muller101:
See trap

For your siblings?

ibrutex:
To start with , do your spouse know how much your salary is at the end of the month..

Would you tell her if their is an increment and how much is added??

Well! To me I wouldn't let her know if their is increment because I can't let someone finish the salary for me before I received , last last she will still be the one that take most share...

Maybe I acted wrongly , need your reasons.

just like first person to comment says , it depend on kind of spouse you have . like me, I dont know about other person is a must for me to let her know have gain some increment on my salary but that will not translate to increase in upkeep because she know we have alot of project we are on and beside I can only give her money to add to her business anything aside that naa OYO she dey

Bros make we get the salary increment first...

I just gave my promotion letter to her last week, it shows the details of the increment lol.
What's not to show,...... Unless your wife isn't a wife

When I see some questions like this, I wonder whether people understand marriage as a case where the two have become one or they see it as a business partnership between two partners who cannot afford to fully trust each other.

Or maybe it’s just that one did not marry a wife that He truly respects and can trust with money.

There is hardly any significant income that I am expecting that my Wife is not aware of. And a significant chunk of it goes to my Wife to plan and sort out our home and joint business spending.

Maybe it helps that She is good ( definitely much better than me) at budgeting and planning and is generally prudent. Maybe it helps that I don’t have too many things I spend money on that I can’t account for, like side chicks or clubbing. But this way my wife doesn’t stress me because She knows i have given what I have at the time. Many times she even adds Her own money and buys me stuff.

I know it helps that in our relationship we relate like the two have become one. It helps in other areas too. You should try it.

Dollywood:



Who asked you to mention your salary on a public forum, who are you trying to intimidate here?

comeoN mehn! Read very well before you comment

I said "Sample" .... It's all example

What kind of marriage do you have if you’re hiding ANYTHING from your spouse. Sounds like a fake ass waste of time to me.

Yes, I will tell her about my salary and my salary increment... Because she is the love of my life... She is rightly beside me... So, she trusts me that I can do it... Infact, she receives alert of my salary and take care of the bills....

ibrutex:
To start with , do your spouse know how much your salary is at the end of the month..

Would you tell her if their is an increment and how much is added??

Well! To me I wouldn't let her know if their is increment because I can't let someone finish the salary for me before I received , last last she will still be the one that take most share...

Maybe I acted wrongly , need your reasons.

In marriage, both the husband and wife are one. There should be no secrets.

Damn
Ain't getting married so no need to say anything, my money is for me and my family members

ibrutex:
To start with , do your spouse know how much your salary is at the end of the month..

Would you tell her if their is an increment and how much is added??

Well! To me I wouldn't let her know if their is increment because I can't let someone finish the salary for me before I received , last last she will still be the one that take most share...

Maybe I acted wrongly , need your reasons.

None of her biz whacks.

Mercychen:
It's up to you. Then again it depends largely on the kind of person your spouse is. If she's the leechy type, you know what to do.. if shes the prudent type, you know what to do.

As for me, I'm not usually after or particular about someones income because im not ready to disclose mine. So long as you carry out your financial responsibilities as at when due, no qualms.


Yey!!!
First to comment on a financial increment post.

I dedicate this FTC to my finances. More increase to and in my finances in Jesus name.
Amen!!!!!!

so you are not ready to disclose your income to your man, but it is the man's duty to carry out the responsibility at home right?

TheGift:
When I see some questions like this, I wonder whether people understand marriage as a case where the two have become one or they see it as a business partnership between two partners who cannot afford to fully trust each other.

Or maybe it’s just that one did not marry a wife that He truly respects and can trust with money.

There is hardly any significant income that I am expecting that my Wife is not aware of. And a significant chunk of it goes to my Wife to plan and sort out our home and joint business spending.

Maybe it helps that She is good ( definitely much better than me) at budgeting and planning and is generally prudent. Maybe it helps that I don’t have too many things I spend money on that I can’t account for, like side chicks or clubbing. But this way my wife doesn’t stress me because She knows i have given what I have at the time. Many times she even adds Her own money and buys me stuff.

I know it helps that in our relationship we relate like the two have become one. It helps in other areas too. You should try it.

A lot of us did and it ended in premium hot tears

I'm glad it's working for you though.

If she likes, let her be the best wife on Earth, oga woman nah woman.....no broad difference among them....it is not her fucking business about the increment....yes as for the initial salary I will tell her for her to mark her budget line.....let me come and be going...thank u

newdawn2017:
it's ur spouse's business in Jesus name.

Says who?

Mercychen:


Badt guy. You go to lenghts editing a letter just to hide your take-home from madam. This Your own strong o.

That's a smart one though but with too much lies.

Yeah... I did it not for selfish interest. I did it for my family.

You said "too much lies." I didn't lie in my comment. I don't have any reason to.

Psoul:


Yeah... I did it not for selfish interest. I did it for my family.

You said "too much lies." I didn't lie in my comment. I don't have any reason to.

Nope. The lies I meant is where you had to change your salary in your appointment letter. I don't mean in your post.

ibrutex:
To start with , do your spouse know how much your salary is at the end of the month..

Would you tell her if their is an increment and how much is added??

Well! To me I wouldn't let her know if their is increment because I can't let someone finish the salary for me before I received , last last she will still be the one that take most share...

Maybe I acted wrongly , need your reasons.

The foundation for a successful marriage is trust.
The degree to which you trust your spouse is the degree to which you will enjoy your marriage.

I always inform my wife of any salary increase and she does the same.
Family finance for us, is a joint affair predicated on openness and honesty, something we started practicing even before we got married.

You hide it, you'll carry out your responsibilities, you don't hide it, you'll do the same, so why don't you let her know? Except you are the irresponsible type.

Mercychen:


Nope. The lies I meant is where you had to change your salary in your appointment letter. I don't mean in your post.

It seems impossible for you but it is a very simple thing to do if you have little knowledge of computer application.
You can edit anything wt Adobe Photoshop or even with ordinary Microsoft Paint.
Just scan the document, open it with Microsoft paint, edit and print with laser jet colour printer. The whole process will not take up to 3mins to complete. I was able to do that cos I am a computer Tech and have all the devices at home.

Psoul:


It seems impossible for you but it is a very simple thing to do wt if you have little knowledge of computer application.
You can edit anything wt Adobe Photoshop or even with ordinary Microsoft Paint.
Just edit and print with laser jet colour printer. I was able to do that cos I am a computer Tech and have all the devices at home.

Ooo... You're still not getting it.
I mean the editing you did was a lie you made your wife believe. I know you did it and im highly knowledgeable about computer. In fact I have a diploma in desktop publishing. So I know it's very possible.

You did edit the letter, agreed. but what you did in the letter was falsify the figures which was a lie to deceive your woman. Isn't it?

Got my drift now?

Shalom

EgunMogaji2:


A lot of us did and it ended in premium hot tears

I'm glad it's working for you though.

Hmmmm, I know it hasn’t worked out for some people. Hence their cautiousness.

But as long as they are in the marriage, It would be good for one to trace the real root cause of the issue and to find out if it can be resolved.

Financial and trust issues are among the most common issues that trouble marriages.

Mercychen:


Ooo... You're still not getting it.
I mean the editing you did was a lie you made your wife believe. I know you did it and im highly knowledgeable about computer. In fact I have a diploma in desktop publishing. So I know it's very possible.

You did edit the letter, agreed. but what you did in the letter was falsify the figures which was a lie to deceive your woman. Isn't it?

Got my drift now?

Shalom

Yeah.....I got your point now.
Yeah the edit was to deceive her to believe the amount I presented but not for selfish reasons. I did it for all of us. I never misused the hidden amount. I always dip hands there whenever she thought that we have come to the end of the road.
She always feels so relieved when that solution comes, though she does not know the secret.
Without that strategy, it may even be a bit difficult. That secret money has built us two good running businesses, got us some parcels of landed property etc.

MufasaLion:




Says who?

Says “the two have become one” and the concept of “Unity of spouses” under matrimonial Law.

ibrutex:
To start with , do your spouse know how much your salary is at the end of the month..

Would you tell her if their is an increment and how much is added??

Well! To me I wouldn't let her know if their is increment because I can't let someone finish the salary for me before I received , last last she will still be the one that take most share...

Maybe I acted wrongly , need your reasons.

I'm in your shoe brother. My salary was increased by 100% in the month of June. Brother I can't tell my wife because it helps me to meet a lots of needs. My brother keep your peace and look fresh �

Psoul:


Yeah.....I got your point now.
Yeah the edit was to deceive her to believe the amount I presented but not for selfish reasons. I did it for all of us. I never misused the hidden amount. I always dip hands there whenever she thought that we have come to the end of the road.
She always feels so relieved when that solution comes, though she does not know the secret.
Without that strategy, it may even be a bit difficult. That secret money has built us two good running businesses, got us some parcels of landed property etc.

Congratulobia then.

Mercychen:


Congratulobia then.

Ndewo Nwanne

MufasaLion:




Says who?

Say the Lord as u both re one flesh.

TheGift:


Hmmmm, I know it hasn’t worked out for some people. Hence their cautiousness.

But as long as they are in the marriage, It would be good for one to trace the real root cause of the issue and to find out if it can be resolved.

Financial and trust issues are among the most common issues that trouble marriages.

Hence why I think couples should have individual and joint accounts.

Just transfer agreed upon maintenance money from your individual account into the joint one.

One of my exes stopped at the bank to take out over $100K from “our” account on the way to file for divorce

That’s when I decided that no woman will ever ever have that much access to my finances again.

Some of us have stories and experiences.

EgunMogaji2:


Hence why I think couples should have individual and joint accounts.

Just transfer agreed upon maintenance money from your individual account into the joint one.

One of my exes stopped at the bank to take out over $100K from “our” account on the way to file for divorce

That’s when I decided that no woman will ever ever have that much access to my finances again.

Some of us have stories and experiences.

Blood!!!! It is well oooooo

id4sho:

Blood!!!! It is well oooooo

My brother I thank God. I’m alive and I’ve replaced everything I lost in tenfold.

Some were not so lucky.

EgunMogaji2:


Hence why I think couples should have individual and joint accounts.

Just transfer agreed upon maintenance money from your individual account into the joint one.

One of my exes stopped at the bank to take out over $100K from “our” account on the way to file for divorce

That’s when I decided that no woman will ever ever have that much access to my finances again.

Some of us have stories and experiences.

Wow!!! With this instance you have given , I understand your position much better now. Best of luck.