bobobri:
Never pity any girl, because u see that gender neh'..they can do any crazy at anytime don't marry any woman because of condition or beauty. a word is enough for the wise!!!

It's never advisable to marry any woman out of pity.
Those who did ended up regretting it.

Ogunleti01:
And let me shock you humanbeing we are very dynamic. The only constant thing in life in change. Marriage is a two edged sword. it is either you marry the so called Miss right and end up biting your fingers or the so called worst and end up having a peaceful home. In Marriage there are things you dont determine 100%

There is no way someone worse can give you a peaceful home. Never

You people should not come and be typing things from your head

Many people that had issues in marriage, said they saw the signs while dating, but they overlooked it and ended up getting burnt for life.

If someone is dating a person and sees worse behavior
Abeg the person should run immediately

harqinhola:



UNA PLENTY WEY GOD GO PUNISH ! If she does that , i wont hesitate to beg God to punish her too .. WHAT IS WRONG IS WRONG !

Now I want to ask you the essence of dating?
Is it not to know or study the person you intend to marry? Do you know sometimes you may still find some faults in person and and still try to help them change, and instead of drowning with the person you just have to save yourself. Did you read where op said he had broken up with her prior to this but she still came back? And if you read very well you'll know that the young man has tried to see if she could change but every effort proved abortive.

Know ye not that the wages of simping is self destruction?

Lest I forget God punish you

harqinhola:


I AGREE BUT U NEED TO COME OUT 100% ON UR INTENTIONS AND NOT TAKE ADVANTAGE.

Of course. He said he already made clear to her dia relationship leads to nowhere.... Unless he's not telling us d real truth.

OP is a legendary devout disciple of THE REDPILL MOVT

funshint:
Why didn't you just tell her point blank since you noticed all these but you chose to lead her on.

Unreader!

harqinhola:


I UNDERSTAND bleeping shouldn't be the reason for marrying but F**king someone for that long and leaving her in that manner seemed like he took advantage .

Ok that's true.

I did tell her that we aren't going anywhere after noticing how flirty she is from first 1 month of our date, but she kept coming back, I have broken up with her prior to this, but she still comes to my place uninvited
So, you lots didn't see this part,? He told her first month of their date.....but she said nada, she wants it like that.

SatanistaDevil abiodunjonah:
a pathetic hoe is what i am. You are lucky i did not give u hiv . Yes, I spread it. I am for the street gutters

SatanistaDevil SmallD!ck:
mods sef dey look face. Like me that has hiv and spreads hiv

SatanistaDevil satan's b!+¢h:
my mama yansh. Yes that is her only use

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He is an identity theft scammer and homosexual. He lures men for homosexuality.

His current accounts are above

CAPSLOCKED:


MY WOMAN!

CAPSLOCKED:
THE KIND OF CURSES THEY'VE GIVEN THIS MAN ON THIS THREAD TODAY ALONE . GOD HELP US!
THIS IS THE REASON MEN NEVER SPEAK UP. THEY'D RATHER DIE IN SILENCE AND TAKE ALL THE BLAMES THAN CHOOSE TO FIGHT FOR THEIR LIVES. "HOW DARE YOU HAVE STANDARDS AND CHOICES AS A MAN?"

YOU CAN BE ANYTHING YOU WANT BUT DON'T BE A "REAL MAN". THE DAY YOU DON'T PUT YOURSELF AND YOUR BLOODLINE FIRST IS THE DAY YOU'LL START LOSING IT ALL. A REAL MAN IS A LOSER 3 TIMES EVERYDAY.

Men never speak up?

Stop lying abeg!!

Romanceland is echoing with the voices of men. It is men and women abusing him. It is men creating threads bashing women up and down.

TkhGuy:
It's hurtful, I don't know which side of the coin you guys want to follow but, she came that day, uninvited like she use to & know I have to tell her when she starts touching me & reaching my sensitive zone, I held her hands for a while & broke the silence,

I did tell her that we aren't going anywhere after noticing how flirty she is from first 1 month of our date, but she kept coming back, I have broken up with her prior to this, but she still comes to my place uninvited,

She is curvy & seductive, she is beautifully personified,
I don't have time to chase after girls due to the nature of my job, so, she has been the only girl I have all along,


I have carefully made my choice, ladies you all need to learn this cos most Nigerian guys will not tell you this or force it on you..

I can't marry a girl who doesn't trust me, or projects condom forward just at the point of having Bleep with her,

I can't have a girl who can't cook as a wife but gf yes,

I can't harbor a girl who questions my authority as my wife, but as gf yes

I can't take a girl who challenges me even to point of picking up a fight with me as a wife, but as girlfriend, yes

I can't take a girl who disobeys me as my wife, cheating will be nothing to her,

I can't marry a girl who is unapologetic, for girlfriend, yes but not a wife

I can't marry a girl who's 80% contact is raging with boys, even if there are all her cousin, or she doesn't sleep with them I don't care,

I can't marry a girl who wears make up 247 when coming and going and always on a tight body revealing clothes, what that means is she is not done advising herself to highest bidder

This are the conditions & challenges that i tried hard to stop my girlfriend from but she wouldn't let go,

We have dated for more than 3 years but this attitude never changes,

I found someone whom all this came from without me pushing for it, now she is crying out her eyes,

u see that condom part, na where you lie. So because of stupid trust make she carry STI

You are a very sellfish baskart

harqinhola:


NO , that's not true ! There's always man that fots a gorls personality . LEAVE HER , SHE'LL FIND HER MAN ! OF she's not good for u , she's perfect for another man .

I know, one man's food is another's poison.

One mistake I will never make is to marry outa pity or stupidity. On a scale of 10 if a woman doesn't score atleast 8 I won't marry her. The remaining 2% must be flaws I can tolerate because nobody is perfect.....I can't be suffering in silence in my marriage.

You are so heartless. You knew that you will never marry her but went on to waste 3 years of her life

TkhGuy:
It's hurtful, I don't know which side of the coin you guys want to follow but, she came that day, uninvited like she use to & know I have to tell her when she starts touching me & reaching my sensitive zone, I held her hands for a while & broke the silence,

I did tell her that we aren't going anywhere after noticing how flirty she is from first 1 month of our date, but she kept coming back, I have broken up with her prior to this, but she still comes to my place uninvited,

She is curvy & seductive, she is beautifully personified,
I don't have time to chase after girls due to the nature of my job, so, she has been the only girl I have all along,


I have carefully made my choice, ladies you all need to learn this cos most Nigerian guys will not tell you this or force it on you..

I can't marry a girl who doesn't trust me, or projects condom forward just at the point of having Bleep with her,

I can't have a girl who can't cook as a wife but gf yes,

I can't harbor a girl who questions my authority as my wife, but as gf yes

I can't take a girl who challenges me even to point of picking up a fight with me as a wife, but as girlfriend, yes

I can't take a girl who disobeys me as my wife, cheating will be nothing to her,

I can't marry a girl who is unapologetic, for girlfriend, yes but not a wife

I can't marry a girl who's 80% contact is raging with boys, even if there are all her cousin, or she doesn't sleep with them I don't care,

I can't marry a girl who wears make up 247 when coming and going and always on a tight body revealing clothes, what that means is she is not done advising herself to highest bidder

This are the conditions & challenges that i tried hard to stop my girlfriend from but she wouldn't let go,

We have dated for more than 3 years but this attitude never changes,

I found someone whom all this came from without me pushing for it, now she is crying out her eyes,

You don't wait for 3 years for someone to change! If you can't marry them now, you can't marry them ever

People don't change - they grow. Their core remains the same

OP know that they weren't compatible for a long time

Oburu202:
Why didn't you just tell her point blank since you noticed all these but you chose to lead her on. Don't worry you'll meet your match. Just pray the one you're about to marry isn't pretending to you. I hate users


Clearly you can't read. He waited for 3 years for her to change. Dating is not marriage. They are both using each other. It just did not lead marriage. Not all relationships leads to marriage. During the courtship, both gender will put efforts to it. Try it out to see if it will work. If it doesn't work, they will part ways. So simple!!

You don't try to change anyone. You don't wait for anyone to change.

If you know that you are not compatible, you break up and move on not lead the other person for 3 years. Especially for women, their timeline is tight

Favfables1:


I doubt all those castigating the OP, read his story ...

He clearly stated that, he told her they had no future, she came back...

He clearly stated that, he broke up with her prior to this, she still came back...

He still had hope that he could change her ((which in my opinion was futile)), maybe that way, they could have a future together, but it didn't work out ...

He endured 3years of this, but still, no change, so he took off....

Rather than y'all to bless God that he dodged a bullet, you're cursing him and trying to emotionally blackmail him back into a relationship that is a disaster?!! Hmmm...

Yes! Everyone has their flaws and no one is perfect, even his new babe have her flaws, but my people, choose your flaws wisely! No go do pass yourself all in a bid to not hurt the person ...

I understand the place of accepting your partner for who they are and all, but if you can't handle it, you can't handle it, no need trying to force it ...

omotoshodontee1:
Mumu plenty for this forum ooo,see them castigating the guy as if they can tolerate half of those flaws he mentioned...so, because e no wan break someone's heart,he should marry problem to his life...e ti ya wehrey

He should have broken up earlier instead of leading her on for 3 years

harqinhola:
blah Blah Blah ! And she's good enough for u to Bleep ?? God purnish u my brother ..

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It took you 3 years for you to realize she is not the one for you, you wasted 3 years of her life, that what make people get so aggrieved and hurt/even kill their ex partner.
They say hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

harqinhola:
blah Blah Blah ! And she's good enough for u to Bleep ?? God purnish u my brother ..

From the description it's clearly just for knacks. And she wants to use my guy for retirement

You did well my brother. All of you that is emotionally blackmailing him, make una go marry her na.

medriano:


You are a terrible human being. She’s not good enough to be a wife yet you kept stringing her along. You should have called it off a long long time ago, but no you had to wait 3 years to do that. Confronting her the way you did about marrying someone else is very low of you.

Please peruse what the OP said before reacting!
At times,the first paragraph of a writeup may not really be what you are thinking!

Don't marry out if pity.

You are absolutely right. Someone is telling me to shut up.

Abeg go marry the girl.

Favfables1:


I doubt all those castigating the OP, read his story ...

He clearly stated that, he told her they had no future, she came back...

He clearly stated that, he broke up with her prior to this, she still came back...

He still had hope that he could change her ((which in my opinion was futile)), maybe that way, they could have a future together, but it didn't work out ...

He endured 3years of this, but still, no change, so he took off....

Rather than y'all to bless God that he dodged a bullet, you're cursing him and trying to emotionally blackmail him back into a relationship that is a disaster?!! Hmmm...

Yes! Everyone has their flaws and no one is perfect, even his new babe have her flaws, but my people, choose your flaws wisely! No go do pass yourself all in a bid to not hurt the person ...

I understand the place of accepting your partner for who they are and all, but if you can't handle it, you can't handle it, no need trying to force it ...

TkhGuy:
It's hurtful, I don't know which side of the coin you guys want to follow but, she came that day, uninvited like she use to & know I have to tell her when she starts touching me & reaching my sensitive zone, I held her hands for a while & broke the silence,

I did tell her that we aren't going anywhere after noticing how flirty she is from first 1 month of our date, but she kept coming back, I have broken up with her prior to this, but she still comes to my place uninvited,

She is curvy & seductive, she is beautifully personified,
I don't have time to chase after girls due to the nature of my job, so, she has been the only girl I have all along,


I have carefully made my choice, ladies you all need to learn this cos most Nigerian guys will not tell you this or force it on you..

I can't marry a girl who doesn't trust me, or projects condom forward just at the point of having Bleep with her,

I can't have a girl who can't cook as a wife but gf yes,

I can't harbor a girl who questions my authority as my wife, but as gf yes

I can't take a girl who challenges me even to point of picking up a fight with me as a wife, but as girlfriend, yes

I can't take a girl who disobeys me as my wife, cheating will be nothing to her,

I can't marry a girl who is unapologetic, for girlfriend, yes but not a wife

I can't marry a girl who's 80% contact is raging with boys, even if there are all her cousin, or she doesn't sleep with them I don't care,

I can't marry a girl who wears make up 247 when coming and going and always on a tight body revealing clothes, what that means is she is not done advising herself to highest bidder

This are the conditions & challenges that i tried hard to stop my girlfriend from but she wouldn't let go,

We have dated for more than 3 years but this attitude never changes,

I found someone whom all this came from without me pushing for it, now she is crying out her eyes,

You made the right decision. Compatibility is very important in marriage. If you marry her you guys relationship would have been very toxic and unhealthy. It is good you found someone that understands you and is compatible with you.

I don't see anything wrong with the decision you made but what I don't understand is why you decided to give advice based on your own preference. You are not every guy, your own preference is not another man's preference and you are not every lady's spec so what is the bragging for. Reduce your ego and learn to speak for yourself alone.

I don't think you know how to read in between words.

All relationships doesn't lead to marriage.

You are just trying to make the guy feel bad.

Get a life bro.

luwiizy:

Shut the Bleep up...
Senior man no wan chop leftover
You dey talk trash...
Baba point all the redflag still yet your blind eyes no be fit see for dark.

bepositive11:
1. You don't try to change anyone.

2. You don't wait for anyone to change.

3. If you know that you are not compatible, you break up and move on not lead the other person for 3 years. Especially for women, their timeline is tight

1. No you don't...
2. I agree....
But the maker of such choices in the above should be left to the discretion of the people or person's involved, don't you think? ...

3. I totally agree sir...
However...
Why does it sound to me like you're blaming the OP for this?
If you think "he led her on", then you probably didn't comprehend his write up ....
Cause if you did, then you'd see a place where HE TOLD HER THEY HAD NO FUTURE AND HE BROKE UP WITH HER PRIOR TO THIS...

If truly he did tell her and he indeed broke up with her, then one can say that the lady in question was desperately clinging onto the OP thinking something could change...

And that...
My Friend...
Is not the OP's fault...

You're right. I just skimmed through OP's post again

He did tell her 1 month in that they were not going anywhere

In fact, she's solely to blame for not listening

Favfables1:


1. No you don't...
2. I agree....
But the maker of such choices in the above should be left to the discretion of the people or person's involved, don't you think? ...

3. I totally agree sir...
However...
Why does it sound to me like you're blaming the OP for this?
If you think "he led her on", then you probably didn't comprehend his write up ....
Cause if you did, then you'd see a place where HE TOLD HER THEY HAD NO FUTURE AND HE BROKE UP WITH HER PRIOR TO THIS...

If truly he did tell her and he indeed broke up with her, then one can say that the lady in question was desperately clinging onto the OP thinking something could change...

And that...
My Friend...
Is not the OP's fault...

lilvicky68:

Lol

Lol

DrFunmisticGlow:
Men never speak up?

Stop lying abeg!!

Romanceland is echoing with the voices of men. It is men and women abusing him. It is men creating threads bashing women up and down.

The new breed of boys who claim to be victims is pathetic. They are in competition with females all the time.

They do and post red pill garbage all day, then turn around bleating about their peace of mind and how they are victims when they have done their worst. It will be worse for young ladies today.