Sweetplum:

That's the mentality of most boys on this forum. If you dare date any of them, you may live to tell a sad tale.
Make sure he vomits all the damages. Arrest his mom, father, siblings, entire family and friends, his Alfa or Pastor or Herbalist or Atheist folks. Make sure you deal with him physically and spiritually. What an unfortunate man with nothing to gain and nothing to produce.
Sum up the total worth of what he destroyed physically and emotionally. They may be up to N3m or N5m. Let him cough it out. After his release from the police station, charge him to court. Harass him regularly with emotional blackmail and make sure you tell all Nigerians he threatened your life.
Get police reports, court orders etc. Report him to people that can help him pay maybe you go recover some amount since the man is so broke.
The he-goats must suffer like a village goat!

With this advice you dont wish the lady long life. This psychopath would one day be free and get at her. This time, she wont live to tell her story. Best step is the one she chose. Let him be to his conscience if any, if possible avoid him.

MaryAye:
After taking the advice of meaningful nairlanders on this https://www.nairaland.com/7341050/he-wants-date-he-doesnt.

This is the aftermath.

I arranged for a meet-up with him to discuss my supposed assumptions. He told me, "he doesn't hate my child, but he feels my son was gargling like a mewling child."

I asked him to elucidate. Which he did and I politely told him that if he gargled, it was because he's still four. I think he should give my son time and establish a friendly relationship with him.

It was like my pep talks rattled him and he immediately slapped me that I have insulted him and trapped his pride. I was like, what!!!

This was a harmless discussion. Why did you slap me? He started apologising. He said he didn't know what came over him.

I told him to leave my shop. I told him I will call him when I'm less angry.
To me, I wanted to pipe low and take his word for it. He asked for some money to take bolt home because he didn't come out with cash. I went into the shop and gave him.

After that day I didn't call him or wanted to have anything to do with him. To my greatest surprise yesterday, he came to my shop and started assaulting me so that I can't leave. I was like, I never wanted to date you before. I was just considering your proposal.

That little tussle was what led to him scattering the fruits I bought. My neighbours came to our shop and before I knew it, he has raze all my goods.

My neighbours called the market chairman and they bungled him to the police station.

What is wrong with men this day? I didn't collect anything from him. Thank God I took the advice of nairalanders. You guys helped me to identify this before going into it.

Thank you, all.

Unfortunately you came up here on Nairaland to seek for advice where almost 80% of the male folks are juveniles with less or no respect for women. That guy, if we wanna run a flashback on his past years, you’ll discover he had that ingrained tendency of treating women the same way most idiotic ‘redpillers’ here do. Any guy who dares to be different dem go call am simp.
You gave him too much audience. Any man with temper issues is worse than an earthed world war II bomb in a residential German space. Flee for your safety.
Looks and money cover up men who are walking live ammunitions. Raise your standards on moral requirements. If you need swingers, go for redpillers. If you wanna settle down, avoid them like plague. They seldom grow up, they only grow old.
And lastly, most guys these days don’t believe in working on their character as a necessary growth process. They believe their finances will suffice for missing virtues. They believe the woman is the one who need character refinement alone. Look at Tuface, Yul Edochie, Pretty Mike, Davido, Wizkid, Burna Boy.., these are not the kinda hubbies you’ll wanna have for stability except you love fame over a peaceful functional home. If your boyfriend look up to any of those as role models, chances are you’re in for a tough ride.
Look at peeps like Donald Duke , Ramsey Noah, Banky Wellington.., A role model check is a good sign to know what to expect

I hope you see this to a reasonable end....get him to pay for the damages, apologize to you and sohn 7undertaken not to harm you in any way. Even if mosquito bites you, he would he held responsible.

You sef no try....what kind of man are you giving transport fare after slapping you? Chai! It is well....you should know that kind of men you even talk to!

The guy is even a psychopath. Good thing you bailed on time.

etrange:


Are you guys not ashamed of this boyish defense of the masculine gender even to the point of stupidity? If it was a lady misbehaving this way, you people would be screaming "fear women", "that gender", "Nigerian girls", etc. Now, it's a guy and you and the chatinent person are looking for things to add to the story just to give him a soft landing. Someone that has been maltreating a kid, you think he needed so much provocation to slap an adult? Whatever she might have said, how can that possibly justify coming to her shop to hit her? You read this entire story and how the poor lady's source of income was destroyed and you're more interested in defending a gender? Like the OP rightly said, you guys have become extremely toxic in that country. You think you're being a man, but you're just creating a very dangerous environment for yourselves and for the next generation.

A youruba adage says when we correct someone we correct the other person too . you're not blind you saw where I corrected the both of them . this is the op's side of the story have you listened to his.?
The op didn't get engage to a mad man something must have triggered him in slapping her insultive words I guess of which is very very wrong and I stated it up there you can see it if you don't have bad retina .

Guys you know my problem with most people its this nonchalant attitude . the op has seen all his flaws and yet she came here to open a thread to ask if she can still move on with him the previous thread .
Someone that is saying ill things to your child is not the type for you. Listen if someone claim he/she love you the person will love and protect everything that concerns you. Op has already seen all these but maybe his love or his looks already blindfolded the Op .

Sweetplum:

That's the mentality of most boys on this forum. If you dare date any of them, you may live to tell a sad tale.
Make sure he vomits all the damages. Arrest his mom, father, siblings, entire family and friends, his Alfa or Pastor or Herbalist or Atheist folks. Make sure you deal with him physically and spiritually. What an unfortunate man with nothing to gain and nothing to produce.
Sum up the total worth of what he destroyed physically and emotionally. They may be up to N3m or N5m. Let him cough it out. After his release from the police station, charge him to court. Harass him regularly with emotional blackmail and make sure you tell all Nigerians he threatened your life.
Get police reports, court orders etc. Report him to people that can help him pay maybe you go recover some amount since the man is so broke.
The he-goats must suffer like a village goat!

Give her gun now

I see no difference between u and the randy boy in the story...may be the lady should give u his number, who knows, you might be perfect match.

hmmm all this retired olosho go dey play victim card
well it is a pity we can not hear the other side of the story

Sweetplum:

That's the mentality of most boys on this forum. If you dare date any of them, you may live to tell a sad tale.
Make sure he vomits all the damages. Arrest his mom, father, siblings, entire family and friends, his Alfa or Pastor or Herbalist or Atheist folks. Make sure you deal with him physically and spiritually. What an unfortunate man with nothing to gain and nothing to produce.
Sum up the total worth of what he destroyed physically and emotionally. They may be up to N3m or N5m. Let him cough it out. After his release from the police station, charge him to court. Harass him regularly with emotional blackmail and make sure you tell all Nigerians he threatened your life.
Get police reports, court orders etc. Report him to people that can help him pay maybe you go recover some amount since the man is so broke.
The he-goats must suffer like a village goat!

...... YOU CAN EASILY GIVE.... A SON OF A MAN.... POSION. ......THIS YOUR ADVICE IS STRAIGHT FROM HELL!

Sweetplum:

That's the mentality of most boys on this forum. If you dare date any of them, you may live to tell a sad tale.
Make sure he vomits all the damages. Arrest his mom, father, siblings, entire family and friends, his Alfa or Pastor or Herbalist or Atheist folks. Make sure you deal with him physically and spiritually. What an unfortunate man with nothing to gain and nothing to produce.
Sum up the total worth of what he destroyed physically and emotionally. They may be up to N3m or N5m. Let him cough it out. After his release from the police station, charge him to court. Harass him regularly with emotional blackmail and make sure you tell all Nigerians he threatened your life.
Get police reports, court orders etc. Report him to people that can help him pay maybe you go recover some amount since the man is so broke.
The he-goats must suffer like a village goat!

Nawao

Sweetplum:

Why not tell the mentally unstable man disturbing the op to stop?
If anyone offend me, the person should be ready for the consequences. If the person's lucky, I may forgive cos of God.
I try to be fair. I just hate injustice.

Is he on this forum, what he did is deplorable.

I'll advise you to desist from that spiritual revenge stuff, anything with the devil has consequences, never think it ends there, all the ones you have done prior to now are forgiven you by the blood of Jesus, go and sin no more.

MaryAye:
After taking the advice of meaningful nairlanders on this https://www.nairaland.com/7341050/he-wants-date-he-doesnt.

This is the aftermath.

I arranged for a meet-up with him to discuss my supposed assumptions. He told me, "he doesn't hate my child, but he feels my son was gargling like a mewling child."

I asked him to elucidate. Which he did and I politely told him that if he gargled, it was because he's still four. I think he should give my son time and establish a friendly relationship with him.

It was like my pep talks rattled him and he immediately slapped me that I have insulted him and trapped his pride. I was like, what!!!

This was a harmless discussion. Why did you slap me? He started apologising. He said he didn't know what came over him.

I told him to leave my shop. I told him I will call him when I'm less angry.
To me, I wanted to pipe low and take his word for it. He asked for some money to take bolt home because he didn't come out with cash. I went into the shop and gave him.

After that day I didn't call him or wanted to have anything to do with him. To my greatest surprise yesterday, he came to my shop and started assaulting me so that I can't leave. I was like, I never wanted to date you before. I was just considering your proposal.

That little tussle was what led to him scattering the fruits I bought. My neighbours came to our shop and before I knew it, he has raze all my goods.

My neighbours called the market chairman and they bungled him to the police station.

What is wrong with men this day? I didn't collect anything from him. Thank God I took the advice of nairalanders. You guys helped me to identify this before going into it.

Thank you, all.

See as you sabi write. Very smart woman you'd be I guess. But irresponsible.
Spare me with the shiit happens in advance

MaryAye:
After taking the advice of meaningful nairlanders on this https://www.nairaland.com/7341050/he-wants-date-he-doesnt.

This is the aftermath.

I arranged for a meet-up with him to discuss my supposed assumptions. He told me, "he doesn't hate my child, but he feels my son was gargling like a mewling child."

I asked him to elucidate. Which he did and I politely told him that if he gargled, it was because he's still four. I think he should give my son time and establish a friendly relationship with him.

It was like my pep talks rattled him and he immediately slapped me that I have insulted him and trapped his pride. I was like, what!!!

This was a harmless discussion. Why did you slap me? He started apologising. He said he didn't know what came over him.

I told him to leave my shop. I told him I will call him when I'm less angry.
To me, I wanted to pipe low and take his word for it. He asked for some money to take bolt home because he didn't come out with cash. I went into the shop and gave him.

After that day I didn't call him or wanted to have anything to do with him. To my greatest surprise yesterday, he came to my shop and started assaulting me so that I can't leave. I was like, I never wanted to date you before. I was just considering your proposal.

That little tussle was what led to him scattering the fruits I bought. My neighbours came to our shop and before I knew it, he has raze all my goods.

My neighbours called the market chairman and they bungled him to the police station.

What is wrong with men this day? I didn't collect anything from him. Thank God I took the advice of nairalanders. You guys helped me to identify this before going into it.

Thank you, all.

Anty, nothing is wrong with men. You followed a tout and you are trying to make a nonsensical generalisation? I have never behaved that way, neither has anybody my friends.

BePrepared:


Is he on this forum, what he did is deplorable.

I'll advise you to desist from that spiritual revenge stuff, anything with the devil has consequences, never think it ends there, all the ones you have done prior to now are forgiven you by the blood of Jesus, go and sin no more.

ok. I v heard you. Thanks

Boyooosa:


Give her gun now

I see no difference between u and the randy boy in the story...may be the lady should give u his number, who knows, you might be perfect match.

receive brain

princefrank76:


It's quite unfortunate, nairaland has made you a bitter soul.. very bad. This forum is really a toxic place to be..

I hope the things you post in this forum doesn't reflect the kind of person you are in reality

I am as gentle as a dove. But it's unfair how some men treat a good lady like the op.

Slynation:
what else can the Guy offer other than preeq?? A guy that begs for TP like a Sisi...

By the power bestowed on me, I hearby donate that guy to the female gender...

We reject him.

goshikid:
you fit no even fine for real life, maybe na Nairaland d help your life.. Carry mouth like spoon

Forget that small girl, na very dull lonely girl, wey dey always lock her self inside house. She no get physical friends, Naira land is her soulmate. Most of her imaginary friends na only she sabi dem.

Eazie351:
pep talk made him slap you bah?

not an advocate of anyone but your words must have stung him like a slap.

people won't see that cos "of course, a man should never....blah! yen yen yen"

That also warranted him to destroy her shop with goods worth more than his net worth?
You must be an idiot like that guy

@MaryAye

Pls ensure you get him to sign a police statement, that anything that happens to you or your business or kid he'll be held responsible first until proven otherwise.

I know these kind of folks they'll get vindictive by proxy(using gangs to get to you).

This not to instill fear, but give you a rounded preparation and response.

BRATISLAVA:


Re-read my post.

Also, you cannot pretend that that isn't how most of the men are. There was a married woman with a husband like that projdint or someone like that. Bjdint. Can't really remember. So it's a trait of men. How many men have the trait, that is the part that she needs to fine tune.

Thank you.

I still disagree with ur assertion.
Thank you

Zee0007:
A toxic man will always be a toxic man no matter how he tries to hide it.

Wait ooo!!! I'm I the only one that loves the Op writing skills?

You're not alone,I dey the table too....it was too perfect so i decided to start looking for her mistakes which I couldn't find!!!

Sweetplum:

That's the mentality of most boys on this forum. If you dare date any of them, you may live to tell a sad tale.
Make sure he vomits all the damages. Arrest his mom, father, siblings, entire family and friends, his Alfa or Pastor or Herbalist or Atheist folks. Make sure you deal with him physically and spiritually. What an unfortunate man with nothing to gain and nothing to produce.
Sum up the total worth of what he destroyed physically and emotionally. They may be up to N3m or N5m. Let him cough it out. After his release from the police station, charge him to court. Harass him regularly with emotional blackmail and make sure you tell all Nigerians he threatened your life.
Get police reports, court orders etc. Report him to people that can help him pay maybe you go recover some amount since the man is so broke.
The he-goats must suffer like a village goat!

dey calm down nah

IamMobisola:

That also warranted him to destroy her shop with goods worth more than his net worth?
You must be an idiot like that guy

all i can say is ode nieh.

Osinwin eniyan

Sweetplum:

That's the mentality of most boys on this forum. If you dare date any of them, you may live to tell a sad tale.
Make sure he vomits all the damages. Arrest his mom, father, siblings, entire family and friends, his Alfa or Pastor or Herbalist or Atheist folks. Make sure you deal with him physically and spiritually. What an unfortunate man with nothing to gain and nothing to produce.
Sum up the total worth of what he destroyed physically and emotionally. They may be up to N3m or N5m. Let him cough it out. After his release from the police station, charge him to court. Harass him regularly with emotional blackmail and make sure you tell all Nigerians he threatened your life.
Get police reports, court orders etc. Report him to people that can help him pay maybe you go recover some amount since the man is so broke.
The he-goats must suffer like a village goat!

Haba! Sweetplum you no get joy at all.

Sweetplum:
receive brain

Thanks

First make sure he pays for everything he destroyed and also sign an undertaken.ah someone you have not even accepted his proposal don dey dash u slap na wa thank God for you

I'm sure the guy is a Yoruba man

I remember myself together with other Nairalanders advising you because, that guy would come between you & your son. God just delivered you from a psycho. Some of these are crazy looking for an easy target.Glad you took the advice.

MaryAye:


He's so broke. He can't afford it. I will have to start all over again with the fruit biz. I will have to look for another money to continue the biz.

He's still looking for a job to keep soul and body together. I will leave him with God. At least my life was not taken.

Make sure u keep his soul and body apart with the police case. Chase his soul far from his body. Make sure they don't come together again

Sweetplum:

I feel like saying you should DM me and let me teach you how to handle him spiritually. He need to cough it somehow.
Anyways, God is the greatest. Leave him to God.

Oya mama, come teach me how to deal with someone spiritually, someone is owing me

Sweetplum:

I am as gentle as a dove. But it's unfair how some men treat a good lady like the op.

Good to hear you are gentle.. do have a nice day