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| Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by MizMyColi(f): 6:16pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
She Just pinged me and asked me questions I'm really not in the best position to answer now. OmiGosh!! Can't believe I'm saying this.   See screenshot below, however, the text reads: ”Give me your views on what a relationship is. What it should be. What it isn't. Nd if its what fighting for" Thanks in anticipation. Please mature contributions only, please. *modified* Please, anyboby can comment. Bikonu. |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by datguru: 6:19pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
There's no relationship without marriage. Flee from fornication and all youthful lust, the only relationship that should exist between a man and a woman is MARRIAGE. 9 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by Tallesty1(m): 6:20pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
Serious Jamb Question 2 Likes |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by Nobody: 6:20pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
Where's google?  |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by Nobody: 6:26pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
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| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by Nobody: 6:37pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
a relationship to me is a communion between two people with a common values and a common goal in sight. it should be caring, loving and must be benefial to both it isn't of detriment to both parties, it isn't one sided and it isn't all about materialism. it is worth fighting for when deep down you know that person is the one. you can't envision your future without the person in it. * i wasn't tagged so it could be immature * 1 Like |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by Rapsainot(m): 6:48pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
KiddaBlingzz:people are sometimes unpredictable |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by dre11(m): 6:52pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
Just peep Seems we do have those to contribute *waiting to read their contribution sha* |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by Nobody: 6:58pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
What do you want to know cause I swear to God, I don't know what your question is all about. What is It? What is the question? ... |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by xynerise: 7:01pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
Relationship is a mutual agreement between two people who decides how their lives will be spent together at a given time or forever(until death) whether positively or negatively. How it should be spent depends on the parties involved. I may decide to go into a relationship with a lady and we agreed it will be based on sex adventure, or down the aisle as the case may be. What it isn't is when one person is getting all the benefits. It is worth fighting for? Where you find your happiness is worth fighting for. 3 Likes |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by Charles4075(m): 7:06pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
A relationship should either take you to the Altar or Bank.. If it only takes you to the Bed or Kitchen, my sister you're a big Slave.. Just my own opinion 1 Like |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by Moiking(m): 7:07pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
op relax the elders are sleeping they will soon be here |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by destante(f): 7:09pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
the part I like to answer, if its worth fighting for. Yes, depending on the value of the partner and the time and emotions already invested in it |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by Afrok(m): 7:11pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
A relationship will take U to wherever U want it to take U to, coz if it's taking U to where U don't want, why else do we have BREAKUP as an option in a relationship?. So I think u'll define ur relationship and set for urself where U want it to take U to. |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by jmoore(m): 7:20pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
Is this her project topic? 1 Like |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by Nobody: 7:54pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
When someone start asking what a relationship is, he/she is not yet matured enough to know and has no business being there. I'd advice you instruct her to use her dictionary first for a starter. 1 Like |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by MizMyColi(f): 7:55pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
Jmoore haba! Please those who were tagged are those I relate with here and those I simply respect. I tagged then because they're not regualars in the romance section. Anyone can contribute, please. |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by ihedinobi2: 8:01pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
My answer is going to be governed by my Faith. A relationship is what you get into because you want to get married to somebody. It's a little like betrothal because it is exclusive. People also treat it like courtship because they feel that it is a time to figure out whether they want to spend the rest of their lives married to somebody. But this latter is not consistent with the Christian Faith although it is not quite considered as a sin. What makes it worth fighting for is the vision you share with your partner. What kind of life would you like to create and how does it fit with what your partner wants too? If the two meet then you've got something worth fighting very hard for. What is not worth fighting for, at least long term, is someone else's affection. If people's attention drift from you, let them go. What you cannot let go is the life you must make. Be faithful to that and you will find someone to share that fight with. What IS a relationship? In our days, exclusive association with a member of the opposite sex is a relationship. What is allowed in it varies from one end of the spectrum to another. What ISN'T a relationship? In our days, if there isn't a clear commitment to exclusivity with someone else then you don't have a relationship. I've already explained what a relationship SHOULD be. 2 Likes |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by MizMyColi(f): 8:10pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
ihedinobi2: Thank You Xynerise. But please you people should help me break this down more. All this one is for adult adult na  I'm talking about a 19yr old second year student  |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by priscaoge(f): 8:18pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
Like Seriously this kwasion plenty pass me  |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by LogoDWhiz(m): 8:26pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
”Give me your views on what a relationship is. What it should be. What it isn't. Nd if its what fighting for" [/quote] Relationship varies, depends on d motive. In this concept I think she's referring to a dating relationship I.e a relationship between a boy and a girl dating each other. Its actually not bad but what its being done in such relationship is bad. As a christain I've being made to believe that its bad, I quite agree tho and we support courtship. Courtship can also be referred as a dating realtinship, but it usually involves matured adults and there are some things you shouldn't do. A relationship should be a connection between a boy and a girl who have mutual feelings and attraction for each other and who are ready to support each other and act more as a friend when its needed. A relationship should be devoid of intimate activities. Should be known by your pastor or parents. If you can't tell your pastor or parent about it, then it isn't an ideal relationship. It is worth fighting for very well. There is a 'but' though, is the partner worth it. We do talk of abused relationships, where the partner will want to keep the marriage and not divorce, one thing I do ask is that, is d guy/lady worth it? Is he/she worth the pain you're undergoing, then heartbreak the person is giving u? If yea, continue and keep praying or hoping. That's my view. Hope I made sense 1 Like |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by ihedinobi2: 8:27pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
MizMyColi:Lol @ Xynerise. Well, simplifying it any further is probably beyond my skills. Simply put, a relationship is what you should get into if you have decided that you'd like to take the journey of life with somebody else. What it isn't is a frivolous sexcapade with no clear goal in sight. What it popularly is is an exclusive association with a member of the opposite sex with or without emphasis on sexuål intimacy. What is worth fighting for is a life that you envision with someone else. Not their affection. Never their affection. |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by Nobody: 8:30pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
MizMyColi: You quoted Ihedinobi and thanked xynerise all the same, Selective amnesia? Tell her to face her book so that she will appear brilliant like you. For example spelling "what" for "Worth" at the tail end of her text to you. |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by MizMyColi(f): 8:55pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
SeaGold: Eiiiissshhhh Pardon me sir, biko. That must have been a huge typo on her part. I'll check again. And owh, this is not to put myself down , but when you talk super brilliance, beauty and elegance put together; you need to meet her. Your contribution is highly valued and noted. |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by MizMyColi(f): 8:58pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
priscaoge: Come-an contribu joor Nothing is too small. See, because of una presence, my romantic sense don dey come back small small. 1 Like |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by jearile(m): 9:39pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
MizMyColi:Reading informs and reforms a person and I think she isn't too young to read. I would suggest you recommend one or more books by proven authors to her, that will go a long way in educating her. Relationship is not an affair we indulge in because 'everybody' is into it. Let her know, before she get involved, she must be willing to take responsibility of her actions - so shine your eyes, shine your heart, take your time, go for knowledge first, be a good observer and then use your brain, very important. What relationship is? It is a commitment between two healthy people with common motives and aspirations that must be defined. It's not agreed upon based on sympathy or sentiment. When you realise it's becoming unhealthy for your liking, please ball out without apology - it takes two to tangle. What it should be, what it isn't, and if its worth fighting for? It should be for expressing the love we have and sharing it with people we care about in a special way - because you can't give what you don't have. It should be for growing bigger and better; staying close to somebody who brings out the best in you - your best smiles, chuckles, potentials etc Relationship shouldn't be for satisfying your libido - pre-marital sex whether we like it or not is the easiest gateway to heartbreak, take it or leave it. Relationship is not for transferring personal responsibilities (financial, spiritual, domestic etc) to the other. You train others how to treat by the way you treat yourself. Worth fighting for? Well, it depends. I won't advice a lady to ever 'fight' for a guy or to keep a guy. No right man in his right senses will just throw away an iphone 6+, in terms of value. Yes, you can do your best to save your relationship but not when it's obvious he's not complementing your effort. You can force a horse to the river but you can't force her to drink water. In summary, love yourself first, to the extent of refusing to accept anything less than the best - don't go for LOSERS! Read correct BOOKS 3 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by xynerise: 9:39pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by Skylee(m): 9:57pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
datguru:Lol, do u mean there's no marriage without relationship? |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by Skylee(m): 10:01pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
Why do we have GOOGLE & other search engines? Wat does ur sister even mean by does relationship worth fighting for? Ladies are sometimes too extreme! |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by chidekings(m): 10:06pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
see as una dey answer jamb question cus na woman ask am,after everything she go take the glory of the answer. |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by adepiero: 10:08pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
@Mizmycoli, the truth is that you can't advice her and nobody here can. If you give her your advice and she makes an error while following, you'll be the one to blame. Relationship has no guideline or study books so any intending candidate ought to be open minded and study first his/her parent, siblings and friends and draw inference from them and ask question based on a step and not the whole procedure. **You have to let her make her own mistakes and for her to learn from it** even though my advice sounds wicked, the truth is that she won't confide in you when she is about to make such errors like getting disvirgined, spending on a hopeless boyfriend and so on. |
| Re: Nairalanders, Let's Help My Sister. by daveP(m): 10:10pm On Oct 17, 2014 |
(jots a thing or two, turns and discovers jotter has finished frowns) it comes in degrees. The unserious types stay down the ladder(worth) and the serious and more genuine ones keep hanging 'meaningfully' atop the ladder. You can pick the bottom and clim up wif it, or stay put there. ,any pick the ones at the bottom and try polishing it to look like the ones atop. (closes books of King Edward's Parables) il brb |
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