Mynd44:

He has said the facts himself. The so-called forged documents are legal where the person is coming from.

If I have a baby aborted while in the US, you cannot bring a case against me in Nigeria as it is not a crime where it happened.

Plus, the moment the document was taken back to the school to certify it affirms their permission

Interesting times we live in

Seun:
It's been a pleasure serving all of you since 2005!

It's been a pleasure riding with you!

purples25:
Let me add. Shey na second hand cloth una wan buy for your children, this one that you're saying a baby is low cost? Is that the legacy you are planning for kids that haven't even been born, right?

No plans for baby cot, you plan for the mama to spread wrapper on the floor right? You won't buy flask for keeping baby food, or few baby toys? You won't buy pampers, you're planning that the mother should wear her hands out washing re-washable nappies and such?

You people are wicked o. That's the plan for your beloved mother and baby. You want them to suffer while you continue to earn 'let my people go' salary. You self no go enjoy that kind life.

Any way if you want to struggle like that, who am I to say no

Less than 200k a month salary will provide basic and healthy needs for both mother and child.

purples25:


I feed a baby. It costs much if you want a healthy, well fed, good looking baby.

Men shouldn't decieve themselves. By the time a man sees his baby looking thin and 'just there' while his friends kids are looking plump and pretty, he will start to blame the mother. Forgetting that he is the one who insisted on feeding the baby on small pay.

Last last we both know where all these pretences will end. Side chick with a good job to produce and care for a fine plump baby. Or a second wife, for whom you guys will end up bringing out that same money you didn't want to spend before.

Instead of admitting their mistakes, men will start a second family with a woman and kids who will look good because he spends better on them. Why not gather that money now and spend on this first wife and family. So you won't start having greed for a better looking family when your baby is looking bad due to not being catered for properly...

I could show you my son. And I repeat, it doesn't cost much to feed a child and keep that child healthy and nourished.

purples25:


Direct answer: I don't know.

What I do know, however, is the cost of baby food. I know the cost of pampers. I know the things a baby needs.

If y'all are fine running from pillar to post to feed the baby, fine raising your baby on pap and water, if you want to feed your baby agbo when sick and you want constant quarrel based on how hard you're working to barely feed, continue.

Na same una go hear am. Since you want to earn 100k and have three babies on your neck.

It doesnt really cost that much to feed a baby. The most important fear is medical emergency.

purples25:
150k can disappear over house rent alone, and that's for a small house in a remote area.

She made the right choice.

Lol

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sisisioge:


If that is the case, you will sit it out for free for another 6months be that being a yearly tenant. He cant just eject you.

Free ke?

sisisioge:
Oga! How will local manufacture grow when the cost of production is astronomical?

How will people's per capital income be favourable when they buy local products at astronomical prices?

Biko we are not ready for local production, let's stop punishing people to keep up with very low purchasing people while making the few people who could afford local production rich. You too can invest in importation and employ people biko. The import products have value chain that needs people to service, you know....job will still be available within the value channel of distribution.

Fix the means of local production before forcing it down the throat of people! Imagine, bread is now N1000.....biko let us import N100 bread o. Awon werey!

Hmmmmm....madamm

thegroomspa:


My dear I feel so disrespected cos I can't imagine doing such to someone I claim to care about.

Not supporting anything even her actions but you are not ready to marry or even have a serious relationship

Survivor2020:
[s]My concern is my daughter who is my blood the baby has a father who should be concern about her not me.
My daughter health is more important than the baby because if anything happens to her i will never forgive myself [/s]

Something is definitely wrong with you. Yet you call yourself a father...

xin5:

i have been financing her lifestyle since we met, hence it's my right to her body.


yes I am pained, because I didn't really expect it.
i still have 1year and 2months there.. plenty of time.... moving to another house not the problem..

Lol. Which dirty right?

Karleb:


Bros, hardship don master you.

I hope you get financially free soon.

Lol. I hope so too o

Mehn, we just make it seem like life is really really expensive. Like living is that expensive and that anyone who is not rich should just die.

Just a little bit of my life, I have survived on 45k salary taking care of 7 mouths, supporting half of house rents and other bills. We did not die. It was hell but we did not die and of course you work harder and smarter to make sure you earn better.

If you can't afford to give your toddler the most expensive food, please give them pap and other corn meal or low cost food. More than 90% of us were fed with it. And when you have more, you give your kids too as you can afford. No need to spend more than you can afford and more than you earn.

I know couples whose combined salaries is not up to 100k and they are living. Maybe not as much as they would love to have but they find happiness and I'm really happy about them.

Rozross:
A thread was created by blessedmercy asking if it would be wise to settle down with a man that earns 100k and all she got was insults and jabs from guys, like seriously? Should a guy who earns 100k think of marriage or how to double his hustle ? Why are most guys unrealistic, can 100k fend and cater for yourself alone . Please I’ll want those who think it’s ok to come break it down for us on how the 100k will be managed monthly, I maybe learning a whole lot from this. Thanks

Are you not the same blessedmercy, mercychen?

Rozross:
Domestic stuff is not his work? Ok What makes you think taking part of the financial responsibility is your work? You mentioned Support and is the husband helping out domestically not a support? Personally I don’t like to see men doing domestic chores but i believe if you are in a marriage where you provide financially as a wife then there’s nothing equally wrong if the husband provides domestic support as well.

Lol

Blessedmercy8:
Warning
Long read. Please bear with me.

My twin is at it again and this time, I'm beginning to consider what some members of this group told me about her not meaning well for me.

Now, we have an elder sister that sorts us out anytime we run to her for sortings ;especially me, she always sorts me more than the others since she views me as a single.

It got to a point she told me not to always disclose to the others any time she sorts me out and she usually gives me huge cash. Before now, I used to tell my twin that Sis gave me something, she too will disclose whenever she gives her but I noticed that sometimes, she'll not want disclose until I probe further. she'll now say it reluctantly and most times, it happens that I get a bigger sorting.

I later noticed she was always telling big Sis how I have so many schools and that my schools pay well. So anytime I now holla big Sis to assist me, she'll be like . " You are now a big girl, shey you now have many big schools" and I'll be like.. how did she know. Not knowing my twin used to feed her with all that info. Still she'll give me what I requested. I didn't know twinny was not happy.

Sometime last year, big Sis gave me a huge cash gift worth hundreds of thousands to use for my book business and I didn't disclose it to her.
So one time, she ( twinny) asked me to stop coming to her house, she went and told my sis that I didn't do the book business again cos that one asked her how my book business was going. That was how twinny got to know she gave me such huge amount. Meanwhile, before then, I called and told her if big Sis asked her if I've started my book business, she should tell her she doesn't know.

Big Sis called and I explained to her that the money was still intact that I'm saving up some more so I can go into it big time. She said ok.
Still she continued sorting me whenever I called her.

Fast-forward to early this year, I bought a huge flat screen tv set to replace the old one I was using. So twinny saw it and went and told big Sis that I bought a TV set.

How I got to know.
I called big Sis recently to sort me cos school is on break and some are still owing me for books. For the first time, she locked up and said her hands are tied. Immediately my spirit told me twinny informed her about the TV set. After like three trials without progress, I rang twinny and asked her if she told big Sis about the TV I got and she said yes. I was like... Why?
Who sent you? And she said its a thing of joy, that was why she told her but I know she didn't do it with good intentions and now she has achieved her aim by blocking that way for me.

I'm still angry because I feel she did it for no good judging from how she has been disclosing my financial records and business activities to my sis so that one can stop helping me

You are just a big grown ass CHILD.

GET A FACKING LIFE.

Seun:
This govt is unbelievably stupid. Instead of training police to also use okada to pursue them
.

Lol

Gosh234:
my mind made up already

Great. Wishing you the best..

sisisioge:


Not really, I just clam up with the age thing....it has happened to me more times than I care to recount. I just feel right with my age mate or someone slightly older. No younger biko.

You mean you threw away 8 years just because of a 2 year age gap?

Okay then.

sisisioge:


We met when we were both getting inducted into a professional body like that. At that stage, age brackage was mostly plus or minus two....it was safe to match cos we finished school same year and had a lot in common. He is all taller and more advance too . Besides, when the age discussion came up, I told him mine and guy conveniently agreed its same birth year. I wasnt really into him then but we were always in and out of each other's lives. All the while, I had been vocal about not liking that kind of relationships whenever discussed it....funny, he was always asking me . Then when we got really seriously, he woke me in the middle of the night to confess. It was a big deal for me.

There are other reasons. Not age and you wanted out.

Gosh234:
I will go straight to the point and make this brief. Recall this thread https://www.nairaland.com/6990203/should-marry
On March this year I got a job as ICT officer in a firm which made me move to Lagos ,we are super excited about this development and everything working out fine (No relationship is perfect, understanding kept us going)

I served in a university, towards completion of my service year, I accomodated a guy who got to know about us
One day we were in a arguement of dating or marrying someone older than you.
I stood my ground that I can marry irrespective of age, provided it is what I want
The guy came to conclusion that it seems my spouse is older than me, we laughed over it (That ends it)

Secondly my friend Davidson that live in the same compound who is done with his studies, working while waiting on NYSC.
I told him about my woman , how I love her and ready to settle down as soon as things go as planned for me (he have seen her visited once but they never met)
He asked me if she work, I told him
He asked of her age, I JUST TOLD HIM THAT SHE IS A BIT OLDER THA ME.

While discussing with my woman last night , I was assuring her how much I love her irrespective of anything then I pointed out the two above incidence
To my greatest surprise she became angry eith me
In her words
a) She detest dating underage, how she found herself in this mess she can't tell

b) I should go ahead and tell my mum and elder brother (they just talk via phone) and even all my friends

c) I make her look desperate, that she is loosing interest already

d) I insulted her and she can't trust me again

NOTE
a) I promised her that no one will know of the age difference even if they know she is older

b) I never mentioned her age to these people or the age gap

My crime is that I admitted that she is older and I am proud and love her wholeheartedly

I don't see this working out again
I feel so belittled
Gosh

She wants to end the relationship. Please let go.

elantraceey:


They said it's been reviewed to $100 but some peeps here confirmed it's still $20. I used it to order something under $20 2 days ago and that was the rate I was charged.

Oops. Thanks

elantraceey:


490

Is this for real? Do you know the limit per month?

phemy36:
JUST LET HIM BE THE MAN...

If lots of women will allow their men be the men in the marriage, no one will end up divorced.

A lot of women marry men then turn them to women after marriage. They want him to talk like a woman, think like a woman, act like a woman, reason like a woman and end up a woman! Your husband can't! He is a man, always remember this and treat him as such!

He is your king, your Lord and master of his universe!

He is your husband, not your errand boy, you can't be sending him up and down!

He has an ego that needs daily massage.

He has a deep need to be respected through your body language, attitude and voice not just by kneeling down.

He has a deep need to be listened to and obeyed. Even if you have an objection, do so respectfully.

He has a deep need for sex (I don't know why lots of women hate to hear this truth, honestly, it baffles me).

He loves to be admired.

He longs for your support.

He loves to hear you sing his praises.

He wants good, quality food at the right time.

He wants you to cherish him.

He hates it when you flirt with other men (As in HATE!)

He wants you to look good and in shape for him.

He wants you to speak well of him before your friends, families and his friends.

A woman may not need all these but a man does that's why he married you hoping you will meet all these need in marriage.

Please, always remember you married a man and treat him as such. He will love you with all his heart, cherish you and you will have peace of mind and heart in marriage.

Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!

He wants you to know that after God, he's next.

Until you kill her....

Stillwhites:
Well, its been awhile that we broke up....Never get in touch, tho we didn't block each other.We still have each other's contacts.

A day before Sallah she sent me message on whattsapp...It reads "Hello dear, just thinking of you all this while.Can your woman get something to make hair for Sallah?"

I kukuma blocked her.

Your reason na to start another woman bashing thread?

If you can't give her, tell her you can't. That's all.

No need to encourage or enjoy bashing women every time because of one thing or the other.

Ishilove:

True, which is why the ones below this age range are majorly the ones populating the romance section and polluting the atmosphere with their senselessness

Would have loved to just engage you on this but I'll pass. Not today

pocohantas:


The Good Woman vs The Right Woman.

She is good by Nigerian standards, but not the right woman. Which is why I implore ladies to do that which seems right by them and their conscience.

That said, “his friend” is in his mid20s. He would dump ladies and he would be dumped too, normal normal. This cycle would continue until he is over 30.

Men don’t have sense until they are 32 and above. If you want to enjoy men, meet them in their 30s. That time when they are looking for quality women to marry.

Just look at another nonsense from the supposed wise and intelligent one.

I am seriously in need of help in setting up a mini lab for a pure water factory. The lab will not be elaborate but should be able to test and recommend best solution for basic water parameters.

Please contact me via WhatsApp on the number of my signature.

pocohantas:


I no say make you no call me out o. I say you should be ready for my response without deluding yourself into thinking whoever you are in reality would change my response. I no send your whole lineage.

Until the next terrible advice you'll give and I'll see, enjoy your weekend pondering about the useless one you just gave.....

Ciao.....