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Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by datemax: 12:49pm On Apr 30, 2008
Why Women "Run" From NICE Guys

A guy ones said, "I know this girl who's beautiful and smart and attractive. She and I are great friends, we have
everything in common, and we get along perfectly, but she says that she's just not attracted to me, "

Have you ever noticed that:

1) The most attractive and interesting women seem
to be attracted to men who don't treat them very
well?

2) That the "nicer" you are to a woman the more
she often seems to act like "just a friend" to
you?

What's going on here? Didn't mom say to be
"nice" to girls?

Here's the deal: Women aren't usually
romantically attracted to "nice" guys. Women are
attracted to men who are funny, confident, and
mysterious. Good looks don't hurt, but if you're
not 6'4" tall and model-handsome, then you have to
learn how to attract women with your personality.

And being "nice" isn't going to do it for you.
I believe:

1) Women make decisions very, very quickly about
whether a man is going to be "just a friend" or if
he has romantic potential, and once her decision
is made, it's probably going to stay made.

2) These decisions are made "subconsciously,"
meaning that women make all of them quickly and at
a "gut level."

3) If you know how, you make her feel attraction
feelings rather than "friend" feelings.

4) The way to do it is to stop acting "nice" and
start acting, well, something else, and I
don't mean "not nice."

So what DOES attract women? And how do you do
it exactly?
Good questions,
At the beginning, I mentioned three qualities:
Funny, Confident, and Mysterious.
Before I talk about each, I first have to
remind you that WOMEN DON'T USUALLY MAKE SENSE.
Remember that.
As much as many women would hate to admit it,
there's something very attractive about a man who
is just a little more confident than he should be.
And if you combine this with the right amount of
humor, you have a magic combination that will
charm almost any woman.

Here are a few ways to use this idea:

1) When you first meet a woman, tease her about
something. It doesn't matter what it is, as long
as you do it early on. For instance, you might
say: "So what's with the big purse? Are you
carrying a gun in there?" or maybe "Those are some
pretty tall shoes, what are you like 4' tall
without them?" If you tease a woman, it shows that
you're not intimidated by her, and that you have a
fun sense of humor. KEY: Make sure you say
something FUNNY. If you don't know how to be
funny, get a book on it. The test: If she's not
laughing, then it wasn't funny!

2) Look around at other things and seem kind of
pre-occupied when you first start talking to her.
Make your funny remarks with a carefree, detached
tone. You want to sound like you're talking to
your best friend. Attractive women are approached
all the time. It's not attractive to a woman when
you look like you've just met Madonna. This "just
a little too confident" attitude is very
attractive to women, especially when it's
combined with humor.

3) Don't answer her questions directly. Women love
to ask questions like: "What do you do?" and
"Where do you live?" and "Tell me about your
family." Answer with funny answers, and don't give
her what she wants. Most guys say, "Oh, I'm an
engineer" or "I'm a stock broker." BORING,BORING.
If she asks what you do, say, "Oh, funny you
should ask. I'm a Calvin Klein Underwear Model,
What do you do?, " (This is especially funny if
it's OBVIOUS that you are NOT a model) Do you get
it? Keep it up and keep her laughing.
It's important to remember that I'm not telling
you to be mean, or to be a jerk to women. I'm
telling you to start being confident, funny, and
mysterious.
Now, if you want to REALLY learn how to get
away from being a "nice guy" who never gets
anywhere with women, I recommend that you
read the eBook. You can get it here:

http://www.datemax.blogspot.com
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by opokonwa(m): 1:54pm On Apr 30, 2008
Nice post!
You're either very good at your game or you're plagiarising some good author.
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by StephenP(m): 2:01pm On Apr 30, 2008
opokonwa:

Nice post!
You're either very good at your game or you're plagiarising some good author.
I'm going with that because I know he is.
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by Nobody: 4:15pm On Apr 30, 2008
Oh, I'm an
engineer" or "I'm a stock broker." BORING,BORING.
If she asks what you do, say, "Oh, funny you
should ask. I'm a Calvin Klein Underwear Model,
What do you do?, "

This cracked me up!! cheesy
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by babyx(f): 4:43pm On Apr 30, 2008
@datemax
i beg who be nice guy? what is your definition of a nice guy?

Anybody can be nice my brother, in short most guys come across nice on when first meet them, of course with or without intentions. But there is no smoke without fire. this man woman thing can never be fully understood.
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by SexxyNaija(f): 4:53pm On Apr 30, 2008
Women run from nice guys because of this simple thing

EVERY GUY IS NICE

, AT FIRST

ISNT IT TRUE

Women (I speak for myself), tend to meet guys who are nice and sweet and believe that he is like this.
Until, later on down the line, when you start dating you realize and see things that he should change, you realize that he not at all like he was at the beginning.
Same goes for "good girls" they are the same way.

When you first meet that person, they are so sweet to you, their smell is wonderful, their teeth shining like so, their eyes twinkle, and then you start dating them
you see that they only brush their teeth if their going out to party, their eyes are blood shot from staying up all night to watch Indecency and thats why they carry eye dropper, you even smell their yansh because they only shower on Sunday for church, lol

nah seriously, my point is women WANT GUYS who keep it real. Women are tired of meeting these "so called NICE guys" and then realizing that they are nothing but weak and insecure jerks, putting on a SHOW,
That is why they perfer those guys that come up and straight forwardly say "HEY, IM a jerk, im a bad boy, but you love me anyway". They don't fall for those NICE guys anymore, because for the most part is just a show.


Now it is TOO bad for the guys that are actually NICE, the other guys messed it up for you. Women just wont believe that you are capable of being nice, she met to many jerks.
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by D-reloaded(f): 4:55pm On Apr 30, 2008
they are nothing but weak and insecure jerks, putting on a SHOW,

There you go
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by Uche2nna(m): 4:59pm On Apr 30, 2008
SexxyNaija:



When you first meet that person, they are so sweet to you, their smell is wonderful, their teeth shining like so, their eyes twinkle, and then you start dating them
you see that they only brush their teeth if their going out to party, their eyes are blood shot from staying up all night to watch Indecency and thats why they carry eye dropper, you even smell their yansh because they only shower on Sunday for church, lol


lol
You seem to have been blessed with the uncanny ability of meeting an odd collection of men.  cheesy

And I think that there is a difference between being nice and being clean. I think the problem here is more of hygeine than attitude.
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by SexxyNaija(f): 5:02pm On Apr 30, 2008
Uche2nna you are right, I think I just attract jerks, i dont know, you are right though.

But what I was saying was that everyone is NICE and sweet. I dont believe in the whole Good guy thingy. Everyone is nice at first, it's only later that you see the real thing
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by chisimdi(f): 5:08pm On Apr 30, 2008
Uche2nna:

lol
You seem to have been blessed with the uncanny ability of meeting an odd collection of men. cheesy

And I think that there is a difference between being nice and being clean. I think the problem here is more of hygeine than attitude.
@poster:d problem is d Nice 1s re uglygrin fine 1s re nt nicegrin nice and fine 1s re gaysgrin nice,fine&straight 1s re broke. grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by Uche2nna(m): 5:10pm On Apr 30, 2008
I guess I see ur point. U are afraid that people who claim they are nice always have something to hide. Might be true. Might also be false. It depends on the individual in question. There are also some guys that carry with them a bad boy persona but deep down they are very docile and accomodating. It swings both ways. So U see, maybe u should stop judging a book by its cover. Get to know the person first before passing a judgement.
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by Uche2nna(m): 5:14pm On Apr 30, 2008
chisimdi:

@poster:d problem is d Nice 1s re uglygrin fine 1s re nt nicegrin nice and fine 1s re gaysgrin nice,fine&straight 1s re broke. grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

lol

I know a couple of very good looking guys that are really nice. I have come across some "not too good looking" guys that are complete Joysticks  cheesy So what gives?
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by Kennee(m): 5:46pm On Apr 30, 2008
SexxyNaija:


But what I was saying was that everyone is NICE and sweet. I don't believe in the whole Good guy thingy. Everyone is nice at first, it's only later that you see the real thing

tru, but if u tell ur wayward girlfriend dat is gettin attracted to a "new deceiver", she thinks u'r just condemning him cos u don't want her to leave u, all she cares about at dis moment is trying out a new di ck, whether u'r "Dauda" himself or not

As for d pretence thing i.e. being nice at first, both male and female are guilty there, and it's just too bad dat nowadays, it's women dat don't know how to be commited to long term relationships
they always wanno explore their "hot" period to d fullest.

Women only settle down wen they're worn out, and so they end up settling 4 anything dat comes along
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by Kennee(m): 5:52pm On Apr 30, 2008
chisimdi:

@poster:d problem is d Nice 1s re uglygrin fine 1s re nt nicegrin nice and fine 1s re gaysgrin nice,fine&straight 1s re broke. grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

So is it safe to assume dat u're with d first?
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by lucabrasi(m): 11:32pm On Apr 30, 2008
they run away from nice guys cause they get boring after a while, theres no spark in the relationship because the guy is predictable and its always the same old same old
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by Cadet(f): 12:16am On May 01, 2008
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Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by ztyle(m): 12:31am On May 01, 2008
*Counting 1,2,3* . . . Chei e long oh, undecided
Re: Why Some Women "run" Away From Nice Guys by Cadet(f): 12:33am On May 01, 2008
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