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Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by Emma1Oj(m): 2:29pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
GreatAchiever1:which kind talk be dis?? Most of the tins you typed are off point and trash. 4 Likes |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by Watinhapen(m): 2:30pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
In this case, it’s best you take your children away from their father because as they’re growing up they’re watching their father and will eventually become like their father. Their father is doing more harm to them than good. You should take them far away from him. He can come visit from time to time. 1 Like |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by drimzsmoke(m): 2:31pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
wiseone28: He will still lose it all to gambling again. That's 1 beautiful thing about gamblers!! ! 1 Like |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by wiseone28: 2:33pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
drimzsmoke:Are you his financial adviser? |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by nairalanda1(m): 2:35pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
wiseone28: He will reinvest it for 100 million..in gambling 3 Likes |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by nairalanda1(m): 2:36pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
millionboi2: Eh, most men gamble. Most of them don't gamble to the point where they cannot provide for their families. 1 Like |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by nairalanda1(m): 2:37pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
wiseone28: Abi you no know how addictive gambling is? Very addictive. You will lose more than you would win. 2 Likes |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by NEIGHBOUR(m): 2:38pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
madridguy: A strong member of the Association cited.😂 1 Like |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by millionboi2: 2:39pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
nairalanda1:he is saying why did she married him when she knows he gambles. |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by nairalanda1(m): 2:39pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
laluski: Heheh...where to start 1.People lie. Especially during courtship. Am sure the joker was lying and hiding his gambling when they were dating. After... 2.Most addcits know how to hide their addiction 3.It is also VERY possible that the man was not a gambler at all when they were dating and when they married. After all, all it takes is to place the first bet....which he probably did after they married. 1 Like |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by Oizee(f): 2:40pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
akube34:when I read that comment I didn't even know what to say. 1 Like |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by nairalanda1(m): 2:41pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
millionboi2: Like I said, many addicts know how to hide their addiciton. Especially when dem dey court woman wey they wan marry. Am sure the man hid his addiction well well, till they married. It is also possible he started the habit when they had been married, and it grew from there. Think that people cannot develop bad habits after marriage and adult hood? Think again. |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by Felix6: 2:42pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
madridguy:Exactly. All I read is a woman whose husband is currently facing challenges, must have lost his job or business is bad for a while. She didn't tell us how things were, when she was busy opening legs for the man to produce the boys, and how things were growing to the stage they are now. Suddenly he has become irresponsible, because he now eats from what she provides. The man didn't run to nairaland.com to narrate how she was eating what he provides when the going was good for him. Woman you are only looking for the final nail in the coffin for him, which you have deceptively come to seek through public opinion on a faceless forum. What ever backing you get from here will never stop your conscience from pricking you. Because you have done him dirty already with these rubbish you spewed here. 1 Like |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by millionboi2: 2:44pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
nairalanda1:read the post again,she said it that she knew he was a gambler. |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by dododawa1: 2:44pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
JAPA |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by Obakoolex(m): 2:46pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
ravensckar:@ Op listen to this, it's one of the best advice here. You just need show your boys way to God which is also very important. And please don't bad mouth their father for them as it has negative effect on the children. Peace! |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by wiseone28: 2:48pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
nairalanda1:I don't believe it |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by Karlifate: 2:50pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
ednut1: Mr or Mrs Fix-It always think they can change an adult. Someone that his/her parents and/or relatives failed to train, you now want to "change" him/her 1 Like |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by bluestone2015: 2:52pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Are the women gamblers? Wisdom profits much. naija4life247: 1 Like |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by Felix6: 2:52pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
GreatAchiever1:Hm, you are probably a simp. I pray you don't meet manipulative woman as a wife. Have you ask her when she changed her name to Endurance. Over 11 years atleast there was no noise because the "now irresponsible man" was providing for the home, apparently things have taken a down turn for him now, names calling have started, soon she would add alcohol and finally womanising. Woman, May God have mercy on you, if you like take your children to the moon, what will be will be. 1 Like |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by Karlifate: 2:53pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
nairalanda1: It's true that people can pretend, but many people love fantasies. They would rather go with the fantasized expectations of the other party, rather than ask practical questions about their life choices. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by madridguy(m): 2:54pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Perfectly said boss. Felix6: 1 Like |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by obesse: 2:54pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Felix6:God bless you, Felix6 for your objective reasoning! |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by madridguy(m): 2:56pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
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Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by Knight247: 2:57pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
madridguy:some times try to have sense 1 Like |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by PapaFejiro: 2:57pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
You made a mistake knowing his behavior and still going ahead to marry him. Anyway, no need to blame you now. As for your sons, they have already seen your struggles for them and they rely on you only. So do not fear or fret. They will grow up with much respect for you and repay you back with care. As for your decision to go and not return, well that's a good one. He will come looking for you when he gets back to his senses and becomes responsible. Sorry about this, we all have our trials and tribulations, this is yours...keep praying. If you have opportunity to travel out with your kids, please do so quietly. Dont tell a single soul about it. When you get there, divorce him and move on with your life. Greatmind653: |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by PapaFejiro: 2:58pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Boys not men. A mature man will not blame her. preshpraiz: 1 Like |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by abbey621(m): 2:59pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
People hold elaborate weddings, go to church and take the oath for better or worse, they enjoy the better but protest vehemently against the worst! This situation is a case of a chronic gambler struggling with addiction, there's no sign of violence just a man that you knew was a gambler and you married him anyways, now you're acting all new as if his behavior is strange to you. Now you want to leave him, take his offspring and leave him in a state where he's even more susceptible to his gambling demons.....Women! Let me shock you some more, if this guy actually hammered from his gambling, I can confidently say that you wouldn't have problem with it, you wouldn't see it as a bad role model for your child and that in itself says a lot! Now with that said, leaving him is probably the best solution for this situation. It will either break or make him! Since rehabilitation is a foreign concept to most Nigerians, the man must be baptized through trials and tribulations, there's simply no other way! He must hit rock bottom before iyanu can shele! 2 Likes |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by ednut1(m): 3:01pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Karlifate:i can never understand that ish. a man was a womanizer during the dating phase, you were also one of his side chicks at a point. But you expect faithfulness from him haha haha 1 Like |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by FuckYeyeMods: 3:02pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Greatmind653:Have taken some time apart before? Did anything change? If the and to the above is no, then try taking some time apart and be firm in your stance about him changing else he will not see his children again. |
Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by Bravelion: 3:03pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
If you are buoyant enough to cater for the children, then you can leave for your mental health and general well being. Also for him not to polute the psyche of the children. The children seeing his behavior everyday, has adverse effects in their lives in the near future. Some men are very irresponsible. They rush into marriage without maturing (not number) properly to be able to take responsibility. They end up tormenting their wives left, right and center. Be strengthened and leave the house peacefully until he comes to his senses and change for good. Pls if you are reading this, resist any negative habit before you become addicted to it . Addictions ruin lives. A word is enough for the wise. 1 Like |
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