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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:59am On Dec 10, 2021
Gaggii:
I must confess, the only challenge in my marriage is sex, I was not a masturbator as a bachelor because I have girls around me, if one no come another go show, but as a married man have turned a chronic masturbator because my wife is always complaining that she is tired.

I would gotten a side chick, but I had a second thought because the consequence will affect my home financially.

Am just so fed up.

If you are married and in same shoe, how have you being coping

Why won't she be tired when you stress the life out of her?

Children supervision - na she.

Cleaning and chores - na she.

Cooking - na she.

And she still has to go out there to make money else you tag her a liability. Now, tell me, why won't she complain of exhaustion?

Men, please, learn to alleviate stress off your wives. Stress kills. Kills health, libido and in the long term, puts a strain on your sexual/intimate lives.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Nobody: 9:00am On Dec 10, 2021
MacANDIES:


If you can help him out, I'll be glad.
Send me a pm if you guys Hangout the first time. Bills on me.
I am on it already

Depending on his location.
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by egoldman(m): 9:00am On Dec 10, 2021
okoroemeka:
in a case like this that the man choose not to have a side chick due to one or two factors then the only option is masturbation,I cannot encourage going to ashawo for sex ,but on the other hand the only constraint on having a side chick is finance,there are different grades and categories of beautiful, reasonable and neat women that needs just a man like you,there are many that are available and will not create a hole in your pocket,you just have to look in places not looked before,a treasure is found in unexpected areas,my side chick is from a very poor family,a beautiful girl no doubt and appreciate every 10 Kobo given to her.Rule no 1 of having a side chick is never be jealous,let her have her freedom of choice and association,don't ever try to limit her to be your possession only,if there are other men then your financial commitment will be pocket friendly, so long she services you every well

See advice

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Kingjames(m): 9:00am On Dec 10, 2021
share your bitter experience let us all learn than using that irritating word" RUBBISH"!
Zao19:
More than 70% of married men face this type of problem including my self, if u are yet to married pls stop talking rubbish, u are yet to experience such.
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Nobody: 9:01am On Dec 10, 2021
Badguy77:


Coming from an akwa ibom girl am not surprised
you shouldn't be surprise hunnie smiley

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Emzed04: 9:01am On Dec 10, 2021
Havesomesense:


Till you marry first.




Tell am ��

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Godszilla: 9:02am On Dec 10, 2021
Oga the thing is if you have sex starvation in your home it is a symptom of somtin deeper. The disease itself is still there, its either you or your wife that has an issue that you guys havent understand yet. try search for it honestly cos it may actually be you. I dont see true love creating something that will lead to destruction it should lead to something better.

Gaggii:
I must confess, the only challenge in my marriage is sex, I was not a masturbator as a bachelor because I have girls around me, if one no come another go show, but as a married man have turned a chronic masturbator because my wife is always complaining that she is tired.

I would gotten a side chick, but I had a second thought because the consequence will affect my home financially.

Am just so fed up.

If you are married and in same shoe, how have you being coping

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by egoldman(m): 9:02am On Dec 10, 2021
mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Wetin dey do you na? You don dey say this thing for long ooh.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Ndidi2: 9:02am On Dec 10, 2021
Debodimeji01:
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My brother... its not funny ohhhhh...
These ladies can make a man run mad.
And I will strongly advise you don't go the path of side chuck. The Ripple effect(s) its gonna have on your family and marriage will be mad.

Find a way to talk to your wife about it. I had same experience but was able to sort things out with my wife. At the beginning of our marriage... before we gave birth... na my wife do disturb almost every night. Now, we have 2boys, na once or most times, twice now I get to have that awesome experience and I think I am okay with that so person go fit channel remaining energy for something more productive

God bless u Jare
No be all these irresponsible husband doing side chick.
I hate men dat can't keep their marriage vows.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by membranus: 9:02am On Dec 10, 2021
okoroemeka:
in a case like this that the man choose not to have a side chick due to one or two factors then the only option is masturbation,I cannot encourage going to ashawo for sex ,but on the other hand the only constraint on having a side chick is finance,there are different grades and categories of beautiful, reasonable and neat women that needs just a man like you,there are many that are available and will not create a hole in your pocket,you just have to look in places not looked before,a treasure is found in unexpected areas,my side chick is from a very poor family,a beautiful girl no doubt and appreciate every 10 Kobo given to her.Rule no 1 of having a side chick is never be jealous,let her have her freedom of choice and association,don't ever try to limit her to be your possession only,if there are other men then your financial commitment will be pocket friendly, so long she services you every well

Concubinage (side chicking) should also be allowed in marriage. It lessens sexual tension.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Bahamas95(m): 9:02am On Dec 10, 2021
This is one of the reasons why some men go into polygamy. Competition makes women behave themselves cos she knows any slight mistake the other wife will take advantage. I don't like it Sha cos it could lead to your untimely death if you ain't careful.

I don't pray I find myself in OP's condition when I get married cos I can't do without sex.....If it happens I will look for a side chick and give her my terms and conditions. She must not interfere in anything that concerns my family, our business is strictly for sex on pay as you go basis.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Nobody: 9:05am On Dec 10, 2021
Help2020:

I jealous una wen dey masturbate without side effect. Me I non fit try masturbate for a day again, except I wan suffer for days.

What do you mean?
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by omonla10(m): 9:06am On Dec 10, 2021
But the only sex therapist I know is jaruma cry
Olayetan:



Was she a virgin when you married her?



Your case is similar to mine, only that we ain't married yet.
But we have parted our ways, the feelings can cage you and you're lost on what to do..


My advice is seek therapist, let them counsel the both of you.



Now, I'm scared of relationship cux she was everything i wanted in a lady.
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by lancasterboy: 9:06am On Dec 10, 2021
Most of these people commenting and ridiculing the poster are obviously ignorant of how marriage works and clearly Unmarried kids who don't know shit about this marriage thing.

A woman can do whatever you want just to et a ring on her finger and after she gets married she will change. It has happened severally so u might not see any sexual red flags b4 marriage. All she wanted was to leave her father's house and answer Married Woman. Women see marriage as an achievement so after the achievement is attained, they relax. U tell her to wash your clothes, she will then tell u she isn't your maid. The same person who would quickly wash ur clothes before marriage. U get my point na.

Also these churches that tell u not to have sex with each other b4 marriage are doing a terrible thing. How will a man know the sexual temperature of his intended wife and how will he know if he can live with her when he doesn't know if her sex drive matches his own oweing to the fact that sex is an eternally important issue and one of the most important issues in marriage. When u now go to church to complain of ur sexual frustration in Marriage, they will tell u to pray for ur wife, or that she needs deliverance. I wonder where the evidence is that deliverance has helped women get more ho*ny for their husbands. Let those delivered women show themselves. My brother it doesn't work. They just used religious language to tell u to carry ur load and go and fed u with lots of boloney.

So marrying a girl who fears God and has small Ashawos behavior is the best. AKA Born Again Nymp*o.... grin She won't starve u of sex and she will be down to earth too.

Another thing is this. God will not put a burden on you that u cannot bear. If you feel you are in a fix on getting a side chick and masturbating, then you have a burden on you. Abraham had a side chick called Keturah. Maybe Sarah was denying him sex so he had to help himself . He later married Keturah after Sarah died. See, if ur wife isn't responding to ur talks and advice, because I guarantee you she won't listen to u, go get an affordable side chick. Stay away from Ashawos. That one is a bloody waste of money. Masturbating will drain your energy and bring in frustration. That's why u feel more frustrated few days after masturbating. It doesn't give the same feeling with a woman's body and pu*sy. Are u not Abraham's son? Don't u like the blessings of Abraham? This is one of the blessings. Jacob had 2 side chicks that gave birth to most of his children and these babes were brought to him by his wives. Go for it. It isn't adultery. Adultery is sleeping with another man's wife not sleeping is an unmarried woman. A word is enough for the wise.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Dididrumz(m): 9:07am On Dec 10, 2021
mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Brotherly, how far

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Raalsalghul: 9:07am On Dec 10, 2021
MacANDIES:


Bro be scared, marriage is highly overrated. Sometimes I wish I wasn't married.

grin grin grin grin grin

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Nobody: 9:07am On Dec 10, 2021
I have nothing to say
Meanwhile,
I develop websites
Visit my signature to know more..
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Judgesledge(m): 9:07am On Dec 10, 2021
Preshieben:
let me be ya side chick..
I make my own money,so keep yours
I just like it with people's husband grin
wow, where have you been all this while, been searching for you
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by dammyco(m): 9:08am On Dec 10, 2021
Make I tell you my brother E no easy. Na majority of the women dey do ham after marriage.
Causes of the sexual starvation
1. Money issue
2. Health issue
3. Her family problem
4. Friends advice
5. Stress at work place
6. Misunderstanding
7. Third party
8. Too much of work load
9. She might not like sex from unset

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Harryzubbes77: 9:08am On Dec 10, 2021
Gaggii:
I must confess, the only challenge in my marriage is sex, I was not a masturbator as a bachelor because I have girls around me, if one no come another go show, but as a married man have turned a chronic masturbator because my wife is always complaining that she is tired.

I would gotten a side chick, but I had a second thought because the consequence will affect my home financially.




Am just so fed up.

If you are married and in same shoe, how have you being coping

Divorce her and marry another simple
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Goalnaldo(m): 9:08am On Dec 10, 2021
Preshieben:
let me be ya side chick..
I make my own money,so keep yours
I just like it with people's husband grin
cheesy cheesy
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by InvertedHammer: 9:09am On Dec 10, 2021
Gaggii:
I must confess, the only challenge in my marriage is sex, I was not a masturbator as a bachelor because I have girls around me, if one no come another go show, but as a married man have turned a chronic masturbator because my wife is always complaining that she is tired.

I would gotten a side chick, but I had a second thought because the consequence will affect my home financially.

Am just so fed up.

If you are married and in same shoe, how have you being coping
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Sex starvation is normal in a marriage. Sex is only a marketing tool to lure unsuspecting men to sign the dotted line. She may give in initially to have child(ren) to secure her position and wade off womb-watchers. But for pleasure? Dream on!

Those who marry with the belief that they will engage in more frequent sex are setting themselves up for rude awakening.

If you marry a lady for her looks only, the marriage is already dead from the beginning. The fantasy will wear off sooner than imagined.

/

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by membranus: 9:09am On Dec 10, 2021
Richashell:
We go outside. Mine is 4 years no sex. I have tried everything to make it work but she says no.

That's very terrible. How then are you managing the marriage without hating the woman? You must be a superman.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Shalommy(f): 9:09am On Dec 10, 2021
Chaaiii... Men with sex. Is sex food or money? Man, go out and hussle hard then you'll realise that sex is nothing and you can stay a month or more with no feeling of it.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by uniqueman(m): 9:10am On Dec 10, 2021
Preshieben:
let me be ya side chick..
I make my own money,so keep yours
I just like it with people's husband grin
Let's talk then.
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 9:10am On Dec 10, 2021
Mrkumareze:
Op, we are in the same shoe but mine is a bit different cos I have always have alternatives to things.. I got like 4 side chick out there.. infact I'm going out to have two today... Just let your wife be, if she wan chop her toto na she sabi... go out there, it must not be all about money.. I don't always tell my side chick I got a wife, I ball like single guys out there...

Gonorrhea says "hi".
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by jaeyking(m): 9:11am On Dec 10, 2021
Gaggii:


We don talk tire, she go change then later go to status quo after some time

And u don turn to soapy
Well I go say no be money be the issue
U really love her.

Toh hmm go buy Fleshlight or artificial dull smiley smiley grin grin
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Nobody: 9:11am On Dec 10, 2021
Adolf111:
Since when my wife gave birth 7 months ago I haven't had sex she said I don't have money that I should go get sex somewhere else I masturbate sometimes to get relief but I just decided to stop now am working in bet9ja in Delta State warri I don't know what sex taste like anymore, man life hard oh na only God go help us.

You shouldn't have married without money, or dont you know that women don't love without money?

Trust and depend on no one in this world but yourself.

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by Nobody: 9:13am On Dec 10, 2021
Gkemz:
Most married men are passing through alot. Either your wife is cheating or she's starving you of sex or she's making unnecessary demands or she is planning to kill you to repossess your belongings...
It's not easy to remain married. My friend once told me the greatest mistake he made was to marry a wrong woman. According to him, It's better if he had remained single. In another related incidence, my cousin bro got separated because Imo girl he married was planning to kill him to repossess his belongings.

I fear imo state women more than anything.
Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by whyman(m): 9:14am On Dec 10, 2021
My brother are you also romantic enough.
Some of us are not romantic. We feel the urge we want her to just open leg and do the do.

She be woman now.

Romance her, touch her in sensitive places while cooking or doing house chores, accompany her. Stimulate her, I promise you. If you do that for 2 days on the 3rd day, you will have access like you own Access Bank.
Some of us threat our wonderful and beautiful women like thrash.

This works against their psychic except those on drugs who want us to threat them like thrash too.

Gaggii:
I must confess, the only challenge in my marriage is sex, I was not a masturbator as a bachelor because I have girls around me, if one no come another go show, but as a married man have turned a chronic masturbator because my wife is always complaining that she is tired.

I would gotten a side chick, but I had a second thought because the consequence will affect my home financially.

Am just so fed up.

If you are married and in same shoe, how have you being coping

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by valdes00(m): 9:15am On Dec 10, 2021
okoroemeka:
in a case like this that the man choose not to have a side chick due to one or two factors then the only option is masturbation,I cannot encourage going to ashawo for sex ,but on the other hand the only constraint on having a side chick is finance,there are different grades and categories of beautiful, reasonable and neat women that needs just a man like you,there are many that are available and will not create a hole in your pocket,you just have to look in places not looked before,a treasure is found in unexpected areas,my side chick is from a very poor family,a beautiful girl no doubt and appreciate every 10 Kobo given to her.Rule no 1 of having a side chick is never be jealous,let her have her freedom of choice and association,don't ever try to limit her to be your possession only,if there are other men then your financial commitment will be pocket friendly, so long she services you every well
LEGEND

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Re: Dear Married Men, How Do You Cope With Sex Starvation by IJEYdiamond(f): 9:16am On Dec 10, 2021
These days is as if Married men are now d chronic masturbators..... Is as if UNA eyes no open well...

Mentally Emotionally Intimately it will tell on you... along d line.. you fit kolo look older than your age.... Erection issues may follow..

Some people live with it and have issues in d later years... Some who cant cope.. op out and get a girlfriend while some leave the marriage... Some leave d marriage when their body don turn vegetable and regretting in their life why they didn't satisfy themselves during their youth... .

If you dont know yourselves before marriage and u get married due to pressure .. or other reasons.... and in your case your have high libido.....

..... Ur Case is pitiful... because e get wen you go reach you no go fit bear am again...!!


Its Well..


This Sex matter is really really becoming... in Marriages!!!

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