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Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by yommen: 9:36pm On Jun 27, 2021
SUPERPACK:
You are beating a woman that is not even your wife and you are here saying thrash about it, why not let her go and get a new girl. Continue hitting her till she pulls a Chidimma Ojukwu on you, I am patiently waiting for that story on front-page.

You are a very terrible person. With these comments of your now, I know you feel like you are the perfect person. The OP l feels miserable about what he has done and he feels he needs help. You came along and display your perfect stupidity.
Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by iamL(f): 9:38pm On Jun 27, 2021
How do some girls even end up with certain type of men? When ur standard is too low I guess.

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Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by WriterX(m): 9:42pm On Jun 27, 2021
SUPERPACK:
You are beating a woman that is not even your wife and you are here saying thrash about it, why not let her go and get a new girl. Continue hitting her till she pulls a Chidimma Ojukwu on you, I am patiently waiting for that story on front-page.

bruh you want him to let her go and get a new girl?

mehn you're confused
Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by yommen: 9:44pm On Jun 27, 2021
AutoChick4U:
Baba d lady will cheat on him soon. Ladies who lack contentment get irritated and annoying when money dry. Instead to support they'll rather frustrate d man

Na wa o! Where did you read about issue of trust in the story for you say she'll cheat on him He never complained about her at all. In fact, he confessed she has made him a better person compared to his previous girl with whom he was probably even smoking his crack. Na wa oo

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Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by Bahamas95(m): 9:50pm On Jun 27, 2021
How dare you hit someone you claim to love?

Even me I am hot tempered but I try as much as possible to control it.....My girlfriend provoked me about 2weeks ago and she angrily left my room after ranting. I didn't even utter any word when she was ranting I just concentrated on what I was doing with my phone.

She later came back that evening crying and knelt down to apologise. If I had reacted when she was ranting I would have injured her......There are many ways to kill a rat, don't hit someone's child at the slightest provocation. I wouldn't take it easy with any guy that beats my sister.
Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by HRSweetness(f): 9:51pm On Jun 27, 2021
RadioMOUTH:


No, that one became a boss lady, and started maltreating people around me, friends and family when I started earning little income

Where is her daughter when you start abusing the mum. I'm quite sure you do this even in the presence of her daughter. You don't care about her. You're just obsessed and afraid that you'd never get anyone else half as good as she if she leaves.

I just hopes she develops some sense for the sake of her daughter and exit this toxic relationship.
Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by HRSweetness(f): 9:52pm On Jun 27, 2021
Octopusssy:

How about you try beating someone who can actually fight back? You hit her because you know she can't hit back. If she hits you back once or twice I'm pretty sure the demon spirit of anger will leave your body

Thank you very much for this post. I can bet my flawless skin that the guy is a yahoo boy.
Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by Ezonman(m): 9:53pm On Jun 27, 2021
Come for deliverance after that you be able to control your temper
Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by WriterX(m): 9:54pm On Jun 27, 2021
i am probably one of the angriest persons I can think of but I rarely show it and even when you know it, I don't act with it the way it wants.. guy listen you may think hitting or slapping her is a small ish , you got to control your temper, this displays of yours is merely an icing on a much bigger dileama and I just dey pity her, she has a kid so she has to exercise more patience with you cos that's how it goes, the so called after-ones usually want closure in their relationship so even when she wants out , she can't.

there is a lot involved here, first you are temperament and also obsessed , mehn i fear for her and the kid at this point, bruh you need a therapy to work your shit out, try meditation, say what you are angry about, what ticks you off , let her know, exercise a lot, anger is a combo of a lot of other things, stress, frustration, shame, anxiety, depression, disappointment, find the source and find the answer.

if you are wondering what I do when I am angry, this is what I do

I hold a conversation with myself, I want to know why, who, and how I got angry.
what can I do to satisfy my anger,
then I let it off for a moment by leaving that area (I talk a walk) or sleep or write cos I am a writer and I find out when I am angry I have a lot more focus to write, channel your anger positively to something else or buy punching bag self for house, yes it works, throw some punches make you sweat your anger out

the idea is to not act on your anger immediately by learning to do this and mastering it, you are giving yourself some control over it. anger truly only last for while, whenever i do the above i give myself time to relax and let my anger slide.

anger is a serious shit man as a kid i was destructive as hell, i broke bones in my hands many times and hurt myself out of anger lol see me nah be like ice water lol so please eh take it seriously, I for say make you learn meditation it helps you control such things as it does for me but I doubt we nigerians find such shit helpful.

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Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by Chachamiliano: 10:01pm On Jun 27, 2021
RadioMOUTH:
I have been dating a girl over a year now, she has been so nice to me over this one year, I was in another relationship before I met her... she was so nice to me that I had to dump the other girl which I dated from 2014 till early (2020... about 6 years)

Right now, I don't know what to comment on my relationship anymore.... she helped me stop crack and other hard drugs which I was taking...(I appreciate that from her)


Before I met her she has a 6year old daughter which is now 7... ever since I met her.. I've been doing my best, I Normally spend my money in hotels and clubs but now it ends in the house... I love her daughter like she's mine, and she knows that... I pay her fees..


BUT HERE IS THE PROBLEM



I'm a hot tempered person, words annoy me rather than action... I destroy things when I'm angry... I'm just 27 years old and she's 28... a programmer by profession..m I own a land and a personal car today...


She's respectful and does what a woman will do to satisfy every man, but most times when I'm broke, there's always trouble in the house... and I feel loved when I have money...


I have never hit a woman my whole life till I met her, now I'm used to beating and shouting... now she's even telling me I talk too much when I'm complaining..

This was never my life...


Please I need options..m what do I do, I've just few hours ago hit her, because I saw her texting someone and she rescued to open her phone... causing damage on her left eye .... please what do I do....


I don't want to kill someone because I now feel I'm obsessed about her... I'm confused


Modified:

My old relationship was worst... I found love and care in this lady...

Bro you lack emotional intelligence....You need it bro

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Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by WriterX(m): 10:02pm On Jun 27, 2021
HRSweetness:


Where is her daughter when you start abusing the mum. I'm quite sure you do this even in the presence of her daughter. You don't care about her. You're just obsessed and afraid that you'd never get anyone else half as good as she if she leaves.

I just hopes she develops some sense for the sake of her daughter and exit this toxic relationship.

i can imagine the psychological trauma the kid is going through, he is actually hurting the kid as well and he has no idea about it, quarrels and fights between adults eh for children body is never a good thing for their health, the dude needs help

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Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by preciousMI1(f): 10:05pm On Jun 27, 2021
RadioMOUTH:
I have been dating a girl over a year now, she has been so nice to me over this one year, I was in another relationship before I met her... she was so nice to me that I had to dump the other girl which I dated from 2014 till early (2020... about 6 years)

Right now, I don't know what to comment on my relationship anymore.... she helped me stop crack and other hard drugs which I was taking...(I appreciate that from her)


Before I met her she has a 6year old daughter which is now 7... ever since I met her.. I've been doing my best, I Normally spend my money in hotels and clubs but now it ends in the house... I love her daughter like she's mine, and she knows that... I pay her fees..


BUT HERE IS THE PROBLEM



I'm a hot tempered person, words annoy me rather than action... I destroy things when I'm angry... I'm just 27 years old and she's 28... a programmer by profession..m I own a land and a personal car today...


She's respectful and does what a woman will do to satisfy every man, but most times when I'm broke, there's always trouble in the house... and I feel loved when I have money...


I have never hit a woman my whole life till I met her, now I'm used to beating and shouting... now she's even telling me I talk too much when I'm complaining..

This was never my life...


Please I need options..m what do I do, I've just few hours ago hit her, because I saw her texting someone and she rescued to open her phone... causing damage on her left eye .... please what do I do....


I don't want to kill someone because I now feel I'm obsessed about her... I'm confused


Modified:

My old relationship was worst... I found love and care in this lady...

How did she help you stop drug and substance abuse? I really want to know! I need practical experience to help someone too please
Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by WriterX(m): 10:05pm On Jun 27, 2021
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HRSweetness:


Thank you very much for this post. I can bet my flawless skin that the guy is a yahoo boy.

calm down, he says his a programmer, they do well a lot if they know what they are doing, I know this cos that's partially my area of career since I studied CSC as wel
Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by Westernequinox: 10:07pm On Jun 27, 2021
Intellectualism would not solve the issue, No doctor can fix you up. Regardless of level of sophistication of treatment used on you, it can't still never cure you innate nature of (avon)brokenness,same applies to me and others on this forums,We all came to with a zero day exploit right from the fall Of Adam from grace and fellowship with God. The exploit patch released by God your manufacturer Is jesus. He is door and way to breaking that very evil nature in you, he broke mine. Noah preached for 120 years before the judgment of the flood by God, only his immediate household family listened and actually believed him. We are responsible for her choices,and I made already following God and not the lying hearts of men
Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by oyemomilara: 10:08pm On Jun 27, 2021
God forbid we help you stay in that relationship for the sake of that poor lady. You know your problem. Get help.
Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by VicM6: 10:16pm On Jun 27, 2021
RadioMOUTH:
I have been dating a girl over a year now, she has been so nice to me over this one year, I was in another relationship before I met her... she was so nice to me that I had to dump the other girl which I dated from 2014 till early (2020... about 6 years)

Right now, I don't know what to comment on my relationship anymore.... she helped me stop crack and other hard drugs which I was taking...(I appreciate that from her)


Before I met her she has a 6year old daughter which is now 7... ever since I met her.. I've been doing my best, I Normally spend my money in hotels and clubs but now it ends in the house... I love her daughter like she's mine, and she knows that... I pay her fees..


BUT HERE IS THE PROBLEM



I'm a hot tempered person, words annoy me rather than action... I destroy things when I'm angry... I'm just 27 years old and she's 28... a programmer by profession..m I own a land and a personal car today...


She's respectful and does what a woman will do to satisfy every man, but most times when I'm broke, there's always trouble in the house... and I feel loved when I have money...


I have never hit a woman my whole life till I met her, now I'm used to beating and shouting... now she's even telling me I talk too much when I'm complaining..

This was never my life...


Please I need options..m what do I do, I've just few hours ago hit her, because I saw her texting someone and she rescued to open her phone... causing damage on her left eye .... please what do I do....


I don't want to kill someone because I now feel I'm obsessed about her... I'm confused


Modified:

My old relationship was worst... I found love and care in this lady...
werey op, you re hot tempered with a woman.... come try am with me na make we break tinz together see who go tire.. if i no use 2 by 2 for that ur coconut head enh.

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Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by Grateful02(m): 10:19pm On Jun 27, 2021
I didn't attempt reading down your story because I know you've already LPST the relationship!! I know how annoying and painful any situation is/are but raising your hand on a lady isn't the proper thing.
Sha let me end here because through out my years,i've never seen my dad relay a finger on my mom
Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by Maximus85(m): 10:20pm On Jun 27, 2021
Do you beat your fellow man when you're angry?

Just a simple question.

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Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by Keketu(m): 10:28pm On Jun 27, 2021
Opemiposii:
mtcheew.. deal wit it.. u dumped a girl u have been dating for 5years for anoda girl for wat reason abeg? and u nw expect ya life to be meaningful... ntorr
hi I love your comment today please on me thanks my name is keketu
Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by Beey(f): 10:41pm On Jun 27, 2021
RadioMOUTH:
I have been dating a girl over a year now, she has been so nice to me over this one year, I was in another relationship before I met her... she was so nice to me that I had to dump the other girl which I dated from 2014 till early (2020... about 6 years)

Right now, I don't know what to comment on my relationship anymore.... she helped me stop crack and other hard drugs which I was taking...(I appreciate that from her)


Before I met her she has a 6year old daughter which is now 7... ever since I met her.. I've been doing my best, I Normally spend my money in hotels and clubs but now it ends in the house... I love her daughter like she's mine, and she knows that... I pay her fees..


BUT HERE IS THE PROBLEM



I'm a hot tempered person, words annoy me rather than action... I destroy things when I'm angry... I'm just 27 years old and she's 28... a programmer by profession..m I own a land and a personal car today...


She's respectful and does what a woman will do to satisfy every man, but most times when I'm broke, there's always trouble in the house... and I feel loved when I have money...


I have never hit a woman my whole life till I met her, now I'm used to beating and shouting... now she's even telling me I talk too much when I'm complaining..

This was never my life...


Please I need options..m what do I do, I've just few hours ago hit her, because I saw her texting someone and she rescued to open her phone... causing damage on her left eye .... please what do I do....


I don't want to kill someone because I now feel I'm obsessed about her... I'm confused


Modified:

My old relationship was worst... I found love and care in this lady...
If I call you stupid, you’ll say I insulted you but you are stupid in every sense of the word. You are a boy who’s yet to grow up mentally and become a man. I don’t know why you are living with a woman when you cannot value her & you treat he her like trash. Why did you start dating someone you don’t trust? You want to read her messages & inspect her phone? Are you the police? Is she under investigation for a crime? Dude I feel like slapping you over the phone. You should be ashamed of yourself woman beater.You said that you never hit a woman before but now you are used to beating. Why don’t you find your match? You break things when angry? Truly you are dumb because you’ll still replace those items. You need to let go off someone’s daughter before you come back to tell us that you killed her. Go seek therapy for anger management and leave women alone until you can control your temper.
Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by EmzyT: 10:42pm On Jun 27, 2021
RadioMOUTH:

Thanks, indeed... a hungry man is an angry man but no woman is a bitch

The statement is not true, Instead;
A broke and Jobless man is an Angry man

When you're Rich and your account is well Loaded, No amount of Hunger can make you Angry tongue
Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by peedeeasobie(m): 10:45pm On Jun 27, 2021
RadioMOUTH:
I have been dating a girl over a year now, she has been so nice to me over this one year, I was in another relationship before I met her... she was so nice to me that I had to dump the other girl which I dated from 2014 till early (2020... about 6 years)

Right now, I don't know what to comment on my relationship anymore.... she helped me stop crack and other hard drugs which I was taking...(I appreciate that from her)


Before I met her she has a 6year old daughter which is now 7... ever since I met her.. I've been doing my best, I Normally spend my money in hotels and clubs but now it ends in the house... I love her daughter like she's mine, and she knows that... I pay her fees..


BUT HERE IS THE PROBLEM



I'm a hot tempered person, words annoy me rather than action... I destroy things when I'm angry... I'm just 27 years old and she's 28... a programmer by profession..m I own a land and a personal car today...


She's respectful and does what a woman will do to satisfy every man, but most times when I'm broke, there's always trouble in the house... and I feel loved when I have money...


I have never hit a woman my whole life till I met her, now I'm used to beating and shouting... now she's even telling me I talk too much when I'm complaining..

This was never my life...


Please I need options..m what do I do, I've just few hours ago hit her, because I saw her texting someone and she rescued to open her phone... causing damage on her left eye .... please what do I do....


I don't want to kill someone because I now feel I'm obsessed about her... I'm confused


Modified:

My old relationship was worst... I found love and care in this lady...



You don't need counselling sir.

Don't let anybody deceive you sir.

You are simply a coward and a beast.

When you get angry with men bigger than you, do you beat them like that or destroy things?

You are not hot tempered. You are simply lowlife woman beater...

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Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by iExplore(m): 10:47pm On Jun 27, 2021
RadioMOUTH:
I have been dating a girl over a year now, she has been so nice to me over this one year, I was in another relationship before I met her... she was so nice to me that I had to dump the other girl which I dated from 2014 till early (2020... about 6 years)

Right now, I don't know what to comment on my relationship anymore.... she helped me stop crack and other hard drugs which I was taking...(I appreciate that from her)


Before I met her she has a 6year old daughter which is now 7... ever since I met her.. I've been doing my best, I Normally spend my money in hotels and clubs but now it ends in the house... I love her daughter like she's mine, and she knows that... I pay her fees..


BUT HERE IS THE PROBLEM



I'm a hot tempered person, words annoy me rather than action... I destroy things when I'm angry... I'm just 27 years old and she's 28... a programmer by profession..m I own a land and a personal car today...


She's respectful and does what a woman will do to satisfy every man, but most times when I'm broke, there's always trouble in the house... and I feel loved when I have money...


I have never hit a woman my whole life till I met her, now I'm used to beating and shouting... now she's even telling me I talk too much when I'm complaining..

This was never my life...


Please I need options..m what do I do, I've just few hours ago hit her, because I saw her texting someone and she rescued to open her phone... causing damage on her left eye .... please what do I do....


I don't want to kill someone because I now feel I'm obsessed about her... I'm confused


Modified:

My old relationship was worst... I found love and care in this lady...

If I tell you to stop hitting her, would you?
Work on your temper bro. It's better to walk away when provoked than say or do something you will regret later.

Women are known to always run their mouth. When that happens, do not exchange words with her, otherwise you may not control your anger and end up beating her again.

Learn to always ignore and walk away. Mastering this two things will help you greatly now and in the future.
Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by greggng: 10:52pm On Jun 27, 2021
RadioMOUTH:
I have been dating a girl over a year now, she has been so nice to me over this one year, I was in another relationship before I met her... she was so nice to me that I had to dump the other girl which I dated from 2014 till early (2020... about 6 years)

Right now, I don't know what to comment on my relationship anymore.... she helped me stop crack and other hard drugs which I was taking...(I appreciate that from her)


Before I met her she has a 6year old daughter which is now 7... ever since I met her.. I've been doing my best, I Normally spend my money in hotels and clubs but now it ends in the house... I love her daughter like she's mine, and she knows that... I pay her fees..


BUT HERE IS THE PROBLEM



I'm a hot tempered person, words annoy me rather than action... I destroy things when I'm angry... I'm just 27 years old and she's 28... a programmer by profession..m I own a land and a personal car today...


She's respectful and does what a woman will do to satisfy every man, but most times when I'm broke, there's always trouble in the house... and I feel loved when I have money...


I have never hit a woman my whole life till I met her, now I'm used to beating and shouting... now she's even telling me I talk too much when I'm complaining..

This was never my life...


Please I need options..m what do I do, I've just few hours ago hit her, because I saw her texting someone and she rescued to open her phone... causing damage on her left eye .... please what do I do....


I don't want to kill someone because I now feel I'm obsessed about her... I'm confused


Modified:

My old relationship was worst... I found love and care in this lady...


Any man that beats a woman is an animal . One day I got to my sisters place and I discovered she couldn't come out to greet me ...suddenly when she appeared her face was badly damaged ... I had to call my boys to handle the husband without wasting time. There after he took undertaken never to do that again...A gentleman will walkout of such situation ...instead of flexing mussle with a woman ...Pls help me tell her to leave you cos you won't change...once a woman beater always a woman beater ...

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Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by FahBuLous: 10:54pm On Jun 27, 2021
I have something to tell you FOOL....
You are a pathetic piece of shit for laying your stupid hands on a woman...
What do you wanna solve with breaking her into pieces...
Violence solves nothing...
I so much hate men that hit women...
Bleep off ... angry angry angry
Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by Abikeade11(f): 10:55pm On Jun 27, 2021
Hello Mr. You don't love this lady, well I don't know what you're feeling that you called love but it isn't love. You're inflicting pains on her and you said you love her, I don't think that's possible from my own perspective, because what I know is that, you don't cause pain to people you love. My advice is that, you sit yourself down and think, do I really love this lady as I claimed to, when you have your answer, then we can know where to start the counselling.
Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by RPG2020(m): 10:58pm On Jun 27, 2021
JONSYN7154:
That's harsh.


Harsh ki!! You there na lie before
Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by Nobody: 11:07pm On Jun 27, 2021
wearsandtrends1:

Wetin you dey find go sokoto, dey your Shokoto kiss
I don see am for my short nicker
Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by Chris2863(m): 11:12pm On Jun 27, 2021
See op, see prison grin
Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by melodyogonna(m): 11:13pm On Jun 27, 2021
Who's the programmer? You or she?
Re: I Need Help In My Relationship ❗ by Liftkid(m): 11:16pm On Jun 27, 2021
RadioMOUTH:
I have been dating a girl over a year now, she has been so nice to me over this one year, I was in another relationship before I met her... she was so nice to me that I had to dump the other girl which I dated from 2014 till early (2020... about 6 years)

Right now, I don't know what to comment on my relationship anymore.... she helped me stop crack and other hard drugs which I was taking...(I appreciate that from her)


Before I met her she has a 6year old daughter which is now 7... ever since I met her.. I've been doing my best, I Normally spend my money in hotels and clubs but now it ends in the house... I love her daughter like she's mine, and she knows that... I pay her fees..


BUT HERE IS THE PROBLEM



I'm a hot tempered person, words annoy me rather than action... I destroy things when I'm angry... I'm just 27 years old and she's 28... a programmer by profession..m I own a land and a personal car today...


She's respectful and does what a woman will do to satisfy every man, but most times when I'm broke, there's always trouble in the house... and I feel loved when I have money...


I have never hit a woman my whole life till I met her, now I'm used to beating and shouting... now she's even telling me I talk too much when I'm complaining..

This was never my life...


Please I need options..m what do I do, I've just few hours ago hit her, because I saw her texting someone and she rescued to open her phone... causing damage on her left eye .... please what do I do....


I don't want to kill someone because I now feel I'm obsessed about her... I'm confused


Modified:

My old relationship was worst... I found love and care in this lady...


could this lady be Oluchi ? you drive toyota camry right ?

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