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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Nobody: 8:50am On Dec 10, 2021
Gaggii:


Oya na
just DM me your WhatsApp number... I'll take over wink
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by LLSAINT(m): 8:50am On Dec 10, 2021
Lie Lie Mohammed

Preshieben:
let me be ya side chick..
I make my own money,so keep yours
I just like it with people's husband grin
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by ahnie: 8:51am On Dec 10, 2021
What of me that hasn't had sex close to a year?

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Nobody: 8:51am On Dec 10, 2021
fattprince:

Preshie is back. Or is it that I didn't come across your comments all this while?
I was back since ohh...
I've been on the low cheesy
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by ollybasa: 8:51am On Dec 10, 2021
dobosky:
My brother you aren't alone on this. Your wife will even tell you to credit her account �� before she will let u do.
The solution is to go for side chick if you have the financial means else you have to be kneeling down and begging your wife anytime conji hold you.

... Marriage is not a child's play..
omo marriage is hard o. Expecially for men, woman don't care.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by geosegun(m): 8:52am On Dec 10, 2021
Gaggii:
I must confess, the only challenge in my marriage is sex, I was not a masturbator as a bachelor because I have girls around me, if one no come another go show, but as a married man have turned a chronic masturbator because my wife is always complaining that she is tired.

I would gotten a side chick, but I had a second thought because the consequence will affect my home financially.

Am just so fed up.

If you are married and in same shoe, how have you being coping

Women urge for sex/libido decreases gradually after marriage due to increase in responsibilities/stress, especially when kids are involved and boredom due to monotonous sex styles.

This happen to most married women. No amount of talk can change the situation. Only actions, such relieving her of stress and some responsibilities, taking her on holiday away from kids, and primarily spicing up your sex life with different styles that will make her ask for more. Also, ensure you take care of your hygiene. It may be a turn off.

NB: There are beautiful places to go locally that won't cost you much. It is not important that you fly out of the country.

Aside those..? It can only get worse. Unless you have the gut for a 2nd wife or side chick, which I am not advising, atleast for now. This is a common challenge in African marriages, especially as years of marital life increases. You wonder why most married men are promiscuous?

Note: Never ever take advise from those that were never married. They obviously cant give what they don't have...

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Princedapace(m): 8:52am On Dec 10, 2021
jaeyking:



Lol, you can't have a side chick because of financial constraints
Ra
Make I drop prayer for u
You will have all your needs ,you will not struggle but you will not achieve that financial ability wey go make u reason to get side chick���

Oya onto the advice, try to talk to your wife let her know what you have become because of the lack of sex. Marriage is all about understanding.
If her job is stressful, you have to bear with her

Do u really think that he has not spoken to his wife severally about this?

That is Nigerians for u. Always applying sentiments.

This is usually the case with many women because naturally, women don't demand for sex aside during their heat period or u strategically turn them on.
By the time they are married, they so busy with their kids and work and sex become even more less of an importance to them. I have always said this. That is why side chick is on the increase. The side chicks don't have kids yet and aren't that busy that much. So they are available for s*x as u demand.

Having sex with a wife who said she is tired can be very boring. U won't enjoy it.

So, my bro OP, pls get a side chick and explain to her why u are getting her. It is purely for sex.

U can get one from uni, maybe college of education. U will see cheaper babes whom u don't need to spend so much on and u will still keep sexual relationship with her. Side chick is not all that expensive. Go for who ur pocket can carry.
There are ladies that 10k a month means so much to them.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by enemachris(m): 8:52am On Dec 10, 2021
No need to stress yourself bro. You don't have any issue here, just get yourself a side chick, your problem is solved. She will beg you for sex. Do this and thank me later. Wonders ended when I heard that a married man masturbates, tueh!

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Nobody: 8:52am On Dec 10, 2021
luvyaself95:
house destroyer grin
cheesy

I won't destroy his house nah...
The poor man needs help
I am my brother's keeper cheesy

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Kingjames(m): 8:52am On Dec 10, 2021
Even after marriage she cant even think of it.

unless she wants to have 2 more assistance, and if she is not careful, one of those assistance will graduate to full wife.

what sort of manipulative move is that when i paid her diary!

abomination
Havesomesense:


Till you marry first.
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by MacANDIES: 8:53am On Dec 10, 2021
Preshieben:
let me be ya side chick..
I make my own money,so keep yours
I just like it with people's husband grin

If you can help him out, I'll be glad.
Send me a pm if you guys Hangout the first time. Bills on me.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by LLSAINT(m): 8:53am On Dec 10, 2021
Na so you think
Na babe you fit try such wey go work but this one na Old layer. No sensation or maybe, menopause don dey near.
Truly, it is not easy to chop only one VG and taste only one daddie dickkie for life. grin
Autobabe, abi na lie?

AutoChick4U:
Have u tried catching her hair, smacking d ass and whispering "you've been a very very bad girl"? Then go ahead and pinch those boobs and set her loose. Abi na only monotonous night bed missionary kini under always dey do? Boring

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by supereagle(m): 8:53am On Dec 10, 2021
Copied from my WhatsApp:

Copied: ATLS

SHOCKING THINGS MY HUSBAND SIDE CHICK TAUGHT ME ABOUT SEX AND MARRIAGE

FROM YOUR SEX COACH. EVERY WOMAN MUST READ TO THE END:

My name is Agnes my story is an interesting one, take your time to read it and send it to every wife out there, you may be saving a Home.

I am married to a very loving man, He is an upwardly mobile executive, a brilliant first-class graduate from Unilag. He is almost perfect in everything he lays his hands upon. He was the focus of all girls when we were on Campus, but one way or the other he decided to come for me and married me.

Our marriage was like heaven on earth, we were like two lovebirds. Though my husband travels a lot because of his Job we were ever still very close on phones and through video calls and his coming back home is like that of a King to his Palace, he too will come back home with lots of gifts for his family especially for his beautiful Queen as he used to call me.

We are now seven years in the marriage and it seems ours is an endless love story until some Months ago when my life came crashing down.

My husband has been keeping late nights and do go on weekend journeys but I never doubted him, I never thought of him doing anything wrong, I believed it was all about his Job, couple with the fact that he always called to inform me wherever he was and all was about his job, so I thought.

Some months ago, the day happened to be a public holiday, my husband was working on his Laptop, his phone rang, a friend called him to pick some documents some few streets away, the man sounded very urgent, so he quickly got up and went. In the process, he forgot to shut down his laptop, I was just passing by then I moved closer to shut down the Laptop, but my eyes suddenly went to the mail he was reading, what I saw was a mail from a girl who I felt was more than just a colleague to my husband, but the mail did not really give me a clue to have a piece of watertight evidence of infidelity against my husband, so I decided to dig further.

I tried to check his phone that was when I discovered for the first time that his phone is passworded, so I started trying to know the code, I succeeded after three weeks. I won’t tell you how, I am a woman, I should be able to know everything in my house. I did get code but later I wished I never did. What I found in the Phone almost landed Me in the Hospital, lots of chats with girls, sexy, hot and nude pictures of girls and lots more.

I got the name and phone number of a particular girl who looked like his regular girlfriend and knows everything about him, through their chats I discover she even knows my name and the names of all my Children. I went to Facebook and got more information about this girl but I did not know what to do with the information.

Later I confronted my husband, he first denied it, but confessed to it later and was apologetic and promised to change but never did, in fact, he was growing worse. That was when I decided to do something. I called the girl on phone, her name is Chika, I introduced myself as the wife of Bode and she greeted me warmly, this really shocked me. I confronted her with my facts and I began to rant on her, threatening fire and brimstone, I shouted, cry, cursed and abused her and her parents.

Throughout my call the girl never uttered a word, she only listened attentively, when I was tired of my ranting, I warned her to leave my husband alone. Yet she did not say anything, then I dropped the called. I felt victorious and happy, I felt like rewarding myself for a job well done.

About three hours later the girl called back. What she said woke me up from my slumber. I decided to record her call as evidence against my husband, but the call turned out to be an indictment against my womanhood and a slap on my wifehood.

She said, “Aunty, I am not calling you back to insult you but I call you to let you know what you don’t know. Instead of you to be fighting me you are supposed to thanking me and even pay me for the job I’m doing on your behalf;

“Your husband told me everything about you, he said you hate sex like a plaque, please if it is a lie let me know, I will leave your husband immediately, he said you use to be very respectful, loving and give him quality sex regularly but after the birth of your second baby and your promotion to the Managerial level at work you suddenly changed, now all doors of interaction and intimacy are firmly shut, sex to you is like house chores, you complain about it, run away from it, you give countless excuses, sleeps off when your husband is having sex with you(How dare you), uses every reason in the book to avoid sex.”

“He said if you allow sex at all you will be behaving like somebody being beaten by a Soldier, with your face squeeze like a child being punished. He also said you always dress to bed fully kitted like a Military woman as you are fond of wearing jeans knicker in the night and you don’t care if sex does not take place in your Marriage for Months.”
“Aunty let me ask you a question” she continued, “when last did you slept with your husband? Don’t you notice that your husband has stopped asking for sex for some months now? and you did not bother about it. I have been helping you out, you should be grateful to me, I wonder why you are fighting him for sleeping with me. I’m only helping you to do the work that is so difficult for you, you need to pay me for it.

When your husband told me you’ve discovered our affair he wanted to pull out from sleeping with me, I did not bother myself, I know he can not do without me because you are not available for him and I know that with what I have given him in bed, he will call for more. He went away for two weeks only to come crawling at my door begging for sex and I gave him the kind of sex that will make him forget your house address and your name.

You see, a good man needs to be taken away from a careless woman like you by a smart girl like me. If you want your husband back, don’t fight me, work on yourself, if you don’t do this if he stops sleeping with me or I decide to stop the relationship as you suggested, some other girls more naughty than me will take over from me and they may snatch him totally from you and marry him. He is safe with me as I will never marry him, I am married with two children like you, my husband resides in the US, so your husband is safe with me, Aunty. You will have him back, all I want from him is sex.

I don’t even collect money from him, ask him, I don’t need his money, I spend Dollar, sent weekly by my stupid husband, who left a hot-blooded girl like me alone here, thinking I am a Nun or a Firewood or I should padlock my Panties till he comes back in God knows when. That is where your husband comes in to rub my back and meet my sexual need and I rub his back too given him what you his wife will never give. My Husband is careless with his precious jewel, you are careless with your exceptional bedroom expert. So two hungry people from two careless people met, the result is a firework in the Bedroom.

Stop fighting innocent girls all around, get back to bed, be a Wife, not just a Manager at Work or a Mother, remember, I work in a Company too, I also raise my two children alone, yet I still sleep with your husband daily on his way from work, I will never say “not tonight dear” “My back, my Head” I got the energy because I am wiser than you wives who said “yes I do” on your Wedding day but will never “do”, but prefers jumping on phones to fight girls that are sleeping with their Husbands, Girls that they should be paying for helping them to do their jobs. Stop calling my phone, but you can demand for my account details for the money to be paid every time I sleep with your husband on your behalf, you will then have enough time for your Career, nobody is snatching your husband you are the one misplacing him”

After she dropped the phone, I did not know what to do, whether to cry or laugh, to shout or jump, I was really confused, I listened to the call, again and again, I checked everything she said, she was more than true, I tried to check the last time I slept with my husband, I discovered it was before Christmas last year when he just arrived from South Africa and brought me some gifts, but that was almost Five Months ago. After then he tried to sleep with me but I gave him bad responses and excuses and he stopped demanding from me and I was very happy, I thought he has changed for better. I used to see him as a sex addict,
Is it food” I will say. I thought he had been healed of his addiction, It now occurred to me that when he stopped asking for sex at home he has gotten alternative out there, yes it is my fault, I was wrong, I pushed him out, can I ever have him again, having tasted a Naughty girl like Chika, how can I match that performance. I cried for hours. That night my husband did not come home at all, he sent me a Message, “overnight duty at Work” I knew Chika was the overnight duty, I called her she told me he is in her safe hands, that I should not panic, can you imagine? That is my life
*@copied*

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by MacANDIES: 8:53am On Dec 10, 2021
Yinkakolawole:
How my wife go starve me with sex, that cant possible.

When you marry you'll understand better.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Lobolintin(m): 8:53am On Dec 10, 2021
Preshieben:
let me be ya side chick..
I make my own money,so keep yours
I just like it with people's husband grin


Whistling...
Hit my moniker up.
Make we reason ..
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Nobody: 8:54am On Dec 10, 2021
Seniorwriter:


[/b]Cruise![b]

Many single ladies are always confused.


@Seniorwriter
You're correct@ the bolded

I'm not confused ohh..I know what I'm doing grin
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Melkizedeck: 8:54am On Dec 10, 2021
Zao19:
More than 70% of married men face this type of problem including my self, if u are yet to married pls stop talking rubbish, u are yet to experience such.

You dey mind them How long will you continue to be creative with your wife before you run out of ideas as if sex is what only matters to the husband?? I think it is a natural phenomenon for a woman to begin to behave that way after kids start showing up. Except you're the travelling type where she does not get to see you often. Boredom is inevitable in marriage as long as both of you see each other everyday. Wealthy men do not complain about this because their cash opens up other possibilities for them. The poor will learn to be patient or masturbate as a way out.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Ndidi2: 8:54am On Dec 10, 2021
Mrkumareze:
Op, we are in the same shoe but mine is a bit different cos I have always have alternatives to things.. I got like 4 side chick out there.. infact I'm going out to have two today... Just let your wife be, if she wan chop her toto na she sabi... go out there, it must not be all about money.. I don't always tell my side chick I got a wife, I ball like single guys out there...
quote me
U will regret ever cheating on that woman except she had slept with someone 'shusband
Cheating nearly destroyed and kill me .
I HV not recovered emotionally after finding out my loving husband is sleeping around.

I hate men that cheat on their wives for whatever reason.
Is heartbreaking finding out that the man u love could be opening his body for olosho in the name of side chick.

No good girl will ever have something doing with someone'shusband.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Nobody: 8:54am On Dec 10, 2021
AfroKnight:


Married women won’t like this comment grin
they have started attacking me already grin
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:55am On Dec 10, 2021
Many women are also being sex-starved in their respective matrimonial homes.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by fattprince(m): 8:55am On Dec 10, 2021
Preshieben:
I was back since ohh...
I've been on the low cheesy
Oh good,
Let me leave you on a low then.
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Nobody: 8:55am On Dec 10, 2021
samonak:

You need deliverance walahi!
Ehn

What kind of deliverance? cheesy
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Firefox01: 8:55am On Dec 10, 2021
Adolf111:
Since when my wife gave birth 7 months ago I haven't had sex she said I don't have money that I should go get sex somewhere else I masturbate sometimes to get relief but I just decided to stop now am working in bet9ja in Delta State warri I don't know what sex taste like anymore, man life hard oh na only God go help us.
Lol. Your wife is sharing your pussy with other "capable" men. Wait..... This is not even sharing, she doesn't even allow you to Bleep her. She has given your pussy to other men while still posing as your wife. I really feel for you man. Only God knows if your child is even yours embarassed

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by membranus: 8:55am On Dec 10, 2021
Yinkakolawole:
How my wife go starve me with sex, that cant possible.

Maybe you never marry that's why you are asking this question.

Women are natural killer of sexual libido in men. That's why our fathers marry many of them at home to prevent this.

Polygamy was not once forbidden in the Bible, it should therefore be legalised for those who are interested in it. Just as LGBTQ is being legalised everywhere in the world now.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Nobody: 8:56am On Dec 10, 2021
brodalikeme:


You are the one I am looking for, let connect sharply before someone toast you before I do.
is not me ohh

Except you're married cheesy
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Nobody: 8:56am On Dec 10, 2021
Zchi1052:


Where be your location
cheesy

You wan locate me?
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Nobody: 8:57am On Dec 10, 2021
dfrost:


Osalobuo shocked
thank you grin
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Raalsalghul: 8:57am On Dec 10, 2021
Denko2721987:
But wait ooo, let me get something clear about this marriage matters.. I get enough sex as a bachelor then marry to get sexually frustrated by a woman who is supposed to make me not not regret leaving bachelorhood I understand its not also easy for women as they carry alot of burden but then what's the whole essence of getting married if my life will most likely become more miserable tru sexual frustrations like i hear many men complain about and the many other marital palava we hear everyday?? With the things bachelors like us seee everyday, i am beginning to see to reason and conclude that the baby mama option is the best well suited for a man in this era.

Why do you think they say "marriage is a scam".
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Firefox01: 8:58am On Dec 10, 2021
Richashell:
We go outside. Mine is 4 years no sex. I have tried everything to make it work but she says no.
This is too extreme. Your wife has been maintaining a side dude for four years boss

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Nobody: 8:58am On Dec 10, 2021
fattprince:

Oh good,
Let me leave you on a low then.
Thank you wink
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Nobody: 8:58am On Dec 10, 2021
Lobolintin:



Whistling...
Hit my moniker up
you're not mr poster nah smiley
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Ejirite(m): 8:59am On Dec 10, 2021
Hmmm, different kind of problem in marriage this time, though am not in support of masturbation but that still better than having side chick that will totally destroyed marriage.

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