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Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by datemax: 12:49pm On Apr 30, 2008 |
Why Women "Run" From NICE Guys A guy ones said, "I know this girl who's beautiful and smart and attractive. She and I are great friends, we have everything in common, and we get along perfectly, but she says that she's just not attracted to me, " Have you ever noticed that: 1) The most attractive and interesting women seem to be attracted to men who don't treat them very well? 2) That the "nicer" you are to a woman the more she often seems to act like "just a friend" to you? What's going on here? Didn't mom say to be "nice" to girls? Here's the deal: Women aren't usually romantically attracted to "nice" guys. Women are attracted to men who are funny, confident, and mysterious. Good looks don't hurt, but if you're not 6'4" tall and model-handsome, then you have to learn how to attract women with your personality. And being "nice" isn't going to do it for you. I believe: 1) Women make decisions very, very quickly about whether a man is going to be "just a friend" or if he has romantic potential, and once her decision is made, it's probably going to stay made. 2) These decisions are made "subconsciously," meaning that women make all of them quickly and at a "gut level." 3) If you know how, you make her feel attraction feelings rather than "friend" feelings. 4) The way to do it is to stop acting "nice" and start acting, well, something else, and I don't mean "not nice." So what DOES attract women? And how do you do it exactly? Good questions, At the beginning, I mentioned three qualities: Funny, Confident, and Mysterious. Before I talk about each, I first have to remind you that WOMEN DON'T USUALLY MAKE SENSE. Remember that. As much as many women would hate to admit it, there's something very attractive about a man who is just a little more confident than he should be. And if you combine this with the right amount of humor, you have a magic combination that will charm almost any woman. Here are a few ways to use this idea: 1) When you first meet a woman, tease her about something. It doesn't matter what it is, as long as you do it early on. For instance, you might say: "So what's with the big purse? Are you carrying a gun in there?" or maybe "Those are some pretty tall shoes, what are you like 4' tall without them?" If you tease a woman, it shows that you're not intimidated by her, and that you have a fun sense of humor. KEY: Make sure you say something FUNNY. If you don't know how to be funny, get a book on it. The test: If she's not laughing, then it wasn't funny! 2) Look around at other things and seem kind of pre-occupied when you first start talking to her. Make your funny remarks with a carefree, detached tone. You want to sound like you're talking to your best friend. Attractive women are approached all the time. It's not attractive to a woman when you look like you've just met Madonna. This "just a little too confident" attitude is very attractive to women, especially when it's combined with humor. 3) Don't answer her questions directly. Women love to ask questions like: "What do you do?" and "Where do you live?" and "Tell me about your family." Answer with funny answers, and don't give her what she wants. Most guys say, "Oh, I'm an engineer" or "I'm a stock broker." BORING,BORING. If she asks what you do, say, "Oh, funny you should ask. I'm a Calvin Klein Underwear Model, What do you do?, " (This is especially funny if it's OBVIOUS that you are NOT a model) Do you get it? Keep it up and keep her laughing. It's important to remember that I'm not telling you to be mean, or to be a jerk to women. I'm telling you to start being confident, funny, and mysterious. Now, if you want to REALLY learn how to get away from being a "nice guy" who never gets anywhere with women, I recommend that you read the eBook. You can get it here: http://www.datemax..com |
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by opokonwa(m): 1:54pm On Apr 30, 2008 |
Nice post! You're either very good at your game or you're plagiarising some good author. |
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by StephenP(m): 2:01pm On Apr 30, 2008 |
opokonwa:[size=13pt]I'm going with that because I know he is.[/size] |
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by Nobody: 4:15pm On Apr 30, 2008 |
Oh, I'm an This cracked me up!! |
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by babyx(f): 4:43pm On Apr 30, 2008 |
@datemax i beg who be nice guy? what is your definition of a nice guy? Anybody can be nice my brother, in short most guys come across nice on when first meet them, of course with or without intentions. But there is no smoke without fire. this man woman thing can never be fully understood. |
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by SexxyNaija(f): 4:53pm On Apr 30, 2008 |
Women run from nice guys because of this simple thing EVERY GUY IS NICE , AT FIRST ISNT IT TRUE Women (I speak for myself), tend to meet guys who are nice and sweet and believe that he is like this. Until, later on down the line, when you start dating you realize and see things that he should change, you realize that he not at all like he was at the beginning. Same goes for "good girls" they are the same way. When you first meet that person, they are so sweet to you, their smell is wonderful, their teeth shining like so, their eyes twinkle, and then you start dating them you see that they only brush their teeth if their going out to party, their eyes are blood shot from staying up all night to watch Indecency and thats why they carry eye dropper, you even smell their yansh because they only shower on Sunday for church, lol nah seriously, my point is women WANT GUYS who keep it real. Women are tired of meeting these "so called NICE guys" and then realizing that they are nothing but weak and insecure jerks, putting on a SHOW, That is why they perfer those guys that come up and straight forwardly say "HEY, IM a jerk, im a bad boy, but you love me anyway". They don't fall for those NICE guys anymore, because for the most part is just a show. Now it is TOO bad for the guys that are actually NICE, the other guys messed it up for you. Women just wont believe that you are capable of being nice, she met to many jerks. |
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by Dreloaded(f): 4:55pm On Apr 30, 2008 |
they are nothing but weak and insecure jerks, putting on a SHOW, There you go 1 Like |
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by Uche2nna(m): 4:59pm On Apr 30, 2008 |
SexxyNaija:lol You seem to have been blessed with the uncanny ability of meeting an odd collection of men. And I think that there is a difference between being nice and being clean. I think the problem here is more of hygeine than attitude. |
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by SexxyNaija(f): 5:02pm On Apr 30, 2008 |
Uche2nna you are right, I think I just attract jerks, i dont know, you are right though. But what I was saying was that everyone is NICE and sweet. I dont believe in the whole Good guy thingy. Everyone is nice at first, it's only later that you see the real thing |
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by chisimdi(f): 5:08pm On Apr 30, 2008 |
Uche2nna:@poster:d problem is d Nice 1s re ugly fine 1s re nt nice nice and fine 1s re gays nice,fine&straight 1s re broke. |
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by Uche2nna(m): 5:10pm On Apr 30, 2008 |
I guess I see ur point. U are afraid that people who claim they are nice always have something to hide. Might be true. Might also be false. It depends on the individual in question. There are also some guys that carry with them a bad boy persona but deep down they are very docile and accomodating. It swings both ways. So U see, maybe u should stop judging a book by its cover. Get to know the person first before passing a judgement. |
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by Uche2nna(m): 5:14pm On Apr 30, 2008 |
chisimdi: lol I know a couple of very good looking guys that are really nice. I have come across some "not too good looking" guys that are complete dicks So what gives? |
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by Kennee(m): 5:46pm On Apr 30, 2008 |
SexxyNaija: tru, but if u tell ur wayward girlfriend dat is gettin attracted to a "new deceiver", she thinks u'r just condemning him cos u don't want her to leave u, all she cares about at dis moment is trying out a new di ck, whether u'r "Dauda" himself or not As for d pretence thing i.e. being nice at first, both male and female are guilty there, and it's just too bad dat nowadays, it's women dat don't know how to be commited to long term relationships they always wanno explore their "hot" period to d fullest. Women only settle down wen they're worn out, and so they end up settling 4 anything dat comes along |
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by Kennee(m): 5:52pm On Apr 30, 2008 |
chisimdi: So is it safe to assume dat u're with d first? |
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by lucabrasi(m): 11:32pm On Apr 30, 2008 |
they run away from nice guys cause they get boring after a while, theres no spark in the relationship because the guy is predictable and its always the same old same old |
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by Cadet(f): 12:16am On May 01, 2008 |
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Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by ztyle(m): 12:31am On May 01, 2008 |
*Counting 1,2,3* . . . Chei e long oh, |
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by Cadet(f): 12:33am On May 01, 2008 |
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Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by Andybrown101: 2:34am On Jun 12, 2018 |
chisimdi: WTF ......like seriously |
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by bigpicture001: 3:18am On Jun 12, 2018 |
Nigeria gals don't like anything aside money, period! |
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