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Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Romanoff(f): 9:59am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Carchoice: No. He's ready to abandon them as long as he is not providing and that's selfish. What kind of woman leaves her kids just cause of another man? 4 Likes |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Sultty(m): 9:59am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Andrew87:take up d responsibility . one day u will know why they say a bird in hand is worth two in d bush 3 Likes |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by colestephan86: 10:00am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Andrew87:You are the new husband na, take care of them. In the end you go gain am, mark my words, yes it will be very hard on you but if does children no die, they will bless you in return, also try to document all payments made on their behalf school fees , and so on. Cos the man will come one day and claim he has been sending money for their upkeep. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by candidbabe(f): 10:01am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Hahahaha The children's father don see mugu. @ op send his children to him And give birth to yours. 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Romanoff(f): 10:01am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Carchoice: How can they resent their father if he provides for them? 2 Likes |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Nobody: 10:01am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Romanoff: The post said he wants to take the children. Doesn’t sound like he abandoned them completely. 18 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by grandlexuz(m): 10:01am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Andrew87 I am guessing you are 34 years old based on your handle..Lol..You left out some very important details..What are the ages of the kids? Was the man taking care of his kids before you met the woman? Did the lady use to live in same house with the kids father. The later should define the attachment the man had with his kids before you met your woman.. Honestly as a single father if my ex moved on to remarry I will want to have full custody of my kids. Full custody doesn't stop them from spending holidays and or weekends with their mum especially if we live in thesame town.. Your wife needs to work out an amicable joint custody settlement with the father of those kids. Those kids have a father and he needs to play a role in their lives.. Say if you went on to have two kids with your wife and at some point you guys went apart, will you be okay she be with the kids while you just pump in financial assistance..I doubt not. From your writeup the man doesn't get to have his kids over cos of rumours he will japa with them.. I don't think its fair.. It is my believe the man isn't providing for the kids as a form of punishment to the lady. When your own kids start coming expenses will outweigh you guys wuna go call him to come take his kids.. 9 Likes |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by omoadeleye(m): 10:02am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Romanoff: Stfu 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Goldenheart(m): 10:02am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 10:02am On Jul 16, 2021 |
You know this believe that kids willmlook for their father after day grow and decide if he was denied access to them of was just irresponsible? If they find to you and their mother just didn't let them be with their father who seems to be wealthy than you guys, you people won't like them. But I'd they go and stay with him and he takes care of them or maybe bleeps up and they decide on their own to come back to you, they will respect you forever. But I'd the kids say they don't want to follow the father, then they should stay and don't bother the man about taking care of them. Let them go. He's their father. Them you and your wife can focus on yourselves. No matter how you keep them from him, they will still go to him. It's better they go without a fight. Let him hold his money if you and your wife and your wife can take care of them. 8 Likes |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by BigYash: 10:02am On Jul 16, 2021 |
You never see anything.. Single girls finish,when you go marry another man wife? Ozuor! 18 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Romanoff(f): 10:03am On Jul 16, 2021 |
omoadeleye: Only an idiot with no capability of civility will write what you put up there. 4 Likes |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by grandlexuz(m): 10:03am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Romanoff: Your write up is biased and totally leaning towards the female gender. I don't see how kids living with their dad amounts to being abandoned by their mum. When my wife abandoned me three years ago I Iived with my kids for two years in a different town, taking care of their every needs even with deteriorating health condition. The had a phone of their own through their mum could reach them directly. During holidays I made sure the visited her.. When parents separate it is very important both parties get involved in the upbringing of the kids. Getting involve doesn't just mean financially but by spending time and guiding the kids too. From the write up the lady wouldn't let the man be with the kids because of rumours that he plans to runoff with them. Why should a father not have his kids over? The lady and the dad of the kids need to work out an amicable settlement irrespective of their differences for the betterment of the kids. Whatever the settlement both parties spending time with the kids should be a guiding factor. It is the responsibility of the man to pay his kids school fees and put the lady on an upkeep allowance for the kids if the settle for the kids to be with her. The man also deseves acess to his kids. In Cameroon most well to do men stay with their kids after a separation especially if the woman eventually remarries. For a year now my kids have been with their mum because I have been very mobile. I pay their fees and buy their personal effects, I put their mum on a 300 US Dollars equivalent monthly allowance for their upkeep. I'm not wealthy and its an enormous sacrifice I do for my kids offcourse... Oops I forgot this story wasnt about me...Lol 18 Likes |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Kingcalls: 10:03am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Romanoff: Don't ever take an advice from a woman when it comes to relationship issues cos u will be ruined 36 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by omoadeleye(m): 10:04am On Jul 16, 2021 |
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Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Womanizer(m): 10:04am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Katier00: And who says the father cannot provide the care they need? 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Rubbiish(m): 10:04am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Romanoff:What kind of biased submission is this?? Does the kids belong to the woman alone? Now that she doesn't have the capacity to take care of the kids, is it not best they go back to their father? Won't op have his own kids? @op tell your wife to return those kids to their father, or at least return one, let her keep one, or those children will suffer for nothing & will still end up looking for their dad when they grow up. U have your own life to live & your biological children should come first. Let her return them now, because when u start having kids with this your financial capacity, those children will suffer for nothing. & it will be unfair on those children, especially when they have a father who could have easily fend for them. 23 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by grandlexuz(m): 10:04am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Hammyaladin: The bolded is quite thought reflecting..I know many people who took care of another mans chikd only for the kids to grow up in search of their biological father.. Dont just get married to a woman because you love her check and balance iq literacy etc... Another food for thought.. 2 Likes |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Romanoff(f): 10:04am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Kingcalls: So women aren't capable of good advice? Abi? 2 Likes |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by farady(m): 10:05am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Guy allow the man take his kids. Unless God specifically gave you a go ahead, marrying a single mum with children comes with alot a headaches. 5 Likes |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Juicewrld27: 10:05am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Sultty:take the responsibility for anothet man's child who already has plans to snatch em away. You just wan do giveaway 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by alexvic12: 10:05am On Jul 16, 2021 |
This is dicey: 1. If you decide to keep struggling and train them in the best way that you can, you would have done well. However, there's always the chance that the kids might grow up and learn that their real dad is a wealthy man. If you are not wealthy by then, they may decide to leave you and go be with him. If this happens, they may choose to see you as the bad man who stole their mum away from their dad and in so doing, deprived them of a comfortable life with the wealthy biological dad. 2. I don't know your wife, but she may later go on to reconcile with that rich man if things turn out really bad. Of course, this chance is tiny; but it is possible. If this happens, she might give the usual line of 'I didn't ask you to do all that you did' 3. You can train them and all will turn out well. They will always see you as the man who was there for them. In the end, I think you should pray and seek for God's direction. Lastly, if you can, please don't marry single mothers except those who are widows, or who have grown-up children, or who have a legal agreement to get child support, or who you know are just victims of life. You can go ahead if you're financially capable, or you don't mind working your ass off to keep the family. Either way, your choice. 8 Likes |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by tempex88(m): 10:05am On Jul 16, 2021 |
The biological father is right to insist they stay with him if he is to take responsibility. However, draw up on agreement that defines your wife's responsibilities too and how they will share custody. Even if it's just the 2months long vacation they get to stay with your own family, that's okay. 4 Likes |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Romanoff(f): 10:05am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Rubbiish: The man is blackmailing the woman with the kids. If he loves them, let him provide for their upkeep at least. Na born them born for each other, why should they be a thorn in each other's flesh? 3 Likes |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Kobicove(m): 10:05am On Jul 16, 2021 |
You're acting based on only the version of the story this woman told you which may not be the whole truth 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by FORWARDEVERLY: 10:05am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Andrew87: Work more hard and train another man's kids.. your reward is in heaven.. and pls don't give birth to your own kids, I trust your wife Sha, highest na one more she go born.. train that man kids and God would bless you... You are a REAL man.. children are gifts from God, it is not their fault to be born.. You have to train them as a REAL man.. Cheers to doing that. .. Marrying a Single mother is the best... Avoid girls that doesn't have a child out of wedlock.. Only REAL men like you marry single moms.. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Nobody: 10:05am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Spits I hate simps with passion. I can't stand simps. Out of the succulent young beautiful ladies (some even tear rubber) you decided to settle for a punany that has witness the passage of two kids and the mofo that perpetrated the act is still alive? Simps always settling for less. Your eye go soon clear, love indeed. Spits once again 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Skillsnigeria: 10:05am On Jul 16, 2021 |
The Lord will deliver you |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by dapadawee: 10:06am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Andrew87:How many children another woman born for you before you marry woman were born two for another man. Lazy man you want to enjoy another man labour 1 Like |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by grandlexuz(m): 10:06am On Jul 16, 2021 |
colestephan86: H |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by BePrepared: 10:07am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Some men dey o Marry a woman with 2 children, and their father still dey... is this true or fiction Human beings dey o Na so love dey? 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by seyz91(m): 10:07am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Didn't you foresee all these before taking her to alter? Andrew87: 2 Likes
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