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Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by Paragon4(m): 9:09pm On Aug 14, 2023 |
I blame the man. On a very serious note, if the marriage right was too much for him he should have walk away and leave their daughter for them. There are many ladies with considerate parents and there also others with thieves as parents. |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by TheGift: 9:24pm On Aug 14, 2023 |
Find a way to calm Him down. And give Him room to talk without judgement. HE may not be saying it the way you like, but He is trying to say something, and you really need to hear Him out, otherwise, you people are just playing marriage, but not really married. In my case, I was very lucky with my Wife, the demands were not unreasonable for bride price and other things, but some family member wanted to use their position to make things more difficult for us beyond what we had discussed, it was my Wife that put that person in their place, so much so we made the person totally irrelevant to our wedding and marriage. And i never had to deal with any of their stress. If you really want to be married to someone, you should also work with Him to manage any pressure from your family (just like you did with the 50k). Especially because whatever he spends or saves, is money that can contribute to getting you guys started. That is not to say your Dad was wrong or that you were wrong, just that you guys were not really communicating about how you were dealing with the pressures. You need to find a way to get Him talking. Try going to hold him in a way or in a place that will arouse Him, maybe he will calm down enough for you guys to talk, focus on understanding Him and on letting Him know that you do. He will eventually understand you too. Then we can all move on. I wish you the very best. |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by Osobi32(m): 9:33pm On Aug 14, 2023 |
budaatum:take this advice very seriously and help him pay off that loan very fast, don't let him get used to being alone else you are on ur own oooo 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by occfx: 9:35pm On Aug 14, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3: A woman is supposed to help her husband negotiate... African marriage is an over bloated nonsense. Guys should marry according to there pocket abeg |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by harsysky(m): 9:45pm On Aug 14, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3: Sorry to ask, are you married or single? I may not support the man in what he is doing, but the man equally has a right to ban his in_laws from coming to his house, and if that was what he actually had done other than the mood swing, I would be glad. It is so sad how in_laws behave due to hunger in the land and tomorrow they expect the wife to contribute one or two stuffs which would still come from the husband. The man is in a huge debt, no doubt. Debt is what humbles a man, not even how much he earns. When a man earns 50k and he isn't in debt, he would still manage and be happy 50k is small, but how many Nigerians are earning well? Reason our ladies are growing without any husband. Ladies do not even support their husband even in management of what he brings home. I have tried giving my wife 100k every month for our feeding, but she rejected. You could guess what the reason was. It is well! |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by CarlosTheJackal: 10:14pm On Aug 14, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3:why are you always aggressive? Jecci didn't make any abusive statement against you but you are attacking her person nonstop. Please take a chill and learn, Anfieldboss has schooled you because he has an experience as a married man. Please try to learn |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by Ilekokonit: 11:12pm On Aug 14, 2023 |
If she wants her husband back and wants her marriage to last, she should help in paying back the loan and henceforth, learn to place her husbands demands above that of any other person including her dad, mum, pastor or ANY other third party. |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by Ubdavison: 11:37pm On Aug 14, 2023 |
I for don use the exit door te te. Make ur father carry u add with ur mama, marry. |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by Ubdavison: 11:38pm On Aug 14, 2023 |
I for don use the exit door te te. Make ur father carry u add with ur mama, marry |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by obaidan: 4:27am On Aug 15, 2023 |
be like na ur papa u go go marry finally.....ur dad was wrong, u were wrong, but u know who wrong pass for this matter, na that ur husband, u should give him this pet name Fabrizio SIMPano...if he asks u what it means tell him its what they call wise people in Croatia |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by Jewessgratitud3: 5:14am On Aug 15, 2023 |
CarlosTheJackal: I'm sure you didn't see where she first attacked me saying I didn't make sense in my submissions. Of course you won't see it and the other offensive things she said. Please, kindly go to their mentions and give them all the pat in the back for all I care and save me this irritating briefs you're holding for them. I've never come to tell how to reply or react to any ones comment on here before. I don't even have the time to stick my nose in other peoples biz cos it's non of my business. Please do the needful and stop mentioning me. |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by saladinnoir: 5:21am On Aug 15, 2023 |
Hier: I didn't get your first sentence bro. Please rephrase |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by Jewessgratitud3: 5:22am On Aug 15, 2023 |
occfx: It depends on where you're from. In my place, a woman has no say even her father has no say. The kinsmen and elder brothers are the ones who dictate what should be done. Tradition is tradition. A woman can only negotiate where there's no tradition or in a wait and get marriage. Period! |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by BALLOSKI: 5:52am On Aug 15, 2023 |
This MOD sef. Have we not read this story before? |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by Jewessgratitud3: 6:28am On Aug 15, 2023 |
BALLOSKI: Is this only about you and the people who have read it before? What about those seeing it for the first time? Abi you think say na only you dey here? Give others a chance to also see it. Let other people breath |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by BALLOSKI: 7:02am On Aug 15, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3:lol We saw it not up to a week ago on this forum. |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by Jewessgratitud3: 7:05am On Aug 15, 2023 |
BALLOSKI:.. funnily enough, I didn't see it o. I for no post am walahi Anyways, it was worth posting judging from the massive reactions it sparked. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by BALLOSKI: 7:15am On Aug 15, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3:Yeah. Your own came with a Facebook source. https://www.nairaland.com/7796598/new-marriage-crash/6#124994769 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by Jewessgratitud3: 7:23am On Aug 15, 2023 |
BALLOSKI: Yep. |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by Livadesh: 7:54am On Aug 15, 2023 |
Ofunaofu: Exactly... He found out after all the sacrifices he made, the lady doesn't worth it. She just left the guy to lionic arms of her family without any intervention. She's only interested in a man that will save her from spinsterhood 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by occfx: 9:51am On Aug 15, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3: Bro, those who made those traditions didn't make them with N1000 notes, they didn't know what was small stout or beer but today you hear things like, 10 crates of small stout, 150000 cash, milo and milk, cows etc. How does this equate to the tradition of 1800AD where they use cowrie and palm wine? Lets assume they are measuring it according to the cost then, who measured the value of cowrie and the inflation of then and now. Bro, tradition is not tradition, people make traditions according to the state of things but with corrupt leaders everywhere, you will agree with me that most of the laws, constitutions and traditions we have at the moment were no written with the inspirations of the gods or God. A lot of things have changed, I urge women to conive with there fathers to make things easier (not easy) for the young man according to his or her pocket. After the wedding comes the marriage and those kinsmen will not be there to help you and beware that Tinubu don't care. If you like go spend all your money on some greedy kinsmen or flanboyant wedding, na two of una go suffer am. Tinubu cannot and will not reduce the price of fuel because of your wedding, thats the bitter truth. |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by Jewessgratitud3: 9:58am On Aug 15, 2023 |
occfx: So you expect them to still be collecting cowries? LoL... The value of things have gone up and those things they collected back then no longer have value now. The list they gave my elder changed when my twins suitor went to collect their own list. They even wrote upgraded list and this was 8 years ago. we were all laughing that day. Only God knows how much my own go be when the time comes. LoL.. |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by upuphim(m): 11:29am On Aug 15, 2023 |
How will you expect a husband heavily in debt to be happy with you. Call your father that you said cannot back out from his demand to settle the matter. On the other hand, you blamed your husband for asking for your hand in marriage. Did you tell him how expensive that was going to cost him? Just pray you don't get pregnant because he will not borrow again. Secondly, you weren't happy he used the word extortion. Who in Nigeria doesn't know that extortion is the order of the day in both traditional marriage and wedding. My suggestion, find a way to pay off one of the debts and assure him you will be supportive. Make sure you have something to put on the table. If you don't have any paying job or business, join us in Pwan real estate business. Reach me on oazimo@yahoo.com. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by Hier(m): 3:09pm On Aug 15, 2023 |
saladinnoir:I was quoting the statement below, then I extracted the main quote itself and pasted it. The first paragraph is the same as the second paragraph |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by occfx: 3:55pm On Aug 15, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3: Na waiting I dey tell you... Have you asked who is the engineer of the list. If the enemy of your family is the village head or at the top, he will impose a list that will suffer you. Your wife should know when it's not normal and help you out. If she is adamant on whatever they say, it's not good. |
Re: My Husband Is Not The Same Man I Married. by liamjakes247: 7:32am On Aug 17, 2023 |
The loan bothers him much more than the relationship with you right now. You’re married now, how can you come in to get that soughted out if not with that troubling his mind, he might lose focus in his job and lost it. You’ll know your family are really extortioner when things go south. |
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