other unintentional behavior.

It studies the purpose behind intersexual dynamics. "All roads lead to sex" is an example of such praxeology.

And you have decided not to pedestalize sex, as your own road to lead to sex. But you, turning your own road to a prescription, just have you assumed the redpill's prescribed road to sex is pedestalizing sex, is not redpill. Because redpill isn't about prescriptions. Prescriptions fail.

In as much as I would congratulate you that some cute girls may have dropped their panties for you by acting/being uninterested in sex, I have also been able to sift out girls who don't like me quicker by being clear and straight up about sex, and I have also gotten girls(especially those you may call good girls) to show their bad parts by pedestalizing sex(not sex with her, but pedestalizing sexual acts and being upfront). In short, I feel it's best to be clear about your intentions. That's what even shows you are not pedestalizing her. But again, as a redpill student, I don't give prescriptions. Do you, bro.

luminouz:

Shût up jor. So a brain resetting slap would make her die or what? You are a coward...so rest

Lol. It could make her brain dead.

DrFunmisticGlow:
Yes it is negative. But most people do settle eventually.

Exactly!