Pettiness

Nwodosis:
You are not a good person, a family that you are yet to be officially part of, you want to break the family love bond! You are materialistic and selfish but love is not about materialism and selfishness.

You too, you are not a good person.

Someone brought their problem in search of some working solution, and you wasted no time in attacking the person.

Wahala for who no get girlfriend

J

Family over everything.... family is everything..

Mario Puzo...

Op you’re a selfish human... if Na my sister Godforbid you marry her

Anu

Detach from family so that you can play her like football. So glad she is still rooted in her emotional support base.
Selfish op. Pay first and change her surname to yours, care Wella and the loyalty, attachment will naturally shift to you.

chidekings:

most won't understand where your heading.certain things can't be explained.but if you feel you can't cope better cut off now.

You're a million percent right. Most won't understand where the young man is going, save they're faced with the situation.

@Op, out of experience i sincerely advice you, leave here alone. Do not marry her. You will have problems in marriage, it might become violent.

If her parents or one pareant were still alive with this mentality of hers, omo she would have broken you since.

Love her the way she if she is a nice person and you love her

bigpicture001:
Yes it true that we always claim that family is everything, they will never desert you bla bla bla....but my main question is, is your family always right in taking your top ranking position of importance..?

Many atimes we have heard of family members betrayals just like friends do. We have heard of family abandonment of a sibling, we have seen a lot if times how elder siblibgs jettision youger ones and face thier own life...

My girlfriend is an orphan with four other siblings. Who grew apart in other relatives houses. Everyone is now adult..she cant seem to get over her emotional connections to her siblings, always claming they com first even before her lover or eventual hubby or even the children she will birth...

Looking at the family, I don't even see what is so special a sacrifice they have done for themselves. Example her eldest bro who earns over 600k monthly gave her a paltry 15k for a trip to sokoto for her NYSC. A place she has never been to..this includes t/fare, feeding etc. Her siblings would never feel like being around each other except it calls for a serious Holiday like xmas...there are many more I can't list here.

Wtf! My family have much more sacrifices for each other yet we understood the roles new person entering the family through love have in each and everybody's lives....

People are so two faced in this country claiming family family but dont really care..for the ladies that wil crop up on this thread..first ask yourself how many times have your brother bought you exmas gift or burthday gift before you open ur lieing mouth

Mind you this is not to underscore, the relevance of family bond, but everyone that affects your life should be rightly placed where they importantly belong.

I think you're an insecure man for expecting your girlfriend, not a wife you have married, detach herself from her family just to please you.
And how dare you try to paint her family members in unpleasant colors.
What about yours ?
You're probably more envious that she has a closely knit family than you have.

R

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...if it is not just for fu*ks

Iceyjayzz:
Just let her be for now, when she gives birth she might change, that's if you will marry her

you are right, it's a must

bigpicture001:
Yes it true that we always claim that family is everything, they will never desert you bla bla bla....but my main question is, is your family always right in taking your top ranking position of importance..?

Many atimes we have heard of family members betrayals just like friends do. We have heard of family abandonment of a sibling, we have seen a lot if times how elder siblibgs jettision youger ones and face thier own life...

My girlfriend is an orphan with four other siblings. Who grew apart in other relatives houses. Everyone is now adult..she cant seem to get over her emotional connections to her siblings, always claming they com first even before her lover or eventual hubby or even the children she will birth...

Looking at the family, I don't even see what is so special a sacrifice they have done for themselves. Example her eldest bro who earns over 600k monthly gave her a paltry 15k for a trip to sokoto for her NYSC. A place she has never been to..this includes t/fare, feeding etc. Her siblings would never feel like being around each other except it calls for a serious Holiday like xmas...there are many more I can't list here.

Wtf! My family have much more sacrifices for each other yet we understood the roles new person entering the family through love have in each and everybody's lives....

People are so two faced in this country claiming family family but dont really care..for the ladies that wil crop up on this thread..first ask yourself how many times have your brother bought you exmas gift or burthday gift before you open ur lieing mouth

Mind you this is not to underscore, the relevance of family bond, but everyone that affects your life should be rightly placed where they importantly belong.

But op knows that Change is the only constant thing in life. In case there are changes(undesirable behaviour from you) to the smooth sail and flow of your relationship and she has already let-go of the better relationship with her siblings , who/where will she now turn to ? Na wa for you oO

chidekings:

most won't understand where your heading.certain things can't be explained.but if you feel you can't cope better cut off now.

Where is he heading? Cambodia?
Shey na this thing some women dey complain, una say we wan scatter una family. We refuse to understand o. Let all of us be mad.

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Save yourself from unnecessary stress. Goan marry your type. You will not be unfortunate to try to marry that poor girl with your mentakity

bigpicture001:
Yes it true that we always claim that family is everything, they will never desert you bla bla bla....but my main question is, is your family always right in taking your top ranking position of importance..?

Many atimes we have heard of family members betrayals just like friends do. We have heard of family abandonment of a sibling, we have seen a lot if times how elder siblibgs jettision youger ones and face thier own life...

My girlfriend is an orphan with four other siblings. Who grew apart in other relatives houses. Everyone is now adult..she cant seem to get over her emotional connections to her siblings, always claming they com first even before her lover or eventual hubby or even the children she will birth...

Looking at the family, I don't even see what is so special a sacrifice they have done for themselves. Example her eldest bro who earns over 600k monthly gave her a paltry 15k for a trip to sokoto for her NYSC. A place she has never been to..this includes t/fare, feeding etc. Her siblings would never feel like being around each other except it calls for a serious Holiday like xmas...there are many more I can't list here.

Wtf! My family have much more sacrifices for each other yet we understood the roles new person entering the family through love have in each and everybody's lives....

People are so two faced in this country claiming family family but dont really care..for the ladies that wil crop up on this thread..first ask yourself how many times have your brother bought you exmas gift or burthday gift before you open ur lieing mouth

Mind you this is not to underscore, the relevance of family bond, but everyone that affects your life should be rightly placed where they importantly belong.

Bro, it's a big red flag!!!!!!
Back off now! I repeat back off!! For your own good, I repeat again back off !!!
Speaking from experience.

Nwodosis:

That's an exaggeration to express the extent of love she has for her siblings
No woman plays with her child excerpt Tiwa Savage that swears with her child's life.

Lmfaoooooooooooooo

Mchew.

Nwodosis:
You are not a good person, a family that you are yet to be officially part of, you want to break the family love bond! You are materialistic and selfish but love is not about materialism and selfishness.

Good person! I'm dating an orphan I can relate to what he said, my girlfriend's brothers would collect rent from late late dad's property and she won't get a dime. Where the family love?

You've not married or engaged her and you're already expecting her to do what exactly for you?

I get Ur point @ op,I experienced such with my spouse, there was an instance when my mother in-law was at my place and my little boy was sick same with my mother in-law,I got home one day and she has attended to her mum while my son is yet to take his medication.
It was not funny at all ,I gave her a piece of my mind but that is not always the case and how you handle the situation matters.
Pls remember we all have individual differences

Which position is she in the family?


How long have you guys been dating?


Have you talk to her about how you feel?


If yes, what was her response?

bigpicture001:


I found out the hospitals she now goes to for an ailment which is now past tense..its been there, no other person pays that much attention..I check on her tru calla almost every 4hours...I stand by her through thick and thin...

You don't get..I am totally involved in her day to day life..to say she cant do certain things for me cuz am not family is just so disgusting....
Mr. Emotions..who is more emotionally supportive of a lady when in need of it..ur sibling's or ur very loving girlfriend..

Would your adult brother stay days with you in the hospital if you are down..? As compared to ur fiancee..? If no..is she your family memeber yet..?

Guy cease to reason with just emotion..com to reality

My brother don't mind all those people that are saying you should not expect her to give you full undivided attention until you marry her. Fa fa fa... Foul. It is very unreasonable to expect a complete change of behaviour simply because you said "I do". It is best test your physical, emotional and sexual compatibility before taking her down the alter. Sit her down and explain to her the same issues you stated here. Explain to her that you are not asking her to abandon her family, but everyone must separate from family and create a new family. You can even quote Ephesians 5:31 and Genesis 2:24 for her if she is a Christian.

This guy is a joker.

bigpicture001:


Must one be part of a family to show the most love and care....?

Which one is breaking..? Didnt youbread where she said she will always place her siblings over her hubby and even child she births.

let her give birth to her first child and you gonna know she is wrong

Yankee101:
You've not married or engaged her and you're already expecting her to do what exactly for you?

That means she also should not expect anything from him, emotionally or materially until they are married.

I have found out that Nigeria like to exploit, blackmail and patronize compassionate people.

As an orphan we might be more emotionally attached to her siblings more any one else. You are not even blood, so you might always be second place in her priority list. But as a man, you must know thats always going to be a reality. Sooner or later, you will have kids and they would come ahead of you. That's the reality. And its mostly going to be a HUGE LIE for any woman to tell you you come ahead of anyone else in her life, if you believe that then you are yet to mature. Pray for grace to shoulder your responsibilities and be a great father to your kids. Men are not built to seek for validation.

bigpicture001:
Yes it true that we always claim that family is everything, they will never desert you bla bla bla....but my main question is, is your family always right in taking your top ranking position of importance..?

Many atimes we have heard of family members betrayals just like friends do. We have heard of family abandonment of a sibling, we have seen a lot if times how elder siblibgs jettision youger ones and face thier own life...

My girlfriend is an orphan with four other siblings. Who grew apart in other relatives houses. Everyone is now adult..she cant seem to get over her emotional connections to her siblings, always claming they com first even before her lover or eventual hubby or even the children she will birth...

Looking at the family, I don't even see what is so special a sacrifice they have done for themselves. Example her eldest bro who earns over 600k monthly gave her a paltry 15k for a trip to sokoto for her NYSC. A place she has never been to..this includes t/fare, feeding etc. Her siblings would never feel like being around each other except it calls for a serious Holiday like xmas...there are many more I can't list here.

Wtf! My family have much more sacrifices for each other yet we understood the roles new person entering the family through love have in each and everybody's lives....

People are so two faced in this country claiming family family but dont really care..for the ladies that wil crop up on this thread..first ask yourself how many times have your brother bought you exmas gift or burthday gift before you open ur lieing mouth

Mind you this is not to underscore, the relevance of family bond, but everyone that affects your life should be rightly placed where they importantly belong.

My wife is the same with her mother and we have kids together. You are lucky it's just girlfriend, you can walk away before it's too late

onioluwajuwonlo:
let her give birth to her first child and you gonna know she is wrong

It is wrong to place family over husband (or wife).