Saintmary:


Please and please,


I made a comment, make your own abeg


Don't put me in a triangle I didn't sign up for.

Why are you being so sensitive over a simple comment? Na wah o!

socialmediaman:
I’m sure you know your husband more than anyone else here, but was it just the text message “what time are you leaving the house” and phone calls that you have as evidence? Anything else that indicates they’re in a romantic relationship? I don’t doubt that he could be in a romantic relationship but the only thing so far he has lied about is his communication history with the lady. If he deleted messages, he could’ve as well deleted phone calls, so I was expecting you found something more.

I’ll say give him a chance to explain his suspicious activities. Wait for him to come back, and probe further on the issue, find out why he lied about his communication with the lady. If he lied about that, he could be lying about other things, that’s your premise for further investigations, but you don’t have hard core or circumstantial proof of an affair yet.

BTW it might be a good time to remind him that the thing he’s looking for outside is inside his house and he has everything to lose by breaking his marriage vow. Hopefully you guys find a way to fix things not working out, seems you guys are having unresolved issues

He left the house immediately after the message by 8 after diligently washing the car by himself....lol
I don't have other evidence because I hardly look I just noticed he changed and was highly secretive while guarding his phone like Alcatraz....lol

Men hardly know what a determined would do to investigate a well guarded phone..lol

Imagine someone disrespecting you and trying to act the victim too on top of it
Na you let am sha

Mariangeles:


Why are you being so sensitive over a simple comment? Na wah o!

Yup, it looks like triangulation to me.






Let's not derail somebody's thread.

ibechris:
Madam u see this fight is worth every stress.

Every married woman should fight for what belongs to them. Because this kind of woman is ready to tear your home apart and can do any thing possible to destroy good families out there.

As far as u are not ready to fight the lady,it is very good u fight to get your husband back,because as it is,your husband is about crossing to the other side. And do not also forget,that some of these ladies usually charmed married men and after which u see such men behaving like mumu and spending their life savings on such a LovePeddler.

Continue the fight after all,if anything happens to him tomorrow,people will not speak well of u. Now is the time to get your husband and his senses to order.

Good luck to u.

Because the men are mindless toys that get taken by whomever wants to? No conscious decision or effort on his part. He just sits there and get taken by whomever deems to

And that’s supposed to be the leader of the home too. Is he a mindless puppet or is he a purposeful leader? At some point y’all have to decide which it is. Because this mindset is insulting to men in general but you don’t care

Saintmary:


Yup, it looks like triangulation to me.






Let's not derail somebody's thread.

If you see am that way, no vex.

Snakes don rush in as usual. So predictable.

Mariangeles:


If you see am that way, no vex.

All clear.

cococandy:
Imagine someone disrespecting and trying to act the victim too on top of it
Na you let am sha

I want to ask that you unfollow me just like I did you a long while ago.

Thank you for your understanding.

Amazingbaby:


He left the house immediately after the message by 8 after diligently washing the car by himself....lol
I don't have other evidence because I hardly look I just noticed he changed and was highly secretive while guarding his phone like Alcatraz....lol

Men hardly know what a determined would do to investigate a well guarded phone..lol

Looks like that car needed a really good once in a lifetime wash, lol. On the guarded phone thing, I won't be surprised if you told me that you know his password or maybe even have a spy app on his phone, i've heard stories. A man once said his wife puts his iPhone on his face to unlock it when he's sleeping, and I said "No I think she knows your password"

Ma just let him go his way. He has the smell of a new flower and it usually takes about 2 years for it to wear off. No amount of pulling and tugging is going to bring him back, unless he falls sick. That is when the woman will run away and he will come back asking for forgiveness. Otherwise you might have to go spiritual...

What's your relationship like with his friend? There are reasonable ways to go about this issue.

Mariangeles:


I want to ask that you unfollow me just like I did you a long while ago.

Thank you for your understanding.

1) sure I’ll unfollow you. Didn’t even realize you unfollowed me.

2) I’m referring to the OP’s husband. He’s disrespecting her and acting like he’s the victim by moving out.

3) WTF??
Do you automatically assume that people are talking about you? Like are you the one disrespecting your spouse on this thread and moving out? How’s this about you?


I want to ask if that’s what your last comment is about but that would seem wild to me. Like if you really makes such assumptions and run with it na wa

Beremx:
My Igbo people would say agaracha must come back. If you are strong hearted, don’t call to plead with him to call back. He will surely come back to his senses.
He wants to eat the leftover of his friend. Mtscheeew

Nigerian men don't cheat. Maybe the husband went to a Church program with the girl.

cococandy:


1) sure I’ll unfollow you. Didn’t even realize you unfollowed me.

2) I’m referring to the OP’s husband. He’s disrespecting her and acting like he’s the victim by moving out.

3) WTF??
Do you automatically assume that people are talking about you? Like are you the one disrespecting your spouse on this thread and moving out? How’s this about you?


I want to ask if that’s what your last comment is about but that would seem wild to me. Like if you really makes such assumptions and run with it na wa

No offense, but I just like being true to myself, and asking you to unfollow me felt like the right thing to do.
It didn’t have anything to do with your comment I quoted.
Thank you.


That comment was to whom it may concern.
They know themselves.

Mariangeles:



No offense, but I just like being true to myself, and asking you to unfollow me felt like the right thing to do.
Thank you.


That comment was to whom it may concern.
They know themselves.

You're wrong, Mariah. She wasn't referring to you. Telling her to unfollow you is childish and uncalled for. Calm down abeg

Kriss216:

You're wrong, Mariah. She wasn't referring to you. Telling her to unfollow sounds childish. Calm down abeg

No. It had nothing to do with the comment I quoted, neither is it about childishness or maturity.

You won’t understand.

Mariangeles:


No. It had nothing to do with the comment I quoted, neither is it about childishness or maturity.

You won’t understand.

Whatever it is, you still need to be calming down.

When you said snakes don rush in as usual, I know you're up to something fishy.

Mariangeles:



No offense, but I just like being true to myself, and asking you to unfollow me felt like the right thing to do.
Thank you.


That comment was to whom it may concern.
They know themselves.

Well I’ve disagreed with you a ton on different posts that was your opportunity to be like “hey I don’t think our POVs align. so, best to unfollow each other”.

But coming out of the blues to type cryptic stuff because you took a post that wasn’t referring to you as yours is just …. I don’t know.

As for being true to self, I follow you for food (which I thought you knew) not because we usually agree or that NL is a besties forum or that I’m not true to my beliefs. Like what?? .

Your snake comment is for whom it may concern? Like who specifically on this thread then? Are we kids here? Anyway just letting you know that I’m not insulted or offended by it. Just thoroughly perplexed.

I’ve seen a situation where you misunderstood a post that wasn’t for you and had pages of argument until it got resolved. I wanna assume that’s what happened here but the snake comment also tells me how you really feel which led you to read stuff that’s not there. That you can’t disagree without seeing subsequent posts as they are out to get you. In that case, mazel tov .

.

Kriss216:

You're wrong, Mariah. She wasn't referring to you. Telling her to unfollow you is childish and uncalled for. Calm down abeg

I actually posted my comment the moment I finished reading the OP like I always do first. Then in my usual manner, I go back and read other’s posts and then respond if I feel like someone is being out of pocket.

cococandy:


I actually posted my comment the moment I finished reading the OP like I always do first. Then in my usual manner, I go back and read other’s posts and then respond if I feel like someone is being out of pocket.

It's okay. I apologize on her behalf, please.

Mariangeles:


No. It had nothing to do with the comment, neither is it about childishness or maturity.

You won’t understand.

Help us understand because I don't understand. I did not want to pokenose as per women matter

You said this

Mariangeles:
Snakes don rush in as usual. So predictable.

Then this

Mariangeles:

I want to ask that you unfollow me just like I did you a long while ago.
Thank you for your understanding.

This your unfollow me post was so confusing are two of you dragging one man or fighting. It was very childish Maria like say una two don get beef taytay

cococandy:


Well I’ve disagreed with you a ton on different posts that was your opportunity to be like “hey I don’t think our POVs align. so, best to unfollow each other”.

But coming out of the blues to type cryptic stuff because you took a post that wasn’t referring to you as yours is just …. I don’t know.

As for being true to self, I follow you for food (which I thought you knew) not because we usually agree or that NL is a besties forum or that I’m not true to my beliefs. Like what?? .

Your snake comment is for whom it may concern? Like who specifically on this thread then? Are we kids here? Anyway just letting you know that I’m not insulted or offended by it. Just thoroughly perplexed.

I’ve seen a situation where you misunderstood a post that wasn’t for you and had pages of argument until it got resolved. I wanna assume that’s what happened here but the snake comment also tells me how you really feel which led you to read stuff that’s not there. That you can’t disagree without seeing subsequent posts as they are out to get you. In that case, mazel tov .

Trust me when I say that that clear message was for whom it may concern.
The person(s) know themselves.
It is something that has come to my attention not once, not twice, not three times…
When events keep repeating themselves and coming to your attention, it is no longer a coincidence.

I don’t want all those former dramas of old to repeat themselves, so it’s me just being careful and protective of myself.
It is not too much to ask.

Mariangeles:


Trust me when I say that that clear message was for whom it may concern.
The person(s) know themselves.
It is something that has come to my attention not once, not twice, not three times…
When events keep repeating themselves and coming to your attention, it is no longer a coincidence.

I don’t want all those former dramas of old to repeat themselves, so it’s me just being careful and protective of myself.
It is not too much to ask.

I have unfollowed you. I don’t know how that’s protecting you, because you unfollowing me a while ago like you said you didn’t didn’t make any difference to me. I didn’t notice it and I believe that my unfollowing you won’t make a difference to your online presence as well.

A block button would be more protective but since we don’t have that, I usually skip certain usernames who I feel I would very very strongly disagree with their opinion. That’s my personal way of blocking.

These patterns you’re talking about might be present in your posts as well but people (like me) read and move along if they aren’t mentioned. I don’t make assumptions

Kriss216:

It's okay. I apologize on her behalf, please.

Okay. thank you.

But we are still polar opposites.
Let’s not mistakenly become friends please

cococandy:


Okay. thank you.

But we are still polar opposites.
Let’s not mistakenly become friends please

Mariah is a nice girl. Don't know what came over her, but, trust me, she's one of the best here. Don't stress it. It's all good.

I'm sorry, I don't rush to believe women, until I hear every side of the Index story.
Reason is; I have heard surprises in the past following stories told by Ladies & I learnt.

Things dey happen here oh.

Amazingbaby:
It is kind of surreal

My husband took his bag and left the house after an argument and have been gone for over a week now, trouble started when he came back and told me he wanted to hire a particular girl to work with him,this girl was working with his friend before he closed up.he told me his friend beg him to hire the girl.
Earlier in the week my husband told me he was going for a convention,I checked his phone and saw when this particular girl was asking him when he will be leaving the house at 7:44 in the morning,I didn't talk or made a fuss about it,so when he told me he wanted to employ this girl my suspicion grew,I asked him how does he want to pay her he told me the lady said she would work for free.
I started laughing,which girl on this island would want to work for free if you don't have anything to do with her.i started bombarding him with questions;
If the girl is your friend's employee how did she know about your business?My husband said he has not talked to the lady since last year but he never knew I saw the messages.

I told him to give me his phone only to see that he has been exchanging Whatsapp calls and phone calls with her.i got angry and was asking him questions he took his bag and left that night.

That was when I confronted him about the messages I saw the week before only for him to say he doesn't owe me any explanation.

I am deeply hurt that he would want to employ a person he has a secret relationship with and has the mind to tell me about it.he deletes any conversation he has with this lady,he hides his phone and would never pick a call in my presents.

Pls how do you think I should handle this,I told him the only way I would ever listen to him is if he tell me where he went with that lady on that Saturday. Calling her sounds desperate and I don't like fighting my fellow lady because of a man.your opinion pls

Its a good thing you have caught him red handed..
I would urge you to call the girl in question if you have her contact..dont sound harsh or desperate, just make her understand you aren't ignorant of what's going on btw she and ur husband.

After that, focus on ur children and let them.

"Agaracha must come back"

Kriss216:

Nigerian men don't cheat. Maybe the husband went to a Church program with the girl.

are you being sarcastic? What kind of church program is that?

Amazingbaby:
It is kind of surreal

My husband took his bag and left the house after an argument and have been gone for over a week now, trouble started when he came back and told me he wanted to hire a particular girl to work with him,this girl was working with his friend before he closed up.he told me his friend beg him to hire the girl.
Earlier in the week my husband told me he was going for a convention,I checked his phone and saw when this particular girl was asking him when he will be leaving the house at 7:44 in the morning,I didn't talk or made a fuss about it,so when he told me he wanted to employ this girl my suspicion grew,I asked him how does he want to pay her he told me the lady said she would work for free.
I started laughing,which girl on this island would want to work for free if you don't have anything to do with her.i started bombarding him with questions;
If the girl is your friend's employee how did she know about your business?My husband said he has not talked to the lady since last year but he never knew I saw the messages.

I told him to give me his phone only to see that he has been exchanging Whatsapp calls and phone calls with her.i got angry and was asking him questions he took his bag and left that night.

That was when I confronted him about the messages I saw the week before only for him to say he doesn't owe me any explanation.

I am deeply hurt that he would want to employ a person he has a secret relationship with and has the mind to tell me about it.he deletes any conversation he has with this lady,he hides his phone and would never pick a call in my presents.

Pls how do you think I should handle this,I told him the only way I would ever listen to him is if he tell me where he went with that lady on that Saturday. Calling her sounds desperate and I don't like fighting my fellow lady because of a man.your opinion pls

you used ur mouth push ur husband comot 4 hus naw ur telling us here abi to go find him 4 u again so u can start nagging 4ram wia u stop nii

depression most hit this dude badly that's his thinking if he marry a demon or a human woman no dey reason at all, e get easy and smart way to engage ur husband and her lover and ur home is secure, as u see the lady picture u 4 track her make her ur friend the piece the bitch in a process she will never notice ur coming b4 she understands the game u most have made her useless and home in other everything nobi gargar small sense no cost